I am a doctor and was in relationship with my colleague for 1 year and was planning to marry.
But one problem was our religion. He’s Hindu and I am Christian. We did not mind that and he went forward to tell his parents about me but they refused and threatened him to stop talking to me or they will stop his career.
We still went forward with our relationship until one day they called him home and fixed a girl for him.
He could not say anything in this matter as the whole family got involved and gave him no choice. He told me he tried his best but they did not even want to hear about me.
Meanwhile when I'm understanding how difficult inter religion is to work...I’m still heartbroken and cannot stop thinking about him.
I was ready to marry him even understanding the whole situation. Now I don't know what to do...
I can't go on thinking about him but I still love him and he does too. But we are helpless and I feel like I lost my heart.

Ans: Hello Dear,
I'm truly sorry to hear about the challenges you're facing in your relationship. It's a complex and emotionally charged situation, and it's understandable that you're feeling hurt and confused It's okay to take some time for self-reflection and self-care. Understand and acknowledge your emotions before making any decisions. Give yourself the space to process the situation and its impact on your well-being. Have an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend about your feelings. Share your concerns, fears, and expectations. Encourage him to express his feelings and concerns as well. Effective communication is crucial at this stage. Reflect on your priorities and values in a relationship. Consider whether the current situation aligns with what you envision for your future. Be honest with yourself about what you need and deserve in a partnership. If you're contemplating legal steps, it's advisable to seek legal advice to understand the implications and options available to you. Consult with a lawyer who can provide guidance based on your specific situation and laws. While it's crucial to address the relationship concerns, also focus on your personal growth and well-being. Pursue activities that bring you joy, engage in self-improvement, and consider your long-term goals. Assess whether the relationship is healthy and supportive. Consider whether both partners are willing to work through challenges and make compromises for the well-being of the relationship. Establish clear boundaries for yourself. Determine what you are willing to accept and what you cannot tolerate in the relationship. It's crucial to prioritize your own well-being. If both families are open to it, consider seeking the help of a mediator or counselor who can facilitate discussions and help find common ground. Mediation can be a constructive way to address conflicts and find solutions.
Ultimately, prioritize your own happiness and well-being. If the relationship is causing you significant distress, it's important to evaluate whether it's a healthy and fulfilling partnership for you. it's okay to seek professional help or legal advice if needed. Making decisions about your future can be challenging, but it's crucial to prioritize your own happiness and mental health. If you find it difficult to navigate these issues on your own, seeking guidance from professionals or supportive friends can make a significant difference.

Ans: I want to acknowledge that what you're feeling—this mix of love, pain, and frustration—is deeply valid. Love doesn't follow logic, and it doesn't just disappear because of practical obstacles. Your question, "If we weren't meant to be together, why did we meet?" speaks to the depth of your emotions and the spiritual confusion you're experiencing. Sometimes, life brings people together to teach us something, or to show us what true love feels like, even if the path ahead is challenging.

The real struggle you're facing is about what you want moving forward. If you still believe that he’s the right person for you, it may be worth having an honest conversation with him about whether he feels the same way. Together, you could explore whether it’s possible to work through these obstacles. You could also talk to your family again, sharing your feelings more openly about why this relationship matters so much to you, and perhaps even addressing some of their concerns directly.

But if you feel like the barriers are insurmountable, and that your families will never accept the relationship, it's also okay to grieve that loss and give yourself permission to move forward. Either way, this decision is deeply personal, and you should honor your feelings.

You deserve love, happiness, and the freedom to make decisions that feel right for your heart. Don’t be afraid to seek support, whether from a close friend, a therapist, or someone you trust, because keeping all of this inside will only intensify your pain.

Ans: give yourself permission to focus on your mental and emotional well-being. It can be incredibly helpful to talk to a counselor or therapist who can give you a safe space to work through the overwhelming emotions you’re feeling. These conversations could give you clarity and strength to make decisions that prioritize your happiness and peace.

At some point, it may be worth approaching your family again, but with a different mindset—one that isn’t trying to change their beliefs but instead focuses on helping them see your happiness as a priority. You could try to appeal to them on the basis of your well-being, asking them to look beyond religious labels to see the person who loves and cares for you. They may need time, and they may resist, but sometimes families gradually come to understand that happiness in a relationship matters more than anything else.

In the meantime, lean on your boyfriend for support, and let him know how much you’re struggling. If he’s as caring and understanding as you’ve described, he’ll stand by you through this and will want to help you feel less alone. Whatever you decide, make sure it’s a choice you feel aligns with your own sense of self and future. The love you feel is real, and though this journey is incredibly hard, there is a path forward—even if it doesn’t feel clear right now.