I have second marriage and staying 9 years. Now my age is 50 years, and my wife age is 40. I have one child years of years 6. I am in a managerial Position in a company. My wife is a Housewife and her behavior's, misconduct, lack of ownership towards me as well as home is always upset and irritate me. My child was born by IFV method due to her irregular period. She has got many opportunities to recover this problem and treatment also got an early-stage life. Due to lack of her understanding and knowledge, lack of own effort, irresponsible and liar nature, did not overcome her problem and therefore, we cannot go for second baby. Now me and my son also suffer from 2nd baby, though I have sufficient resource to look two children. I need to monitor all the things of my son’s health, extracurricular activity, education etc. She also neglects my mother. I feel she is very quality less and very dirty woman and talking valueless, not concern with health of own as well as other family member. Therefore, I and my wife staying in same home, but from last 4 years I have been separated from my wife and living in separate room. Sometimes I think to separate from my wife, but it may affect relation with my son as well as his mental condition. I am trying to adopt a second child also. I found she is not concern with quality, health, and economy. Therefore, I need to do home marketing, finance, monitoring home, health etc. which has already affected at my career also. Please advise me what to do? I feel my future is very dark with my wife. No emotions, no love and intimacy in the relation. I do regular walking & jogging and gardening is also my hobby.

Ans: Hello dear.
You can appear for the NIOS 12th board for improvement in the marks, and for JEE (Mains) 2026 also. But you will not be eligible to appear for JEE (Adv) 2026.
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Ans: Hello Kishan.
As you have completed your 12th grade in 2024, hence eligible for two successive attempts for JEE (Adv) in 2024 and 2025. Even if you reappear for the 12th via NIOS in 2025, you won't be eligible for JEE (Adv). It would be better to focus on state state-level engineering entrance test or think about the reputed private engineering colleges.
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Ans: Hello dear.
Please visit the nwac.edu website for more details. But be careful before applying for the NWAC certification. If your goal is to study abroad, UG+PG, and other courses, then think about NWAC. Otherwise, prefer NIOS or our regular boards, e.g., state, CBSE, ICSE, etc.
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Ans: I truly understand your concern. You are doing your best.
Managing alone with health issues and a teenage daughter is tough.
But with a plan, it is possible to get control.

Let us go step-by-step.
We will make things better slowly.

Assess and Organise Monthly Income
Your income is Rs. 60,000 per month.

Track your monthly spending for the next 3 months.

Write down all expenses. Include fixed, variable, and random ones.

This will help you understand where money is going.

You will find small areas where cuts are possible.

Use a notebook or a mobile app. Whatever is easy for you.

Try to divide your income into three parts:
Needs – 60%,
Responsibilities – 20%,
Future – 20%.

Right now, the savings part is zero. But we can fix it step-by-step.

Cut Expenses Without Impacting Quality
Review food, electricity, mobile, and school costs.

Buy in bulk where possible.

Use local kirana for cheaper essentials.

Prefer government health care for check-ups and medicines.

Limit eating out, online orders, and entertainment subscriptions.

Take help from trusted friends or neighbours to reduce travel costs.

If you have house help, review their hours and charges.

Any old policies with high premium can be reviewed and paused.

Focus on needs now. Wants can wait.

Explore Additional Income Options
Use your teaching skills for tuition after school hours.

Try home tuitions, or online through student networks.

You can also prepare notes, worksheets or question banks and sell.

If health permits, even 1-2 extra hours a day can help.

Involve your daughter to assist you. This will build her awareness.

Do you have any unused items? Sell them through local channels.

Old jewellery, old phone, furniture – all can generate cash if not used.

Review Your Health and Protection First
You mentioned health issues. Please get a basic mediclaim policy.

Check if your school offers one. If not, go for a basic one.

You need at least Rs. 5–10 lakh health cover.

It protects you from hospital expenses.

Do not depend only on government schemes.

Ask your school if they can help with a group cover.

Term insurance may be tough at this stage due to age and health.

If you have any existing LIC or ULIP or endowment plans, pause and review.

These are not good for wealth creation. Surrender value can be reinvested.

Avoid buying investment-linked insurance. They are expensive and confusing.

Secure Your Daughter’s Education
She is 17 now. She will need money soon for college.

If she has a good academic record, help her apply for scholarships.

Many colleges have financial aid for single-parent children.

Encourage her to consider government colleges. They are affordable.

Ask your school if they offer teacher quota for children.

Let her take part-time jobs once she turns 18. It builds confidence.

Education loan can also be an option. It is available after Class 12.

Don’t feel shy to ask for help. You are doing it for her better life.

Build Emergency Fund Slowly
Try to save Rs. 1,000 to Rs. 2,000 every month first.

Keep it in a separate savings account. Do not touch it.

Once it reaches Rs. 30,000 to Rs. 50,000, you can feel more secure.

This is your safety money. Use it only for hospital or school needs.

Avoid keeping cash at home. It can be spent unknowingly.

Add to this every time you get extra income or gift money.

This is not an investment. It is for peace of mind.

Start Small SIPs When You Are Ready
Do not start SIPs now. First fix your budget and emergency fund.

Once you can save Rs. 2,000–Rs. 3,000 monthly, then consider SIPs.

Choose regular mutual funds. Avoid direct plans.

Regular plans allow MFDs to guide and support your goals.

Also, regular funds managed by Certified Financial Planners give better clarity.

Direct plans can confuse first-time investors like you.

A good CFP will align investments with your daughter’s education and your health.

SIPs are good for long-term goals. But right now, you need liquidity more.

Always check fund performance and consistency before investing.

Don’t follow news or friends. Follow a guided plan.

Avoid These Financial Mistakes
Do not take any new loans now. Your income won’t support EMI.

Avoid chit funds, loan apps, or money rotation schemes.

Don’t give personal guarantee for others. Not even friends.

Do not withdraw PF unless it is a real emergency.

Don’t lend money even if someone promises high returns.

Avoid expensive gadgets, jewellery or impulsive festival spending.

Don’t buy products with “zero interest” or EMI temptations.

Take Support From Right Sources
Talk to a Certified Financial Planner. They will give a customised plan.

They won’t sell products. They work with long-term planning.

Try free online budget templates or budgeting YouTube channels.

Get your daughter involved in managing your home expenses.

She will learn early about money habits. That is a big gift.

Share your struggle openly with trusted friends or family.

You are not alone. Help comes when we ask.

Think About Long-Term Self-Security
In the next 10 years, your daughter will be working.

You must build income from multiple small sources.

Teaching tuitions, small business like food, stitching, or rental income can help.

Keep health as your top goal. Without health, wealth is of no use.

Do yearly check-ups. Follow your medicine plan.

Don’t skip appointments. Prevention is cheaper than treatment.

Take simple yoga or walking every morning. It helps with mood and energy.

Stay connected with other teachers and women groups. They give mental strength.

Once daughter is settled, focus fully on your retirement fund.

EPF and PPF are good options when income improves.

Avoid land or house buying. Real estate locks your money and brings stress.

Finally
You are already doing great by being responsible for your daughter.

Managing health, home, job and child alone is not easy.

Don’t be harsh on yourself. You deserve peace too.

Begin small, but stay regular.

Always choose need over desire.

Stick to simple steps. Review every 3 months.

Every saved rupee brings you closer to peace.

One decision at a time. One improvement every week.

Don’t compare your life with others. You are on your own journey.

Stay hopeful. You are stronger than you think.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

Ans: At age 37, you have already built a strong base. You have a healthy salary, moderate expenses, and diversified assets. You are also investing regularly. That shows clarity and forward-thinking.

Let us now plan your next steps with a 360-degree financial lens.

1. Understanding Your Current Position Clearly

Your home loan EMI is Rs. 35,000 per month.

Only 5 years are left on this home loan. That is very positive.

You have Rs. 21 lakhs in savings earning 7.1% interest.

SIPs of Rs. 10 lakhs and stocks worth Rs. 11 lakhs are also held.

Monthly salary is Rs. 2.5 lakhs, which gives good financial freedom.

Monthly expense is Rs. 40,000. That is very controlled and efficient.

You also invest in gold, SIPs, and stocks when market corrects.

You are now planning to take a Rs. 30 lakh loan to invest in property.

This shows a desire to grow wealth faster, but we must evaluate risk too.

2. Assessing the Need for a New Property Loan

You already have a house loan going on.

Adding a second large loan adds burden on your future cash flows.

Property investing brings risk of low liquidity.

You may get stuck if property prices don’t rise as expected.

There are also stamp duty, registration, maintenance, and tax costs.

Rental yield is low. Selling property also takes time and effort.

Avoid taking a fresh loan just for property investing.

There are more efficient, flexible, and liquid ways to grow wealth.

3. Leverage Strengths, Not Just Debt

You already have strong monthly savings potential.

You have Rs. 2.5 lakhs salary and Rs. 40,000 expenses.

That leaves Rs. 1.75 lakhs monthly.

Even after EMI of Rs. 35,000, you have Rs. 1.4 lakhs surplus.

Use this power to build a disciplined investment plan.

Avoid increasing EMI burden now.

4. Shift Focus from Property to Portfolio Diversification

Real estate is not a liquid asset.

It is hard to rebalance or exit in short time.

A Rs. 30 lakh loan for property brings EMI stress.

Instead, spread that money into equity mutual funds, gold funds, and debt.

You already have stocks and SIPs. Build further through this route.

Long-term returns from mutual funds are often better than rental yield.

Also, mutual funds give better diversification and liquidity.

5. Build Core Portfolio with Balanced Allocation

You already have Rs. 21 lakhs savings earning 7.1%.

That is a good emergency and medium-term buffer.

Do not disturb this amount now.

Consider adding more SIPs to equity funds regularly.

Spread across 3 to 4 actively managed mutual funds.

Choose mix of flexi-cap, large-cap, and hybrid funds.

Avoid index funds now. They just copy the market and give no downside control.

Fund managers in active funds aim for better returns with lesser volatility.

6. Actively Managed Funds Over Index or Direct Plans

You may be tempted to invest in direct plans.

Direct plans give lower expense, but no expert advice or support.

That becomes risky in market corrections or emotional investing.

Invest through regular plans with a certified MFD and CFP guidance.

Regular funds give access to reviews, adjustments, and better control.

In long run, good behaviour matters more than just expense ratio.

7. SIP Strategy Should Be Steady, Not Reactive

You invest in stocks when markets fall. That’s a good instinct.

But timing the market can go wrong too.

Instead, run SIPs without stopping, even in falling market.

SIPs buy more units when market falls. That is built-in benefit.

Continue SIPs monthly, and add lumpsum only if income is surplus.

8. Gold Should Be Small Part of Your Portfolio

You invest regularly in gold.

That’s good for hedge, but don’t go beyond 10% of portfolio.

Gold doesn’t generate income or dividends.

It should act as insurance against currency or equity risks.

9. Stock Portfolio Should Be Reviewed Every Year

You hold Rs. 11 lakhs in stocks.

Review if they are quality businesses with strong earnings.

Avoid trading or frequent buying and selling.

Do not chase market tips or news-based investing.

Consider shifting part of stock holdings to mutual funds gradually.

10. Don’t Overexpose to Real Estate

You mentioned land investments too.

Land is not income-generating. It also has legal, title, and liquidity risks.

Also, property market is very cyclical in India.

Use your money to build flexible financial assets instead.

SIPs, mutual funds, gold, and debt plans offer smoother growth.

11. Life and Health Insurance Should Be Rechecked

At your income level, check if you have Rs. 2 crore term cover.

That protects your family in case of any unexpected event.

Also ensure health insurance of Rs. 15 to 20 lakhs.

One illness can disturb your entire savings plan.

12. Plan Future Goals With Investment Buckets

Break your goals into short, medium, and long term.

Short term: Emergency fund, travel, insurance premium.

Medium term: Kid’s education, car, home upgrade.

Long term: Retirement, passive income, legacy.

Allocate your SIPs and savings to each goal wisely.

This gives clarity and direction to all your investments.

13. Avoid Over-Borrowing to Chase Growth

You don’t need to borrow more now.

Use your own strong cash flows to invest regularly.

Adding a second loan only increases pressure.

Your money can grow better in financial assets than in property.

14. Reinvest Surplus Monthly Systematically

You have Rs. 1.4 lakh surplus monthly.

Keep Rs. 20,000 for buffer or unexpected costs.

Invest Rs. 1.2 lakh monthly in mutual funds across 3 to 4 funds.

Split across growth and balanced funds.

Review every 6 months with your Certified Financial Planner.

15. Monitor and Rebalance Your Portfolio Annually

Your investments should match your risk profile.

Too much in land or stocks can be risky.

Too much in FD gives low returns.

Rebalancing once a year is important.

It keeps your portfolio aligned to your goals.

Finally

Your finances are strong. Your savings habits are good.

You do not need a second loan now.

Avoid taking risk with borrowed money.

Instead, use your high surplus income for smart investment.

Stay focused on equity mutual funds, gold, and short-term debt funds.

Take advice from a Certified Financial Planner every year.

Your future wealth is already in your hands. Let it grow smartly.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

Ans: You are managing multiple loans along with a home purchase. Though the EMI burden is heavy now, this can be structured and managed well. Let's work on a 360-degree roadmap to reduce debt and restart investments.

Let’s build this plan with clarity, simplicity, and practicality.

1. Assessing Your Current Financial Position

Your monthly income is Rs. 1.85 lakhs.

Your fixed EMI outgo is Rs. 98,000 for the home loan and Rs. 15,000 for the OD loan.

Minimum credit card payment of Rs. 35,000 is being done, but the outstanding is Rs. 6 lakhs.

Total monthly outflow on loans is around Rs. 1.48 lakhs.

This leaves only Rs. 37,000 per month for all other expenses and savings.

Your MF investments are currently paused, and funds used for house purchase.

You still have Rs. 9 lakhs in shares, NPS and EPF as your long-term savings.

This situation is serious, but not unmanageable.

2. High-Priority Action: Stop Credit Card Debt from Growing

Credit card debt is the most expensive debt in India.

Interest charges are around 36% to 42% annually.

Paying only the minimum keeps you in a debt trap.

Make this the top priority: Stop using credit cards now.

Cut all discretionary expenses like dining out, shopping, OTT subscriptions, gifts, travel.

Focus only on needs like food, basic bills, kid’s school, and loan EMIs.

3. Emergency Actions: Deal With Credit Card First

You are paying Rs. 35,000 per month and the loan is not reducing.

Use Rs. 3 to 4 lakhs from your shares portfolio to reduce this outstanding.

Even selling now is better than letting credit card interest eat your money.

Credit card interest eats savings faster than markets can grow.

Prioritise debt freedom before thinking of growing wealth.

4. Consolidate and Restructure Loans

You are paying three EMIs: Home, OD loan, and Credit Card.

Talk to your home loan bank for a top-up loan.

Ask if they can offer you a top-up at the home loan rate.

Use the top-up to pay off OD loan and credit card completely.

This converts high-cost loans into low-cost home loan EMIs.

Your EMI tenure may stretch, but your monthly burden reduces.

It also improves mental peace and cash flow.

5. Break the EMI Trap Cycle With Discipline

Once your credit card is cleared, do not swipe it again.

Make a strict rule: If you can’t pay in full, don’t use it.

Build discipline of spending within what is left after EMIs.

Use debit cards or UPI only for regular payments.

This avoids falling into credit dependency again.

6. Control Expenses Using a Cash Envelope System

This is a simple system for better control.

Withdraw money for weekly needs in cash.

Divide it into envelopes: Groceries, Transport, Utilities, Child Expenses.

Spend only what’s in the envelope.

This helps you live within budget and reduce online impulse spending.

7. Protect What You Already Have

Do not redeem from NPS and EPF. Keep them for retirement.

Do not sell them even if they look attractive now.

Keep at least one lakh aside in savings account for emergencies.

Avoid new liabilities till all loans are under control.

8. Restarting Savings in a Gradual Manner

Once your credit card is cleared and loan EMIs stabilise, resume savings.

Even Rs. 2,000 to Rs. 3,000 per month SIP is a good restart.

Choose actively managed mutual funds through a certified MFD.

Do not go for direct mutual funds now.

Direct funds don’t guide you emotionally or strategically.

Regular funds through MFD with CFP give advice, discipline, and hand-holding.

Direct funds seem cheap, but wrong timing can cause big losses.

Regular route gives human touch and correct asset mix.

9. Why Index Funds Are Not the Right Fit Now

Index funds are passive, they follow the index blindly.

They can’t protect you from market falls.

You need fund managers with experience to reduce risk.

Index funds don’t have downside protection.

Actively managed funds bring strategy, balance, and better alpha.

10. Protect Your Family with Insurance First

Check if you have a term life cover. You are the earning member.

Ideally, you need 15 to 20 times of your annual income.

That means Rs. 2.5 crore to Rs. 3 crore term cover.

Premiums are very low if bought early.

Also, ensure Rs. 10 lakh to Rs. 15 lakh mediclaim cover for family.

One hospital bill can wipe out your hard work.

11. Rebuild Your Investment Strategy Slowly

Start SIPs slowly after 6 months of debt control.

Rebuild portfolio with 3 to 4 diversified equity mutual funds.

Focus more on large and flexi-cap categories.

Don’t go for high-risk small cap or thematic funds now.

Build SIPs till you reach Rs. 15,000 per month over 2 years.

This way you balance loans and long-term wealth creation.

12. Plan for Short-Term and Long-Term Goals Separately

Short term: Clear debts, control expenses, rebuild emergency fund.

Medium term: Resume SIPs, build Rs. 5 lakh liquid fund.

Long term: Retirement, child education, home renovation.

Link each investment to a goal. That builds motivation and focus.

13. Set Financial Discipline for the Next 24 Months

Use a journal or Excel sheet to track monthly cash flow.

List all income, expenses, and balance.

Review it with spouse every month.

Set rules for spending and stick to them.

Celebrate small wins like closing credit cards or saving Rs. 5,000.

14. Don’t Try to Time the Market With Shares

Your Rs. 9 lakh in shares is useful now.

Use it to pay off high-cost debt as discussed earlier.

Once you are free from credit burden, slowly enter back in equity.

But do that only with mutual funds, not direct stocks.

Stocks need time, study, and attention.

MFs are better for busy working people.

15. Align Your Mindset with Financial Peace

This house is an asset. Enjoy living in it without money stress.

Your income is good. Your challenge is high EMI burden.

This is temporary. With action and discipline, it will ease.

You don’t need high returns now. You need stability.

Respect money, and give it direction with a plan.

Finally

This is a phase. You are not alone in this.

Many professionals face this after big purchases.

The important thing is to not freeze or panic.

Your next 6 to 12 months are crucial.

Focus fully on clearing credit cards, restructuring OD, and reducing pressure.

Then resume your investments step-by-step.

Avoid high-risk schemes or shortcuts.

Work with a Certified Financial Planner regularly to stay on track.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

Ans: BE TRANSPARENT AND GUNUINE. DONT TRY TO TAKE SHORTCUTS TO OBTAIN A DOMICILLE CERTIFICATE. THIS CONCERNS YOUR YOUR DAUGHTER'S FUTURE.

Regarding your query about the domicile certificate, she needs to prove that she has been residing in that particular location for the last seven years. However, in your case, she has only been present for six years, as she went to the U.S. in between. If this was on a tourist visa, that might be acceptable, but if you obtained a green card or another type of visa during that time, you should have supporting evidence.

Based on this information, it appears that you may not be eligible for the domicile certificate. It might be better for her to seek admission through the NRI quota. However, never resort to shortcuts. Remember, in today's India, traceability is very easy.
If you are still not convinced by my answer, please consider consulting a notary public for assistance with this issue.

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Ans: As of today, the situation is as follows: if you want a position in a good company, you need to have a minimum of 70% in your HSC and 10th standard, and you must achieve this in your first attempt to be considered for an interview. Additionally, many people waste years trying to attain 75% marks.

Since you are interested in engineering, consider joining an engineering course without taking the JEE (Joint Entrance Examination). After completing your undergraduate degree, you can take the GATE (Graduate Aptitude Test in Engineering) to enter a reputable engineering program that also offers a stipend.

While pursuing your undergraduate degree, make sure to acquire skills relevant to your goals. Instead of wasting time, whether through legal or illegal means, focus on your education and career path.

If you need financial assistance, you can reach out to the Vidyalakshmi Portal for support.
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Ans: Yes, your son can prepare for both CLAT and IPM exams simultaneously, especially given his ICSE score. With a 96% score, he has a strong chance of success in both exams. CLAT and IPM share some common ground, which could make preparation more manageable.
Preparation for both CLAT and IPM:
CLAT:
CLAT requires a strong foundation in English comprehension, logical reasoning, quantitative reasoning, and legal reasoning. IPM exams also test similar skills.
IPM:
IPM exams focus on quantitative ability, analytical reasoning, and verbal reasoning. CLAT also assesses these skills.
Overlap:
The core skills tested in both exams, such as quantitative reasoning, verbal reasoning, and logical reasoning, provide common ground for preparation. Your son's coaching for IPM can help him develop a solid foundation in these areas.
Legal Reasoning:
CLAT specifically requires legal reasoning, which is not part of IPM. Your son can focus on preparing for this section separately.
Scheduling:
Balancing preparation for both exams requires careful planning. He can allocate specific time slots for each exam's preparation.
Chances of Clearing Both:
IPM:
With a 96% ICSE score, your son has a strong chance of clearing IPM exams. His high marks indicate a strong aptitude for quantitative reasoning and problem-solving.
CLAT:
CLAT is a highly competitive exam, but with his current scores, your son has a very good chance of clearing CLAT.
Factors affecting success:
Preparation efforts, effective time management, and consistency in studying will play a crucial role in determining success in both exams.
Tips for Preparation:
Structured Approach:
A structured study plan that includes regular practice, mock tests, and detailed analysis of mistakes will be beneficial.
Mock Tests:
Regular mock tests for both CLAT and IPM will help him assess his progress and identify areas for improvement.
Time Management:
Developing effective time management skills is crucial for balancing preparation for both exams.
Focus on Fundamentals:
Ensure he has a strong foundation in the core subjects of both exams.
Practice:
He should solve a variety of questions and practice problems to build confidence and improve his speed and accuracy.
Best of luck. Professor