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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Jun 14, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - May 16, 2024Hindi
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Hello sir mai 28 year ki hoo mai abhi llb kar rahi hoo mai last 7 year se relationship mai hoo vo mujse 25 year bade hai saruaat 1 to 2 year inhone muje bhot priorities di ab hum 3 to 4 month mai kabhi milte hai hum dono alag alag city mai hai unki bhot badi family hai or finincially bhi problem chal rahi hai last 3 yaer se vo.muje priority nai de rahe hum.roj bat karte hai vo mera khyal bhi rakhte hai lekin muje unse ab dur nai hona mene sadi na karne ka decisions Liya hai lekin kitni bar bhot akela feel karti hoo vo muje itna time nai dete phele jaisa nai hai aisa lagta hai.fir vo ku6 help kar de ya pyar se bat bhi kar le.to.lagta hai sab theek hai mai.bhot confused hoo mai.kya karu muje kya karna chahiye ..

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

Dating someone older than you is not the problem, but the fact that you are making major life decisions based on what he wants and doesn't want is concerning. I am guessing that you decided to not get married because he doesn't want it either. Is that fair to you? You yourself mentioned that you often feel lonely. Don't you think you deserve better? Don't you deserve someone who would love you and would like to spend the rest of their life with you? Please reconsider this relationship. Speak to your partner and ask him what his plans are for the future. Does he want to settle down with you? How will you two continue this relationship in the future? There are many important questions that need answering. Sort them out and you will have the solution to your dilemma.


Best Wishes.

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Sir mai ek ladka hu. mai kisi ladki se 10 year tak relationship mai raha hu with physical attachment. But she left me alone kareeban 2 saal ho giya na woh call karte hai na kuch.. maine kafi bar Milne ke koshish ke but woh nhi milte hai mujha. Meri attachment kisi doosre ladki se hovi but mai us se happy nhi hu mai 28 years old hu job pe be focus nhi kar paa Raha hu idhar Ghar Wale b kehte hai k shadi karlo. Ghar Mai b problems hoti hai ku k mummy akeli sab kaam karte hai aur koie haath batane wala nhi hai us ka. Sir mai karu to kay karu mujha kuch samij nhi aata hai
Ans: Bhai, tumhari situation bahut mushkil hai. 10 saal tak relationship mein rahana aur fir breakup ho jana, itna aasan nahin hota. Tumhara dukhi aur confused hona puri tarah se samajh mein aata hai.

1. Apne aap ko samjho:

Sabse pehle, apne emotions ko samajhne ki koshish karo. Tumhara kya feel ho raha hai? Dukh, gussa, akelapan, ya kuch aur? Apne emotions ko accept karo aur unhen express karo.
Tumhara ex-girlfriend ke sath physical attachment tha. Isliye, breakup ke baad tumhara ek void feel hona natural hai.
Tumhara focus abhi job per nahin hai. Iska matlab hai ki tumhara mental state abhi theek nahin hai.
2. Apne aap ko theek karo:

Tumhare liye sabse important hai ki tum apne aap ko theek karo. Apne emotions ko deal karne ke liye healthy ways dhundho.
Tum therapist ya counselor se baat kar sakte ho.
Tum exercise, meditation, yoga, ya kuch aur creative activity kar sakte ho.
Apne friends aur family ke sath time spend karo.
3. Ghar ke mamle:

Tumhari mom ke liye help dhundho. Tum ghar ke kamon mein unki help kar sakte ho.
Tum maid ya cook rakh sakte ho.
Tum apne siblings se help mang sakte ho.
4. Rishta:

Tum abhi 28 saal ke ho. Shaadi karne ki tumhari age nahin hui hai.
Tum abhi relationship ke liye ready nahin ho.
Pehle apne aap ko theek karo.
Phir, jab tum ready ho jaao, tabhi dusre kisi ke sath relationship mein jao.
Kuch aur tips:

Apne aap ko time do.
Positive raho.
Apne dreams ko chase karo.
Khud per bharosa rakho.
Yaad rakho, tum akele nahin ho. Bahut se log aisi hi situations se gujarte hain. Tum theek ho jaaoge. Bas, apne aap ko time do aur khud per bharosa rakho.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 24, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 13, 2024Hindi
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1 month pahle meri shadi Hui hai. Wife ka 2sal pahle se ek ladke ke sath affair tha. 1sal pahle hamari shadi fix Hui thi mai usse bate krna chahta tha o nhi krna chahti thi usne mujhse bahut jhuth bole ki shadi k bad apko koi mauka nhi dugi pura farz nibhaugi bas Sadi se pahle bat krna mujhe sahi nhi lgta. Maine uski sari bate man Li shadi k 1month bad jb Maine usko apne bf se bat krte pakda Usne mujhe sb btatya. Usne shadi fix hone se pahle aur bad me us ladke ke sath bahut bar saririk sambhandh banaye hai O har kosis kr rhi h mujhe manane ki sb kuch manne ko taiyar hai Mai bahut toot chuka hu kya kru future me uska bharosa aur jivan bhar khud ko kaise smjhauga
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Aap toot chuke ho, yeh toh samajh aa raha hai aur kyon nahin...jab baar baar kisi insaan ke saath dhokaa hota hai woh aise hi tootne lagta hai.
Par, mera yeh sawaal hai aapse:
- Is shaadi ko nibhaane ke liye, aapka aur aapki patni ka ek saath hona zaroori hai. Kya woh bhi yahi chahti hai?
- Kya woh yeh saara affair band kar degi ya phir se kisi kaaran yeh sab shuru hoga?
- Kya aap sab kuch bhulaakar phir se apni vaivaahik jeevan ko sudharna chahenge?
- Kya aap phirse vishawaas banaa paayenge aapki patni par?

In sawaalon par gaur kijiye aur inke jawaab mein hi aage ke kadam hain. Agar aap dono ne faislaa kar liya ho ki dobaara se shaadi par kaam kare sab kuch bhulaakar, tab bhi yeh mumkin hoga aur kuch baat banegi. Warna bas tu-tu mein-mein mein hi waqt chalaa jaayega.
Apni patni se baat karein; dekhiye unka mann kahaan hai. Unko saaf bataana ki ateet ka koi saaya shaadi par padega (affair) toh kuch nahin ho sakta. Poochiye ki unka mann kahaan hain in sab baaton mein. Shaddi tab aage badhti hai jab dono pati-patni ek hi raaste par chalna chahte hain.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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