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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 02, 2023

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
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Question by bhushan on Feb 27, 2023Hindi

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hello madam. i am 37 years old i never i am love in 42 years foreigner lady through social media we are together almost 5 years but suddenly she said me she dont want this relationship more she lost in this relationship. she said we stay like friend but she not even talk me like friend too

Ans: Dear Bhushan,
Social media associations very rarely convert into anything meaningful unless the people involved make it happen.
How much do you know about this 'foreigner' lady to say that you are in love?
It's possible that both of you needed company and these 5 years made that possible.
Maybe she's moving on because she has realized that real life associations are healthier than virtual ones.

Time to leave this 'make-believe' social media world that gives you instant joy but robs you of a chance of long-term relationships.
Build a good social group where you meet friends and acquaintances regularly to chat and have some light fun.
Indulge in a hobby that will not just keep you distracted but also channel your thoughts and feelings positively.
Spend a lot of time in Nature that can be your best company other than you.

Start first by becoming your own friend...

Best wishes!

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Question by AK - Aug 05, 2022Hindi

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Hi Anu, I have one question in mind need suggestion from you, please guide me.I am 42 year old and married I have two kids as well. My married life is all good and peaceful and I love my family lot.20 years ago when I was in college I was in love with a girl, she did not like me that time but from my side it was very pure love. I loved her so much.She was aware of that. We lost touch in 2004. Now she is also 42 and married with two kids.During Covid in 2020, we again got connected on LinkedIn and started talking. I expressed my love. she understood, respected and valued it now.She is still waiting for someone else and doesn’t feel complete with me. She is honest about her feelings and communication.She told me she considers me only as a friend but above all and everything in life.But many times she shows love and lots of affection, caring attitude. She always says that I am more than anything else in life to her and she does not want to lose me as well.She wants me to remain with her as she feels I am her strong support system.She shares everything with me and I do the same. Sometimes I feel I shall come out from this but at times I feel I don’t want to leave her as she looks very depressed.May be from her past break up or something else but I do not have the courage to ask her.What shall I do here? Please guide. What is your best suggestion?

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Dear AK,

It’s a nice convenient connection.

Why don’t you stick to the way it is rather than expect it to be something different? Expectations can be disappointing and may spoil what already exists.

As humans, we fail to see and experience what we have and constantly crave for the things that we don’t have, don’t we?

The two of you are fond of each other but to project your feelings from the past onto the current scenario might unnecessarily cause a ruffling of feathers.

Will it be wise for you to accept things the way they are now? Enjoy the company and chats/calls the way they are? And be grateful that you can be a good support system to one another?

Is it possible for you to do this?

Respect her wishes when she says that she wants you as a friend and try not to read much into her actions.

If the fact that she is getting close to you is going to be decoded as being more than a friend, you need to watch out as your thoughts could lead to a major letdown for yourself and for her as well.

Pause, take it all in the way it is and accept it gracefully…

All the best!

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