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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 28, 2024
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I had lost my virginity before marriage, at the age of 18 and now I'm 26 years old but now I Going to marry someone else.did my future husband know that I have lost my virginity when I have intercourse with my ex, we had 7 to 9 years of relationship till now but that relationship did not worked so we broke up recently. Now I'm going to marry next year ending. What should I do? Its a arrange marriage if he knows all that shits then my family reputation is also harm. What should I do to this situation. I can't tell anyone about this and what is the solution that he never know about my past life..i want to hide from him that I'm not virgin.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You have lost your virginity, so be it!
And what are you making a big noise about it, family reputation etc...are you serious that the boy's side is going to do a medical examination or send some elderly aunt to inspect you? Which age are you living in?
Oh and by the way, how do know the boy is a virgin? Or is this great responsibility only that of a girl?

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I love my boyfriend very much but the thing is i am not a virgin and my boyfriend doesn’t know that , he thinks i am a virgin and he wants me to be virgin only , i am completely loyal to him I don’t have any type of contact from my ex boyfriend and i really want to marry my boyfriend and live a healthy and loyal life , my boyfriend doesn’t like lies but i really can’t tell him the truth as it will affect my relationship which i don’t want to happen, he will come to know that i am not a virgin but the main problem is my ex bf what if he comes in my life again and tries to spoil my relationship by telling my bf the truth? And i really don’t want this to happen what should i do? I myself don’t want to loe to my bf but this is the thing i really can’t tell him it will break my relationship and other than this there is nothing that i lied i am just afraid what if my ex blackmails me and when my bf comes to know and he will be heartbroken i don’t want to break his trust
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I understand that your virginity is important to him and you should not have kept this from him, but do you understand that your virginity is your choice? Why does he have a say in it? He is your partner- he loves you, but he doesn't own you. And what you did in your past is not something he can judge you by; why should that affect your relationship? I know that you love him but it's better to tell him the truth and accept the outcome than to keep lying and feel guilty about something you should not even be worrying about.

I am sure he has many great qualities but being so concerned about your virginity seems a little concerning. You are a person with so many other attributes. Why would he ignore all of that and care only about something that you have no control over? I suggest you tell him, but please remember, no matter what he says, you are not at fault here. It's in your past, a time when he did not exist for you.

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I am very sorry you are going through such a tough time. First of all, this ‘no seal no deal’ is the brainchild of extremely insecure people. You should not have to worry about that. If, in the future, you start dating someone, and you decide to tell them about your past and they say something that indicates this mentality, you should reconsider the relationship. Your past is your past. Whatever happened between you and your ex was out of love. And it isn’t a flaw in you. Remember, you deserve as much happiness and love as any other person. Coming to whether you can ever share your past or not- that is entirely up to you. There is no hard and fast rule that you must tell your partner every single detail of your past relationship history. But I strongly suggest focusing on finding someone with whom you can share anything without fear of judgment.


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