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Asked by Anonymous - May 16, 2024Hindi
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Hello sir mai 28 year ki hoo mai abhi llb kar rahi hoo mai last 7 year se relationship mai hoo vo mujse 25 year bade hai saruaat 1 to 2 year inhone muje bhot priorities di ab hum 3 to 4 month mai kabhi milte hai hum dono alag alag city mai hai unki bhot badi family hai or finincially bhi problem chal rahi hai last 3 yaer se vo.muje priority nai de rahe hum.roj bat karte hai vo mera khyal bhi rakhte hai lekin muje unse ab dur nai hona mene sadi na karne ka decisions Liya hai lekin kitni bar bhot akela feel karti hoo vo muje itna time nai dete phele jaisa nai hai aisa lagta hai.fir vo ku6 help kar de ya pyar se bat bhi kar le.to.lagta hai sab theek hai mai.bhot confused hoo mai.kya karu muje kya karna chahiye ..

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Dating someone older than you is not the problem, but the fact that you are making major life decisions based on what he wants and doesn't want is concerning. I am guessing that you decided to not get married because he doesn't want it either. Is that fair to you? You yourself mentioned that you often feel lonely. Don't you think you deserve better? Don't you deserve someone who would love you and would like to spend the rest of their life with you? Please reconsider this relationship. Speak to your partner and ask him what his plans are for the future. Does he want to settle down with you? How will you two continue this relationship in the future? There are many important questions that need answering. Sort them out and you will have the solution to your dilemma.


Best Wishes.

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Ab jinko shaadi mein rehna hi nahin hai aur fufa se dil lagaa baithi hain, isme aap kya kar sakte hain. Aapne har tareeka apnaaya hai use waapas le aane ke liye. Bas ek koshish aur kar lijiye faislaa lene se pehle...Ek baar sirf aap aur aapki patni kahin ghoom aaiye aur yahi baat uthaiye par binaa koi naarazgi se...yeh pataa lagaaiye ki kya woh shaadi mein bandhnaa chahti hain ya nahin. Agar unka dil hi nahin, toh kya kar sakte hain aap...phir aise hi shaadi mein aap unka phone chedck karte rahenge aur proof dhoondhte rahenge...Isiliye is baat ka khulaasa kam aur samaadhaan par zyaada dhyaan dijiye taaki aap ek faislaa kar sake.

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Ramalingam Kalirajan  |7595 Answers  |Ask -

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I am 49 and plan to retire in 2 years time.. I currently have a MF corpus of about 1.8 Cr, a PF of about 1 Cr and properties worth 2 Cr. I have been investing in MF's since 2014 through SIP's and currently have 70K monthly SIP. Please advise if I would be comfortable in 2 years, my estimated monthly expense post retirement would be approx 2 Lakhs per month
Ans: Your current corpus of Rs. 1.8 crore in mutual funds and Rs. 1 crore in PF is significant. The additional Rs. 2 crore in properties adds to your wealth but doesn’t provide immediate liquidity. Let us evaluate if your corpus will sustain your post-retirement expense of Rs. 2 lakh per month.

Estimating Post-Retirement Corpus Requirement
You plan to retire in 2 years, at age 51.

Assuming a life expectancy of 85 years, the corpus needs to last for 34 years.

An expense of Rs. 2 lakh per month means Rs. 24 lakh annually.

Adjust this amount for inflation to calculate future needs.

Current Investment Contributions
Your Rs. 70,000 monthly SIP builds your corpus over the next 2 years.

SIPs offer rupee cost averaging, reducing market volatility impact.

Assess the fund performance regularly to maximise growth.

Diversification of Investments
Your corpus is spread across mutual funds, PF, and properties.

PF provides a stable, fixed return but lacks flexibility.

Properties offer wealth accumulation but are less liquid for immediate needs.

Mutual funds remain a primary source of liquidity and growth post-retirement.

Evaluating Monthly Withdrawals Post-Retirement
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Avoid withdrawing large amounts in the early years of retirement.

Consider a mix of equity and debt mutual funds for withdrawal strategies.

Role of Inflation and Healthcare Costs
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A 6% inflation rate doubles your monthly expense in 12 years.

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Importance of Emergency and Medical Coverage
Keep at least 6 months' expenses in a liquid fund for emergencies.

Ensure you have comprehensive health insurance for unexpected medical costs.

Tax Efficiency in Withdrawals
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Debt fund returns are taxed as per your income tax slab.

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Active Funds vs. Direct Funds
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Include balanced advantage and debt funds for steady income.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 21, 2025Hindi
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I like to know which MF to be selected for investing in a SIP among same types of funds with equal performances and risks but with different NAVs.
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1. Net Asset Value (NAV) Does Not Reflect Fund Performance
A lower or higher NAV does not indicate better returns.

NAV reflects the fund's per-unit value and changes daily.

Investment growth depends on percentage returns, not NAV values.

2. Expense Ratio and Fund Costs
A lower expense ratio can improve net returns.

Actively managed funds with skilled fund managers may charge slightly higher fees.

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3. Fund Manager's Track Record
Review the fund manager's expertise and past performances.

A consistent manager with strong market knowledge can add value.

Avoid funds with frequent management changes.

4. Fund House Reputation and AUM
Choose funds from a reputed fund house with a strong track record.

A large Asset Under Management (AUM) ensures better stability and liquidity.

Avoid funds with excessively low AUM, as they may face liquidity issues.

5. Tax Implications of the Fund
Assess how long-term and short-term capital gains will affect returns.

Equity mutual funds have specific tax rates: LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.

Debt funds follow your income tax slab, affecting post-tax returns.

6. Investment Goals and Time Horizon
Align the fund choice with your financial goals.

Longer-term goals may benefit from equity-focused funds.

Short-term goals may require hybrid or debt-focused funds.

7. SIP Benefits in Any NAV
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Avoid basing decisions solely on NAV, as SIPs work on rupee cost averaging.

8. Focus on Portfolio Composition
Examine the fund's portfolio mix and sector allocation.

Ensure diversification aligns with your risk appetite and goals.

Avoid funds with concentrated exposure to risky sectors.

9. Assess Consistency of Returns
Look at rolling returns and consistency across market cycles.

Funds with stable returns in volatile markets are preferable.

Avoid funds with high volatility in performance.

10. Disadvantages of Index Funds
Index funds passively track benchmarks, lacking flexibility in volatile markets.

Actively managed funds can outperform by leveraging market opportunities.

A Certified Financial Planner can guide you to suitable active funds.

11. Benefits of Regular Funds Over Direct Funds
Regular funds offer ongoing advice and monitoring by a Mutual Fund Distributor (MFD).

Direct funds lack professional support, which is crucial for long-term goals.

Certified Financial Planners provide insights and manage your portfolio efficiently.

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I'm a 40-year-old woman struggling with bloating and poor digestion. Are there specific yoga poses or kriyas that can improve my gut health?
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Here are some yoga poses and kriyas for better digestion:

Wind-Relieving Pose (Pavanamuktasana): Lie on your back, bring your knees to your chest, and gently hug them. This pose helps release gas and soothes your stomach.

Cat-Cow Stretch (Marjaryasana-Bitilasana): On all fours, alternate between arching your back (Cow) and rounding it (Cat). This movement massages the abdominal organs and improves digestion.

Seated Twist (Ardha Matsyendrasana): Sit with one leg crossed over the other, then twist your upper body. Twists stimulate the digestive system and release toxins.

Kapalabhati (Skull Shining Breath): This kriya involves rapid exhalations and helps cleanse your digestive tract. Practice for 2-3 minutes daily, preferably on an empty stomach.

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 01, 2024Hindi
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We two brothers have inherited a property on 200 sq yard by registered will of our father in 2020. The property was purchased by our father in 1970 and redeveloped in 1990 into three story building. Ground floor is with my brother and first floor. Third floor without roof rights was sold by our father at the time of redevelopment . Me and my brother have terrace rights as per registered will of our father ( each has 50% roof/ terrace rights). My brother is US citizen and want to sell his share for four crores. The expected rental income from the ground floor will be Rupees 60 thousand per month. The circle rate of the property is Rupees 7 lakh per yard. My interest in the ground floor of the property is mainly to live peacefully without any interference by unknown new buyer. I am 65 and my question is from financial point should I purchase from my brother by paying Rs. 4 crore or keep the amount in bank as fixed deposit/ RBI bonds at around 8 percent per year. Second question is if he sell it to other buyer how he will sell terrace as the terrace is undivided and we both have inherited it by registered will. Thirdly there are many builders who want to redevelop the property into four floor with basement and stilt parking. What will be the right option . I have only son .
Ans: Dear Friend,
If you’re considering whether to purchase your brother’s share of the inherited property for ?4 crore, weigh peace of mind against financial returns. Buying his share gives you full control, eliminates potential disputes with a third-party buyer, and ensures no interference in your peaceful living. However, the rental yield of ?60,000/month (~1.8% annual return) is significantly lower than the ~8% return you could get by investing ?4 crore in fixed deposits or bonds, which would generate ~?2.67 lakh/month.

Regarding the terrace, your brother cannot sell his 50% share independently since it is undivided and jointly inherited. Any sale requires your consent, limiting his ability to transfer full terrace rights to a new buyer.

Redevelopment of the property is an excellent option, offering increased value and rental income. Builders are likely to provide additional floors or cash components in exchange for development rights, enhancing long-term financial benefits and ensuring modern amenities.

If your priorities are peace of mind and control over the property, purchase your brother’s share. Otherwise, invest in safer financial instruments and consider redevelopment to maximise the property’s potential. Consult a lawyer and financial advisor to ensure the best decision. Your Financial adviser can deeply evaluate all your assets and liabilities and provide a solution which will give you more leverage.
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