Hi Anu, I have one question in mind need suggestion from you, please guide me.
I am 42 year old and married I have two kids as well. My married life is all good and peaceful and I love my family lot.
20 years ago when I was in college I was in love with a girl, she did not like me that time but from my side it was very pure love. I loved her so much.
She was aware of that. We lost touch in 2004. Now she is also 42 and married with two kids.
During Covid in 2020, we again got connected on LinkedIn and started talking. I expressed my love. she understood, respected and valued it now.
She is still waiting for someone else and doesn’t feel complete with me. She is honest about her feelings and communication.
She told me she considers me only as a friend but above all and everything in life.
But many times she shows love and lots of affection, caring attitude. She always says that I am more than anything else in life to her and she does not want to lose me as well.
She wants me to remain with her as she feels I am her strong support system.
She shares everything with me and I do the same. Sometimes I feel I shall come out from this but at times I feel I don’t want to leave her as she looks very depressed.
May be from her past break up or something else but I do not have the courage to ask her.
What shall I do here? Please guide. What is your best suggestion?

Ans: Your son should primarily target strong branches such as CSE specializations, ECE, or IT, or core branches at VIT Vellore, because his VIT options are significantly stronger than what he is likely to get through JEE Main. Before considering VIT, check its fee structure, which is usually very high compared to other colleges.

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Ans: If you want to do MBA, dont take internship. Instead ensure that you get a work experience certificate whererver you work. Talk to the HR to ensure that they will give you work ex certificate and not internship certificate. Can prepare for MBA entrance exams like CAT along with your job.

Ans: With a JEE score, your chances at NITs/IIITs are lower. Please target Jaypee, AKTU colleges, and some private universities. With a VIT rank, you have a chance at CSE specializations/ECE at VIT, or CSE Core at VIT-AP/VIT Bhopal, which would generally be a better career option than compromising heavily on a branch in lower NITs/IIITs.

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Ans: Preference order may be: CCE LNMIT > COE Thapar > CSE Jaypee > Chemical BIT Mesra > Petro RGPTI. The preference order may be different for you depending on the circumstances.

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Ans: You are on a very strong financial path. Your disciplined investing since 2019, increasing income, strong retirement accumulation through PF/NPS, and controlled liabilities show excellent long-term planning.

» Current Financial Position – Strong and Stable

PF + NPS itself is already substantial for age 40
Mutual fund corpus of Rs 50 lakh is a major positive
SIP discipline is excellent
Only one loan and manageable EMI
Term insurance is adequate

You have built a solid foundation for both retirement and children’s future.

» Child Education Planning

Son has around 8–10 years for higher studies
Daughter has long investment runway

Your current SIPs and accumulated corpus are likely to support education goals comfortably if:

SIPs continue consistently
SIP amount is increased gradually with salary hikes
Investments remain equity-oriented for long-term growth

You should ideally:

Increase SIP by 10% yearly
Keep child education investments separate mentally from retirement corpus

» Retirement Planning Without Pension
Since you are under NPS and may not receive traditional pension, your self-created corpus becomes very important.

Positives in your case:

Long investment horizon still available
Existing retirement assets already sizeable
Regular contributions from PF + NPS continue automatically

This creates a strong compounding advantage.

» Can You Achieve Rs 3 Lakh Monthly SWP?
Your target is ambitious but achievable if:

SIPs continue uninterrupted
Annual increase in investments happens
Equity allocation remains strong for next 15–20 years
Major lifestyle inflation is controlled

With your present trajectory, your retirement corpus can potentially become large enough to support a meaningful SWP post retirement.

However:

Rs 3 lakh future SWP should be viewed in inflation-adjusted terms
Future value of Rs 3 lakh after 20 years will not have same purchasing power as today

So focus should be on:

Growing corpus steadily
Maintaining inflation-beating returns

» Important Improvement Areas

Do not depend only on employer health insurance after retirement
Add a personal family floater health policy while still healthy
Maintain emergency fund separately from investments
Reduce direct stock exposure if monitoring is difficult

» Housing Loan Strategy

EMI is manageable for your income
No need for aggressive prepayment now
Continue balancing loan repayment and investments

Your equity investments over long periods may create better wealth than rushing to close low-interest home loan.

» Finally

You are already ahead of many investors in your age group
Your consistency is your biggest strength
Continue SIPs, increase yearly, and stay disciplined
Your current direction is favourable for children’s education and retirement independence

With proper asset allocation and long-term discipline, achieving a strong retirement corpus and sustainable SWP income looks realistic.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

Ans: The preference order may be: VIT Vellore > LNMIT Jaipur > SRM KTR > Manipal. The final choice and preference may vary person to person, depending on the favorable conditions.

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Ans: Please ask the query in the follow-up section to get the link to the previous question?

Ans: Yes, you can usually appear again for the CBSE compartment/improvement exam in Physics in the next eligible session (including July compartment exams if CBSE registration rules permit that year). However, it is strongly recommended to contact your school administration for more and updated information. CBSE always communicates with schools if there are any changes to the appearing/improvement criterion.

Meanwhile, you can still pursue many degrees based mainly on overall aggregate marks, such as BCA, BA, B.Com, BBA, BJMC, design, hotel management, animation, psychology, liberal arts, and many private-university courses, because several colleges do not require subject-wise marks if you meet the overall passing criteria.

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Ans: Your daughter has a chance of getting into Biotech either at Vellore (category 2-3) or Chennai (category 1-2). But VIT Vellore is generally the better choice for Biotechnology due to a stronger research ecosystem, labs, industry exposure, and overall brand value.

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