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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 03, 2023Hindi
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Hello madam, my 19 year old son is suffering from extreme mental health issues. *. He is not interested in studies, says he cannot concentrate at all. *. He is always sleeping. *.Don't want to attain college classes but need attendance to avoid debarred list. *. Just want to go to college for modelling in college fashion shows & college fests. *. Want to spend life like an page 3 celebrity. *. Don't want to write exams but still worried that he cannot clear his graduation. *. Not at all respectful to his Mom. *. Always worried to enhance his looks. *. Needs expensive new clothes & beauty products. *. Doesn't understand value of money at all. *. Has nothing in his mind about his future. *. Cries very easily. *. Thinks he cannot do anything. *. 0% household help or support from his side. *. Always confused, nothing remembers. *. Doesn't like visiting our native place & talking to relatives. There are still to many issues. I don't understand what I should do? Please help.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
He seems to want to live in a place of alternate reality where the real life is wilfully blurred and a fantasy world plays out easily. This happens when the real world facts disturb him and stress him and escaping into that alternate reality feels reassuring and calming.
This can be addressed by setting up an appointment with a Clinical Psychologist who is skilled to work with teenagers. She/he will use various techniques to ease your son into the real world. Kindly act NOW. In the meantime, surround him with a lot of love and affection.
All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 03, 2023Hindi
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Hello Doctor, my 19 year old son is suffering from extreme mental health issues. *. He is not interested in studies, says he cannot concentrate at all. *. He is always sleeping. *.Don't want to attain college classes but need attendance to avoid debarred list. *. Just want to go to college for modelling in college fashion shows & college fests. *. Want to spend life like an page 3 celebrity. *. Don't want to write exams but still worried that he cannot clear his graduation. *. Not at all respectful to his Mom. *. Always worried to enhance his looks. *. Needs expensive new clothes & beauty products. *. Doesn't understand value of money at all. *. Has nothing in his mind about his future. *. Cries very easily. *. Thinks he cannot do anything. *. 0% household help or support from his side. *. Always confused, nothing remembers. *. Doesn't like visiting our native place & talking to relatives. There are still to many issues. I don't understand what I should do? Please help.
Ans: Pre-frontal cortex is part of the brain which helps us make responsible decision making. It gets fully developed by 25 years of age. Yours is developed and functioning and your boy's is in the process. Have faith, you have brought him up and he will mirror your actions, your words, the tone of voice soon. Adolescence stage a teen is looking to showcase his self-esteem and identity. Dressing up, looking a certain way is part of the routine and they love adventure. My suggestions: 1. Listen and then respond. Talk of things he does at college, ask him his dreams, help him set one goal at a time and help him to achieve them if he needs help. 2. Make visiting the native place an adventure: let him plan the journey, the time, the food to carry the presents to give everyone there. Even cajole him that he would be able to make some reels there and share with all. 3. Ask for help: be a human who has emotional needs, gets tired, needs help to finish house work. Your child would be seeing you as an established adult, who manages everything, and then imagine you are asking for help from him to do things at home. 4. Career counselling and meeting people from different professions will clear his mind to choose what he loves. 5. Attending college: Ask him about his favourite subjects, what he finds easy and difficult. Peer support and sitting with friends to revise helps to attend college. do encourage that.
Show your boy you love him but also demand from your son that he is responsible for his world. He is an adult in the eyes of law and his actions has a consequences. Money matters can be solved by giving him a fixed amount to run his week. There is a balance between discipline and respect, treat him like a young adult and not a child. You are a good parent, be kind to yourself and meet your friends too. Do revert with the progress!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Apr 12, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 19, 2024Hindi
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Child counselling - psychological and career guidance Background:- My son is soon going to enter his teen age in couple of months. I’m a widow with no assistance from both sides of the family. My sons been in boarding all along however last year I brought him back, took a career backseat Working from home, dedicating all my time todays him. Off late bad company at school is influencing him and has resulted into major issues pertaining to behaviour and disrespect towards teachers, other parents and me. He doesn’t feel guilty or acknowledge the fact that he needs to stop being a bully and be the sane kind caring child he use to be. Tried someone free counselling it back fired. Education grades are dropping and he’s got no inclination towards academics. He’s interested in things that can’t earn him a career option. He was in Igcse board and has to move him to cbse so struggling with school, curriculum, new area new friends and isn’t understanding the impact of his actions. Very concerned for his future cause everything I earn was and is invested in his boarding and schooling and I’ve not saved enough for the future. What to do next? He’s been identified with Attention deficiency when he was 8yrs just before lockdown but we didn’t pursue any treatment. My frustration too comes out on him and gets the worst of me but that’s pushed him even further away from me. He’s interested are physical and not Education inclined my friends suggest remove him from these expensive schools( paying 3.5lac minimum every year) and put him in a local school and just save for my future. I can’t be so selfish. I had put him in best school and selected subjects like French so that if he goes abroad a foreign language can help and he anyways struggles to even pass in Hindi and local languages so selected a school too so that his board exams eventually he will have to write only English and French exams that can help him score. After sacrificing my time health career and money I feel in these 6 months everything is going downhill my anxiety and stress has gone out of control. His friends are being a terrible influence and it’s scary cause I’ve had some major complaints from teachers and other parents. What do I do? I can’t give up I have faith and only hope it’s just a phase I’m still loving caring and trying to talk with him and understand where can we mend things before it’s late and hoping for some guidance
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It is a difficult phase that you are going through...
It will be worth pulling him out of the school for a while...it's not just to save money but also to focus on his therapy that he surely needs to get into. Also, during his therapy, you will know where his interest lie...Do remember, we are all unique...some of us take up professions that may not give us immediate money but it trickles in later or maybe it comes in the form of satisfaction rather than money.
You are attempting to secure his future and you are right as a single mom to do that because you want your son to be in a stable place which you did not experience. But his path in life is his to follow...any attempt to control it will cause the two of you a lot of emotional upheavals.
Kindly get him assessed again as you did mention Attention Deficiency...that will allow for appropriate corrective measures right away which will channelize his energies in the right direction. Otherwise both you and he will be on a roller coaster ride that never stops and this will lead to more stress and strain. Pause for a moment and put his health as a priority even if it means taking a break from school for a while. The sooner his emotions find a useful path, he will shine in what he is meant to...Take a deep breath...you are doing a great job!

All the best!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 05, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - May 01, 2024Hindi
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Dr. Madam My son,30 yr old, is MBA and serving MNC earning 25000 pm . He shows a very awkward behaviour , rude to family members, very adamant, careless, no charm for marriage and above all shows no responsibility. He takes everything as burden, curses peoples. Always remains fearful of his looks as his beard n hairs getting gray. We consult many psychiatrist but no result. Your suggestions please.
Ans: Your son's behavior, being rude, adamant, and showing little responsibility, coupled with his fear about his appearance, suggests he might be dealing with significant underlying issues such as depression, anxiety, or another mental health condition. The fact that psychiatric consultations haven't yielded results yet indicates that his situation might be complex and in need of a more nuanced approach.

It's essential to consider that sometimes, the right combination of therapeutic methods and practitioners takes time to find. A comprehensive evaluation by a multidisciplinary team could provide fresh insights. This team might include not only psychiatrists but also psychologists and possibly other specialists who can look at his situation from various angles.

Building a strong therapeutic alliance is crucial. The effectiveness of treatment often hinges on the quality of the relationship between the patient and the therapist. Encouraging your son to continue seeking a therapist he feels comfortable with might make a significant difference. It's not uncommon for people to try several therapists before finding the right fit.

Incorporating holistic approaches can also be beneficial. Practices such as mindfulness, meditation, or yoga can help with emotional regulation and stress management. Physical activities and maintaining a healthy diet can have positive effects on mental health. These approaches, combined with professional therapy, might help your son find more balance and relief.

Support groups can be incredibly valuable as well. They provide a space where individuals can share their experiences and feel understood. Encouraging your son to connect with others who face similar challenges can offer emotional support and practical advice, which might help him feel less isolated in his struggles.

It's clear that you care deeply for your son and want the best for him. Navigating this journey requires patience, persistence, and compassion—for both him and yourself. It's important to take care of your well-being too, as supporting a loved one with mental health challenges can be exhausting and emotionally draining. Seeking support for yourself, whether through therapy, support groups, or other resources, can equip you with the strength and resilience needed to continue being there for your son.

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My son is a B. Tech (computer Science) second year student in a well reputed Private University in Greater Noida. He is working very hard in studies but not able to get good grade or passing marks. He is introvert type and has not many friends. He has been introduced to many teachers and senior students for hand holding purposes and guiding him but he not coming up to meet them and sort out his problems. He is a hosteler. To whom should we take him (Professional Counsellor/ Psychologist/ Psychiatrist) to assess and know the exact reasons or issues he is facing to address his problems. How can we help him to come out of present situation.
Ans: Dear Maheshwar,
It's wise to ask your family doctor/close friend/someone with experience in counseling/therapy to recommend someone they know in Greater Noida area; that way it will become easy for your son to access that professional due to proximity. Alternatively, these days a lot of counseling and therapy sessions are done online. Whatever you choose, let it be on the recommendation from any of the above mentioned individuals.
When you choose a professional, please bear in mind if they have:
- expertise in handling youngsters in this digital world
- experience in dealing with the case with patience rather that jumping to prescribe medications

Ask your questions and only when you are satisfied that he/she is the right person to work with your son, engage with them professionally.

All the best!
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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jan 22, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 22, 2026Hindi
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I plan to withdraw ₹6 lakh from my EPF after completing only 3 years of service, and my PAN is linked with my EPF account. Since my service period is less than 5 years, how much TDS at 10% will be deducted at the time of withdrawal? How will this EPF withdrawal be taxed in my income tax return, and can I claim a refund of the TDS deducted if my total income falls below the taxable limit?
Ans: You are thinking ahead, and that is very important. EPF withdrawal before 5 years has tax impact, but with the right understanding, there will be no surprise later.

» EPF withdrawal before completing 5 years of service
– Your total service is only 3 years
– EPF withdrawal is treated as taxable income
– PAN is linked, so TDS applies at a lower rate
– Withdrawal amount mentioned is Rs. 6 lakh

» TDS deduction at the time of EPF withdrawal
– When PAN is linked, EPFO deducts TDS at 10%
– TDS is calculated on the taxable portion of EPF
– In practical terms, EPFO usually deducts around Rs. 60,000 as TDS
– You will receive the balance amount after TDS deduction

» Important clarity on TDS
– TDS is not final tax
– It is only an advance tax collected by EPFO
– Actual tax depends on your total income for the year

» How EPF withdrawal is taxed in your income tax return
– EPF withdrawal is added to your total income
– Employee contribution portion becomes taxable
– Employer contribution portion becomes taxable
– Interest earned also becomes taxable
– The full taxable amount is taxed as per your income tax slab

» Filing income tax return after EPF withdrawal
– EPF withdrawal amount must be declared in the return
– TDS deducted by EPFO will appear in Form 26AS
– You must include both income and TDS details correctly

» Can you claim refund of TDS deducted
– Yes, refund is fully possible
– If your total income including EPF withdrawal is below taxable limit
– Or if your final tax liability is lower than TDS deducted
– The excess TDS will be refunded after return processing

» Common misunderstanding to avoid
– Many people think 10% TDS is final tax, which is not true
– Actual tax may be zero, lower, or higher based on income slab
– Not filing return will result in loss of refund

» Planning insight from a long-term view
– EPF is a retirement-focused asset
– Early withdrawal increases tax and reduces future safety
– Withdraw only if there is real financial need
– If employment resumes soon, transfer is always cleaner

» Finally
– TDS of around Rs. 60,000 will be deducted at withdrawal
– Entire EPF withdrawal is taxable due to service below 5 years
– Refund can be claimed if total income is within limits
– Proper return filing ensures no permanent tax loss

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jan 22, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 22, 2026Hindi
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I applied for EPF transfer, but the request was rejected due to a mismatch in my date of birth between EPFO records and Aadhaar/PAN. My old EPF account has a balance of ₹4.5 lakh. What is the correct procedure to get the date of birth corrected, how long does this correction process usually take, and will my EPF balance continue to earn interest during this period or will there be any loss of interest?
Ans: You have done the right thing by checking this issue early. EPF date of birth mismatch is common, and it is fully correctable. Your Rs. 4.5 lakh balance is safe, and there is no panic situation here. This can be handled in a structured and clean way.

» Why this mismatch happens
– Older EPF records were created based on employer data entry, not Aadhaar
– Even a small difference like day or month swap leads to rejection
– EPFO now treats Aadhaar as the master record
– Until DOB is matched, transfer and withdrawal requests stay on hold

» Correct procedure to update date of birth in EPFO
– Step 1: Ensure Aadhaar DOB is correct

If Aadhaar DOB is wrong, correct Aadhaar first

EPFO will not accept changes unless Aadhaar is accurate

– Step 2: Initiate “Joint Declaration” online

Login to EPFO member portal

Select “Joint Declaration” option

Choose “Date of Birth” for correction

Enter correct DOB as per Aadhaar

– Step 3: Employer verification

Current employer must digitally approve the request

No physical form is required if employer is active on EPFO portal

– Step 4: EPFO field office approval

EPFO officer verifies Aadhaar, PAN and service history

Once approved, DOB gets updated in EPFO records

» Documents usually required
– Aadhaar (mandatory)
– PAN (supporting)
– School certificate or birth certificate only if EPFO asks for extra proof
– In most cases, Aadhaar alone is enough

» How long this correction process takes
– Employer approval: 3 to 10 working days
– EPFO verification: 15 to 30 working days
– In some regional offices, it may go up to 45 days
– Follow up is possible through EPFO grievance if it crosses 30 days

» What happens to your Rs. 4.5 lakh EPF balance meanwhile
– Your EPF account remains active
– Money stays invested with EPFO
– No freeze on balance
– No deduction or penalty

» Will EPF continue to earn interest during correction
– Yes, interest continues to accrue
– EPF interest is calculated yearly, not daily
– As long as account is not withdrawn, interest is credited
– DOB correction or transfer rejection does NOT stop interest
– There is no loss of interest for this delay

» Impact on EPF transfer after DOB correction
– Once DOB is updated, submit transfer request again
– Transfer usually gets approved smoothly
– Past service period is fully preserved
– Pension eligibility and years of service remain intact

» Important points to keep in mind
– Do not apply for withdrawal while correction is pending
– Keep Aadhaar linked and active
– Track request status every week
– If employer delays, raise EPFO grievance online

» Broader financial planning insight
– EPF is a core long-term retirement pillar
– Keeping records clean avoids future delays during retirement
– Small admin issues today prevent big stress later
– You are doing the right thing by fixing this now

» Finally
– DOB correction is a process issue, not a financial loss
– Your money is safe
– Interest continues without break
– Once corrected, your EPF journey becomes smooth and future-ready

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jan 22, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 22, 2026Hindi
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I resigned from my job in April 2024 and my EPF balance is ₹2.1 lakh. If I remain unemployed for 3 months, am I eligible to withdraw the full EPF amount, or is only a partial withdrawal allowed? What are the EPF rules regarding unemployment period, and does it make any difference if I do not join a new employer during this time?
Ans: You have taken a timely step by understanding EPF rules before acting. This clarity will help you avoid mistakes and protect your long-term savings.

» EPF rules after resignation and unemployment
– EPF withdrawal rules depend on the period of unemployment
– Resignation in April 2024 starts the unemployment clock from the last working day
– EPFO treats unemployment as no contribution from employer and employee

» Withdrawal eligibility after 1 month of unemployment
– After completing 1 full month without a job
– You are allowed to withdraw up to 75% of the EPF balance
– This is considered a partial withdrawal
– Remaining balance stays in the EPF account

» Withdrawal eligibility after 2 months of unemployment
– After completing 2 continuous months of unemployment
– You become eligible to withdraw 100% of the EPF balance
– This includes both employee and employer contribution
– Pension portion follows separate rules and is not paid in cash

» What happens if unemployment continues for 3 months
– Staying unemployed for 3 months does not restrict withdrawal
– Full EPF withdrawal remains allowed after 2 months itself
– No additional benefit for waiting beyond 2 months

» Does not joining a new employer make any difference
– Yes, it matters for eligibility
– If you do not join a new employer, withdrawal is allowed
– If you join a new employer, EPFO expects transfer, not withdrawal
– Even a short-term job with EPF contribution restarts employment status

» Interest on EPF during unemployment
– EPF continues to earn interest up to 36 months of no contribution
– Interest credit is done at year-end
– Withdrawing early may stop future interest accumulation

» Tax aspect to be aware of
– If total EPF service is less than 5 years, withdrawal may be taxable
– If service is 5 years or more, withdrawal is tax-free
– This includes service across multiple employers

» Practical decision guidance
– EPF is meant for retirement security
– Withdraw only if cash flow is truly needed
– If job search is ongoing, keeping EPF intact helps future compounding
– Transfer is always better than withdrawal when re-employed

» Common mistakes to avoid
– Withdrawing EPF just because it is available
– Ignoring pension portion rules
– Assuming 3 months wait gives higher benefit

» Finally
– After 2 months of unemployment, full EPF withdrawal is permitted
– 3 months of unemployment does not change eligibility
– Not joining a new employer allows withdrawal
– Joining a new employer shifts the option to transfer

Best Regards,

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jan 22, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 22, 2026Hindi
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My monthly basic salary is ₹18,000. As per EPF rules, what percentage of my salary is deducted towards EPF every month? How much EPF contribution goes from my salary, how much does my employer contribute, and how is the employer’s contribution split between EPF and EPS? Please explain with exact amounts.
Ans: EPF rules are simple and helpful for salaried people like you.

» EPF Deduction Basics
– As per EPF rules, 12% of your basic salary gets deducted every month for EPF.
– For your Rs. 18,000 basic salary, your contribution is Rs. 2,160 (12% of 18,000).*
– This amount goes to your EPF account and builds your retirement corpus steadily.*

» Employer’s Total Contribution
– Your employer also puts in 12% of your basic salary, so another Rs. 2,160 each month.
– Total EPF deposit becomes Rs. 4,320 (your share plus employer share).*
– This matching contribution is a big plus, doubling your savings power without extra cost.*

» Split of Employer’s Share
– Out of employer’s Rs. 2,160, most goes to EPF but a part goes to EPS for pension benefits.
– For salary up to Rs. 15,000, EPS gets 8.33% (Rs. 1,250 max), rest to EPF. But since your basic is Rs. 18,000, EPS is still capped at Rs. 1,250.*
– So employer’s EPF gets Rs. 910 (2,160 minus 1,250), giving you good growth in both pension and provident fund.*

» Why This Setup Works Well
– EPF gives tax free interest around 8-9%, safe and better than many options.
– Your total Rs. 4,320 monthly addition grows big over years with compounding.
– Review your EPF statement yearly to track and appreciate this steady wealth builder.*

Final Insights
– EPF is a solid 360 degree start for retirement, insurance, and loan access.
– Keep contributing fully for max benefits. Talk to your HR if salary details change.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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NEET, Medical, Pharmacy Careers - Answered on Jan 22, 2026

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Hello, my daughter wants to opt for Commerce after 10th grade. Eventually we wanted to know if she can do the acctuarial studies. We are not completely aware of what it means, but one of our friends spoke about it and hence I wanted to check with the Gurus here.
Ans: Hi Prasad sir,

It's great that you are planning ahead. However, it’s important to consider whether she is interested in the subjects you have inquired about. Some topics can be explored later on as well. If you’ve decided to move forward, she should select the following subjects for her HSC level: Maths, Statistics, Economics, and Commerce. Make sure to check the availability of these subjects at the school where she will be pursuing her HSC.

I have provided the details below for your reference.

The following are details fo ACCTUARIAL STUDIES:
It is an interdisciplinary field using math, statistics, and finance to assess and manage financial risks, primarily for insurance, pensions, and finance, by analyzing past data to predict future events and their monetary impact, preparing candidates for rigorous professional exams and careers in risk management.

Candidates should develop skills in predictive modeling, statistical analysis, and financial theory, leading to roles where they help organizations set premiums, manage liabilities, and ensure economic stability.

Core Subjects Required:
* Mathecs, & Statistics
* Finance & Economics
* Accounting
* Computer Science & Data Analysis
* Risk Management & Modeling

Role that they plays
* Analyze historical data to identify trends and predict future financial events (e.g., car accidents, natural disasters).
* Develop models to determine financial risks and liabilities for companies.
* Help set insurance premiums and pension fund strategies.
* Use software like Excel, R, and specialized actuarial tools for analysis.


Exams:
* Involves rigorous university education and passing professional exams from bodies like the Institute and Faculty of Actuaries (IFoA) or Institute of Actuaries of India (IAI).
* Career progression is linked to exam success and gaining practical work experience.

Opportunities:* Offers strong career prospects in various sectors, including insurance, healthcare, and finance.

BEST REGARDS

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