My girlfriend doesn't want to share a bedroom with me after marriage. She says she wants her own space, and the bed and closet to herself. She shares we can share our bedrooms on special days but we will not invade each other's space. According to her, this will keep our marriage alive. This is the first time I am hearing something like this. I don't know how to react.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Arranged marriages are such that it takes a while for both spouses to understand one another.
Rather than be upset that she is taking suggestions from others and competing in that area, why don't you think of the things that actually bond the two of you?
Common interests, hobbies...both of you can ask each other, what the other likes and would like to do and experience over the weekends!
Build trust and do this with a lot of love and care. Arranged marriages can be exciting as you can discover a lot about your partner; celebrate similarities and differences alike. Sooner than later, as she gets closer to you and the trust builds up, your suggestions may mean everything to her. Be patient and loving.

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Do you not worry about what will happen if this maid opens her mouth and cries foul? And here you are talking marriage behind your wife's back? How do you think your wife will react? Obviously she has been your companion for decades...you think she is going to welcome the 'new' bride?
You have seen life through all its ups and downs to know that being mature and practical is what will work here! So, what will be the most mature and practical thing to do? You know what to do and I am sure that you were just checking in here with me to simply align with the way you are thinking about this...

All the best!
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I really cannot comment if you are overreacting or have every reason to feel this way without knowing a bit more about the entire situation. But what I can tell is that you should communicate your feelings to your partner. Let her know that while maintaining individuality or pursuing individual wishes in a relationship is important, it is equally important to pay heed to what makes your partner uncomfortable. Your request, from what information you have provided, seemed reasonable, while her reasoning that it is the guy's fault, not hers also makes perfect sense. So I think the best course of action is to let the situation calm down and have an open conversation. Could she have avoided this meetup to make you happy? Yes. But, she could've thought that if she avoids one thing for your happiness, you might start asking her to give up more things in the future, which is a real issue in many relationships. I think it is important to clear up all of these concerns and feelings before moving on with lifelong commitment.

Hope this helps