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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 19, 2023Hindi
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I got married an year back, an arranged marriage and life was okay till now. I accidentally saw my wife's phone and realized that she had an affair before marriage including physical relationship. when I confronted her, she accepted that it is true and that they have parted ways later. I am unable to accept the fact and have been living in separate rooms now. Please advise as to what to do now as I feel cheated and unable to accept her...

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am guessing your wife's past relationship ended before you two got married. If so, you have no reason to be upset. It's all in the past and everyone has one. Be it a physical relationship or an emotional one, if it was before you came into her life, it should not matter one bit. It is not even remotely close to cheating. Focus on your marriage.

The best way to do so is to sit with her and have an open discussion. It's best you don't push her for details because it would neither be comfortable for her to speak of it with her husband nor will you like hearing it. In short, it won't do your marriage any good. And it's not at all important in the current scenario. You cannot demand someone to disclose everything that happened before you came into their lives. It's up to them to reveal in their own time and convenience.

What's in the past should be there. Don't drag it to the present and ruin your lives. And don't forget that you love your partner and kindness does not cost a dime.

Best Wishes!

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Hi, Please hide my name. It’s been close to 10 years of our marriage. We are as such happily married but have our share of fights and arguments. It was an arranged marriage though we did have a courtship (physically roaming around) of about 10-15 days two months before the wedding. I have been made aware of a past relationship of my wife. I am okay with that. It went on to the physical levels and I do not as such have an issue. But now I was made aware -- in general talks -- that the relationship lasted till the last day before the marriage and it was involved to the extent of sharing hotel rooms, going together to different cities -- all these just 10-15 days before the marriage. I do have chats of that time and I when I showed that to her, including SMSes. She is saying it just happened and she has no explanation.  I do not intend to break my marriage as we have lovely kids to raise, but I am not able to digest these incidents. The thing that really hurts me is that she is not regretting this and always saying that its part of her good memories of life. I just can't digest this. I think I need some help to come to peace with this situation as this is spoiling the atmosphere at home. Regards, A bleeding heart.
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Dear Bleeding Heart,

I think you need to come to terms with your wife’s past.

The situation speaks for itself, doesn’t it? She loved someone else but was pressured into an arranged match with you. And then proceeded to enjoy as much time with the man she loved before she gave herself away to someone else, who was practically a stranger then.

It’s very understandable.

I get that you’re feeling a little duped, given that she was still with the other man right up until the wedding, but get over it.

She’s been with you for 10 years since then, is the mother of your children and obviously loves you now; you have a happy marriage.

You’re behaving like she cheated on you, when in fact she revealed the truth to you herself. So leave the past where it belongs and look forward to the future.

The only problem here is your bruised male ego.

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HI ANUNice to contact you. I need your advice. Hope you can help me.We have been married for 22 years (arranged marriage). For the last 10 years we have some family dispute between my mother and wife.She used to hate me for the same. Moreover she didn’t have any interest in love and sex. She used to sleep in another bedroom. We live together with my son. She is housewife and completely involved in upbringing of my son. Six years back I was attracted and had affair with one of my colleagues. Once my wife come to know about our affair, she created too many problems. She became mad. She abused me verbally and physically. I stopped the affair, changed my job and location. I apologised and changed. I obeyed her. You can say I was a slave to her. In the meantime we never used to sleep together. I was afraid of her abuse so I never asked her for sex or love. She never asked me too. We live together but no love, no sex. Two years ago she told me that she has an affair with a guy from Facebook and they both had sex. That friend used her physically and financially. He had multiple affairs along with my wife. Now he forces her for the relationship. I talked to him and asked him to stay away. At the same time, I was shocked. My wife who completely hated sex and love had an affair with unknown guy. Again we had problems and arguments.If only she’d loved me neither of us would have had an affair.Problem is I can't digest this. I can't sleep at night. I was not physical with my friend. But my wife suspected in her mind and ruined our life. What to do? Shall I seek divorce? Should I consult a therapist to forget everything? Please guide me.
Ans: Dear PP,

If life were that simple enough, why would we be facing challenges at all?

You think if she had loved you, none of this would have happened. You choose to see it from your point of view which is understandable.

What if you take the effort to find out what made her lose interest in you and the marriage?

Women are wired differently from men when it comes to sex. It can be enveloped in emotions and when she is going through an emotionally challenging time (with your mother), it might have been hard for her to be physically close with you.

Did you consider ever resolving the situation between them?

Did you ever ask your wife: “What can I do to help your situation?”

Did you ever find out from her what made her distant from you?

It may sound harsh, but we are talking about much water under the bridge.

If you go on to blame her for cheating on you, when you could and you didn’t, well, it’s not a string place to start if you want to save your marriage.

Do you both want to reconcile and rebuild the marriage?

Communicate, as that’s something that has broken down between the two of you.

It takes two to build a marriage and two to break one. So, time to reflect and look ahead as to what can be done based on what the two of you choose to do.

As far as you not being able to reconcile with the thoughts of her being involved with another man, I suggest before you approach your wife to remedy the situation, kindly settle this thought else tempers are going to fly and things will go from bad to worse. So BREATHE and NOW sit calmly to reflect and act.

All the best!

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Hi, I have been married since 2011 and have a son aged 9 yrs. My wife managed her professional career as well as home. I trusted her to the fullest and allowed her to go out of town alone for work purpose. However in 2017, my wife had an affair with her senior working in bank and it was physical relationship too. It lasted for almost 1.5 yr untill I caught her in August 2018. When confronted she did not had proper justification for doing such gross thing and tried too blame me. Since than she has no contact with that person and even she filed a complain in the office against that person for stalking. She is remorseful and shameful for her act, but i dont feel any attachment towards her. I am still continuing in marriage with mental trauma of affair. What should i do with marriage now?
Ans: Dear Saurav

Discovering that your wife has been unfaithful can be a traumatic experience, and it's understandable that you may be feeling hurt, angry, and betrayed. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and emotional health during this time.

Here are some steps that you can take to help you navigate this situation:

Seek support: Consider talking to a therapist, a trusted friend or family member, or a support group for individuals who have experienced infidelity. It's important to have someone to talk to who can provide a listening ear and a safe space for you to express your emotions.

Communicate: If you want to work on your relationship with your wife, it's important to communicate openly and honestly about your feelings. Let your wife know how her actions have affected you and what you need in order to move forward.

Set boundaries: It's important to set clear boundaries with your wife regarding what is and isn't acceptable behavior. If you choose to work on your relationship, make sure that your wife is willing to take responsibility for her actions and work towards rebuilding trust.

Consider counseling: If you and your wife want to work on your relationship, consider couples counseling. A trained therapist can help you and your wife communicate effectively and work through any underlying issues that may have contributed to the infidelity.

Take time to reflect: Consider what you want for your future and whether or not you are willing to work on your relationship. It's important to make a decision that feels right for you and your well-being.

Don't blame yourself: It's important to remember that your wife's infidelity is not your fault. While it's natural to feel responsible or to question what you could have done differently, ultimately the decision to cheat was your wife's alone.

It's important to acknowledge your own feelings and to take care of yourself during this time. With time and support, it's possible to heal and move forward from the trauma of infidelity. Ultimately, the decision about what to do with your marriage is up to you and your wife, and it's important to make a decision that feels right for both of you.
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Namaste Kirtan Sir, I have Started SIP 2014 with one fund, but started really focusing on from last 2 years with multiple fund and also increased the top-up on few fund. New SIP Fund Details 1. Aditya Birla Sun Life Gold Fund - Gr : 2500 from Jan-2024 2. Kotak Business Cycle Fund - Gr : 2000 from Oct-2022 3. NJ ELSS Tax Saver Scheme - Gr : 3000 from Aug-2023 4. SBI Blue Chip Fund - Gr : 2500 from Jan-2024 Existing SIP Fund & TOP up 5. Baroda BNP Paribas India Consumption Fund - Gr : 1500 from Sept-2022 & Top Up from Jan-2024 6. Nippon India Flexi Cap Fund - Gr : 1500 Started from Sept-2022 & Top Up from Jan-2024 7. Tata Equity P/E Fund Gr : 2000 from July-2014 & Top Up from Jan-2024 Total of 20k SIP Can you just review my portfolio and guide us wither investment is on right fund. Thank you in advance Rohith Adiga
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It's commendable to see your dedication towards building a diversified investment portfolio through SIPs. Reviewing your portfolio is crucial to ensure it remains aligned with your financial goals and risk tolerance.

Firstly, let me appreciate your proactive approach in diversifying your investments across multiple funds. This spreads risk and enhances potential returns. However, it's essential to periodically evaluate the performance of each fund and make adjustments as necessary.

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Hello Sir, I am 46 Y old . Recently i lost my job and serching for Job . I have 3 Flats , 80 L , 80L, 1.5 Cr . I have loan of 2 nd flat 6 L and Vila Loan 1,18 Cr . I have savings 15 L Mutual Fund, 9 L FD. 10L Govenment bonds, 17.5 L PPF(Eife). 7.5 L PPF(Myself), 2.5L gold bond, 2.5 L shares. EPF 72 L . I require 40 L for my daugter education in 4 year Span starting from 2024-2028. I require 40 L for my son education 2028-2032. If i sell my two flats and do loan free the Vila , I left with 40 L . I see visiblity of 30 L for my son and daughter education and left with 1.2Cr as saving . For house hold my wife earn 52 K which is ok for us monthy usage. Please help me a programe so that i can full fill my retirement objection ( 50K) per month . I may get job or not but want to secure the future of children as wella s my retietment . Please suggest .
Ans: I understand your situation and your desire to secure your children's education and your retirement. Let's outline a plan to achieve your objectives:

Education Fund for Children:
You have visibility of 30 lakhs for your children's education, which is a good start. To bridge the gap, consider allocating a portion of your remaining savings towards an education fund. You can invest in diversified mutual funds or fixed income instruments based on your risk tolerance and investment horizon.
Additionally, explore scholarship opportunities and educational loans to reduce the financial burden.
Debt Management:
Selling two flats to become loan-free on the villa is a prudent move to reduce debt burden. It will also free up cash flow for other financial goals.
Consider refinancing or restructuring the villa loan to reduce interest payments and accelerate debt repayment.
Retirement Planning:
With 1.2 crores in savings, you can create a retirement corpus through systematic investments in a combination of equity and debt instruments.
Allocate a portion of your savings towards diversified equity mutual funds for long-term growth potential. Aim for a balanced portfolio to manage risk effectively.
Consider investing in debt instruments like PPF, government bonds, and fixed deposits for stability and regular income during retirement.
Maximize contributions to EPF or consider opening a Voluntary Provident Fund (VPF) account to enhance retirement savings.
Emergency Fund:
Maintain an adequate emergency fund equivalent to 6-12 months of living expenses to handle unforeseen circumstances without dipping into long-term investments.
Review and Adjust:
Regularly review your financial plan and make adjustments based on changes in income, expenses, and market conditions.
Stay disciplined with your savings and investment strategy to achieve your financial goals effectively.
It's important to remain optimistic about your job search while simultaneously focusing on securing your family's future. Consider seeking guidance from a certified financial planner to tailor a comprehensive financial plan aligned with your specific circumstances and objectives. With careful planning and disciplined execution, you can work towards a secure and prosperous future for yourself and your family.
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Hello sir, i am 32 years old and just started a SIP investment of 7K per month for the following funds for wealth creation for next 10 - 15 years. Core portfolio (60%) 1. Parag Parikh flexicap fund - 1.5K 2. JM Flexicap - 2K 3. Navi Nifty 50 - 0.5K Satellite portfolio (40%) 1. Kotak Emerging Equity Fund - 0.8K 2. JM Midcap fund - 1K 3. Tata smallcap fund - 0.7K 4. Edelweiss midcap 150 momentum 50 - 0.5K Could please review and advise me whether the above funds is to be considered good. Please provide some suggestions if changes required.
Ans: Your SIP portfolio seems well-diversified across various categories of equity funds, which is a good approach for long-term wealth creation. Let's review each fund and provide some suggestions:

Core Portfolio (60%):

Parag Parikh Flexicap Fund: This fund follows a flexible investment approach across large, mid, and small-cap stocks. It's known for its quality stock selection and has delivered consistent returns over the years.
JM Flexicap Fund: Another flexi-cap fund, providing exposure to companies across market capitalizations. Ensure you review its performance and consistency compared to peers.
Navi Nifty 50: Investing in an index fund like Navi Nifty 50 provides exposure to India's top 50 companies. It's a low-cost option with a focus on large-cap stocks.
Satellite Portfolio (40%):

Kotak Emerging Equity Fund: This fund focuses on emerging companies with high growth potential. Review its performance and ensure it aligns with your risk appetite.
JM Midcap Fund: Mid-cap funds like JM Midcap can offer higher growth potential but come with higher volatility. Monitor its performance and risk closely.
Tata Smallcap Fund: Investing in small-cap funds can provide exposure to high-growth companies. Ensure you're comfortable with the risk associated with small-cap investing.
Edelweiss Midcap 150 Momentum 50: This fund follows a momentum-based investment strategy, focusing on mid-cap stocks showing positive price momentum. Understand its investment approach and risk profile.
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Monitor Performance: Regularly review the performance of your funds and ensure they're meeting your expectations. Consider replacing underperforming funds with better alternatives.
Risk Management: Given the higher allocation to mid-cap and small-cap funds in your portfolio, be prepared for higher volatility. Ensure your risk tolerance aligns with the risk profile of these funds.
Review Fund Selection: Consider diversifying across fund houses to reduce concentration risk. Also, consider adding an international equity fund or a debt fund for further diversification.
Long-Term Perspective: Stay focused on your long-term investment horizon and avoid making knee-jerk reactions based on short-term market movements.
Overall, your SIP portfolio appears well-structured for wealth creation over the next 10-15 years. However, regularly monitoring and reviewing your portfolio's performance is essential to ensure it remains aligned with your financial goals and risk tolerance. Consider consulting with a financial advisor for personalized guidance based on your individual circumstances.
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Good morning sir, my daughter is in btech. ECE final semister, can I send for ms in abroad, or any job related courses in India, my daughter also not much intrested to go abroad. Kindly suggest better way.
Ans: Hello,

First and foremost, thank you for getting in touch with us. I am glad to hear that your daughter is pursuing the final semester of her Bachelor of Technology in Electronics and Communication Engineering. To answer your question first, I would like to tell you that we only deal with overseas education. Yes, you can definitely send your daughter abroad to pursue her Master's. I would like to tell you that owing to their renowned universities, top-notch education, and vast array of opportunities, a number of countries are well-known for pursuing Master of Science (MS) degrees abroad. With its vast array of top-tier universities and research centres, the USA continues to be a sought-after destination for pursuing MS programs spanning different disciplines. Likewise, a number of international students are also drawn to countries viz., the UK, Canada, Germany, Australia, and Switzerland owing to their cutting-edge academic programs, culturally diverse settings, and significant focus on innovation and research. You would be glad to know that MS students are offered distinct advantages and opportunities in these countries, in turn, making them highly popular destinations for individuals looking for further education overseas.

As mentioned by you, if your daughter is not interested in pursuing a Master's abroad, I would suggest that she looks into other possibilities that best resonate with her interests and professional objectives. Post finishing her Bachelor of Technology (B.Tech) degree, she could think about acquiring professional experience via internships or entry-level work in her field of interest. Gaining this practical experience can prove beneficial for her career growth and may help her determine her professional path. In order to improve her abilities and credentials without committing to a full-time Master's program overseas, she could also look into advanced certifications or specialized courses. Lastly, I would suggest that you motivate your daughter to investigate these possibilities and assist her in discovering her true calling, which in turn, could result in a gratifying and prosperous professional path.

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? rediff.com Rediff Gurus Logo Hi Anwesha | Sign Out HealthHealth MoneyMoney RelationshipRelationship CareesCareer Ask your questions about health, money, relationship or careers here Ask Anonymously You posted: My boyfriend's ex happens to be his sister-in law's sister (first cousin). That was his first serious relationship and she had dumped him. It has been quite a few years since, but it bothers me that he is indirectly still related to her. My boyfriend's sister-in-law has a daughter (his niece) whom he loves very much. But whenever he talks to his sister in law or plays with the kid, it makes me uncomfortable. I am broadly uncomfortable with the fact that he is the uncle to the same kid his ex is aunt to. Which means they are somewhat familialy related. I have seen his ex post videos of the kid playing around in his house, which means she still gets regular updates about his household through her sister (his sister-in-law). I really don't want to get into something this complicated, but I love my boyfriend very much. He also loves the kid a lot which makes me hate myself for projecting my hate on the kid/sister-in law because they're not at fault. But it really bothers me whenever I hear the kid's voice or his sister in law's because that reminds me of his ex. I feel extremely insecure and uncomfortable and I don't know how to deal with this, but I really want things to work out between my boyfriend and me. What is the solution?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Well, this feeling ain't going away that soon as you are bordering on obsession possibly without reason.
Jealousy leading to insecurities and constantly monitoring him is only going to make it worse on you...so either you trust him or you don't...which is it going to be?
Has he given you any reason to doubt him OR is it only your fear and hate fueling it? If it's the ex coming along and bringing with it all the fears inside of you, then work at it before you make this really ugly and now it's in your hands.
Jealousy is a normal human emotion BUT how you deal with it is a choice you are going to have to make. So, start to reassure yourself by saying that it's all okay and good. Challenge your thoughts every time they crop up so that it doesn't grow large enough for you to start projecting. Talk to your boyfriend requesting him to be more patient with you if at all you snap at him for anything. But not for long as he will run out of patience.
If there is nothing going on between him and his ex, why is it taking you so much to trust him? More than a love, a relationship needs trust and understanding. Pour these into it and not only will you feel better, your boyfriend will also be more supportive of what you are going through. Trust or not; it's your choice!

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Hi Kirtan, I am 45 now. I am looking for a pension plan. I can invest upto Rs 5000 per month. Should I go in NPS or LIC? What are pro and cons for both?
Ans: Considering your age and investment amount, NPS (National Pension System) could be a preferable option over LIC for a pension plan. Here's a breakdown of the pros and cons of each:

NPS (National Pension System):
Pros:

Flexibility: NPS offers flexibility in choosing investment options, including equity, corporate bonds, and government securities, allowing you to tailor your portfolio based on your risk tolerance and investment goals.
Tax Benefits: Contributions to NPS are eligible for tax deductions under Section 80C, with an additional deduction of up to Rs. 50,000 under Section 80CCD(1B). Additionally, partial and lump-sum withdrawals are tax-exempt up to certain limits.
Low Cost: NPS has a relatively low-cost structure compared to traditional pension plans, with competitive fund management charges.
Cons:

Lock-in Period: NPS has a lock-in period until retirement age, with limited withdrawal options before that. Early withdrawals are subject to restrictions and penalties.
Market Risk: Since NPS invests in market-linked instruments, such as equities, there's a level of market risk involved. Returns may fluctuate based on market performance.
Limited Annuity Options: The annuity options under NPS may be limited compared to traditional pension plans offered by insurance companies like LIC.
LIC (Life Insurance Corporation):
Pros:

Guaranteed Returns: LIC pension plans typically offer guaranteed returns, providing a sense of security and predictability in retirement income.
Death Benefit: Some LIC pension plans come with a death benefit, ensuring that your nominee receives a lump sum or annuity in case of your demise.
Wide Range of Annuity Options: LIC offers a wide range of annuity options, allowing you to choose a plan that best suits your retirement needs and preferences.
Cons:

Lower Flexibility: LIC pension plans may offer limited flexibility compared to NPS in terms of investment options and withdrawal flexibility.
Higher Costs: Traditional pension plans from LIC may have higher costs compared to NPS, including administration charges and agent commissions.
Limited Tax Benefits: While premiums paid towards LIC pension plans are eligible for tax deduction under Section 80C, the overall tax benefits may be limited compared to NPS.
In conclusion, NPS tends to offer more advantages over LIC for a pension plan, given its flexibility, tax benefits, and lower costs. However, considering the potential advantages of mutual funds over NPS in terms of flexibility and potentially higher returns, you may also explore mutual fund options for your retirement planning
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I am 63 years old.Yearly pension 6.50 lacs Annual interest from bank deposits 5.50 lacs ( Bank deposits Rs.60 lacs). Monthly pension is sufficient to meet expenses since my children are settled.How to redeploy the bank deposit to maximize income
Ans: Given your stable pension income and surplus from bank deposits, optimizing your investments for higher income while maintaining liquidity and minimizing risk is crucial. Here's a strategy tailored to your needs:

Fixed Income Investments: Consider allocating a portion of your bank deposits to fixed income instruments such as Senior Citizen Savings Scheme (SCSS), Post Office Monthly Income Scheme (POMIS), or Tax-free Bonds. These instruments offer regular income with relatively lower risk compared to equities.
Debt Mutual Funds: Invest a portion of your bank deposits in debt mutual funds with a focus on short to medium-term duration funds or monthly income plans (MIPs). These funds offer the potential for higher returns compared to traditional fixed deposits while maintaining liquidity and capital preservation.
Dividend-Paying Stocks: Explore investing a small portion of your surplus in dividend-paying stocks of stable companies. Focus on sectors with a history of consistent dividend payouts, such as utilities, consumer goods, or pharmaceuticals. Dividend income can supplement your pension and bank interest income.
Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP): Consider setting up a systematic withdrawal plan (SWP) in debt mutual funds or balanced funds to generate regular income while preserving capital. SWPs allow you to withdraw a fixed amount periodically, providing a steady stream of income similar to an annuity.
Emergency Fund: Ensure you maintain an adequate emergency fund equivalent to 6-12 months' worth of living expenses in a liquid and easily accessible account. This fund will provide a financial cushion in case of unforeseen expenses or emergencies.
Tax Considerations: Evaluate the tax implications of your investment choices, especially considering your current income sources and tax bracket. Optimize your investments to minimize tax liability while maximizing post-tax returns.
Consultation: Seek guidance from a Certified Financial Planner or investment advisor who can assess your specific financial situation, risk tolerance, and investment goals. They can help design a customized investment strategy tailored to your needs and objectives.
By diversifying your investments across fixed income instruments, mutual funds, dividend-paying stocks, and maintaining an emergency fund, you can maximize income while ensuring capital preservation and financial security in your retirement years.
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Hi. I am currently living in India and have received a job offer from Dubai. As I plan to shift, I needed to understand some nuances about managing my SIPs, Equity Holdings and EMIs in India. I have following: 1. 80K SIP in 2 DSP Funds and 2 Quant Funds 2. 70K EMI for a home loan 3. About 1Cr equity holding in a demat account Once I move, I will let my flat out on rent. Wanted to understand following: 1. For rent collection, EMI, SIP etc what account is advisable? NRE or NRO? For EMIs, SIPs etc I will have to transfer money from overseas account to Indian account 2. For SIPs - I will have to change my existing account to an NRE/NRO account as well? 3. Demat holdings - is there a separate category of demat accounts for NRIs?
Ans: Moving to Dubai while maintaining financial commitments in India requires careful planning. Here's a breakdown of considerations for managing your SIPs, EMIs, and equity holdings:

Account Choice: For rent collection, EMI payments, and SIP investments, opening an NRE (Non-Resident External) account is advisable. NRE accounts allow you to repatriate funds freely, making them suitable for managing finances while abroad. However, for domestic transactions, you can also consider an NRO (Non-Resident Ordinary) account, which has restrictions on repatriation but facilitates local transactions.
SIP Management: You'll need to transition your existing bank account linked to SIPs to an NRE/NRO account to facilitate seamless fund transfers from your overseas account. Ensure you inform your mutual fund provider about the change in bank details to avoid any disruptions in your SIPs.
EMI Payments: Similarly, you'll need to link your home loan EMI payments to your NRE/NRO account for smooth transactions. Set up standing instructions or auto-debit mandates to ensure timely EMI payments while you're abroad.
Demat Holdings: As an NRI, you can hold equity investments in India through a designated NRI demat account. You'll need to convert your existing demat account to an NRI demat account to continue managing your equity holdings seamlessly.
Tax Implications: Be mindful of tax implications both in India and Dubai. Consult with a tax advisor to understand your tax obligations in both countries and optimize your tax planning strategies.
Legal Compliance: Ensure compliance with RBI regulations and other legal requirements concerning NRI investments and remittances to avoid any regulatory issues.
Communication: Maintain open communication with your banks, mutual fund providers, and brokerages to update them about your NRI status and ensure smooth transition and management of your financial affairs.
By proactively addressing these considerations and seeking guidance from financial advisors and legal experts, you can effectively manage your financial commitments in India while pursuing opportunities abroad.
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