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Anu Krishna |1330 Answers |Ask -Follow

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 18, 2021

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
She is an executive member of the Indian Association of Adolescent Health.... more

Question by J on May 18, 2021Hindi

Relationship

Hi Anu, I read your article about suicide among young people in these trying times. It is really very stressful.

Well I am a 53 year old person from Delhi. I don’t have a job. My savings have dried up.

I am mentally and emotionally broken. My wife and daughter left me last year. I am not being able to cope up with the situation and the humiliation I was subjected to and am still going through.

It's like facing a wall with no way out. I feel like committing suicide as I am all alone and don’t have any support system.

I don’t know what to do. The urge to end my life is too strong as I was betrayed and cheated by my loved ones.

I spoke to some suicide helplines regarding this but they were of no help.

I hope maybe you can help.

Ans: Dear J, suicide is never an option, so DO NOT try to access something that does not exist.

The pandemic hasn’t been easy on most people across the globe and each person is going through their own challenges.

How each one responds to that is what defines what’s happening next.

This might sound to you like a good preachy note, but do remember, you and only you alone are responsible for your moods and your state of mind.

Times are trying and each of us are going through the Pandemic in different ways. Some of us have lost jobs, some of us have lost our loved ones, some of us have lost our piece of mind…the list is endless.

Why should you choose to go through humiliation when that event is over now?

By replaying it over and over again, does it help change what had happened? What if you choose to move to a thought that empowers you?

If you think this is impossible, NO, it isn’t. It requires you to WANT to move from where you are to where you want to be.

Choosing to be in the same place and thinking the same things repeatedly gives you the same result. A different result, then MOVE please, NOW.

This movement brings in fresh perspectives and fresh ideas that you can infuse in finding an alternative job or career and also into your personal life.

Humiliation is something that you went through and that can’t be changed. But to relive it, is a choice of yours…now, you know what to do. All the best!

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Hi, I completed BA in Mass communication and pg diploma in advertising and marketing communication with only 5 months experience in advertising agency with specialization in client servicing And my age is 26 and have no any job or secure Career. Sometimes I think I had a mistake to choose this field, i tried too many times for getting a job and I'm not perfect in skills like English language, cunning nature and smart and at this age i pressured by my family, relatives and neighbours with too many irrelevant and irritating comments like tum bhatke huye ho. Tum se kuch nhi hone vala,, your age is marriage age and you are unemployed and unguided. Sometimes I think suicide is the best way to forget all think and sometimes I don't know what is my real goal and truth is i have no goal and currently i preparing for competitive exams like ssc and hssc but what is my goal I'm not sure where is I'm going I request you please guide me with better solution because no one is in the world is my best. I live alone I'm not interested to talk with anyone because all are selfish. Please please guide me.

Ans: Wow.. BA MASS Communication! & PG DIP in Advertising and Marketing.. Seriously no job.. Client Servicing is Ad.Sales...what gets you going creativity in Advertising.. plenty of scope... Age is just a number.. And 26 no quick fix, you have just started life.

Don't go by what others say, go by your conscience.. And the guy in the glass

The Guy in the Glass

When you get what you want in your struggle for pelf,
And the world makes you King for a day,
Then go to the mirror and look at yourself,
And see what that guy has to say.
For it isn't your Father, or Mother, or Wife,
Who judgement upon you must pass.
The feller whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the guy staring back from the glass.
He's the feller to please, never mind all the rest,
For he's with you clear up to the end,
And you've passed your most dangerous, difficult test
If the guy in the glass is your friend.
You may be like Jack Horner and "chisel" a plum,
And think you're a wonderful guy,
But the man in the glass says you're only a bum
If you can't look him straight in the eye.
You can fool the whole world down the pathway of years,
And get pats on the back as you pass,
But your final reward will be heartaches and tears
If you've cheated the guy in the glass.

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You are a gem dust yourself off.. and shine... Suicide is nonsense.. Nobody will cry if you!?

Send your resume not more than 2 pages google top Ad agencies... English you will learn along with how to be suave!
They want people who know other regional languages too.. You are the one they are looking for!

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I am 66 years old and retired in 2019 with a retirement settlement corpus of 70 lakhs. I also inherited 50lakhs. I own a flat in MP valued at 1.4 cr. This is mortgaged as collateral for my daughter's international education to the tune of 32 lakhs. I also own a flat in mumbai worth 2.4 crores and another small real estate investment worth 25 lakhs. Due to improper investments and no income for last five years and also the fact that I have been living in MP while my wife with two adult kids was living in mumbai, we have consumed most of the corpus on living and managing two homes and now have only about 40 lacs in savings.. We dont have any other loans. My wife has to take care of her 85 yr old mother who has willed my wife her flat located in another city which is worth 1.2 crore and has about 50 lacs in FDs... Please advise on what is the best way ahead to secure our future and most important, generate a monthly income.

Ans: Hello;

Prudent fiscal planning and discipline is very important in retirement.

Your family may stay together for cost optimization and avoiding duplication of expenses.

The other property may be sold, after releasing encumbrances, if any.

You may buy immediate annuity from a life insurance company from the proceeds of property sale to get monthly income as per the annuity rate offered by the insurance company.

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I am 45 yrs . I have 70lacs ppf 135 invested in others business 10 emergency fund 9 lacs home loan. Annual salary of 36 lacs and icome of 6 lacs from invest in thers business I have a daughter 11 yrs old . My expenses are 9 lacs annually. How do i go about to create a corpus fo 15 crore . I intend to retire at 54 yrs

Ans: Hello;

You may begin a monthly sip of 2.5 L into a combination of pure equity mutual funds and top it up each year by minimum 22% to achieve 15 Cr target in 10 years, including PPF value of 1.38 Cr after 10 years.

It top up is not possible then the flat monthly sip of 2.5 L will have to continue for 15 years (delaying retirement) to reach the intended corpus of 15 Cr, including PPF value of 1.93 Cr, after 15 years.

The value of your business is not factored into this working.

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Ans: Hello noted
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Good day, I am 40 years old, working , Annual salary 36 lakh CTC, Monthly expenses -2 lakhs including rent and others, I own 2 flats ,one 3 bhk flat at Patna and one 3 bhk at Kolkata, presently residing at Noida I have around 1 cr invested in MF whose current value is approx 2 cr, I have few LIC and HDFC insurance plans running as well Kindly advise me to built a strong corpus for my retirement after 10 years keeping in line with my expenses Thanks a lot

Ans: Hello;

Do you have any rental income from the flats owned by you?

Kindly confirm so as recommend suitably.

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Hi Pushpa, I start my day with morning meditation which brings calm and peace to my mind. But after first instance that angers me, the calm from the morning is lost and the mood for the entire day is disturbed. Although I don't express the anger outside in words or action, but the mind is definitely angered. What can I do so that words or actions don't anger me ? And if they do, how can I bring myself back to my calm state quickly ?

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Mindful Breathing: When you feel anger rising, pause and take deep breaths. Slowly inhale for 4 counts, hold for 4, and exhale for 6 counts. This simple practice can calm your mind in moments.

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"I am currently 25 years old, and I’ve been working since I was 15. I’m already engaged and getting married in February, but I don’t have any savings or extra money. I am just a 12th-pass, earning a low salary of ?15,000 per month while managing family responsibilities. With no savings or resources to invest, I feel lost about how to buy a house. Owning a house seems like it could solve many of my problems. How can I achieve this given my current situation?"

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Hi Milind, Hope you are doing well. I am an NRI. I am 42-year-old. I am a Software engineer. My son is 11-year-old. Please share your guidance for better investment in MF or Stocks which has better returns with less risk. The plan is for my son’s education for his degree. Please find my plan. 1. I can spend 20K per month towards SIP. 2. Plan is for 8 years investment. 3. In next 8 years, my target is to make 40 to 50 lakhs Please provide your inputs to my following queries 1. Which mutual funds can help to achieve my above goal? 2. Is it better to invest in 2 to 3 mutual funds ? 3. How much I need to SIP to achieve my above goals? 4. How can I apply investments in the mutual fund from United Kingdom? 5. Do I need open DMAT account ? If so, please guide how can I do this from UK? 6. Do I need to do KYC? If so, please guide how can I do this from UK? Appreciate you if you guide me Thank you

Ans: Hello;

To generate a corpus of around 50 L in 8 years you have two options:

1. Start with 20 K monthly SIP and step it up each year by 15% upto 8 years.

2. Start with a monthly sip of 31 K which may yield you a corpus of around 50 L after 8 years.

A modest 12% return from equity mutual funds is considered.

Mutual funds will be certainly better then direct stocks from a risk perspective.

You may invest in a flexicap type mutual fund and a large and midcap type mutual fund in the proportion of 50:50 for your investment.

You may select any fund from the top quartile in these categories.

You don't need a demat account.

You will need to do KYC before investing, some investment apps/AMCs offer it to be done online even for NRIs.

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