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Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
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Dear Health Guru, Due to frequent uncalled for arguments and unnecessary pinching comments and not-likeable behaviour with myself,I started avoiding talking with elder sister on phone and visiting her place.I feel better without interaction and avoiding meeting her.This is not liked by my father to whom she complained about my not talking to her.As a result,he bullied me which really was upsetting.Recently,my sister visited us and she told me in a dictating voice that I am depressed that's why I don't talk to her.I felt so bad hearing her comment because I told her clearly many times that I don't like her way of treating me and her negative way of behaviour doesn't go well with me so I don't like to listen to her talks. My query--Should I please myself by avoiding interactions with her or should I please sister and father who label me depressed just because I dont like to involve in drama of sister? Please advise regarding my peculiar situation.Thanks for your response in advance.

Ans: Dear Anonymous.
Core relationships within the family are important and necessary for us to lead a happy life. We feel our sense of belonging within our core relationships.
Avoiding these relationships is not the way to cope with them as it will eat into your mind which is what is happening with you. Also understand that at times core relationships may not be very fulfilling and kind like the way you would want them to be.

So, expectations v/s reality...In reality, you do not share a very cordial connection with your sister and your father disapproves of it which makes you feel unloved. But that is the reality for now; what you can do is ignore the drama your sister is pulling you into...sometimes ignoring (not avoiding) teaches the other person how to behave with you in future. And if your father acts immature about it, politely tell him to stay out of it and that it is between you and your sister. Reclaim you place by increasing your worth in your eyes; that will help you navigate through difficulties in relationships. Things will begin to change either for the better or it will be at a neutral place where there is not much affection but there will be no anger between you and your sister.
Accept what it leads you to and be graceful about it. Difficult to do, but that's the only way you will be peaceful. Do remember, you always have a choice in whether you want to be in the drama created by someone else. Make that wise choice.

All the best!

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Ans: Dear R,
Obviously your parents have no clue that their over indulgence in your sister and her life is causing her misery. Their relationship is unhealthy and they are unaware of it...things are sure to go downhill until one of them pulls back...in this case, the ideal thing would be for your parents to pull back and cut financial and emotional support till she starts behaving like an adult and become accountable for herself and her life.
Some people just don't want to grow up...and that is because they have parents or parent figures who fill in their every need and fulfil their every want.
This becomes a habit and when they don't get what they want, they will threaten just like your sister does...she basically likes playing the 'child' and hence your parents are never out of their responsibility of parenting...make them aware that it is enough and a tough stance will set her right and help her build her life.
A grown up must be one and just keep the child alive in them...but here your sister just wants to be the child and keep happily playing thar role as the parents are allowing it...kindly intervene and help your parents understand and do the right thing for their daughter...

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my sister is not talking to me im in over dipression because of this i cant able consentrate on my busines . pls help me to talk with me .. important im heart patient she is doctor in gynocology .. she is very close to my heart ..
Ans: Start by gently reaching out to her. Since she’s close to your heart and knows your health condition, a sincere, heartfelt message might be the best way to open the door to communication. Write her a letter or a text where you honestly express how much you miss her and how deeply her absence is impacting you. Let her know how important she is in your life, not just as a sister but as a vital emotional support.

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It might also be helpful to give her some time and space to process your message. Doctors often have very busy and stressful lives, and she might be dealing with her own pressures.

Ultimately, the goal is to reopen lines of communication with kindness and understanding. Reaching out with a genuine, open heart can often be the first step in healing a strained relationship. If things don’t resolve quickly, consider seeking the help of a counselor or mediator to facilitate the conversation.

Take care of yourself, especially considering your heart condition. Surround yourself with supportive friends or family who can help you through this difficult time.

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Right now, your sister might be feeling hurt and defensive. Even though your intentions were good, the way you and her elder sister approached the situation may have felt overwhelming or critical to her. When she lashed out, it was likely out of pain and feeling cornered.

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Hello Sir. I am unwilling to disclose my name. I come from a nuclear family based in Kolkata. I am in a very painful situation and I need your suggestion earnestly. The problem arises with my father. He is 66 , retired and a stay at home dad. He has severe anger issues, is demanding and controlling and often tells certain things verbally that are very traumatic for me. My hands and legs tremble and my heart beats rapidly when ever we have an argument as I am a peace loving person. Of late I have realised that I prefer to maintain distance from him . In all honesty I respect him but my love for him has long gone. My mother is a very demure person and is a stay at home mom. In order to not make my father angry or agitated by any means and to maintain peace in the house, she prefers to do what he prefers. I love my mother dearly but my father calls us a bunch of liars and is agitated that I support my mother. Even though I earn, I am in no position to leave my family/ house and shift elsewhere because I respect my mother's will. But I am traumatized and severely in mental agony. I can neither show my anguish nor express my situation to anyone for fear of being misunderstood. I am often asked to remain silent and not talk back to my father but sometimes the words are unbearable. He financially supports our family and you wouldn't believe if I told you that he has a completely different side when he is not in one of his' moods '. But Sir, does being the head of the family means to step over others and do what you feel like, irrespective of what the other members in your family feel? Additionally talking or communication with him also fails because he threatens to leave the house or just pushes us away. Even when I am writing this tears are streaming down my face. I am slowly becoming a shell of myself and am scared. Am I being selfish? Am I missing out something? I am so so tired of adjusting and compromising. I believe I have never ever written such a heart felt message. Can you help me out? Can you tell me how things can be resolved? Regards MR.
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First, let me acknowledge your courage in expressing these deeply personal emotions. It is not easy to articulate such pain, and your message reflects a strong desire to find clarity and relief in a situation that feels overwhelming. Let me assure you, you are not alone, and there are steps we can take together to help you regain a sense of control and peace.

Understanding the Dynamics
Your father’s behavior, while difficult and hurtful, seems to stem from his own unresolved emotions or unmet needs. Retirement, aging, and a sense of losing relevance can sometimes manifest as controlling or angry behavior in individuals who were once accustomed to authority or a sense of purpose. However, this does not justify his actions. Emotional safety is as important in a home as financial support, and it appears this balance is missing.

Your mother, with her passive approach, may be coping in a way that avoids confrontation but also leaves you feeling unsupported and isolated. This dynamic creates a cycle where you’re left holding the weight of everyone's emotions, which is exhausting.

Addressing Your Internal Conflict
Let’s begin by addressing the questions you’ve asked yourself:

Are you being selfish? Absolutely not. Wanting to protect your mental well-being is not selfish—it’s necessary. You cannot pour from an empty cup, and neglecting your emotional health will only harm you in the long run.
Are you missing out on something? Perhaps the only thing you might be missing is recognizing that this is not your fault. It is easy to internalize blame in such situations, but this is not about you failing—it’s about a family dynamic that needs healing.
Steps Toward Resolution
While changing deeply ingrained patterns takes time, here are some immediate and long-term strategies to help you navigate this situation:

Self-Regulation First:

When arguments or confrontations arise, focus on calming your body first. Practice deep breathing or grounding techniques. For example, count your breaths slowly or focus on the sensation of your feet touching the ground. This will help you regain control over the trembling and rapid heartbeat.
Create a safe mental space for yourself. When you feel overwhelmed, imagine a place where you feel secure and loved. Retreat there mentally for a moment to regain your composure.
Establish Emotional Boundaries:

Decide what you will and won’t accept during conversations. For instance, if he raises his voice or says something hurtful, consider calmly saying, “I want to have this conversation, but not if we can’t speak respectfully.” If he continues, you can excuse yourself from the situation.
Have a Gentle Conversation:

Choose a time when your father is calm. Express your feelings in a non-confrontational way. Use “I” statements to avoid triggering his defensiveness. For example, “I feel very hurt and scared when we argue, and it affects my health. I want us to have a peaceful relationship.”
Involve a Neutral Third Party:

Sometimes family dynamics require external mediation. If your father is open to it, consider family counseling. A neutral professional can help facilitate healthier communication patterns.
Build Your Own Resilience:

Strengthen your emotional boundaries through self-care. Engage in activities that bring you joy, whether it’s a hobby, spending time with friends, or pursuing a passion.
Journaling can also be a powerful tool to process your emotions and find clarity. Write without judgment—just let the words flow.
Support Your Mother with Empathy:

While you may feel frustrated by your mother’s silence, understand that she too is coping in the best way she knows how. Gently encourage her to find her voice and share her feelings when she feels safe.
Seek Community Support:

If you cannot share your situation with friends or family, consider joining a support group (online or in person). Knowing you’re not alone can be incredibly healing.
Plan for the Future:

While moving out isn’t an option right now, think about small steps you can take toward greater independence over time. This might include saving money, learning new skills, or preparing emotionally for when you’re ready to take that step.

A Gentle Reminder
MR, healing this situation doesn’t solely depend on changing your father’s behavior. It starts with you reclaiming your power to protect your mental health. Your peace of mind is just as valuable as anyone else’s.

Take this one step at a time. You are not broken—you are resilient. With each small action, you’ll begin to feel more grounded and capable of navigating this challenge.

If you ever need to share more or simply vent, I am here to listen.

Warm regards,
Dr. Ashish Sehgal

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Ans: From what you’ve shared, your father seems to be wrestling with his own frustrations, using control and anger as tools to manage his environment. This does not make it right, nor does it excuse the pain he causes. But understanding that his behavior may stem from internal struggles might help you view the situation with some compassion, even if from a distance.

Your love and respect for your mother shine through your words, and it’s clear that her well-being is a priority for you. The way you support her is a testament to your strength and kindness. But I also sense that her coping mechanism—complying with your father to maintain peace—might unintentionally place an additional burden on you. It’s as though you’re not only protecting yourself but also shielding her, which is an immense responsibility.

You are not alone in feeling conflicted about standing up to your father. It’s not just about his words; it’s about the power dynamics and the emotional weight he holds in the family. His “other side”—the moments when he is kind or approachable—makes it even harder to reconcile the anger and trauma he causes. This duality often creates confusion and guilt, leaving you wondering if you’re overreacting or misjudging him.

What’s most important right now is preserving your emotional well-being. It’s okay to create boundaries, even if they are small and subtle. For instance, when you sense an argument brewing, stepping away or finding a reason to leave the room can help you avoid escalating the situation. If direct communication with him fails, sometimes maintaining emotional distance is the only way to protect yourself.

I also encourage you to find someone you trust to talk to—a counselor, a friend, or even a support group. Sharing your pain with someone who can listen without judgment can lighten your load and help you feel less alone. Writing, as you’ve done here, is also a powerful outlet. Keep journaling—it can provide clarity and a sense of release.

You’ve asked if being the head of the family means stepping over others. The simple answer is no. True leadership in a family should come from love, mutual respect, and understanding. When it turns into control or fear, it becomes harmful. Your father’s actions do not reflect a failure on your part or your family’s; they reflect his own struggles with how to express himself and manage his emotions.

Finally, give yourself permission to feel tired. You are human, and this constant state of tension would drain anyone. But even in your exhaustion, remember this: you are brave, resilient, and full of love for your family. There is no shame in wanting peace, and there is no shame in seeking help to find it.

With heartfelt wishes for your healing and happiness,

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1. Current Financial Snapshot
First, let’s understand your financial position fully:

Take?home salary: Rs 80,000 per month

PPF (your account): Rs 15 lakh (maturing in about 1 year)

PPF (wife’s account): Rs 7 lakh (maturing in ~12 years)

EPF balance: Rs 10 lakh

Single MIS: Rs 9 lakh

Plot of land: Rs 9 lakh value

NPS investment: Rs 2.3 lakh (started, low return)

Dependents: Son (2 years old), younger brother, mother

You aim to save Rs 2–3 crore over the next 4–5 years, while being conservative. You prefer stability and want strong post-death security for your dependents.

2. Clarify Retirement / Corpus Versus Income Goal
You mentioned wanting Rs 2–3 crore in 4–5 years. This implies:

Target corpus: Rs 2 crore in 5 years needs Rs 33–35 lakh per year investment.

Feasibility check: Your income may not allow such high savings immediately.

Therefore, refine the goal:

Decide your time horizon (e.g., 5 years vs 10 years)

Define purpose: Corpus for retirement or income flow

Decide on post-retirement monthly income expected

Then calculate realistic corpus and required savings

Without clarity, planning remains vague. Let’s assume you aim for Rs 1.5 lakh per month income post-retirement. You will need roughly Rs 3 crore corpus at a 6% systematic withdrawal. This requires systematic accumulation of at least Rs 30 lakh per year, which may need more time or higher savings.

3. Risk Profile and Asset Allocation
As a conservative investor:

You prefer stable returns over high-risk growth

But pure debt instruments may not help meet large corpus.

Balance is key: safe growth with moderate risk

Suggested ideal allocation without using real estate:

PPF / EPF / NPS: 40–50%

Active equity funds: 30–40%

Hybrid/debt funds: 10–20%

Liquid/short-term debt funds: 5–10% (liquidity buffer)

This mix helps achieve stability with steady growth.

4. PPF Maturity Management
Your PPF of Rs 15 lakh will mature next year. Here’s how to handle it:

Don’t withdraw all in one go unless needed

Continue partial investments in PPF or encash gradually

Use maturity proceeds to build liquid and debt funds

Post-maturity, divide funds into safety and growth portions

Some for health, term insurance, emergencies

Some for balanced investment in active funds

PPF’s tax-free and risk-free nature makes it ideal for cautious future deployment.

5. Diversification in Debt Instruments
You hold EPF, PPF, NPS, and MIS — strong debt base. However:

MIS interest is taxable and inflexible

NPS has limited liquidity at maturity

Term insurance is good but premiums may strain cash flow

Consider these adjustments:

Redirect some MIS into short-term debt or conservative hybrid funds

Continue EPF/PPF/NPS, but monitor allocations

Maintain health insurance and check for adequate coverage

Build an emergency fund in liquid/debt funds — target 6–12 months of expenses

6. Increase Exposure to Equity via Active Funds
You haven’t started SIPs yet. To grow corpus, equity exposure is essential.

Avoid index funds: they mirror markets, no downside protection

Active funds add value via expert stock selection

They may outperform in volatile or bear phases

Start with:

3–4 active equity funds via SIPs

Diversified, large-cap, multi-cap, sectoral mix based on risk level

Use regular plans via MFD–CFP, not direct plans

You gain professional guidance, periodic reviews, and alignment to goals

Direct plans only save expense ratio but lack personalized support

Begin with a modest monthly SIP of Rs 10,000–15,000 and increase each year.

7. Systematic Liquid Fund Allocation
Liquidity is critical for job instability and emergencies.

Keep at least Rs 3–4 lakh in liquid or ultra-short-term debt fund

This protects safety without locking in long-term instruments

It bridges income gaps during job changes

Avoid locking liquidity in MIS or fixed deposits alone.

8. Health and Term Insurance Review
You asked about insurance adequacy. Here's what we should check:

Term Life Insurance:

Suit your family’s income replacement and debt

With a 2-year-old child and liabilities, over Rs 1 crore cover is advisable

This ensures your son, brother, and mother are financially secure

Health Insurance:

Must cover whole family including child and mother

Choose a high coverage plan (Rs 5 lakh or more) with cashless hospital network

Covers hospital expenses, surgeries, and critical illness

Insurance safeguard is a non-negotiable foundation for your goals.

9. Repurpose LIC Policy
You hold a Rs 3 lakh LIC policy. Investment-cum-insurance products typically:

Have high charges

Offer low returns

Are illiquid

Suggest:

Consider surrendering this policy

Deploy proceeds into a mix of active equity funds and hybrid funds via regular plans

This improves returns and gives flexibility

Discuss surrender details with your MFD–CFP to avoid penalties or loss of insurance coverage. Instead, ensure you maintain term insurance and health cover separately.

10. Asset Reallocation and Withdrawal Strategy
You have multiple debt instruments maturing at different times. Use a phased withdrawal approach:

On PPF maturity: deploy 50% into SIPs, 30% into hybrid funds, 20% into liquid funds

Do similar for MIS if you wish to withdraw

For NPS EPF: continue till retirement, but track allocation

Gain from equity funds can be moved post-retirement to hybrid/debt for stable withdrawal

This creates a laddered portfolio that balances growth and distribution.

11. Build Monthly Income Plan Post-Retirement
We must design a corpus layout to meet Rs 1–1.5 lakh monthly income:

Assuming a Rs 3 crore corpus,

Debt/hybrid allocation: Rs 1.5 crore, earning ~8% annually → Rs 12 lakh per year

Active equity SIP withdrawals: Rs 12–18 lakh per year to replenish inflation and growth

The remainder in liquid/dynamic balance to meet monthly cash flow needs.

Corpus design should allow systematic withdrawal while preserving principal.

12. Monitoring and Rebalancing
We need to track progress actively:

Annual review of portfolio mix

Rebalance equity/debt allocation back to target

Track performance of active funds vs benchmarks

Adjust SIP amounts with salary growth and inflation

Use MFD–CFP guidance for recalibration and goal mapping.

13. Tax Planning for Better Efficiency
Be aware of current tax rules for mutual funds:

Equity funds: LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%; STCG taxed at 20%

Debt funds: gains taxed as per your income slab

PPF and EPF remain tax?free

Plan redemptions properly:

Withdraw slowly to stay under LTCG threshold

Choose redemption years carefully

Tax-efficient planning increases net returns and effective income.

14. Contingency Protection for Career Instability
Since job security is low:

Extend emergency fund to at least 6–12 months

Keep access to pre-approved credit (overdrafts) just in case

Avoid locking long-term wealth for immediate needs

Build secondary income—freelance skills or online training

This gives a buffer for months with low or no income.

15. Inflation and Lifestyle Adjustment
Your final income target must beat inflation.

Track yearly inflation at ~6–7%

Increase SIP amounts annually by at least this rate

Adjust equity allocation gradually as risk capacity grows

Post-retirement, budget for inflation-linked expenses

Lifestyle flexibility will help maintain corpus and quality of life.

16. Involving Your Family in the Plan
Plan with your wife and elder family members:

Discuss insurance, liquidity, and educational needs

Explain the need for systematic investing

Seek their support for withdrawal planning and spending control

Financial stability is easier with a supportive home environment.

17. Action Roadmap Summary
Let’s list your next steps:

Finalise goal: corpus, timeline, post?retirement income

Build emergency fund in liquid funds

Increase PPF withdrawal approach

Reinvest LIC maturity in active funds via regular plan

Start SIPs in 3–4 active funds at Rs 10k–15k/month

Check health and term insurance coverage adequacy

Build a withdrawal corpus plan using debt, hybrid, equity

Review and rebalance annually with advisor

Plan exit strategy based on funds performance and needs

Stick to this structured 360° plan with discipline and patience.

18. Avoid These Pitfalls
Don’t invest in index funds—they mirror market entirely

Avoid direct plans—lost guidance may cost more than fees saved

Don’t add annuities—they reduce flexibility and returns

Avoid real estate as wealth creation—it’s illiquid

Don’t prematurely withdraw debt assets—use them for income

Avoid mixing insurance in investment—keep them separate

Your conservative mindset is wise. But active planning will help you win long-term.

Finally
You have a solid base with PPF, EPF, MIS, and basic insurance.
Now, with disciplined strategy you can aim for Rs 2–3 crore corpus.
Combining stable debt, active equity investments, liquidity cushion, and insurance will protect you and your family.
Use a Certified Financial Planner and regular investment plans.
Review annually, increase SIPs, and remain aware of tax rules.
This will give you financial stability, liquidity, and peace of mind.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
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Is upes good enough for physics honours
Ans: UPES Dehradun's B.Sc. (Hons.) Physics program, offered through the School of Advanced Engineering's Applied Science Cluster, provides three specialized tracks—Astronomy & Astrophysics, Computational Physics, and Materials Science & Nanotechnology—with NAAC A accreditation and research-oriented 3+1 curriculum. The university's physics faculty includes renowned researchers like Dr. Vipin Gaur (18,000+ citations, h-index 65+) working on international collaborations at CERN and Belle II experiments, and Dr. Shalendra Kumar, recognized among the world's top 2% researchers by Stanford University. Infrastructure includes 120+ specialized labs, a centrally air-conditioned library with 2,08,425 print books and 19,148 e-journals, high-performance computing facilities for physics simulations, and MoUs with Aryabhatta Research Institute of Observational Sciences (ARIES) for astronomical research. The university achieved a 91% overall placement rate with 750+ recruiters, including Microsoft, Amazon, IBM, and research organizations, though specific physics placement data shows typical BSc Physics graduates earning INR 2-7 LPA nationally with career prospects in research institutions, IT sectors, and government organizations.

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UPES physics honours offers solid accreditation, internationally recognized faculty, and extensive research infrastructure with global collaborations at CERN and KEK. Consider it if you value research exposure and specialized physics tracks, but alternative options like premier central universities or IISERs may provide stronger academic foundations and higher placement consistency in core physics roles. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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