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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 11, 2025Hindi
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Hello. I am currently in my second year of Engineering. I have been studying in a boarding school since 8th standard. Till 7th, there was a girl whom I didn't like much. But, after seeing her after almost 1.5 year, in 9th, I was literally shocked. I got a deep crush for her. But the biggest problem has raised because my family shifted to a city far away from the previous one in my 10th standard. I can't even find her anywhere, not on Instagram or anywhere on social media. Her father might be there in contact list of my dad's phone. But I am very much afraid to inform regarding this to my family. What should I do ?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that you might be feeling out of wits and this might seem like your last hope. But think it through: even if you told your parents and they were very understanding, what can they do? It would not be decent to call a girl’s parents and ask them for her number, unless the intention is to get married. And right now you are too young to think about that; also you barely know her. Plus you are completely unsure if she feels the same way or if she already has a boyfriend. Your attempt can disrupt her life. I understand how strong crushes can be; it can make you feel extremely desperate but I suggest giving it some time. The intensity of it will fade, and in time, you will meet someone who is better suited for you and with whom you have a real chance of connecting.

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Hello. I am currently in my second year of Engineering. I have been studying in a boarding school since 8th standard. Till 7th, there was a girl whom I didn't like much. But, after seeing her after almost 1.5 year, in 9th, I was literally shocked. I got a deep crush for her. But the biggest problem has raised because my family shifted to a city far away from the previous one in my 10th standard. I can't even find her anywhere, not on Instagram or anywhere on social media. Her father might be there in contact list of my dad's phone. But I am very much afraid to inform regarding this to my family. So can you please tell me what should I do ?
Ans: Before taking any step to find her, it’s important to ask yourself what you’re really hoping for. Do you want to reconnect as friends? To tell her you liked her? Or are you mostly wondering what happened to her after all these years? Getting clear about that will help you decide whether to take action or simply keep her as a good memory.
If you truly wish to reconnect, you can try a respectful, indirect route—perhaps by checking through old school friends or alumni groups instead of involving your parents right away. If she’s comfortable being found, you’ll likely get some lead. But if there’s no trace, take it as a gentle sign that it might be time to move forward.
At your age, you have so many new people to meet, and feelings like this often open your heart to deeper connections later. Let this memory remind you of what kind of person or energy attracts you, but don’t let it trap you in longing for someone from your past.

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Dear Sir, My Son would like to pursue Aerospace engineering as his 1st option and Mechanical / Electrical as his 2nd option . He is attempting JEE , CUET and Entrance exams of other private colleges like BITSAT , MIT, VIT , Symbiosis etc could you please suggest the private colleges he should try for in order of preference based on curriculum , Faculty , Placements etc , Also how do you see the future for Aerospace engineers post their BTech , Would Mtech be mandatory to secure a decent placement ? My son is not interested in research but is interested in Technical and practical based study .
Ans: Shashikant Sir, Aerospace Engineering: Three Viable Career Pathways for Your Son - Comprehensive Analysis with College Recommendations. Before presenting the three pathways, note that recommendations assume an expected JEE rank of 15,000-30,000 (competitive for top private colleges), career preference for technical and practical-based learning rather than research-focused work, flexibility to pursue Mechanical or Electrical as backup options, and initial uncertainty regarding sector interest. PATHWAY 1: AEROSPACE-CORE SPECIALIST ROUTE - This pathway positions your son as a specialized aerospace engineer targeting HAL, ISRO, DRDO, Airbus, or Boeing. The primary college recommendation is Manipal Institute of Technology (Aeronautical Engineering), followed by VIT Vellore Aerospace. Both offer dedicated aerospace curricula covering aerodynamics, propulsion, structures, and avionics—essential for core sector roles. Manipal's aerospace program demonstrates 60-80% placement with salaries ranging from Rs. 7-25 LPA and recruiters including DRDO, ABB, and Altair Engineering, with hands-on laboratory work, wind tunnels, and industry-aligned design projects. An M.Tech degree is highly recommended post-BTech for PSU and defence roles, with gateway M.Tech programs at IIT Madras (Aerodynamics) and IIT Bombay (Propulsion/Structures) enabling ISRO entry, delivering average salaries of Rs. 10-18 LPA in the PSU sector with government job security and professional prestige. Manipal's specialized aerospace program aligns with your son's technical interests and directly prepares students for core aerospace roles with strong DRDO and HAL placement emphasis. PATHWAY 2: FLEXIBLE TECHNICAL ENGINEER ROUTE - This pathway maximizes BTech placement outcomes without requiring a mandatory M.Tech degree, prioritizing immediate career stability with excellent salary growth potential. The primary college recommendation is BITS Pilani (Mechanical Engineering), which offers strategic flexibility superior to specialized aerospace programs. Although BITS does not offer a dedicated aerospace major, the Mechanical engineering program provides aerospace electives covering structures, flight mechanics, and aerodynamics while offering broader industry optionality. BITS delivers a median salary of Rs. 16.15-18 LPA with 98% placement rate, exceeding most Manipal aerospace placements. BTech mechanical graduates from BITS successfully secure roles in aerospace firms through electives and project work, automotive design at Tesla and Maruti, and defence manufacturing—all achievable without an M.Tech degree. Your son gains practical design skills coupled with a strong placement ecosystem. The strategy involves completing a BTech while securing two to three quality internships at DRDO and Tata Advanced Systems, combined with professional certifications in CAD, CFD, and CATIA software, securing entry-level roles at Rs. 8-12 LPA with realistic progression to Rs. 15-20 LPA within five years without pursuing an M.Tech. BITS Mechanical provides practical flexibility, stronger brand recognition, broader career optionality reducing sector-specific risk, and strong BTech placements significantly reducing M.Tech pressure. PATHWAY 3: EMERGING TECH AND STARTUP ACCELERATION ROUTE - This pathway leverages aerospace engineering principles into India's fastest-growing sectors including space startups, autonomous systems, and defence technology. The primary college recommendation is VIT Vellore (Aerospace Engineering) paired with entrepreneurship and startup incubation focus. VIT's competitive advantage includes 105+ recruiters with an average placement salary of Rs. 9.9 LPA across engineering streams, combined with vibrant startup culture. Aerospace BTech graduates from VIT find high-demand roles at Skyroot Aerospace and AgniKul Cosmos (space startups) and autonomous vehicle firms, with salaries ranging from Rs. 10-15 LPA plus equity compensation options. Your son's preference for practical learning aligns well with startup engineering requirements emphasizing CAD design, structural analysis, and real-world problem-solving without theoretical research burden. The pathway involves completing a VIT BTech in Aerospace Engineering, securing a summer internship at an aerospace startup, and either receiving a pre-placement offer or pursuing an MBA specializing in Aerospace Entrepreneurship. Startup salary progression typically advances from Rs. 8 LPA upon graduation to Rs. 15+ LPA within three years with substantial equity upside. VIT's ecosystem supports startup access and emphasizes practical learning, while India's 20+ aerospace startups offer genuine equity and growth potential beyond traditional career hierarchies. COMPARATIVE ANALYSIS OF COLLEGES - BITS Pilani (Mechanical Engineering) offers partial aerospace specialization through electives, 98%+ placement rate, average BTech salary of Rs. 16.15-18 LPA, excellent international brand recognition, limited direct aerospace recruiter access, good mechanical laboratory infrastructure, low M.Tech dependency, high career flexibility, annual costs of Rs. 3-4 LPA, and moderate startup culture. Manipal Institute of Technology (Aeronautical Engineering) provides full aerospace curriculum, 60-80% placement rate, average BTech salary ranging from Rs. 7-25 LPA, good international brand, extensive access to core aerospace recruiters including DRDO and ABB, excellent specialized infrastructure with wind tunnels and avionics laboratories, high M.Tech dependency, limited career flexibility, annual costs of Rs. 2.63 LPA, and lower startup culture. VIT Vellore (Aerospace Engineering) features full aerospace curriculum, 85%+ placement rate, average BTech salary of Rs. 9.9 LPA, good international brand, access to diverse recruiters including Deloitte and HCL, good shared laboratory infrastructure, medium M.Tech dependency, medium career flexibility, annual costs of Rs. 1.98-2.01 LPA, and high startup culture. M.TECH NECESSITY: CRITICAL ANALYSIS - An M.Tech degree becomes essential when pursuing PSU or defence sector roles at HAL, ISRO, and DRDO, targeting research and R&D positions, specializing in advanced aerospace domains such as propulsion systems and flight control, and applying to global aerospace firms like Honeywell and Boeing. An M.Tech remains optional for startup and entrepreneurship roles where direct experience is prioritized, automotive sector positions, defence manufacturing private firms, and consulting roles. For your son's situation, a realistic career scenario without an M.Tech involves completing a BTech (earning Rs. 4-8 LPA initially), followed by two to three years of internships or contract roles, and reaching a senior engineer position earning Rs. 12-15 LPA by age 26-28. Alternatively, pursuing an M.Tech involves completing the BTech (Rs. 4-8 LPA entry), followed by an IIT M.Tech (entering at Rs. 6-12 LPA), and reaching a senior role earning Rs. 15-20 LPA by age 25-26. An M.Tech degree accelerates career progression by one to two years with a salary premium of Rs. 3-5 LPA, but is not mandatory for securing decent placement if your son pursues internships strategically. FINAL RECOMMENDATION AND PREFERENCE ORDER - Pathway 1 (Aerospace-Core Specialist) is optimal if a defence or PSU sector career is definite, with Manipal Aeronautical Engineering followed by an IIT M.Tech securing Rs. 10-18 LPA PSU role by age 26. Pathway 2 (Flexible BTech) is optimal if sector preference remains uncertain, allowing BITS Mechanical with targeted internships to generate Rs. 15-20 LPA employment without M.Tech delays, while maximizing career flexibility. Pathway 3 (Startup and Emerging Tech) is optimal if your son possesses entrepreneurial mindset and innovation focus, with VIT Aerospace paired with startup internships generating Rs. 10-15 LPA entry-level positions plus equity by age 24. The recommended preference order is: First preference is Pathway 2 (BITS Pilani Mechanical) for optimal risk-reward balance through strong placements, extraordinary flexibility, practical learning aligned with his preferences, and minimal M.Tech pressure. Second preference is Pathway 1 (Manipal Aerospace) if sector commitment to defence roles is firm. Third preference is Pathway 3 (VIT Aerospace plus Startup focus) for candidates possessing entrepreneurial orientation and risk tolerance. ACTIONABLE NEXT STEPS FOR YOUR SON: Your son should clarify his sector preference within two weeks by determining whether he seeks defence or PSU certainty (Pathway 1), prefers maximum flexibility (Pathway 2), or possesses startup excitement (Pathway 3). 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SALARY PROJECTIONS BY AGE AND PATHWAY - At age 22 following BTech graduation, Pathway 1 generates Rs. 4-8 LPA, Pathway 2 generates Rs. 8-12 LPA, and Pathway 3 generates Rs. 8-10 LPA. By age 25 (post-M.Tech or three years experience), Pathway 1 achieves Rs. 10-12 LPA, Pathway 2 reaches Rs. 12-15 LPA, and Pathway 3 earns Rs. 12-15 LPA. At age 28 (five years experience), Pathway 1 generates Rs. 15-20 LPA, Pathway 2 achieves Rs. 15-18 LPA, and Pathway 3 earns Rs. 15-25 LPA. By age 30 in senior roles, Pathway 1 generates Rs. 20-30 LPA, Pathway 2 achieves Rs. 18-25 LPA, and Pathway 3 potentially reaches Rs. 20-40+ LPA. Your son now possesses three research-backed pathways with realistic salary projections and specific college recommendations. The ultimate choice depends entirely on his sector confidence, risk appetite, and long-term career vision. All the BEST for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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