Home > Relationship > Question
Need Expert Advice?Our Gurus Can Help
Anu

Anu Krishna  |1654 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 27, 2024

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
She is an executive member of the Indian Association of Adolescent Health.... more
Bibhanshu Question by Bibhanshu on May 26, 2024Hindi
Listen
Relationship

As you have experience of answering questions on professional &family problems. I don't want to clarify What to do? It is purely situational issue in life with such havoc in life. What I mean was how to face future without parent & wife.

Ans: Dear Bibhanshu,
Thank you for asking a question to which I can only say that living without someone dear is difficult BUT with the right support system in terms of family, friends, work, social life...things start to become better maybe not easier.
Over time, you will start to learn how to keep yourself cheerful and bring new hope to yourself.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

You may like to see similar questions and answers below

Anu

Anu Krishna  |1654 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Sep 13, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 12, 2023Hindi
Listen
I have second marriage and staying 9 years. Now my age is 50 years, and my wife age is 40. I have one child years of years 6. I am in a managerial Position in a company. My wife is a Housewife and her behavior's, misconduct, lack of ownership towards me as well as home is always upset and irritate me. My child was born by IFV method due to her irregular period. She has got many opportunities to recover this problem and treatment also got an early-stage life. Due to lack of her understanding and knowledge, lack of own effort, irresponsible and liar nature, did not overcome her problem and therefore, we cannot go for second baby. Now me and my son also suffer from 2nd baby, though I have sufficient resource to look two children. I need to monitor all the things of my son’s health, extracurricular activity, education etc. She also neglects my mother. I feel she is very quality less and very dirty woman and talking valueless, not concern with health of own as well as other family member. Therefore, I and my wife staying in same home, but from last 4 years I have been separated from my wife and living in separate room. Sometimes I think to separate from my wife, but it may affect relation with my son as well as his mental condition. I am trying to adopt a second child also. I found she is not concern with quality, health, and economy. Therefore, I need to do home marketing, finance, monitoring home, health etc. which has already affected at my career also. Please advise me what to do? I feel my future is very dark with my wife. No emotions, no love and intimacy in the relation. I do regular walking & jogging and gardening is also my hobby.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
When you seem to have decided that your wife is not going to change, no matter what happens, you will not be able to see that change. Everything about her will be irritating and annoying.
Now you say that she could have done something to avoid IVF, but why are you not thankful that you have a child now.
Having another child as well has to be the choice of both parents. Does your wife want another baby? Just by having money to support the child is not enough. You also need to have the mental and physical ability and willingness to raise another child. Also, do you think it is wise to have another child with the current relationship challenges with your wife?
There seems to be some assumptions that you have made about your wife which could have happened due to misunderstandings and arguments over years. It is definitely from both sides. But since, you are writing in...I can only address your concerns...Obviously her lack of interest in the family also suggests that she also seems to have her challenges.
So, before anything else...first work on having a better marriage and this is a suggestion for both of you! You can eat the fruit from a tree without first planting the seed for the tree to grow.

Seek the help of a professional if you can so that both of you can first learn how to communicate with each other and then settles your differences and then you can start planning a brighter future. Continue with your exercise and always try to look for what's positive in your life. It helps to tide over challenges and have a better outlook towards life!

All the best!

..Read more

Kanchan

Kanchan Rai  |623 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 29, 2024

Listen
Relationship
I am 42 years old, working in a PSU bank for 11 years. I have my Mother at home who is 73 years and retired state govt. Officer. My Father passed away in 2013 just after I joined my job. He was a state govt. Officer. I am married and have one son 8.5 years old studying in class 4. My wife is working in state govt. She often leaves my home with our son and goes to her father's place which is just near to my house because of minor issues like any hot talk with me. She has no problem with my Mother. We had a love marriage and we dated for 13 years and in 2015 got married. I am a family bound guy but when wife leaves me, I and mostly my Mother falls into trouble due to all household works are to be done by her as I have minimum time in the morning to help her. Our maid left one months back. I am searching one but not getting. Last year I and my wife stayed apart for 9 months in total, not at a time but in two parts. I sent her lawyers letter 3 months back after she left me in January this year. She came back 2 months back and left again after one month. I really miss my son and wife when they are not with me. My Mother also miss her grandson and becomes hopeless. I can't find any solution to this. Please suggest what will I do. I have lots of pressure at workplace and not satisfied with my job too as bank has lots of problems these days. I think of leaving job to support my Mother. I will leave job surely if something odd happens to my Mother. My Father took 3 words from me before death to Look after Mother, to look after house and to look after the house belongings. Already I am unable to keep all 3 words properly. I feel guilty of myself. Please guide me about my career and family life.
Ans: Dear DP
Navigating your current situation requires a strategic approach that balances your professional and personal responsibilities. Communication is key. Have an open and calm conversation with your wife to understand her perspective and express your concerns without assigning blame. Counseling can be beneficial here, offering a neutral space to discuss underlying issues and improve your relationship dynamics.

Supporting your mother is equally important. While searching for a permanent solution for household help, consider temporary alternatives such as part-time assistance or community support services. Engage your mother in local senior activities to provide her with social interaction and support.

Addressing your job dissatisfaction is also crucial. Explore other roles within your bank or in other PSUs that match your skills but offer a less stressful environment. Professional development can open new career opportunities. Taking regular breaks, practicing mindfulness, and ensuring a work-life balance can help manage your stress levels.

By focusing on these areas—open communication with your wife, practical support for your mother, and exploring less stressful job options—you can work towards a more stable and fulfilling family and professional life.

..Read more

Latest Questions
Nayagam P

Nayagam P P  |9409 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Jul 25, 2025

Career
Hi, my CRL in jee mains 2025 is 74351 and gen ews rank is 10547. I am a girl, i got alloted cse+ specialization in AI and data science in IIIT Manipur in josaa. I am from UP. What better college with branches like cse, ece, electrical or something other branches i can get in csab in up?
Ans: Pragya, With a Home-State EWS rank of 10 547 and CRL of 74 351, core-branch seats at UP NITs and IIITs via CSAB-Special are attainable in select disciplines. Motilal Nehru NIT Allahabad’s CSE HS-EWS closed at 8 141, so CSE falls just outside your bracket, but ECE’s HS-EWS cutoff of 13 170 and Electrical’s 15 745 make both solid targets (≥70% placement consistency, AICTE/NIRF accreditation, modern labs, faculty–industry MoUs, internship pipelines). IIIT Allahabad admits EWS AI-quota IT up to rank ~12 065 and B.Tech CSE-AI up to ~12 091, offering strong placement cells, NBA-accredited curriculum, specialized AI/DS labs and established industry partnerships. In round 1, IIIT Lucknow’s EWS cutoffs for CSE-AI were around 17,789, while the ~11,636 cutoff in JoSAA indicates similar trends in CSAB. These institutes combine rigorous academics, outcome-based syllabi, a robust research culture, student support for internships, and ≥75% average placements over three years.

Recommendation: IIIT Allahabad’s IT or CSE-AI branch stands out for its accessible EWS AI-quota ranks, advanced AI/DS labs and consistent industry tie-ups; MNNIT Allahabad’s ECE or Electrical Engineering under HS-EWS offers a UP-state edge, solid research and placement records; IIIT Lucknow’s CSE-AI remains a realistic All-India backup with strong curriculum and campus engagement. Consider IIIT Manipur only if these alignments remain unattainable. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

Follow RediffGURUS to Know More on 'Careers | Money | Health | Relationships'.

...Read more

Nayagam P

Nayagam P P  |9409 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Jul 25, 2025

Career
Is east point college of engineering good for cse ???
Ans: Vicky, East Point College of Engineering and Technology (EPCET), established in 1999 and affiliated to Visvesvaraya Technological University, AICTE approval, NAAC “A” grade accreditation and NBA accreditation for its CSE program, ensuring recognized academic standards and continuous quality improvement. The Department of Computer Science & Engineering features specialized labs—including AI/ML, Cybersecurity, IoT & Blockchain, Data Structures, Networks, Embedded Systems and Project labs—providing hands-on experience on industry-standard hardware and PARAM supercomputers. The curriculum spans core subjects (algorithms, databases, networks), advanced modules (machine learning, cloud computing, blockchain) and mandatory internships, fostering critical thinking and practical skills. A dedicated placement cell records a 97% placement rate over the past three years, with top recruiters such as Amazon, Oracle, Bosch, IBM and Accenture visiting campus and average packages around ?7.5 LPA and peak offers up to ?25 LPA, demonstrating strong industry connect and student employability. Faculty participation in national/international seminars and collaborations with AWS, VMware, UiPath, Cisco and Texas Instruments reinforce research orientation and industry engagement. Student feedback notes highly organized campus drives but suggests more proactive semester-long career mentoring; this can be addressed by regular industry-aligned workshops and stronger alumni-student mentorship networks. Resource constraints during peak placement periods can be mitigated by staggered recruitment schedules and enhanced soft-skills training integrated into the curriculum.

Recommendation
EPCET’s CSE program excels in accreditation, modern labs, research-active faculty and robust placement support, making it a reliable choice. Strengthening continuous placement mentoring and structured industry-interaction forums will elevate student readiness. Prospective students seeking a blend of rigorous academics and commendable campus recruitment should consider EPCET for CSE, while engaging actively in workshops and alumni networks to maximize opportunities. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

Follow RediffGURUS to Know More on 'Careers | Money | Health | Relationships'.

...Read more

Dr Shyam

Dr Shyam Jamalabad  |104 Answers  |Ask -

Dentist - Answered on Jul 25, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 18, 2025Hindi
Health
am 16 yr old . I have little misaligned teeth in the lower jaw teeth ( only one teeth crossed it's orientation another teeth is behind front teeth ) ? Is braces necessary? Which age is best for putting them? is it ok to put later ?
Ans: Hello

Braces might be a good option for you, considering your age and the misalignment issues you're experiencing.

*Necessity of Braces:* Braces could help correct and prevent potential problems like uneven wear, tooth decay or gum disease.
You can choose orthodontic treatment for aesthetic/cosmetic correction

*Best Age for Braces:*
The teenage years are actually an ideal time for orthodontic treatment. During this period, your jaw and teeth are still developing, making it easier to correct alignment issues. Most orthodontists recommend an initial consultation around age 7, but comprehensive treatment usually starts when most permanent teeth have emerged, around 11-15 years old.

*Getting Braces Later:*
It's totally okay to get braces later in life. Many adults choose to straighten their teeth for aesthetic and health reasons. While treatment might take a bit longer for adults, the results are just as effective.
Firstly, you need to ascertain if the misalignment is causing, or is likely to cause in future, any functional problem like biting your lips or cheek, difficulty in mastication, difficulty in speaking, or food lodgement.
You could, of course, choose treatment purely for aesthetic reasons.
The next step would be to consult with an orthodontist who can assess your teeth and provide personalized advice. They'll help you determine the best course of treatment and create a plan suited to your needs

...Read more

Nayagam P

Nayagam P P  |9409 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Jul 25, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 25, 2025Hindi
Career
I got 77.17 %ile and I'm in sc category. Which college can get in Pune ?
Ans: With a 77.17 percentile in MHT-CET under the category and Maharashtra domicile, admission is assured in several AICTE-approved, NBA-/NAAC-accredited Pune institutes that meet five key benchmarks—statutory approvals, cut-off compatibility, ≥70 percent placement consistency, advanced labs, and formal industry tie-ups. Fifteen colleges where your percentile comfortably exceeds last-round SC closing percentiles include Government College of Engineering & Research, Avasari Khurd – Ambegaon BK (Civil, Mechanical, Instrumentation; SC cut-off ~75), D. Y. Patil Institute of Technology – Pimpri (Civil, Mechanical, E&TC; SC last-round ~76.54), Pimpri Chinchwad College of Engineering – Nigdi (AI&DS, Mechanical; SC cut-off ~88 for CSE but branches like Civil close ~77), Pimpri Chinchwad College of Engineering & Research – Ravet (Civil, E&TC; SC friendly cuts), PVG’s College of Engineering & Technology – Pune (Civil, Mechanical; SC ~80), MIT Academy of Engineering – Alandi (Civil, Mechanical; SC ~82), Dr. D. Y. Patil College of Engineering – Akurdi (Instrumentation, Civil; SC ~70–76), Vishwakarma Institute of Technology – Bibwewadi (Mechanical, Civil; SC ~85), Cummins College of Engineering for Women – Karvenagar (Civil, Instrumentation; SC ~78), Army Institute of Technology – Dighi (Mechanical, E&TC; SC ~80), Sinhgad Academy of Engineering – Kondhwa (Civil, Mechatronics; SC ~75), JSPM Rajarshi Shahu College of Engineering – Tathawade (Civil, Instrumentation; SC ~73), JSPM Imperial College of Engineering – Wagholi (Mechanical, Civil; SC ~77), Sinhgad Institute of Technology – Lonavala (Civil, Mechanical; SC ~72), and Bharati Vidyapeeth’s COLLEGE OF ENGG – Kolhapur campus via Pune CAP (Civil, Mechanical; SC ~70).

Recommendation: Government College of Engineering & Research, Avasari Khurd offers the most secure entry with its autonomous status and SC-friendly cuts validated by its AICTE/UGC approvals and ≥75 percent placement consistency. D. Y. Patil – Pimpri stands out for its modern labs and robust MoUs complemented by a 76 percent SC closing cut-off. Pimpri Chinchwad College – Nigdi’s diverse specialisations and strong industry linkages ensure holistic training. PVG Pune’s faculty research involvement and consistent ≥70 percent placements make it highly reliable. MIT Alandi’s outcome-based curriculum and well-equipped facilities complete the top five, balancing academic rigor with practical exposure. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

Follow RediffGURUS to Know More on 'Careers | Money | Health | Relationships'.

...Read more

Nayagam P

Nayagam P P  |9409 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Jul 25, 2025

Career
Dear sir, One Privated limited company offer me a job.They say they dont provide PF except take home salary. Can i accept their offer letter. Will i face any problem in future with respect to any new job.
Ans: Eswar, Under the Employees’ Provident Funds and Miscellaneous Provisions Act, 1952, any establishment that employs 20 or more must register with the Employees’ Provident Fund Organisation (EPFO) and deposit a monthly contribution equal to 12 percent of basic wages from both employer and employee. Voluntary registration is permitted for firms with fewer than 20 employees, but once registered, compliance is mandatory regardless of subsequent staff changes. An employer’s refusal to enroll you and remit PF contributions is unlawful if the company meets the eligibility criteria, and inspectors may impose penalties, penal interest and legal action for non-payment, adversely affecting your service continuity, pension eligibility and retirement corpus. Absence of PF deductions on your salary slip may hinder transfer of previous EPF accounts and reduce your long-term social security benefits, and future employers often verify PF contribution history when calculating benefits and proving employment duration. Even if your take-home pay increases, you would sacrifice statutory retirement savings, insurance cover under EDLI and potential tax deductions under Section 80C.

Recommendation Accepting an offer without statutory PF exposes you to legal and financial risks; insist on a written clause for EPFO registration or seek roles in PF-compliant firms to ensure uninterrupted provident fund accrual, social security coverage and seamless future employment verification. Just my suggestion based on my experience: For entry-level candidates focused on gaining one to two years of industry experience, this company could be a viable stepping stone—just request an appointment letter, even if PF benefits aren’t provided. Seasoned professionals (2–3 years and beyond) should pursue roles at firms that strictly honor all labor-law mandates, including provident-fund contributions. All the BEST for Your Prosperous Future!

Follow RediffGURUS to Know More on 'Careers | Money | Health | Relationships'.

...Read more

Nayagam P

Nayagam P P  |9409 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Jul 25, 2025

Career
will i be able to do merchant navy with private candidate cbse?
Ans: Akshit, Private candidates under the CBSE board who have completed Class 12 with Physics, Chemistry and Mathematics (PCM) and secured a of 60 percent aggregate in PCM along with at least 50 percent in English are eligible to pursue pre-sea Merchant Navy courses approved by the Directorate General of Shipping (DGS). After meeting these academic benchmarks, aspirants must clear the centralised IMU-CET or corresponding institute-level entrance tests for courses such as Diploma in Nautical Science (DNS), B.Sc. in Nautical Science, and B.Tech. Marine Engineering, all of which are DGS-approved and AICTE-recognized. Physical fitness standards—including 6/6 vision (with or without correction), absence of colour blindness, and compliance with medical criteria under STCW rules—must be satisfied through DGS-certified medical examinations. Institutes need to show that they are approved by DGS, have up-to-date simulators and labs, a curriculum designed with input from shipping companies, active job placement services that have placed at least 70 percent of students in the last three years, and agreements for internships and training on ships. Career portals affirm that deck and engine officer roles offer global cruising opportunities, structured career progression, and robust starting allowances, while shore-based positions in logistics and maritime management provide alternative pathways. Backup options include GP-Rating courses for sea-service entry, Naval Architecture degrees for technical shoreside roles, and specialized Electro-Technical Officer (ETO) programs for electrical officers at sea.

Recommendation: Entry as a private CBSE candidate into DNS or B.Sc. Nautical Science through IMU-CET provides direct deck-officer pathways with strong industry tie-ups and onboard training. For engineering-focused careers, B.Tech. Marine Engineering delivers comprehensive engine-room expertise and simulator-based labs. Simultaneously, consider GP-Rating certification as a reliable fallback to commence seafaring service and upgrade to officer cadet programs upon securing sponsorship. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

Follow RediffGURUS to Know More on 'Careers | Money | Health | Relationships'.

...Read more

DISCLAIMER: The content of this post by the expert is the personal view of the rediffGURU. Investment in securities market are subject to market risks. Read all the related document carefully before investing. The securities quoted are for illustration only and are not recommendatory. Users are advised to pursue the information provided by the rediffGURU only as a source of information and as a point of reference and to rely on their own judgement when making a decision. RediffGURUS is an intermediary as per India's Information Technology Act.

Close  

You haven't logged in yet. To ask a question, Please Log in below
Login

A verification OTP will be sent to this
Mobile Number / Email

Enter OTP
A 6 digit code has been sent to

Resend OTP in120seconds

Dear User, You have not registered yet. Please register by filling the fields below to get expert answers from our Gurus
Sign up

By signing up, you agree to our
Terms & Conditions and Privacy Policy

Already have an account?

Enter OTP
A 6 digit code has been sent to Mobile

Resend OTP in120seconds

x