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minu Question by minu on Jan 11, 2025Hindi
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Hi Anu I m married got last 18 years . I have 2 daughters .Elder us in 11th std science and younger is in 5th std . I more attached yo my younger daughter. I am always scolding my elder daughter as she doesn’t listen to me at all and always acts the opposite of what I tell her . She also doesn’t share anything about her life or any events or her plans with me or my husband. I come to know from her friends or there parents which annoys me a lot . Also myself and my husband relationship is not at all good . We are having lots of financial issues . He has incurred major loss in stock market and he wants to set it right and is involved with wrong people for making things proper. He’s hot zero knowledge of stock market and has taken multiple loans and now my parents are repaying the loans . He’s not ready to listen to anyone and also trying to avoid any kind if communication or conversation with me . Even our daughters are not getting good family support during there crucial age . I Ann confused and don’t understand how yo handle him and due to this issues I am always stressed and all my anger is on my daughter. Please guide me

Ans: Dear Minu,
It's possible that your older daughter has been a witness to many arguments between you and your husband in her growing years and that could have caused her to shut down and be within herself.
Whatever the reason, what's the point in being angry with her? When we want to see a behavior change from our children, it's our turn first. So, as parents work on your relationship first. When children grow up in a loving environment, they feel loved and are able to trust their parents. Work on building that trust with her where she feels safe to share things with you and her father...
It comes right back to the two of you as parents...
About his financial issues, I cannot suggest what he can do or not...but you can certainly talk to him about how it has begun to eat into your savings and how much it is bothering you. Hopefully when the two of you work on your relationship, he will be in a place where he will hear you out better.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Hi Anu, I am 45 year old and married from last 16 years and having 15 year old daughter . My Wife and I didn't have a good relation, We fight a lot, not sure what ever I speak she didn't like it and some how converted into argument , My wife is 10 year younger to me , I used to have good sex life at-least few year back, but relation was not good that time too, some how she is either having feeling of superiority or not sure what , She always blames me or my daughter if any things happen, she didn't ready to accept that she can be wrong . Previously even we used to have fight but overall things was fine , she used to generally fight but some how we do makeup after fight , now situation is out of control, she didn't accept her mistake and try to blame me for all the problem , she do over spend and if I try to control she start fighting, I think she just fight for what ever things she need for her selves , but always criticized / blame other , She pick up fight very easily with any one , She even fight a lot with our daughter . Even daughter some time suggest to go separate road than only she will understand , I try to go for concealing but no help , there also when used to discuss problem she hardly listen , even Councilor told her she must develop habit to listen others but nothing improve, I am not sure how to tackle this , She always sleep alone and if any disturbance she create ruckus , she want the things her own way if not than she can't tolerate . I am not sure but I need help here and problem after covid is more now , I try to manage these things previously but looks I don't have patience to handle this any more, I didn't like people blaming for no reason, it looks some time after doing so much for family I am nothing for my family and it is hurting me more. I will not say that I didn't fight , I do and mainly when I feel broken I shout on her and some time asked her to live the house , This may be as she always says she is looking for some one once she find she will leave the house , She always give threat and always say she didn't love me , She didn't find me attractive enough . She try to create environment where I should feel that I am not important person as well as social , I can write 10 more page around this but wanted to have some solution , not sure what could be best here . I wrote previously too but have not got any response yet.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I suggest that the two of you go and see a marriage therapist. This is not simply the job of a counselor; there is clearly a breakdown in the way your marriage is functioning...it needs both of you to build the marriage back again and the therapist will be able to see and review both sides and suggest/guide you two correctly.

10 or 20 pages are not going to help; what will help is that both of you sit down and think of why you are married and what you can do to rebuild it. Blaming her or yourself isn't anyway going to help...Rather than listing down each others' faults, try to work at this.

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 19, 2024Hindi
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Hi sir, I am 34 year women with 2 girl kids. I m working in IT and I earn good amount of livelihood. Sir I hv been married for 6 years and after 1 year of marriage me and my husband understanding issue started where he wants to dominate on me in all senses including financial stuff. But I was okay n in 1 year my 1st daughter born then serious issue started I had rejoined job n discontinued giving all my salary to him. I started savings for my kid where he was nt happy he indirectly demanded my complete salary to be given to him as I did before issue start. Bt in 2020 as lockdown happened he moved to his village where It was very difficult for me to work bt demanded to come to his place. I denied and concentrate my career. So he left us 2 years he did call n check how is kid. Then again he came back 2022 with elders we moved to together to city and again asked money as my sal was increased if nt asked me to barrow 50-60lac as loan n give to him for property which he agreed to make it my name in his place. Bt I denied bc I couldn't trust him meanwhile 2nd daughter born. I came for mother place n he started doing backstabbing abt me n my family within relatives. When I asked he stopped coming visiting me n my daughter and he turn up for 2 baby also it's been year now. Sir my question is ..I m fed up of his behaviour n I dont trust him. As I hv two kids is it really difficult to live without him in this society. As many of my relatives are suggesting go and call ur him how can you live alone with 2 daughter. Sir pls guide me what should I do now ..I tolerate him all these years for kids and society. Now I m done n scared as will I be able to handle all alone. My parents are big support and now I m nt in condition where I go legally against him. Is my decision of living by myself with my daughters and parents is correct or wrong decision or I should go with him.
Ans: Your situation is indeed complex and emotionally taxing. It's important to approach this with both clarity and compassion for yourself and your daughters. Here are some steps and considerations to help you navigate this:

Self-Reflection and Clarity
Acknowledge Your Feelings: It’s essential to recognize your feelings of frustration, fear, and exhaustion. These emotions are valid and need to be addressed.
Define Your Priorities: What are your primary concerns? Your children’s well-being, your financial independence, your personal peace, and safety are likely at the top of this list.
Evaluating Your Relationship
Assess Trust and Respect: Trust and mutual respect are fundamental to any relationship. If these are missing, it is challenging to maintain a healthy partnership.
Past Behaviors as Indicators: Look at the past behavior of your husband. Consistent demands for money, lack of support, and absence during critical times can be telling signs of his priorities and commitment.
Support System
Lean on Your Parents: Having your parents’ support is a significant advantage. They can provide emotional, physical, and perhaps even financial support as you navigate this period.
Professional Help: Consider seeking counseling or support groups for single mothers. These resources can provide guidance, emotional support, and practical advice.
Societal Pressure
Redefine Norms: Society often has rigid expectations, but your well-being and that of your children come first. Living according to societal norms at the cost of your mental peace and safety is not sustainable.
Role Models: Look for examples of other women who have successfully managed similar situations. Their stories can offer inspiration and practical advice.
Legal and Financial Considerations
Know Your Rights: Even if you’re not in a position to take legal action now, it’s essential to be informed about your rights regarding child support and alimony.
Financial Independence: Continue to safeguard your financial independence. This will provide security and stability for you and your daughters.
Decision Making
Short-Term vs. Long-Term: Think about both immediate needs and long-term goals. What decision will bring peace and stability now, and what will be beneficial in the future?
Children’s Well-Being: Consider the environment your children will grow up in. A peaceful, loving environment, even if it’s without their father, might be more beneficial than a toxic, conflict-ridden one.
Practical Steps
Document Everything: Keep records of communications and financial transactions. This documentation can be crucial if you decide to pursue legal action in the future.
Plan for Independence: Create a plan for your independent living situation, including budgeting, childcare, and career progression.
Final Thoughts
Choosing to live independently with your daughters is a courageous and often necessary step for many women in similar situations. Trust in your strength and the support of your parents. It’s important to remember that living a life of peace and dignity, even if it means being a single parent, is a powerful and positive example for your children.

You are not alone in this journey. Seek the support you need, trust your instincts, and prioritize your and your children’s well-being above all.

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 18, 2024Hindi
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Hi I am married for 2 years. My husband and FIL runs a business. My MIL is a retird HM from govt school. I am married to a lovable family. I am for ever grateful to my inlaws. We stay together and i have one SIL. All of the expenses and invesments are made by my husband. We have a 1yr daughter. Till date me and my husband had no financial communication. He gets whatever i what but we dont discuss how much income he has got and what he does. Also i dont know what my inlaws income and what they do and i dont want to interfere in it. Its none of my business. Its me who asks my husband to let me know our financial status. Sometimes he say but its not a regular financial discussion. I came to know that he is investing in lic policies for all of them. 50% spending 50%investmnts. Ofcourse my inlaws share some amount but major expenses and all major investments are from my husbands income. I expect him to let me know the financial status so that i can also have a knowledge on it but he never opens up and but he always gets me want i want. I had never asked him like wht are you spending for your mom dad sis when they are still independant.I never questioned him and i will not. Its our duty to look after parents without any expectation. i promised him that i will not be a hurdle in this. But recently he gave huge amount to my inlaws and he dint even tell me. I felt upset when I got to know it later. It had happend many times.The thing that made me sad is that my husband dint even consider me in this. Like after giving also he dint utter a word to me. i I would have not said dont give. I would have felt happy only. Because he is giving to his parents only. But my concern is he is not sharing his financial commitments with me. Is it ok for me to expect that he should share his financial status with me so that we can plan our future or am i wrong? When my inlaws questions me about finance that something he did to them i am like when iam unware of it. Its embrassing. I feel that a couple should have a financial communication without discrepancy. But my husband does not do it intentionally. He always says he forgot. But i think that a couple should spend time having a healthy talk about their own commitments and investments. Marriage is not always about fantacy, shopping, romance, relaxing cooking playin work etc... there should be some serious talks discussions right which will pave way for a healthy relationship growth understanding and a better future and healthy finacially stablev family let me know whether i am wrong or right. And also is it ok to talk to my husband to let my inlaws share his burden financially as they are financially independent too ( atleast their lics they can invest) not sure to discuss this. But i feel my husband is over burdened. Btw iam a homemaker
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There's nothing wrong in you wanting transparency when it comes to the family's finances. But the way it has been right from the beginning of your marriage, is that you did not ask and you were not told.
So, suddenly when you have expressed an interest in knowing and participating, your husband has not understood this. Be clear when you discuss with him that you wish to talk about it not to deter him from anything but to actually support him in whatever he does. He also is perhaps used to taking financial decisions all by himself and continues to do so...So, if something has changed within you, express it and allow him the time to change as well...

In your words: But i think that a couple should spend time having a healthy talk about their own commitments and investments.

Yes, but if it was this way right from the time when you two married, it would not be an issue. Your want now is not wrong, but has changed from what it sued to be...so, express, let him reflect on it and then have a healthy debate/discussion on it.

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Hi i am a married woman aged 45 years, i am happily married and have a loving husband. My husband travels a lot due to work and my son is studying in college in Pune. Everything was going fine in my life, but few months back a MBA graduate boy 23 years joined our office in my team. He had to report to me, and our company send us for sales corporatemeetings to Mumbai and other cities often. Gradually we became close and he confessed he had a crush on me. I was falttered but told him i am much older and married. Although i was very flattered that he found me attractive. I am tall 5ft 7 inches and kept myself very fit and always men keep hitting on me but i always ignore them. On our last trip together we went for a meal and had a few drinks together. Then i told him i was sleepy and needed to go to my room. He accompanied to my room and had a coffee. I had a bavk ache and he said he can massage me for 5 mins. I hesitantly agreed during the massage one thing led to another and we had sex and since then we have started having sex whenever we travel togther often. He says he truly loves me but for next 5 years he cannot marry anyone. I have now started loving him a lot i often fight with my husband. I want to continue this affair but am afraid if my husband finds out or if people in office come to know. Strangely another young man in office has starterd showing interest in me and asked me out for a coffee. He also says he likes me a lot anf is caring, I am confused shall i also go for a simple coffee. what if my husband or younger boyfriend find out. Is what i am doing wrong, i just want to live my life fully am i wrong ???
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If you do not have an open marriage, then what you are doing is certainly wrong. When has cheating ever been right? Especially when you did not mention anything wrong with your husband. I am not judging you; but I would suggest that if you want to keep this up, you either come clean to your husband or let him go. This isn't fair. You living your life to the fullest should not harm or hurt others.
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I am selling my 3bhk flat around 6000000 is it compulsory to invest that money in other property? if i want to invest it what is the best options available to avoid tax?
Ans: Selling a property attracts capital gains tax. Since your flat is a long-term capital asset (held for more than 2 years), the Long-Term Capital Gains (LTCG) tax rate is 20% with indexation.

LTCG Calculation = Sale Price - Indexed Cost of Acquisition
Tax Payable = 20% on the LTCG amount
However, you can avoid paying tax by reinvesting the capital gains under certain sections of the Income Tax Act.

Ways to Save Capital Gains Tax
1. Reinvest in Another Residential Property (Section 54)
If you buy another residential property within 2 years or construct within 3 years, you get an exemption on the LTCG amount.
The new property must be in India and should be held for at least 3 years.
If you sell it before 3 years, the exemption is reversed.
? Best for: Those who want to own another property.

2. Invest in Capital Gains Bonds (Section 54EC)
You can invest up to Rs 50 lakhs in NHAI or REC capital gains bonds within 6 months of sale.
The lock-in period is 5 years.
Interest is taxable but the capital gains are exempt.
? Best for: Those who want a risk-free investment with tax savings.

3. Deposit in Capital Gains Account Scheme (CGAS)
If you haven’t decided where to invest, deposit the LTCG in a Capital Gains Account Scheme (CGAS) before the IT return filing deadline.
This gives you time to buy property or construct a house.
The funds must be used within 3 years, or they become taxable.
? Best for: Those who need time before investing in real estate.

Other Investment Options (But No Tax Exemption)
If you don’t reinvest in property or bonds, the LTCG amount will be taxed at 20%. You can still invest the remaining amount in:

Mutual Funds – Equity funds for long-term growth
Fixed Deposits – Safe returns but fully taxable
Stock Market – High risk, high return potential
These options do not offer tax exemption but help grow wealth.

Final Insights
If you want tax-free gains, reinvest in property or capital gains bonds.
If you don’t want to lock funds, pay LTCG tax and invest in other assets.
Use the Capital Gains Account Scheme if you need time to decide.
Plan based on your financial goals and liquidity needs.

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Dear Sir, i'm 27 years old and wish to retire by 50. I live in my own home and investing 50k monthly sip to below funds from past 1 year. 20k tata small cap/ 10k parag parekh flexi cap/ 20k motilal oswal mid cap. Could you please guide me in long term if this would be sustainable or require some adjustments in funds or distribution? I'm hoping for higher returns to have enough big corpse at the time of retirement so not included large cap funds.
Ans: You are investing early, which is a great decision. Your goal of retiring at 50 is ambitious. A strong investment strategy will help achieve it.

Current Investment Overview
SIP Contribution – Rs 50,000 per month
Fund Allocation
Small Cap – Rs 20,000
Mid Cap – Rs 20,000
Flexi Cap – Rs 10,000
Investment Duration – 1 year completed
Key Observations
1. High Risk Allocation – Need for Balance
Your portfolio is heavily tilted toward small and mid caps.
These funds offer high returns but come with volatility.
A more balanced allocation will reduce risk.
2. Absence of Large Cap Exposure
Large caps provide stability in market downturns.
A portion of the portfolio should be in large-cap funds.
This will reduce portfolio fluctuations over time.
3. Flexi Cap Fund – Good Choice for Diversification
This fund type adjusts between market caps.
It provides flexibility based on market conditions.
Retain this fund for better risk management.
Recommended Adjustments
1. Optimizing Fund Distribution
Reduce small-cap allocation from Rs 20,000 to Rs 15,000.
Reduce mid-cap allocation from Rs 20,000 to Rs 15,000.
Add a large-cap fund with Rs 10,000 allocation.
Increase flexi-cap allocation from Rs 10,000 to Rs 15,000.
2. Adding Debt for Stability
As you get closer to retirement, reduce equity exposure.
Start a small allocation in debt funds after 40.
This will ensure capital protection.
3. Tax Planning Considerations
Capital gains tax will apply when you redeem funds.
LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
STCG is taxed at 20%.
Plan withdrawals in a tax-efficient manner.
Final Insights
Continue SIPs with a more balanced allocation.
Add large-cap funds for stability.
Include debt funds closer to retirement.
Plan tax-efficient withdrawals in the future.
This strategy will ensure a strong retirement corpus.

Best Regards,

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Hi ... I have been very bad a financial planning and have been living the good life without really bothering about the future. I am 48 and work with a MNC and make around 4.5L per month after taxes. I am married with a 17 yr old son who's in 11th. I currently have savings in my bank and equity to the tune of 35L. I have been investing around 80K per month in SIP's for the last 3 years. I have an apartment which is worth around 4cr now and I have a home loan of around 1cr remaining on it. In addition, I have a personal loan of around 40L taken for home interiors (4 more years pending on it). I feel I am not really set up well for my retirement. What would you suggest? My monthly expenses after all this do not have any room for savings.
Ans: You have a strong income and investments. But high loans are affecting savings. You need a structured plan to reduce debt and secure retirement.

Current Financial Overview
Income

Rs 4.5 lakh per month after taxes
Investments & Savings

Rs 35 lakh in bank and equity
Rs 80,000 SIP per month (3 years)
Assets

Apartment worth Rs 4 crore
Loans

Home loan: Rs 1 crore remaining
Personal loan: Rs 40 lakh (4 years left)
Expenses

No room for additional savings after all expenses
Key Financial Concerns
1. Home Loan & Personal Loan – Priority on Repayment
Loan EMIs are affecting savings.
Reduce home loan tenure by increasing EMI, if possible.
Try to prepay the personal loan first. It has a higher interest rate.
Avoid taking more loans until these are cleared.
2. Retirement Planning – Building a Strong Corpus
Your current savings are low for retirement. You need a better plan.

Increase SIPs when personal loan is cleared.
Allocate funds across equity and debt for long-term growth.
Consider PPF, EPF, and debt funds for stability.
Gradually move funds to safer investments as retirement nears.
3. Son’s Higher Education – Plan Early
Your son will enter college in two years. You need a dedicated fund.

Start a separate SIP to cover education costs.
Use debt funds for short-term needs.
Avoid withdrawing from retirement savings for education.
4. Insurance – Protect Your Finances
Ensure you have term insurance of at least Rs 1.5 crore.
Maintain health insurance for family with a high cover.
Avoid traditional insurance plans with low returns.
Final Insights
Focus on repaying personal loan first.
Prepay the home loan gradually for financial freedom.
Increase SIPs once debt reduces.
Start a dedicated education fund for your son.
Build a diversified retirement corpus with equity and debt.
A disciplined approach will secure your future.

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Hello Sir, I am 49 Yrs of Age and working in Private Firm in Mid Management. Today my monthly expenditure is around 40000 and wants to retire at the age of 59-60. But my daughter is of 4 yrs only . As on date I invest on SIP - Monthly 40K and Equity - 1.5 Lks.. Portfolio of around 19 Lks. I have purchased two Flats -01 is free debt and on another Housing Loan of 21lks is upto 2032. FD is of around 35Lkhs. PF balance is of now- 22lkhs and PPF of Rs 6 lkh . Mediclaim for family of 50lkhs per year. Under 80 C - monthly premium of around 25 K along with terms plan of 50Lkhs. I want to purchase open plot in Nagpur for investment and future planning, Funds i will use from FD of around 25 Lks..is this wise decision? Also I have 35 lks parental Property but it will transfer to me after 10 Yrs .....Pls advise how to secure my daughter future and his education and also post retirement my expenditure.
Ans: You have a well-structured portfolio with SIPs, equity investments, FDs, and real estate. Your focus on retirement at 59-60 and securing your daughter’s future is crucial. Let’s assess your financial standing and guide you towards a more structured approach.

Current Financial Overview
Investments

SIP: Rs 40,000 per month
Equity: Rs 1.5 lakh lump sum investment
Total Portfolio: Rs 19 lakh
Real Estate

One flat is debt-free
Second flat has a Rs 21 lakh home loan till 2032
Fixed Deposits

Rs 35 lakh in FD
Provident Fund & PPF

PF Balance: Rs 22 lakh
PPF: Rs 6 lakh
Insurance & Tax Savings

Mediclaim: Rs 50 lakh per year
Life Insurance: Rs 50 lakh term plan
Monthly insurance premium under 80C: Rs 25,000
Future Real Estate Plan

Planning to invest Rs 25 lakh in an open plot in Nagpur
Parental Property

Rs 35 lakh property expected to be transferred in 10 years
Key Financial Considerations
1. Should You Invest Rs 25 Lakh in an Open Plot?
Real estate is not liquid, making it difficult to use in emergencies.
Selling at the right price may take years.
Property maintenance and legal issues can add costs.
Instead, consider investing in equity or mutual funds for higher flexibility.
It’s better to keep Rs 25 lakh diversified in liquid investments rather than real estate.

2. Retirement Planning – Securing Post-Retirement Expenses
Your current monthly expense is Rs 40,000. This will rise due to inflation. You need a solid retirement corpus.

Continue SIPs and Increase Contribution Yearly

Rs 40,000 SIPs are good, but increase them by 10% yearly.
This ensures long-term wealth creation.
Allocate FD Funds Wisely

FD returns are low and taxable.
Shift a portion to equity and hybrid funds for better growth.
Utilise PF and PPF Efficiently

PF will grow by retirement but won’t be enough alone.
Continue PPF for stable, tax-free returns.
Debt Fund Investments for Stability

Gradually move funds to debt funds five years before retirement.
This protects against market volatility.
Health Insurance is Well-Planned

Rs 50 lakh mediclaim is a strong financial shield.
Ensure coverage continues post-retirement.
3. Planning for Your Daughter’s Future
Your daughter is just four years old. You need a structured education and marriage fund.

Start a Separate SIP for Her Education

Allocate at least Rs 15,000 per month in equity funds.
Increase by 10% annually to cover rising education costs.
Use Debt Funds for Short-Term Needs

For school fees or immediate expenses, use debt funds.
These are safer than FDs and provide better returns.
Avoid Child ULIPs or Traditional Insurance Plans

These give low returns with high charges.
Instead, use mutual funds for higher growth.
Consider a Sukanya Samriddhi Account

This provides tax-free returns and stability for long-term goals.
Invest a small portion to diversify savings.
Final Insights
Avoid investing Rs 25 lakh in an open plot.
Increase SIPs yearly and allocate part of FD funds to mutual funds.
Start a dedicated education fund for your daughter.
Focus on equity growth while gradually securing assets in debt before retirement.
With structured planning, you can achieve financial security for yourself and your daughter.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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