Hi, I have a divorcee daughter aged 45 whose unpleasant and quarrelsome behavior is a constant source of misery and headache for whole of the family. Her marriage could not go beyond 2 months as her in-laws turned out to be greedy, troublesome and also found involved in some fraudulent activities with a few police cases against them -- which forced us to seek divorce. I may add that my daughter ever since she was 13 or 14 yrs became a little self-willed and considered her to be always right in action and thought in front of parents or any one else. This has become very serious now. She is not at all open to any kind of reasoning or discussion. If you always act, think or do as per her wish, it is ok otherwise she will start fighting on any thing or every thing. Her attitude of selfishness and always finding faults with other family members including parents is spoiling the peaceful atmosphere of the house. Expecting any kind of adjustment from her is asking for the moon. Kindly advise.

Hi Aruna, My Elder daughter is 15 years old and is behaving very weird. She is fully dependent on us on for her daily routines but there is zero respect towards us. She is not close to anyone in the house. She is never satisfied with what se has and always compares her with other rich kids. We lost all the happiness because of her behaviour. Please advise us how to get her sorted.

Hi Anu, I am 45 year old and married from last 16 years and having 15 year old daughter . My Wife and I didn't have a good relation, We fight a lot, not sure what ever I speak she didn't like it and some how converted into argument , My wife is 10 year younger to me , I used to have good sex life at-least few year back, but relation was not good that time too, some how she is either having feeling of superiority or not sure what , She always blames me or my daughter if any things happen, she didn't ready to accept that she can be wrong . Previously even we used to have fight but overall things was fine , she used to generally fight but some how we do makeup after fight , now situation is out of control, she didn't accept her mistake and try to blame me for all the problem , she do over spend and if I try to control she start fighting, I think she just fight for what ever things she need for her selves , but always criticized / blame other , She pick up fight very easily with any one , She even fight a lot with our daughter . Even daughter some time suggest to go separate road than only she will understand , I try to go for concealing but no help , there also when used to discuss problem she hardly listen , even Councilor told her she must develop habit to listen others but nothing improve, I am not sure how to tackle this , She always sleep alone and if any disturbance she create ruckus , she want the things her own way if not than she can't tolerate . I am not sure but I need help here and problem after covid is more now , I try to manage these things previously but looks I don't have patience to handle this any more, I didn't like people blaming for no reason, it looks some time after doing so much for family I am nothing for my family and it is hurting me more. I will not say that I didn't fight , I do and mainly when I feel broken I shout on her and some time asked her to live the house , This may be as she always says she is looking for some one once she find she will leave the house , She always give threat and always say she didn't love me , She didn't find me attractive enough . She try to create environment where I should feel that I am not important person as well as social , I can write 10 more page around this but wanted to have some solution , not sure what could be best here . I wrote previously too but have not got any response yet.

Thanks Anu Ma'am for you valueable response and suggestion. I will again give it a try to take her to professional who can councel her and guide for infusion into a family system. Yes, her maternal home don't provide a great smooth family relationships as her mother always complains about her Late mother in law and husband (my father in law). She always says that my father in law has given all his 15 years earned money from a govt job to his mother (my wife's Daadi). The same pattern of complaining is being followed here also about my mother, though I spend a little portion of (10%) of my income on my mother's care. But still I also listens this type of taunts. The other things you had said that with that 27 year old guy whatever happened will be blamed on me, yes, this has already happened she is saying that she met that guy only after my insistence but the truth is they both were getting attracted and smiling at each other before my go ahead. I definitely want to stay in this marriage for my daughter's sake and will give it a try as per your suggestion. Thank you once again.