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Ans: Dear Anchal,
Usi insaan ko hum samjha sakte hain joh samajhna chahta ho. Kuch log aise bhi hote hain joh stress ka saamna chup hokar ya door hokar karte hain. Shaayad isiliye aapko lagta hoga ki aapke kuch karne ya bolne se kuch sulajh sakta hai. Yahi fark hota hai mard aur aurat mein jab hum kisi cheez ka saamna karte hain.

Toh aapke boyfriend ko yahi boliye ki 'sab theek hoga ant mein, bas kuch hi waqt ki baat hai. Aur mein tumhare saath hoon.'
Yeh 'mein tumhare saath hoon' ka matlab yeh nahin ki woh har baar aapse madad le ya aapse har baat share kare tab aap unko saath ho...iska matlab yeh hai ki agar woh kuch samay paristithi sudharne ke liye chupi rakhe ya thodi dorri rakhe, toh aap phir bhi unka saath degi...yeh muhskil zaroor hai par yeh karne se unko yakeen hoga ki aap binaa koi shart ke unke saath hain...
Yahi hoga aapka emotional and mental support. Aur jab woh kuch aapse share karte hain toh sun lijiye binaa koi salaah diye aur jab salaah maange, toh dijiye. Aapka yeh ravaiyya hi badaa sukoon dega unko.

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anchal,
If your best friend had decided to leave you because you didn't listen to her, was she actually your best friend?

Do not ever feel bad about this as it would have been a but kind on her part to have fully heard you out before taking such a big step. Nevertheless, you should by now know who to befriend and who to keep at a distance. For your peace of mind, wish her well and move on...if in the future, she wants to come back to be friends, kindly sort this issue out before you get all happy and friendly again.

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anchal,
Ab tolerate nahin ho raha, toh is baat ko dimaag mein leke apne aap ko pareshaan karna chahti ho. Ek saccha dost wohi hota hai joh binaa kaaran ya matlab ke judta hai. Ab yeh condition daalke ki woh joh bole agar aapne maana nahin toh woh naaraaz ho jaayegi; yeh koi dosti nahin hui na. Agar usne bola bhi hai ki tumhe apne BF ko block kar dena chahiye, toh koi kaaran toh dena chahiye tha na...uske baad bhi yeh faislaa aapke hai ki aap kya karna chahte ho aur us faisle ko respect karna hi padega use.
Agar ab woh toxic aur rude ban rahi hai. toh yeh jaan le ki aage se uski demands badhti hi jaayegi aur binaa matlab ke stress leke aapko ghoomna padega usko khush karne ke liye. Isiliye jab tak woh apna bartaav badal na de, aap thods usse door hi rahiye.
Khulke jeene ko hi jeena kehte hai aur yeh jeena kisika mohtaaj nahin.

All the best!