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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 15, 2023Hindi
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good evening, hi, i am working in private organization, due to dm i does not have a sex for the past two years with my wife what to do

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Either have a sane and frank conversation with your wife or Go Solo...
There is a reason why sex has been eliminated from your marriage...What is that reason, only the two of you will know...
Instead of ending up all frustrated, sit down with your wife and resolve this issue between the two of you...It might help!

All the best!

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Hello, Anu I have been married to my wife for 2 Month now. Everything is ok going ok in our marriage. We are enjoying time together, eating out, travelling and also having good intemate time with each other. But we are able to have sex with each other, initial because of being uncomfortable to do intemate thinks together, but now mainly due to possibilities that me might have to face pain, my genetals remains dry through out that give in irritation, also I am not able to penetrate, as I kind of thinks that her veginal opning is small. I do tried fingering but see didn't liked it. Also trying to do so I am often loose confidence and also also loose arrosal and desire to go ahead. Please help use so that we can enjoy more of our sexual life.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There's obviously an issue when it comes to sexual intimacy. But when you are very strictly focused on something not happening, it becomes stress and sexual intimacy in stress never happens.
If there is no medical issue, then it's purely about indulging in a lot of foreplay, a lot emotional bonding and most importantly learn to laugh a lot together. This releases a lot of strain and stress if any from both of you as a couple which in turn will help in intimacy.
If this still doesn't work, do get a medical opinion on any possible reasons that maybe preventing either of you from enjoying the process.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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I iam 39year with salary of 3.5lac per month Having home loan 70lac emi 70k ,health insurance 1cr,emergancy fund 4lac Direct equity 14lc ,mf-12 lac ,nps 1 lac Lic from 2019 27k per quarter end date 2040 Expense50k.. Whether I should stop lic , Partial payment of home loan ? Plan of starting farm house 1cr within 5year with some loans And also retirement in 20yrs ..kindly suggest good plan and diversification of investment
Ans: You are in a very strong position. High income, low expense, and good saving habit give you big advantage. With some corrections, you can achieve all goals comfortably.

» Current Position – Strong Foundation

Income is high compared to expenses
EMI is manageable
You already have equity + MF + NPS
Emergency fund exists, but needs strengthening
Clear goals: farmhouse + retirement

» LIC Policy – Review Before Decision
You have LIC from 2019, paying Rs 27k per quarter

Points to check:

What is the return expectation? Usually such policies give low returns
Long lock-in till 2040 reduces flexibility

Suggested approach:

Do not stop immediately
Check surrender value and paid-up value
If returns are low and cover is not needed, consider making it paid-up
Redirect future premium into mutual funds for better growth

» Emergency Fund – Increase Slightly

Current Rs 4 lakh is on the lower side

You should:

Target at least Rs 6 to 8 lakh
Keep in savings + liquid funds

» Home Loan – Partial Payment Strategy

EMI Rs 70k is comfortable for your income

Approach:

Do some part payment, but not aggressive
Balance between loan reduction and wealth creation

Why:

Equity investments over long term can give better returns than loan interest saved
Do not block too much money into loan

» Investment Diversification – Needs Structure
Current mix:

Direct equity Rs 14L
MF Rs 12L
NPS Rs 1L

Concerns:

Direct equity exposure is high
Portfolio may not be diversified properly

You should:

Gradually reduce direct stock exposure if not actively tracked
Increase allocation to diversified, actively managed mutual funds
Continue NPS for retirement discipline

» Farmhouse Goal (Rs 1 Cr in 5 Years) – Critical Planning
This is a large and near-term goal

Important reality:

Equity alone is risky for 5-year horizon
Loan + investment mix required

Approach:

Start a dedicated monthly investment for this goal
Use a mix of:
Short duration / debt funds (safety)
Some hybrid funds (moderate growth)
Avoid pure equity for this goal

Also think:

How much loan you are comfortable taking later
Try to build at least 40–50% from your own corpus

» Retirement Planning – 20 Years Horizon
You are well placed here

Action steps:

Increase MF SIP regularly (step-up every year)
Keep strong allocation to equity for long term
Use NPS as additional disciplined retirement tool

Target:

Build a corpus that can replace your lifestyle income

» Cash Flow Optimisation – Big Opportunity
Income: Rs 3.5 lakh
Expense + EMI: ~Rs 1.2 lakh

You have large surplus

Use this wisely:

Increase SIP significantly
Allocate separately for:
Retirement
Farmhouse
Child/family goals if any

» Risk Protection – Already Strong

Health insurance of Rs 1 Cr is excellent

But check:

Do you have adequate term insurance?
If not:
Take pure term plan (independent of LIC)

» Finally

Do not rush to surrender LIC, evaluate and then make paid-up if needed
Increase emergency fund
Balance loan prepayment and investments
Reduce direct equity risk, increase diversified MF exposure
Plan farmhouse separately with lower-risk investments
Increase SIPs – your biggest strength is surplus income

If you follow this structure, you can achieve both lifestyle goals and retirement without stress.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

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