I am Brahmin working in bank and he is Jat working in airforce. We are together for almost 5 years and we discussed about our marriage with family, but both sides denied and my mother threatens to lodge fir against them and then they threaten to kill me and boy and my mother if we marry against their consent. I think that they are just playing game to secure themselves. They have fixed his marriage along with his brother in December forcefully. We want to marry each other . We are so stressed and depressed Thse days, our family have made us so weak. We are looking for some way to convince them. Please suggest some thing to easy the process of convincing .

Ans: Dear Krishna,
I am so sorry you both are in such a difficult situation. If they are threatening to physically harm you and your family, it is best to take that seriously. Nothing is worth putting yourself and your family in harm’s way.

I understand that you want help convincing them, but I am not sure if I have anything to offer here, especially since the situation seems very serious. Consciously I can’t encourage you to marry in a family that blatantly threatened to kill you. That is a serious offense. What is the guarantee that they won’t harm you after you get married, even if they agree to it? I am sorry I can be of no help, but I would recommend that you be very careful while deciding anything and I’d urge you to reconsider this relationship.