Home > Relationship > Question
Need Expert Advice?Our Gurus Can Help

Is My Anger Towards My Daughter Warranted? 18-Year Marriage, 2 Daughters, Financial Issues

Anu

Anu Krishna  |1571 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jan 20, 2025

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
She is an executive member of the Indian Association of Adolescent Health.... more
minu Question by minu on Jan 11, 2025Hindi
Listen
Relationship

Hi Anu I m married got last 18 years . I have 2 daughters .Elder us in 11th std science and younger is in 5th std . I more attached yo my younger daughter. I am always scolding my elder daughter as she doesn’t listen to me at all and always acts the opposite of what I tell her . She also doesn’t share anything about her life or any events or her plans with me or my husband. I come to know from her friends or there parents which annoys me a lot . Also myself and my husband relationship is not at all good . We are having lots of financial issues . He has incurred major loss in stock market and he wants to set it right and is involved with wrong people for making things proper. He’s hot zero knowledge of stock market and has taken multiple loans and now my parents are repaying the loans . He’s not ready to listen to anyone and also trying to avoid any kind if communication or conversation with me . Even our daughters are not getting good family support during there crucial age . I Ann confused and don’t understand how yo handle him and due to this issues I am always stressed and all my anger is on my daughter. Please guide me

Ans: Dear Minu,
It's possible that your older daughter has been a witness to many arguments between you and your husband in her growing years and that could have caused her to shut down and be within herself.
Whatever the reason, what's the point in being angry with her? When we want to see a behavior change from our children, it's our turn first. So, as parents work on your relationship first. When children grow up in a loving environment, they feel loved and are able to trust their parents. Work on building that trust with her where she feels safe to share things with you and her father...
It comes right back to the two of you as parents...
About his financial issues, I cannot suggest what he can do or not...but you can certainly talk to him about how it has begun to eat into your savings and how much it is bothering you. Hopefully when the two of you work on your relationship, he will be in a place where he will hear you out better.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

You may like to see similar questions and answers below

Anu

Anu Krishna  |1571 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Feb 08, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 02, 2024Hindi
Listen
Relationship
Hi Anu, I am 45 year old and married from last 16 years and having 15 year old daughter . My Wife and I didn't have a good relation, We fight a lot, not sure what ever I speak she didn't like it and some how converted into argument , My wife is 10 year younger to me , I used to have good sex life at-least few year back, but relation was not good that time too, some how she is either having feeling of superiority or not sure what , She always blames me or my daughter if any things happen, she didn't ready to accept that she can be wrong . Previously even we used to have fight but overall things was fine , she used to generally fight but some how we do makeup after fight , now situation is out of control, she didn't accept her mistake and try to blame me for all the problem , she do over spend and if I try to control she start fighting, I think she just fight for what ever things she need for her selves , but always criticized / blame other , She pick up fight very easily with any one , She even fight a lot with our daughter . Even daughter some time suggest to go separate road than only she will understand , I try to go for concealing but no help , there also when used to discuss problem she hardly listen , even Councilor told her she must develop habit to listen others but nothing improve, I am not sure how to tackle this , She always sleep alone and if any disturbance she create ruckus , she want the things her own way if not than she can't tolerate . I am not sure but I need help here and problem after covid is more now , I try to manage these things previously but looks I don't have patience to handle this any more, I didn't like people blaming for no reason, it looks some time after doing so much for family I am nothing for my family and it is hurting me more. I will not say that I didn't fight , I do and mainly when I feel broken I shout on her and some time asked her to live the house , This may be as she always says she is looking for some one once she find she will leave the house , She always give threat and always say she didn't love me , She didn't find me attractive enough . She try to create environment where I should feel that I am not important person as well as social , I can write 10 more page around this but wanted to have some solution , not sure what could be best here . I wrote previously too but have not got any response yet.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I suggest that the two of you go and see a marriage therapist. This is not simply the job of a counselor; there is clearly a breakdown in the way your marriage is functioning...it needs both of you to build the marriage back again and the therapist will be able to see and review both sides and suggest/guide you two correctly.

10 or 20 pages are not going to help; what will help is that both of you sit down and think of why you are married and what you can do to rebuild it. Blaming her or yourself isn't anyway going to help...Rather than listing down each others' faults, try to work at this.

All the best!

..Read more

Dr Ashish

Dr Ashish Sehgal  |119 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jul 15, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 19, 2024Hindi
Relationship
Hi sir, I am 34 year women with 2 girl kids. I m working in IT and I earn good amount of livelihood. Sir I hv been married for 6 years and after 1 year of marriage me and my husband understanding issue started where he wants to dominate on me in all senses including financial stuff. But I was okay n in 1 year my 1st daughter born then serious issue started I had rejoined job n discontinued giving all my salary to him. I started savings for my kid where he was nt happy he indirectly demanded my complete salary to be given to him as I did before issue start. Bt in 2020 as lockdown happened he moved to his village where It was very difficult for me to work bt demanded to come to his place. I denied and concentrate my career. So he left us 2 years he did call n check how is kid. Then again he came back 2022 with elders we moved to together to city and again asked money as my sal was increased if nt asked me to barrow 50-60lac as loan n give to him for property which he agreed to make it my name in his place. Bt I denied bc I couldn't trust him meanwhile 2nd daughter born. I came for mother place n he started doing backstabbing abt me n my family within relatives. When I asked he stopped coming visiting me n my daughter and he turn up for 2 baby also it's been year now. Sir my question is ..I m fed up of his behaviour n I dont trust him. As I hv two kids is it really difficult to live without him in this society. As many of my relatives are suggesting go and call ur him how can you live alone with 2 daughter. Sir pls guide me what should I do now ..I tolerate him all these years for kids and society. Now I m done n scared as will I be able to handle all alone. My parents are big support and now I m nt in condition where I go legally against him. Is my decision of living by myself with my daughters and parents is correct or wrong decision or I should go with him.
Ans: Your situation is indeed complex and emotionally taxing. It's important to approach this with both clarity and compassion for yourself and your daughters. Here are some steps and considerations to help you navigate this:

Self-Reflection and Clarity
Acknowledge Your Feelings: It’s essential to recognize your feelings of frustration, fear, and exhaustion. These emotions are valid and need to be addressed.
Define Your Priorities: What are your primary concerns? Your children’s well-being, your financial independence, your personal peace, and safety are likely at the top of this list.
Evaluating Your Relationship
Assess Trust and Respect: Trust and mutual respect are fundamental to any relationship. If these are missing, it is challenging to maintain a healthy partnership.
Past Behaviors as Indicators: Look at the past behavior of your husband. Consistent demands for money, lack of support, and absence during critical times can be telling signs of his priorities and commitment.
Support System
Lean on Your Parents: Having your parents’ support is a significant advantage. They can provide emotional, physical, and perhaps even financial support as you navigate this period.
Professional Help: Consider seeking counseling or support groups for single mothers. These resources can provide guidance, emotional support, and practical advice.
Societal Pressure
Redefine Norms: Society often has rigid expectations, but your well-being and that of your children come first. Living according to societal norms at the cost of your mental peace and safety is not sustainable.
Role Models: Look for examples of other women who have successfully managed similar situations. Their stories can offer inspiration and practical advice.
Legal and Financial Considerations
Know Your Rights: Even if you’re not in a position to take legal action now, it’s essential to be informed about your rights regarding child support and alimony.
Financial Independence: Continue to safeguard your financial independence. This will provide security and stability for you and your daughters.
Decision Making
Short-Term vs. Long-Term: Think about both immediate needs and long-term goals. What decision will bring peace and stability now, and what will be beneficial in the future?
Children’s Well-Being: Consider the environment your children will grow up in. A peaceful, loving environment, even if it’s without their father, might be more beneficial than a toxic, conflict-ridden one.
Practical Steps
Document Everything: Keep records of communications and financial transactions. This documentation can be crucial if you decide to pursue legal action in the future.
Plan for Independence: Create a plan for your independent living situation, including budgeting, childcare, and career progression.
Final Thoughts
Choosing to live independently with your daughters is a courageous and often necessary step for many women in similar situations. Trust in your strength and the support of your parents. It’s important to remember that living a life of peace and dignity, even if it means being a single parent, is a powerful and positive example for your children.

You are not alone in this journey. Seek the support you need, trust your instincts, and prioritize your and your children’s well-being above all.

..Read more

Anu

Anu Krishna  |1571 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Oct 28, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 18, 2024Hindi
Listen
Relationship
Hi I am married for 2 years. My husband and FIL runs a business. My MIL is a retird HM from govt school. I am married to a lovable family. I am for ever grateful to my inlaws. We stay together and i have one SIL. All of the expenses and invesments are made by my husband. We have a 1yr daughter. Till date me and my husband had no financial communication. He gets whatever i what but we dont discuss how much income he has got and what he does. Also i dont know what my inlaws income and what they do and i dont want to interfere in it. Its none of my business. Its me who asks my husband to let me know our financial status. Sometimes he say but its not a regular financial discussion. I came to know that he is investing in lic policies for all of them. 50% spending 50%investmnts. Ofcourse my inlaws share some amount but major expenses and all major investments are from my husbands income. I expect him to let me know the financial status so that i can also have a knowledge on it but he never opens up and but he always gets me want i want. I had never asked him like wht are you spending for your mom dad sis when they are still independant.I never questioned him and i will not. Its our duty to look after parents without any expectation. i promised him that i will not be a hurdle in this. But recently he gave huge amount to my inlaws and he dint even tell me. I felt upset when I got to know it later. It had happend many times.The thing that made me sad is that my husband dint even consider me in this. Like after giving also he dint utter a word to me. i I would have not said dont give. I would have felt happy only. Because he is giving to his parents only. But my concern is he is not sharing his financial commitments with me. Is it ok for me to expect that he should share his financial status with me so that we can plan our future or am i wrong? When my inlaws questions me about finance that something he did to them i am like when iam unware of it. Its embrassing. I feel that a couple should have a financial communication without discrepancy. But my husband does not do it intentionally. He always says he forgot. But i think that a couple should spend time having a healthy talk about their own commitments and investments. Marriage is not always about fantacy, shopping, romance, relaxing cooking playin work etc... there should be some serious talks discussions right which will pave way for a healthy relationship growth understanding and a better future and healthy finacially stablev family let me know whether i am wrong or right. And also is it ok to talk to my husband to let my inlaws share his burden financially as they are financially independent too ( atleast their lics they can invest) not sure to discuss this. But i feel my husband is over burdened. Btw iam a homemaker
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There's nothing wrong in you wanting transparency when it comes to the family's finances. But the way it has been right from the beginning of your marriage, is that you did not ask and you were not told.
So, suddenly when you have expressed an interest in knowing and participating, your husband has not understood this. Be clear when you discuss with him that you wish to talk about it not to deter him from anything but to actually support him in whatever he does. He also is perhaps used to taking financial decisions all by himself and continues to do so...So, if something has changed within you, express it and allow him the time to change as well...

In your words: But i think that a couple should spend time having a healthy talk about their own commitments and investments.

Yes, but if it was this way right from the time when you two married, it would not be an issue. Your want now is not wrong, but has changed from what it sued to be...so, express, let him reflect on it and then have a healthy debate/discussion on it.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

..Read more

Anu

Anu Krishna  |1571 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Feb 05, 2025

Latest Questions
Janak

Janak Patel  |23 Answers  |Ask -

MF, PF Expert - Answered on Mar 26, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 14, 2025Hindi
Listen
Money
Hello Sir, I have saving 50 lakhs, i am looking for monthly return of 30 k What the best to possible way to invest this amount. Is it good option to invest in index fund . Please advice
Ans: Hi,

You have not clarified the duration of your requirement, how long do you need monthly return?
But lets assume this is as long as possible.
There are many solutions to this and that involves knowing a lot more about you and your life state but will anyways will provide you a couple of options.
1. Fixed income investment - Invest in FD's at 7%, this will earn you 3.5 lakhs a year and should be covering your requirement. But the savings will remain at 50 lakhs. If the rate on FD falls down, then you will end up using your savings to cover your requirements. So this option may not be feasible for a long period. The risk being low, it may not grow your saving and it can erode your saving too.
2. Invest in Equity (mutual funds) - You mentioned Index funds, they can be considered along with other equity mutual funds too. But understand, there is a higher level of risk involved. Markets are and will be volatile and the returns will not be the same each year. If you have the temperament/patience to stay invested in market fluctuations then venture in this direction. When you are looking to fulfill your requirement each month, your investment will always stay on your mind and this will trigger behavioral traits and hence I mention temperament. Many people get unsettled seeing their investments erode in a short period of time and take decisions which are not rationale. Hence enter knowing the risk and yourself.
3. Middle ground - Invest in balanced option - something like a hybrid fund. If you are conservative (low risk), then go for conservative hybrid mutual fund schemes (more Debt and less equity) and expect returns slightly above your FD in the range of 8-9% which will serve your requirement and can add a bit to your savings. If you are not conservative and understand that market linked investment can provide a little extra boost to your investment then balance your risk with Balanced advantage Mutual Fund schemes (balanced approach to equity and debt). These schemes can provide you better returns up to double digits 10-12% and hence after meeting your requirements, your investment can grow too.

Please understand, Equity brings in market risks and hence have expectations but also understand the risks involved. Make your decision based on the appetite you have for loss bearing and safety and accordingly go ahead. Consult a good advisor or a financial planner who can guide you after knowing more about you and your requirement and also help understand tax implications.

Thanks and Regards
Janak Patel
Certified Financial Planner.

...Read more

Ramalingam

Ramalingam Kalirajan  |8157 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Mar 26, 2025

Money
Dear Experts, As I have sold my flat for Rs 73 lacs in Mumbai, and I have no capital gains in that. Kindly let me know the best possible way to invest. As of now I am not interested in SWP.
Ans: Your Rs. 73 lakh can be structured for long-term wealth creation while maintaining stability and liquidity. Below is a comprehensive 360-degree investment approach that aligns with your goals and risk appetite.

Understanding Your Investment Goals
Before investing, it is important to define your financial objectives. Different investment instruments serve different purposes.

Short-Term Goals (0-3 years): Emergency fund, travel, planned expenses.

Medium-Term Goals (3-7 years): Buying a car, funding a business, higher education.

Long-Term Goals (7+ years): Retirement planning, wealth accumulation.

Since you are not interested in SWP, your focus should be on capital growth rather than generating regular cash flow.

It is also essential to maintain liquidity for unforeseen expenses. A portion of your funds should be in easily accessible instruments.

Asset Allocation for Maximum Returns
A well-balanced investment strategy involves diversification across multiple asset classes. This helps in reducing risk and optimizing returns.

A strategic allocation of your Rs. 73 lakh can be:

Equity Mutual Funds: 60-70% for high growth.

Debt Instruments: 20-25% for stability.

Gold ETFs or Sovereign Gold Bonds: 5-10% for inflation hedge.

Liquid Investments: 5-10% for emergencies.

The percentage allocation depends on your risk appetite and time horizon.

Equity Mutual Funds for High Growth
Equity mutual funds are one of the best options for long-term wealth creation. They offer superior returns compared to other asset classes.

Why Actively Managed Funds Over Index Funds?
Actively managed funds aim to outperform the market, while index funds only track it.

Skilled fund managers adjust portfolios based on market conditions.

Index funds lack flexibility and can underperform in volatile markets.

By investing in actively managed funds, you can potentially achieve better returns over a long period.

Recommended Categories of Equity Mutual Funds
Flexicap Funds: Invest across market capitalizations for diversification.

Large & Midcap Funds: Balance between stability and growth.

Focused Funds: Invest in a limited number of high-conviction stocks.

Thematic & Sectoral Funds: Suitable for high-growth industries but should not exceed 10-15% of your equity allocation.

By distributing your funds across these categories, you can manage risk while optimizing returns.

Debt Investments for Stability
Equity markets can be volatile, so having debt investments is essential for stability.

Why Debt Investments?
Provides predictable returns with lower risk.

Helps in portfolio diversification.

Protects against stock market fluctuations.

Suitable Debt Instruments
Corporate Bonds: Offer better returns than fixed deposits.

Debt Mutual Funds: Provide flexibility and tax efficiency.

Government Securities: Low-risk investment for capital protection.

Avoid bank fixed deposits unless you need absolute safety, as they may not beat inflation over time.

Gold Investments for Inflation Hedge
Gold acts as a hedge against inflation and economic uncertainties.

Best Ways to Invest in Gold
Gold ETFs: Offer liquidity and easy trading.

Sovereign Gold Bonds (SGBs): Provide additional interest income.

Limit gold allocation to 5-10% of your portfolio to maintain diversification.

Tax Considerations for Optimized Returns
Understanding taxation is crucial for effective investment planning.

Tax on Equity Mutual Funds
Long-Term Capital Gains (LTCG): Gains above Rs. 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.

Short-Term Capital Gains (STCG): Taxed at 20%.

Tax on Debt Mutual Funds
Both LTCG and STCG are taxed as per your income tax slab.

By strategically planning withdrawals, you can reduce tax liability.

Importance of Investing Through a Certified Financial Planner
Certified Financial Planners (CFPs) have expertise in fund selection and risk management.

Investing through a Mutual Fund Distributor (MFD) with CFP credentials ensures proper advisory support.

Direct funds may lack expert guidance, leading to uninformed investment decisions.

Investing through a professional can help in selecting the right funds based on your financial goals.

Liquidity Planning for Emergencies
Since you have Rs. 73 lakh, it is important to set aside a portion for unexpected expenses.

Keep Rs. 5-7 lakh in liquid funds or high-interest savings accounts.

Ensure accessibility without compromising returns.

This will prevent the need to redeem long-term investments during market downturns.

Review and Rebalancing Strategy
Monitor your portfolio every six months.

Rebalance if any asset class exceeds its target allocation.

Avoid frequent changes to stay aligned with long-term goals.

Market fluctuations can impact your asset allocation. Regular reviews ensure your portfolio remains on track.

Risk Management and Market Volatility
Investing in equity involves risks, but strategic planning can minimize them.

Stay invested for the long term to ride out market fluctuations.

Avoid panic selling during corrections.

Maintain diversification to reduce portfolio risk.

Risk management is crucial for sustained wealth creation.

Final Insights
Invest with a clear long-term strategy.

Diversification ensures balanced growth and stability.

Regular review and professional guidance enhance returns.

Minimize tax impact by planning withdrawals strategically.

Stay committed to long-term goals without getting influenced by short-term market movements.

By following this structured approach, your Rs. 73 lakh can be invested effectively for wealth creation.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP
Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

...Read more

Ramalingam

Ramalingam Kalirajan  |8157 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Mar 26, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 26, 2025Hindi
Listen
Money
Dear Experts, As I have sold my flat for Rs 73 lacs in Mumbai, and I have no capital gains in that. Kindly let me know the best possible way to invest. As of now I am not interested in SWP.
Ans: Your Rs. 73 lakh can be strategically invested to create long-term wealth. Below is a detailed breakdown of how to approach this investment.

Assessing Your Investment Goals and Time Horizon
Clearly define your financial goals before investing.

Classify your needs into short-term (0-3 years), medium-term (3-7 years), and long-term (7+ years).

As you are not interested in SWP, focus on growth-oriented investments.

Ensure liquidity for any short-term or emergency needs.

Asset Allocation for Optimal Returns
Diversify your investment across different asset classes to reduce risk.

A mix of equity mutual funds, debt instruments, and gold ETFs can offer a balanced approach.

Your risk tolerance and expected returns should guide your allocation.

Equity Mutual Funds for Long-Term Growth
Actively managed equity funds can deliver higher returns than index funds.

Choose funds that align with your risk appetite and time horizon.

Consider diversified categories such as flexicap, large & midcap, and focused funds.

Thematic and sectoral funds should be limited to 10-15% of your portfolio.

Debt Investments for Stability
Some portion of your corpus can be parked in corporate bonds for stability.

Debt mutual funds can be an option if you need lower volatility.

Avoid FDs as they may not beat inflation in the long run.

Gold ETFs for Inflation Hedge
Gold ETFs can provide diversification and an inflation hedge.

Limit gold allocation to 5-10% of your portfolio.

Tax Considerations and Efficient Investing
Equity fund gains above Rs. 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.

Debt fund gains are taxed as per your income tax slab.

Invest through a Certified Financial Planner to optimize taxation and selection.

Periodic Review and Rebalancing
Review your portfolio every six months.

Rebalance if any asset class becomes overweight.

Stay invested for the long term and avoid unnecessary withdrawals.

Final Insights
Invest based on your goals, risk profile, and market conditions.

Prioritize long-term growth over short-term fluctuations.

Diversification and professional guidance can maximize returns.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP
Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

...Read more

Janak

Janak Patel  |23 Answers  |Ask -

MF, PF Expert - Answered on Mar 26, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 06, 2025Hindi
Listen
Money
Hello Sir, I am 43 year old guy with own house in metro and no liabilities/loan. My current retirement portfolio consists of Equity MF 1.75 Cr, Debt MF 35 Lakhs, PF & Gratuity 36 Lakhs (Total: 2.46 Cr) . I will reach 3 Cr in next 2 years and I plan to retire by then. I also have a plot worth 30 lakhs I will rebalance my portfolio to have 50% Equity and 50% Debt/Fixed Income. If my monthly expense is 60,000 with no dependents, will my portfolio last for 40 years with 7% inflation and 8% returns?
Ans: Hi,

You have decided to retire early and you have already accumulated 2.46 Cr + assets without any outstanding liabilities. Congratulations on your achievements.
Retiring early is on many peoples wish-list and you too have the same desire. So lets see how you are placed for early retirement.
Expecting to have a corpus of 3 Cr in the next couple of years and you have planned a rebalancing of the portfolio too. So with the inflation rate of 7% and return rate of 8% as acceptable, lets see what to expect in the future after 40 years.

Short answer - After 40 years you will have a corpus of over 10 Cr remaining after expenses are taken care of.
This is primarily because your withdrawal/expenses are much below the growth/returns on the portfolio and hence each year the value of your portfolio in increasing.

Lets me clarify that this is not considering any tax liabilities you will need to service on the withdrawals each year. The tax liabilities will depend on the composition of your portfolio and your strategy of withdrawal amounts from Equity and debt/fixed income buckets.
But I am sure even after considering tax liabilities, your corpus will be sufficient and at the end of 40 years you will still have a considerable amount to pass on as inheritance to your loved ones/charity (though you mentioned no dependents).

I would like to recommend you have good Health cover (outside of your employer) and buy it asap. Also retirement of 40 years is a long time and hence do give some thought on how you plan to occupy your time. I hope you have a plan of what you will do once retired. Engage yourself in meaningful and fulfilling activities and keep minimum idle time - exercises, sports, reading, cooking, meeting/catching up with friends and family etc. This will help you stay healthy in mind and body. As money is not your concern, you don't need to think of earning any income from these activities/engagements, so it should be about giving you pleasant experiences. Best time to travel is in early retirement, so go and enjoy.

I also recommend, that you engage/consult with a Certified Financial Planner who will guide you with your retirement corpus planning and other requirements including taxation. Any wrong decision at an early stage can prove very costly and the impact can be felt for long too. Hence it will prudent to get the right advice and guidance at appropriate time.

All the best for long and enjoyable future.

Thanks & Regards
Janak Patel
Certified Financial Planner.

...Read more

Ramalingam

Ramalingam Kalirajan  |8157 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Mar 26, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 26, 2025Hindi
Listen
Money
I am 34 Years old. Earning 80k in hand. Till now I have been through loans due to family constraints. Now I have repaid all my loans in advance by prepaying them. I invested in one mutual fund Mirae asset ELSS. But now I have stopped SIP in it. It currently has 2.20 Lacs. I have 3 lacs in bank and given 4 lacs to someone. Has KVP of 2 lacs maturing in 2033. Wife has two LIC policies maturing in 2033 with 15 lacs approx as maturity amount. I have two kids (boys) 1 and 5 years old. As I am in paramilitary so investing in NPS from past 9 years, currently it has 16.5 lacs corpus with 26 years of my job remaining. I want to invest in mutual funds 37k per month. I have no loans, no credit card and no other liability. I have chosen Parag Parikh Flexi cap-10000 SBI Gold Durect Plan Growth-5000 Bharat 22 Index Fund Fund-5000 Nippon India Large Cap-5000 Motilal Oswal Mid Cap-4000 Nippon India Small Cap-4000 Tata small cap-4000 All are direct plans. Want to start them all in Groww app from Apr 2025. I want to buy a house in next 8-10 years of approx 50Lacs current value. My car is ageing and want to replace it in next one year. Please suggest me if my approach is good or do I have to make adjustments.
Ans: Your disciplined approach to finances is impressive. Paying off loans early was a great decision. Now, you can focus on growing wealth and achieving your goals. Below is a detailed analysis of your financial plan.

Emergency Fund and Short-Term Liquidity
You have Rs 3 lakh in the bank and Rs 4 lakh lent out.

Ideally, keep 6 months of expenses as a liquid emergency fund.

Since your salary is Rs 80,000 per month, target Rs 5 lakh as an emergency fund.

If the Rs 4 lakh is not immediately recoverable, consider adding more liquid savings.

Park this money in a mix of a high-interest savings account and liquid mutual funds.

Insurance Protection
Life Insurance: You did not mention a term plan. Ensure you have one with coverage of at least 10-15 times your annual income.

Health Insurance: You did not mention a health plan. Get a Rs 20-30 lakh family floater policy.

Personal Accident Cover: Since you are in the paramilitary, a personal accident cover is essential.

NPS and Retirement Planning
You have Rs 16.5 lakh in NPS after 9 years. With 26 years left, this can grow significantly.

Continue contributing, but do not rely solely on NPS.

Diversify retirement savings with equity mutual funds to give flexibility at retirement.

NPS has withdrawal restrictions, so having non-restricted investments is important.

Investment Portfolio Review
Existing Investments
ELSS Mutual Fund: It is tax-saving but not suitable for long-term wealth building. Consider diversifying.

KVP: A low-return product locked until 2033. Not ideal for long-term wealth creation.

LIC Policies (Wife): If they are traditional endowment plans, they may have low returns. Consider surrendering and reinvesting if feasible.

Planned SIPs (From April 2025)
Your planned SIPs total Rs 37,000 per month. Below is an evaluation:

Parag Parikh Flexi Cap - Rs 10,000: Good choice for diversification and stability.

SBI Gold - Rs 5,000: Gold should not be a core investment. Reduce allocation to 5-10% of your portfolio.

Bharat 22 Index Fund - Rs 5,000: Index funds have limitations. Actively managed funds can offer better returns.

Nippon India Large Cap - Rs 5,000: Large-cap is important for stability. Keep allocation.

Motilal Oswal Mid Cap - Rs 4,000: Mid-cap funds offer growth but can be volatile. Moderate allocation is fine.

Nippon India Small Cap - Rs 4,000 & Tata Small Cap - Rs 4,000: Small-cap exposure is high. Consider reducing to avoid excessive risk.

Suggested Portfolio Adjustments
Reduce allocation to gold and index funds.

Maintain a mix of large, flexi-cap, mid, and small-cap funds.

Instead of direct funds, invest through an MFD with CFP credentials for better tracking and advice.

House Purchase Plan (8-10 Years)
The house is estimated at Rs 50 lakh in today’s value. Future value may increase.

Start a dedicated SIP in a hybrid or multi-asset fund for this goal.

Avoid real estate investment as a wealth-building tool. Buy a house only for personal use.

Car Purchase Plan (Next Year)
Since this is a short-term goal, avoid equity investment.

Use bank savings and allocate part of your upcoming savings for the purchase.

If needed, opt for a car loan but repay it quickly.

Final Insights
Keep an emergency fund of Rs 5 lakh.

Ensure you have term life and health insurance.

Continue investing in NPS but also in mutual funds for flexibility.

Review and rebalance your SIP choices.

Plan separately for house and car goals with appropriate investments.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

...Read more

Ramalingam

Ramalingam Kalirajan  |8157 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Mar 26, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 25, 2025Hindi
Listen
Money
48 years old, with PF savings as 40L, NPS 5L and not other investments. Home loan is there which will be over in next 12 years. have opted for LIC pension plan. Pl suggest the best option to plan retirement here.
Ans: Your focus on retirement planning is important. Let’s assess your current financial position and create a solid retirement plan.

Current Financial Position
Provident Fund (PF): Rs 40 lakh.

National Pension System (NPS): Rs 5 lakh.

LIC Pension Plan: Opted for.

Home Loan: Outstanding, to be cleared in 12 years.

Other Investments: None.

Your savings are primarily in PF and NPS. You also have an LIC pension plan. Your home loan will take 12 more years to be repaid.

Key Challenges in Retirement Planning
1. Low Investment in Growth Assets
Your funds are mainly in debt-based instruments.

This may not generate high returns for long-term wealth.

Inflation can erode the value of fixed-income investments.

2. Home Loan Repayment Impact
Your home loan EMI will reduce your savings capacity.

Loan repayment will extend into retirement unless pre-paid.

Extra financial burden should not impact post-retirement needs.

3. Insufficient Retirement Corpus
You have only Rs 45 lakh in retirement savings.

You may need Rs 3-5 crore depending on post-retirement expenses.

The LIC pension plan alone may not be enough.

Retirement Planning Strategy
1. Increase Investments in Growth Assets
You should start investing in mutual funds immediately.

A mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds is needed.

Systematic Investment Plans (SIP) will help build a strong corpus.

2. Reassess the LIC Pension Plan
LIC pension plans give low returns.

You may consider surrendering it and reinvesting in mutual funds.

A well-diversified portfolio can generate better inflation-adjusted returns.

3. Create a Debt Reduction Plan
Home loan should be cleared before retirement.

Consider partial prepayments when extra funds are available.

Reducing interest burden will free up future cash flow.

4. Increase NPS Contributions
NPS offers tax benefits and equity exposure.

Consider increasing contributions for higher retirement savings.

Choose an aggressive fund allocation for better long-term growth.

5. Build Emergency and Medical Funds
A separate emergency fund is essential.

Medical insurance should be increased beyond employer cover.

Healthcare costs in retirement can be significant.

Final Insights
Your current savings are not enough for early retirement.

Increasing investments in mutual funds is essential.

Home loan repayment should be accelerated.

LIC pension plan should be reviewed for better options.

A well-structured financial plan will ensure a comfortable retirement.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

...Read more

Ramalingam

Ramalingam Kalirajan  |8157 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Mar 26, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 25, 2025Hindi
Listen
Hello Sir, I am currently 43 years of age and below are some of my assets. FD - INR 2.56 cr PPF - INR 45 lakh MF - INR 70 lakh PMS - INR 50 lakh Term Life Insurance - INR 2.5 cr Medical insurance (family plan) - INR 10 lakh Gold jewellery + physical gold - approx. INR 1 cr one house - yielding INR 30k per month rent currently investing 1 lakh per month in mf through sip (large, mid and small ap fund) staying in another house with family. Loans - zero monthly expense - INR 45k 2 kids - elder one in class 10th and younger one in class 6th education for both kids expected from school to higher education - INR 3cr marriage for both kids expected - INR 1 cr What age should i plan to retire expecting a life expectancy of 85 years for myself and wife and avg expense to be around INR 1 lakh at future date.
Ans: You have built a strong foundation. Let's assess your retirement feasibility from multiple angles.

Current Financial Position
You have Rs 2.56 crore in fixed deposits.

PPF corpus stands at Rs 45 lakh.

Mutual fund investments are Rs 70 lakh.

PMS investments are Rs 50 lakh.

You own Rs 1 crore worth of gold.

A rental property earns Rs 30,000 per month.

You have a term life cover of Rs 2.5 crore.

Medical insurance is Rs 10 lakh for your family.

Your monthly expense is Rs 45,000.

You invest Rs 1 lakh per month in mutual funds.

Key Future Financial Goals
Children's Education: Rs 3 crore estimated cost.

Children's Marriage: Rs 1 crore estimated cost.

Retirement Corpus: To sustain Rs 1 lakh monthly expense.

Retirement Feasibility Analysis
1. Children's Education and Marriage
The first major financial commitment is education.

Your existing corpus and future savings must ensure Rs 3 crore.

Marriage expenses will require an additional Rs 1 crore.

2. Retirement Corpus Requirement
You expect to retire with Rs 1 lakh monthly expenses.

This expense will increase due to inflation.

A large retirement corpus is needed to sustain for 40+ years.

Can You Retire Now?
Your current investments may not fully support retirement yet.

The education and marriage costs are substantial.

You must balance wealth preservation and growth.

What Age Should You Retire?
A realistic age for retirement could be around 50-55 years.

This allows you to accumulate a stronger corpus.

You can continue investing Rs 1 lakh per month.

A phased withdrawal strategy will be needed post-retirement.

How to Strengthen Your Retirement Plan?
1. Increase Equity Allocation
Your PPF and FD investments are conservative.

Consider reallocating part of your FD to mutual funds.

PMS allocation should also be reviewed for performance.

2. Ensure Inflation Protection
Fixed deposits may not beat inflation long-term.

Equity exposure should remain high for growth.

3. Healthcare Preparedness
Rs 10 lakh medical insurance may be insufficient in the future.

Consider a super top-up plan for additional coverage.

4. Rental Income Optimization
Your rental property provides stable income.

Ensure it remains a profitable asset.

Final Insights
You are on track but need to optimise investments.

A retirement age of 50-55 years is ideal.

Equity exposure must be increased gradually.

Education and marriage costs must be secured first.

Healthcare preparedness is crucial for long-term security.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

...Read more

DISCLAIMER: The content of this post by the expert is the personal view of the rediffGURU. Investment in securities market are subject to market risks. Read all the related document carefully before investing. The securities quoted are for illustration only and are not recommendatory. Users are advised to pursue the information provided by the rediffGURU only as a source of information and as a point of reference and to rely on their own judgement when making a decision. RediffGURUS is an intermediary as per India's Information Technology Act.

Close  

You haven't logged in yet. To ask a question, Please Log in below
Login

A verification OTP will be sent to this
Mobile Number / Email

Enter OTP
A 6 digit code has been sent to

Resend OTP in120seconds

Dear User, You have not registered yet. Please register by filling the fields below to get expert answers from our Gurus
Sign up

By signing up, you agree to our
Terms & Conditions and Privacy Policy

Already have an account?

Enter OTP
A 6 digit code has been sent to Mobile

Resend OTP in120seconds

x