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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 18, 2021

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
She is an executive member of the Indian Association of Adolescent Health.... more

Question by J on May 18, 2021Hindi

Relationship

Hi Anu, I read your article about suicide among young people in these trying times. It is really very stressful.

Well I am a 53 year old person from Delhi. I don’t have a job. My savings have dried up.

I am mentally and emotionally broken. My wife and daughter left me last year. I am not being able to cope up with the situation and the humiliation I was subjected to and am still going through.

It's like facing a wall with no way out. I feel like committing suicide as I am all alone and don’t have any support system.

I don’t know what to do. The urge to end my life is too strong as I was betrayed and cheated by my loved ones.

I spoke to some suicide helplines regarding this but they were of no help.

I hope maybe you can help.

Ans: Dear J, suicide is never an option, so DO NOT try to access something that does not exist.

The pandemic hasn’t been easy on most people across the globe and each person is going through their own challenges.

How each one responds to that is what defines what’s happening next.

This might sound to you like a good preachy note, but do remember, you and only you alone are responsible for your moods and your state of mind.

Times are trying and each of us are going through the Pandemic in different ways. Some of us have lost jobs, some of us have lost our loved ones, some of us have lost our piece of mind…the list is endless.

Why should you choose to go through humiliation when that event is over now?

By replaying it over and over again, does it help change what had happened? What if you choose to move to a thought that empowers you?

If you think this is impossible, NO, it isn’t. It requires you to WANT to move from where you are to where you want to be.

Choosing to be in the same place and thinking the same things repeatedly gives you the same result. A different result, then MOVE please, NOW.

This movement brings in fresh perspectives and fresh ideas that you can infuse in finding an alternative job or career and also into your personal life.

Humiliation is something that you went through and that can’t be changed. But to relive it, is a choice of yours…now, you know what to do. All the best!

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Hi, I completed BA in Mass communication and pg diploma in advertising and marketing communication with only 5 months experience in advertising agency with specialization in client servicing And my age is 26 and have no any job or secure Career. Sometimes I think I had a mistake to choose this field, i tried too many times for getting a job and I'm not perfect in skills like English language, cunning nature and smart and at this age i pressured by my family, relatives and neighbours with too many irrelevant and irritating comments like tum bhatke huye ho. Tum se kuch nhi hone vala,, your age is marriage age and you are unemployed and unguided. Sometimes I think suicide is the best way to forget all think and sometimes I don't know what is my real goal and truth is i have no goal and currently i preparing for competitive exams like ssc and hssc but what is my goal I'm not sure where is I'm going I request you please guide me with better solution because no one is in the world is my best. I live alone I'm not interested to talk with anyone because all are selfish. Please please guide me.

Ans: Wow.. BA MASS Communication! & PG DIP in Advertising and Marketing.. Seriously no job.. Client Servicing is Ad.Sales...what gets you going creativity in Advertising.. plenty of scope... Age is just a number.. And 26 no quick fix, you have just started life.

Don't go by what others say, go by your conscience.. And the guy in the glass

The Guy in the Glass

When you get what you want in your struggle for pelf,
And the world makes you King for a day,
Then go to the mirror and look at yourself,
And see what that guy has to say.
For it isn't your Father, or Mother, or Wife,
Who judgement upon you must pass.
The feller whose verdict counts most in your life
Is the guy staring back from the glass.
He's the feller to please, never mind all the rest,
For he's with you clear up to the end,
And you've passed your most dangerous, difficult test
If the guy in the glass is your friend.
You may be like Jack Horner and "chisel" a plum,
And think you're a wonderful guy,
But the man in the glass says you're only a bum
If you can't look him straight in the eye.
You can fool the whole world down the pathway of years,
And get pats on the back as you pass,
But your final reward will be heartaches and tears
If you've cheated the guy in the glass.

Dale Wimbrow (c) 1934

You are a gem dust yourself off.. and shine... Suicide is nonsense.. Nobody will cry if you!?

Send your resume not more than 2 pages google top Ad agencies... English you will learn along with how to be suave!
They want people who know other regional languages too.. You are the one they are looking for!

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