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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Sep 13, 2023

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Anchal Question by Anchal on Sep 12, 2023Hindi
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Hi mam I want to ask something mera boyfriend ajkl bhuut stress main rehta h uske ghr p kuch family issues bhi chal rhe h jiski vjh s vo bhuut tension main h mujhe samjh nhi aara h main kesa usko achaa feel krau main usko aisa kya Krna ko bolu ki uski life main sb normal hojaye vo thoda stress free hojye plzz mam meri help krdo merko btao ki main kesa usko mentally aur emotionally support kru 🙏🏻

Ans: Dear Anchal,
Usi insaan ko hum samjha sakte hain joh samajhna chahta ho. Kuch log aise bhi hote hain joh stress ka saamna chup hokar ya door hokar karte hain. Shaayad isiliye aapko lagta hoga ki aapke kuch karne ya bolne se kuch sulajh sakta hai. Yahi fark hota hai mard aur aurat mein jab hum kisi cheez ka saamna karte hain.

Toh aapke boyfriend ko yahi boliye ki 'sab theek hoga ant mein, bas kuch hi waqt ki baat hai. Aur mein tumhare saath hoon.'
Yeh 'mein tumhare saath hoon' ka matlab yeh nahin ki woh har baar aapse madad le ya aapse har baat share kare tab aap unko saath ho...iska matlab yeh hai ki agar woh kuch samay paristithi sudharne ke liye chupi rakhe ya thodi dorri rakhe, toh aap phir bhi unka saath degi...yeh muhskil zaroor hai par yeh karne se unko yakeen hoga ki aap binaa koi shart ke unke saath hain...
Yahi hoga aapka emotional and mental support. Aur jab woh kuch aapse share karte hain toh sun lijiye binaa koi salaah diye aur jab salaah maange, toh dijiye. Aapka yeh ravaiyya hi badaa sukoon dega unko.

All the best!

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I’m Suresh from Ahmedabad. I’m 47 with one daughter, aged 15. I’ve been investing Rs 50,000 a month in equity mutual funds for the last 5 years. My goal is to accumulate Rs 2 crore for my daughter's education and our retirement. Am I on track, or do I need to adjust my portfolio?
Ans: Let's analyze your investment scenario and suggest possible adjustments:

Current Situation:

• Investment: Rs 50,000 monthly in equity mutual funds
• Tenure: 5 years
• Goal: Rs 2 crore for daughter's education and retirement
• Time Horizon: Assuming retirement in 20 years (when your daughter is 35)

Analysis:

• Accumulated Amount: Considering an average annual return of 12% (which is reasonable for equity funds over a long term), you would have accumulated approximately Rs 58.5 lakhs after 5 years.
• Gap to Goal: To reach Rs 2 crore in 15 years (remaining till retirement), you'd need an annual return of around 15%, which is achievable but might involve some volatility.

Recommendations:

• Increase Investment: To bridge the gap and account for potential market fluctuations, consider increasing your monthly investment by 15-20% to Rs 60,000-65,000.
• Review Portfolio: Ensure your equity fund portfolio is well-diversified across different sectors and market caps. This helps mitigate risk and capture potential growth opportunities.
• Consider Debt Funds: As your retirement nears, gradually allocate a portion of your investments (around 20-30%) to debt funds or hybrid funds. This provides some stability and reduces overall risk.
• Emergency Fund: Maintain an emergency fund of 3-6 months of your expenses in a liquid savings account or short-term debt funds to cover unexpected expenses.
• Regular Review: Review your portfolio periodically (at least annually) to assess its performance against your goals and make necessary adjustments.
• Remember: Investing in equity funds involves market risk, and returns are not guaranteed. It's essential to stay disciplined, invest for the long term, and consult with a financial advisor if needed.

Disclaimer: This analysis is based on assumptions and general market trends. It's always advisable to seek personalized advice from a qualified financial planner.

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