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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 02, 2023

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
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Question by Neeraj on Feb 28, 2023Hindi

Relationship

Hi anu I am 23 years old and recently found out relation of my mother with my friend...my mom was going to the gym where my friend also got registered..it was a month later I got to know they are in same gym..now they go to gym together. Their text msgs are flirtatious and sensual....what to do. My father is old boring person who only likes to watch news and drink tea..what should I do

Ans: Dear Neeraj,
Your mother is a grown woman and is free to make her choices. A bit of attention at her age is what she might be looking for but your friend might be in it for more.
But I can see how this affects you obviously.

Maybe you can talk some sense into your friend. He needs to know his boundaries and that you are not comfortable with it at all. Spend time with your mother telling her how much you appreciate her and love her. Maybe she needs a bit of ME TIME where she finds her social circle and hobbies/work (she might want to revive her career).

As for your father, maybe he can figure out a way to make tea for himself and your mom, so that they share a cuppa and laugh a lot together. At their age, marriage can be boring and the only way to revive is to work on it by infusing some fun and travel together. As their child, you can help bring them together.
So, start with a Chai party at home:) Get the drift?

All the best!

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Thank you mam. I conveyed to both of them that I feel uncomfortable but they still saying that I understood wrongly and there is nothing between them.but my husband shares everything with her but not with me. Me and my husband had a difference of ten years may this might be a reason and I m a house wife after completing twelth I got married and then i didn't study. He is a good caring husband and good father for my two childrens and nice person. But I feel uncomfortable only with this problem what to do may be I am thinking wrong.

Ans: Dear Suganya,
Never let anyone make you feel low or less...So, if you are a homemaker, that's your choice and if that is the reason that your husband seeks the company of another woman, then he honestly does not deserve your attention and love. He will realize it over time...
What you can do in the meanwhile is to develop your identity, your personality that is different from your husband. have a friends circle where you not only have fun but also do something together which is besides what family responsibilities demand. Since your husband is caring towards you and your children, that is a huge plus point...request him one day or half day over the weekend, to take care of the children, where you can go along with these friends to trek or on a picnic or doing some voluntary work or just about anything...you will have something to look forward to and this will also give your husband a signal that you don't look to him for your happiness. This will surely make him wonder what he is doing with the other person and that realization will also have a positive effect on the marriage.

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My mother (42 years old) came in relationship with a neighbour guy suddenly before few months. This neighbour guy is just 5 years elder than me & 20 years younger than my mother, but whenever this neighbour guy touch my mother, she feels too uncomfortable. My father knows about it, but he is not saying anything to my mother to stop all these nonsense. Why don't my mother break-up with him if she feels uncomfortable ?? What was the need of being in relationship with a person who is 20 years younger than her ?? Why is my father allowing this ?? Is there any problem ?? My father loves my mother a lot & she knows about it, then what's wrong here ?? My mother asked me to not to interfere in this when I asked these questions to her.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It must be difficult for you swallow this fact that your parents' marriage is not picture perfect. Most things in life are not the way they seem to be. You are young and slowly this truth will sink in...
Until then, it's better to stay away from your parents' marriage. They are adults and know what must be done. If they have some sort of understanding between them, that's solely their business.
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Talk to a school counselor or someone who you can trust; that way you are not holding things within...Life ain't simple; but we can simplify it to a certain extent.

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