Hi I have a friend who is married and they are in mid 30's and the main problem is regarding baby my friend have seen other women in past and level of physical satisfaction he had is his past relationships he seeks the same physical satisfaction with his wife too (things like oral sex etc.) But his wife is reluctant for that type of sex and because of that their sex life has taken toll and they hardly have any physical relation between them.......please suggest how can they cope up with situation because to have baby physical intimacy is required.

Ans: You are 47 years old. You have a daughter aged 11 and twin sons aged 6. You plan to retire in 3 years due to health issues. After retirement, you and your wife will earn around Rs. 1 lakh per month from part-time work. Your current family monthly expense is around Rs. 2 lakhs.

Your situation is serious and needs careful planning. I appreciate that you are thinking well in advance. Let us look at your situation in full detail now.

Assessing Your Retirement Timeline
You want to retire at 50. That’s 3 years from now.

That gives limited time to build a full retirement corpus.

After that, you and your wife plan to earn Rs. 1 lakh per month together.

Your expenses are Rs. 2 lakh per month now. This will rise with inflation.

So, you need to fill the gap of at least Rs. 1 lakh per month post-retirement.

That gap will also grow each year due to inflation.

You also have three children. Their education and future needs must be planned.

With three young kids, your financial responsibility will last for the next 15 to 20 years.

Understanding the Expense Gap
Your expenses are Rs. 2 lakh monthly now. This is Rs. 24 lakh annually.

After retirement, part-time income will cover Rs. 1 lakh monthly.

You need Rs. 1 lakh more every month from your savings.

That’s Rs. 12 lakh per year. But this amount will grow with inflation.

In 10 years, this could easily be around Rs. 20 lakh a year or more.

In 20 years, it can be around Rs. 35 lakh or more annually.

So, your retirement corpus must be big enough to cover this rising gap.

It should also last at least 30 years, as both you and your wife may live till 80 or more.

What Should Be Your Retirement Corpus
To cover Rs. 1 lakh monthly shortfall, you need a strong investment base.

That base should grow and generate income for 30 years.

You also need to plan for children’s schooling, college, and marriage.

So, your total retirement corpus should be built with multiple goals in mind.

You may need at least Rs. 6 crore to Rs. 7 crore total corpus by age 50.

This will help you cover your lifestyle gap and also children’s future needs.

The final amount will depend on inflation, market returns, and disciplined investing.

Breaking Down Your Future Expenses
1. Lifestyle Needs

You need Rs. 2 lakh monthly today. This will rise.

After retirement, inflation will push this to Rs. 3.5 lakh to Rs. 4 lakh in 15 years.

That means higher withdrawals every year.

2. Children’s Education

Your daughter will go to college in 6 years.

Your twin sons will go to college in 11 to 12 years.

Education inflation is very high, around 8% to 10% yearly.

Private college and higher studies can cost Rs. 50 lakh to Rs. 1 crore in future.

3. Health and Medical Needs

Health issues are already a concern. Medical costs rise fast.

A single hospitalisation in the future can cost Rs. 15 lakh or more.

You must keep a separate medical emergency fund.

4. Travel, Leisure, and Emergencies

Retirement is not just about needs. It should also include wants.

You may want to travel or support family in emergencies.

Keep a buffer for these lifestyle goals.

Creating a 3-Bucket Investment Strategy
Bucket 1: Emergency and Medical Fund

Keep 12 to 18 months of expenses in this bucket.

That means Rs. 25 lakh to Rs. 30 lakh in liquid funds.

This bucket should not be touched for regular income.

Use it for medical, health, and sudden family needs.

Bucket 2: Income and Safety Bucket

This gives regular income after retirement.

Invest here in low-risk and balanced funds.

This bucket must cover 8 to 10 years of shortfall.

It must be reviewed every year and rebalanced.

Withdraw monthly through SWP (Systematic Withdrawal Plan).

Bucket 3: Growth Bucket

This is for long-term income.

It must stay invested for the next 10 to 15 years.

Use only actively managed equity mutual funds.

Don’t invest in index funds. They follow the market and offer no safety in a fall.

Actively managed funds are better for retirement. They reduce risk and give better return with guidance.

This bucket will support your income in the later years of retirement.

Additional Planning Tips for a Complete Strategy
1. Insurance Review

Check your health insurance. Buy a super top-up if possible.

If you have any traditional policies like LIC endowments or ULIPs, evaluate surrendering them.

Reinvest that money in mutual funds via Certified Financial Planner.

2. Avoid Index and Direct Funds

Index funds are unmanaged. They don’t protect you in a downturn.

Direct funds have no advisor support. You may exit at the wrong time.

Invest through regular mutual funds with Certified Financial Planner.

You get discipline, emotional support, and regular reviews.

3. Tax Planning

After retirement, plan all withdrawals smartly.

Equity mutual fund LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.

STCG is taxed at 20%.

Debt mutual fund gains are taxed as per your income tax slab.

Plan withdrawals in phases to manage tax.

Use SWP instead of lump sum withdrawal.

4. Estate Planning

Write a clear Will. Register it if possible.

Add nominations to all financial accounts and investments.

Discuss with your wife about all assets and accounts.

Educate your children slowly about financial basics.

5. Spending Discipline

After retirement, control lifestyle inflation.

Avoid overspending in early years.

Keep budgets for kids' education, personal care, and travel.

Review expenses every quarter.

Talk to your wife and plan joint financial goals.

How to Reach Rs. 6–7 Crore in 3 Years
This is a very short time.

You must save aggressively now.

Cut all unwanted expenses.

Increase monthly investments to the maximum.

Invest only in actively managed equity mutual funds through regular route.

Don’t keep too much in savings or FDs.

Avoid real estate as it is illiquid and low-return.

Rebalance investments every year with the help of Certified Financial Planner.

Finally
You have only 3 years to build your corpus.

You also have a big responsibility of three children.

You will work part time after retirement, which gives some cash flow.

But you must plan very carefully and very thoroughly.

Create three investment buckets to manage needs properly.

Use only actively managed mutual funds, not index or direct funds.

Avoid risky shortcuts and always review plans every year.

With health concerns and young kids, long-term planning is critical.

Your retirement is not the end of income. It is the beginning of financial wisdom.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

Ans: Hello;

This being a neutral forum it would be inappropriate to name xyz Insurance as better.

But you should look at the following aspects while selecting insurer for life insurance:

1. Claim settlement record for 3-5 years.
2. Capital adequacy and Solvency
3. Listed companies may have edge because disclosures are higher.
4. Strong parentage & group reputation.
5. Minimum exclusions
6. Lower costs

Despite availability of many riders it is better to take following 2 riders:

1. Accident benefit
2. Critical illness

You may do some online comparision on web aggregator platforms and arrive at a suitable decision appropriately.

Fix a timeline for yourself to take that insurance buy decision which will ensure that procrastination doesn't harm you in the research process.

Best wishes;

Ans: Hello;

You need to put aside amount worth 6-8 months regular expense coverage and keep it aside in a liquid fund or a savings account.

Do invest in NPS for your retirement planning. It is the best tool available from cost, returns, tax point of view.

Only thing to be borne in mind is NPS allows very restricted withdrawals over its entire span, subject to T&C, because it's a product meant for retirement.

Except home loan all your loans are getting settled in less than a year so it's okay but never ever use loan as source of funds for personal needs.

Also avoid investing in chit funds because they have a high risk and hence promise of higher returns.

Also start systematic investments in mutual funds through monthly sip's as per your goals and risk appetite.

The MF/stock holding and chit fund money return(5 L) will take care of your marital expenses.

Happy Investing;

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
The first question is, are you interested in getting married or are you pushing yourself because of age and pressure? If you are interested, then great. You can either ask your lady friend if she has interest in you and see where things go. Or you can ask friend and relatives to find you someone suitable. If you want to handle things yourself then register on a matchmaking app. It would give you more freedom and control over your own love life. Now, if you are not interested in marriage, you should not force yourself. Take your time to understand what exactly you want– in the meantime, you can find some compatible women on the matchmaking app and interact with them for sometime. There’s no pressure to commit there. But you have a fair idea whether or not you are cut out to live the married or committed life.
Hope these help.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I believe you should have an open conversation with your husband about a better split of the financial responsibilities. I am not assuming which one of you earns more, but from the tone of your question, I felt that he might be contributing less compared to how much he earns and that isn’t fair. It’s important that you discuss this with your husband as early as possible.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Yes. the buyer will not have any issue with regards to sale. Further, with regards to POA, a Registered Special Power of Attorney works in most states in India.

Ans: Dear Sir/ Madam,

As humans we bound to overthink and question back and self-doubt. It's important to process the emotions then accumulating.

Try this the next time you feel negative-

Firstly, negativity or any feeling is just an emotion and every emotion is giving you feedback so that you can take can action. So, it works like a feedback mechanism.
Now, in the above situation where your manager said the presentation was all over the place or lacked clarity- it meant you should present the same from his perspective or from the audience’s perspective. As the person who is going to see the presentation should be able to understand and be in the same alignment as you are.

Have a discussion with your manager and ask where all did, he/she feels the presentation lacked clarity, ask what else you should have looked at to make it more valuable etc.

Once you get the feedback go back to the presentation and relook from his/ her perspective now then possibly that would make sense to you.

Idea is to process the information and see how you can make it better. Self-doubt is ok to have as it will help you relook but if you are sulking in that emotion, it will spiral down which is what happens most often. So, the next time when you get negative feedback look at from a perspective of working on yourself to be even better.

If you were not good then you wouldn't be in that job in first place. Remember that.

Thanks
Ashwini
Maverick Minds
www.ashwinidasgupta.com

Ans: You are 55 years old, your wife is 53, and you have an unmarried daughter. You’ve already saved Rs. 1 crore for her marriage. Your joint medical cover is Rs. 2 crore. Your current monthly expense is Rs. 4 lakh. You want to maintain this lifestyle for 20 years after retirement.

Let’s now evaluate your needs and build a complete financial picture.

 

Understanding Your Lifestyle and Expenses

You spend Rs. 4 lakh per month today.

 

That means Rs. 48 lakh per year.

 

With inflation, this amount will increase every year.

 

Over 20 years, you will need much more than Rs. 48 lakh each year.

 

You should also plan for expenses beyond 20 years if you or your wife live longer.

 

A sustainable retirement plan must consider inflation, longevity, and rising medical costs.

 

What You Have Already Done Right

You have saved Rs. 1 crore for your daughter’s marriage. This is good planning.

 

You have taken Rs. 2 crore medical insurance. This helps reduce risk from big hospital bills.

 

You are thinking ahead and want to retire smartly. That is a wise decision.

 

How Much Retirement Corpus You Will Need

If your current expenses are Rs. 4 lakh per month, they will grow each year.

 

After 10 years, Rs. 4 lakh per month could become Rs. 6.8 lakh per month at 5% inflation.

 

Over 20 years, you will need several crores to maintain this lifestyle.

 

Exact number depends on inflation, return on investments, and your spending discipline.

 

You need a large retirement corpus, possibly between Rs. 12 crore to Rs. 15 crore.

 

This amount should be invested wisely and withdrawn carefully.

 

Create Three Different Buckets for Retirement

1. Emergency Bucket

Keep one year’s expenses in a safe liquid instrument.

 

That means Rs. 48 lakh in a low-risk savings tool.

 

Use only for emergency health or family needs.

 

2. Income Bucket

This will give you regular monthly income.

 

Invest in low-risk and medium-risk funds with steady returns.

 

Withdraw monthly income in a planned and tax-efficient way.

 

This bucket should last 7–10 years.

 

3. Growth Bucket

This is for the later retirement years.

 

Invest in actively managed equity mutual funds.

 

Avoid index funds. They copy the market. No one manages them in bad times.

 

Actively managed funds can protect you in tough markets.

 

This bucket should be untouched for 8–10 years.

 

Use it after your income bucket gets over.

 

Avoid These Common Retirement Mistakes

Don’t underestimate inflation. Expenses grow every year.

 

Don’t put all money in fixed deposits. FD returns may not beat inflation.

 

Don’t keep all money idle in savings account. It loses value every year.

 

Don’t use direct mutual funds on your own. You may lack discipline and knowledge.

 

Invest through a Certified Financial Planner with Mutual Fund Distributor license.

 

Regular funds come with guidance, review, and emotional support.

 

Plan Health and Age-Related Needs

Medical inflation is higher than general inflation.

 

Your Rs. 2 crore cover may not be enough 15 years later.

 

Buy a super top-up cover now. It is cheap if you are healthy.

 

Keep health reports and policies updated.

 

Review your medical insurance every 3 years.

 

Keep a separate health emergency fund.

 

Legacy and Estate Planning

Write a will today itself. Update it every 3–5 years.

 

Add clear nominations for all bank accounts and mutual funds.

 

Add power of attorney for spouse or child if one of you is not tech-savvy.

 

Discuss financial plans openly with your daughter.

 

Plan for her future after marriage too.

 

Tax Planning for Retirement Withdrawals

Long-term capital gains on equity funds above Rs. 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.

 

Short-term capital gains are taxed at 20%.

 

Debt fund gains are taxed as per your tax slab.

 

Withdraw wisely. Avoid taking out large amounts in one go.

 

Split your withdrawals across multiple financial years.

 

Use Systematic Withdrawal Plans (SWP) from mutual funds.

 

What To Do Next

First, estimate exact annual expenses for the next 5 years.

 

Add some buffer for health, travel, and gifts.

 

Hire a Certified Financial Planner to create your retirement cash flow plan.

 

Divide your corpus into the three buckets mentioned earlier.

 

Invest using regular mutual funds with guidance, not direct plans.

 

Track your plan once every 6 months.

 

Rebalance your investment portfolio every year.

 

Final Insights

You’ve already done a few things well. You’re ahead of many people.

 

But you must now act carefully and completely.

 

Rs. 4 lakh monthly expense is not small. It needs smart investing to sustain.

 

A Rs. 12 to 15 crore retirement corpus will likely support your lifestyle for 20+ years.

 

Diversify your money across income and growth instruments.

 

Get expert help to avoid emotional and costly mistakes.

 

Protect your health, manage taxes, and write a proper will.

 

Retirement is not the end of earning, it’s the beginning of managing wisely.

 

Best Regards,
 
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

Ans: You are taking a good step. Seeking guidance at this stage will help your family a lot. A proper financial structure will bring peace, purpose and stability.

You are earning Rs. 1.2 lakh and your wife is earning Rs. 75,000. Together, this is Rs. 1.95 lakh monthly. You have a home loan of Rs. 23 lakh with an EMI of Rs. 25,000 and a gold loan of Rs. 19 lakh. You have a land asset worth Rs. 23 lakh and mutual funds worth Rs. 8 lakh. No health or term insurance yet. Your daughter is 11 years old and her education goals need focus now.

Let us address this one step at a time.

Assessing Your Present Financial Position

Your total monthly income is strong at Rs. 1.95 lakh.

You have a home loan EMI of Rs. 25,000. This is quite manageable.

The gold loan of Rs. 19 lakh is a concern. Gold loans usually carry high interest.

Land worth Rs. 23 lakh is a good asset. But it is not giving income now.

Mutual funds of Rs. 8 lakh are your only liquid investments.

No life insurance or health cover exposes your family to big risk.

No investments yet for your daughter’s education or your retirement goals.

Action Plan for Debt Management

Start with the gold loan. Prioritise paying this off early.

Allocate any bonus or annual surplus towards gold loan repayment.

Do not extend the gold loan. Interest outgo will damage your savings.

Avoid taking any top-up loans or new personal loans.

Control monthly lifestyle expenses. Keep your family’s monthly costs in check.

Maintain a simple lifestyle till loans are cleared.

If you can save Rs. 30,000 monthly after EMIs and expenses, direct it to debt.

Do not stop your home loan EMI. It builds your asset gradually.

Selling land should be considered only if gold loan becomes a burden.

Securing Family with Insurance

Buy a term insurance plan of Rs. 1 crore for yourself.

Your wife should also have a term cover of Rs. 75 lakh.

Term plan is very cheap. Premiums are low for high cover.

Buy policies from established and reputed insurers.

Do not mix insurance and investment.

ULIPs or endowment plans are not suitable. Avoid them.

Buy individual health insurance policies for all three members.

Health plan should be minimum Rs. 10 lakh for each member.

Add a critical illness rider if budget permits.

Hospital bills can destroy savings without health insurance.

Medical cover is urgent. Do not delay this step.

Rebuilding Emergency Fund

Emergency fund gives peace of mind during job loss or illness.

Keep at least 6 months’ expenses in liquid form.

Around Rs. 3–4 lakh should be kept in savings or liquid mutual funds.

Build this slowly after paying off the gold loan.

Do not depend on credit cards for emergencies.

Planning for Daughter’s Education

She is already 11 years old. You have 6–7 years only.

Higher education may cost Rs. 15–25 lakh or more.

Once gold loan is cleared, start investing monthly for this goal.

Use well-diversified actively managed mutual funds.

Choose a mix of equity and balanced funds for 7-year horizon.

Avoid index funds. They lack flexibility in volatile markets.

Index funds also follow the market. They can’t beat the market returns.

Actively managed funds give better long-term results with good fund managers.

Invest through a mutual fund distributor who is a Certified Financial Planner.

Do not go for direct funds on your own. You may make poor fund choices.

Regular funds with guidance avoid emotional decisions and switching errors.

Start SIPs after debts are under control and term plans are in place.

Stay consistent with SIPs every month.

Planning for Retirement

Retirement planning must start soon. You are already 44.

You have about 16 years to prepare for it.

Retirement goal should be inflation-adjusted and realistic.

First focus on clearing debts and securing insurance.

Then build a mix of equity and hybrid mutual funds.

Increase monthly investments once daughter’s education fund is ready.

Keep increasing SIPs every year by 10% or more.

Don’t depend on land for retirement. It gives no monthly income.

Liquid investments are more useful during retirement.

Avoid depending on pension products or annuities. They give low returns.

Use mutual fund route for long-term wealth creation.

Rebalancing and Monitoring Your Mutual Fund Portfolio

You have Rs. 8 lakh in mutual funds.

Review if the funds are aligned with your goals.

Rebalance the portfolio through a Certified Financial Planner.

Do not redeem mutual funds now unless gold loan burden is extreme.

If needed, redeem only a small part to reduce gold loan principal.

Avoid mixing long-term investments with short-term needs.

Maintain goal-based portfolios – education, retirement, and emergency fund.

Tax Planning

Invest in tax-saving mutual funds after goals are met.

Avoid investing just to save tax.

Long-term capital gains above Rs. 1.25 lakh from equity mutual funds are taxed at 12.5%.

Short-term capital gains are taxed at 20%.

Keep tax in mind while redeeming for goals.

Use ELSS mutual funds only if they match your financial goals.

Practical Budgeting and Expense Management

Track your monthly expenses carefully.

Use mobile apps or excel to record every spending.

Cut unnecessary lifestyle costs – food delivery, gadgets, memberships.

Fix a cap on monthly personal spending for both of you.

Avoid new gadgets, vehicles or foreign trips for now.

Focus more on family goals, less on material needs.

Discipline in spending is key to long-term wealth.

Budgeting helps avoid falling back into debt.

Avoiding Common Pitfalls

Do not take loans for investing.

Do not borrow again once current loans are closed.

Do not invest in random policies without knowing the terms.

Do not mix emotions with investment.

Do not get influenced by relatives or friends’ advice.

Always verify claims before choosing any scheme.

Get written reports from a Certified Financial Planner regularly.

Final Insights

First pay off the gold loan fully.

Buy term and health insurance immediately.

Build emergency fund gradually.

Start child education investments soon.

After that, start retirement investments.

Review mutual funds with a qualified CFP every 6 months.

Keep personal expenses in control.

Avoid emotional decisions with land or gold.

Stick to simple and long-term plan.

Your financial discipline now will help your daughter in future.

Step-by-step approach will secure your family’s future.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment