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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 20, 2023Hindi
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I am a 52-Year-old man, relatively happily married with a son & daughter. I was having a relatively smooth life till a few days back when a sudden incident happened in my Life. Like a lot of people, I also have a past where in in the Prime Of my youth I had a very passionate love affair which resulted in a brief marriage some 25 Years back with someone whom I had grown up with. But due to certain differences with her Family it resulted in a very bad break up with a brief tussle in the court. The Incident had shaken me a great deal & with time I managed to shrug it off & move Forward. I had done relatively well in my life till now when suddenly I was taken aback when me ex called me up. We had a brief Interaction over phone & this is now persisting. Although the affair was long gone but somehow It was there in the back of my mind, I had an inclination someday she Might come back which has exactly happened. I am feeling guilty to my Spouse as she has stood with me thick & Thin but However, I tried hard I end up speaking with my ex every day. As far as I can gather is my ex is not happy with her Husband although she has exactly not spoken about her intention of such sudden turnaround. I am aghast at myself that I could Not put an end to the conversation & in fact I feel very happy speaking to her remembering my old days. Leaving my ex unilaterally is not an option as I have tried Many times but failed. please advise.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Are you fine choosing to ruffle things in your marriage?
Because that's exactly what you might be leading into!

Love stories from the past belong there unless your current situation allows you freedom to invite it back. It surely has caused ripples in your heart which has possibly stirred you of the usual routine married life.

Will your spouse accept the situation as is?
How will you handle the complications that might arise?
What are the expectations of you from the lady from the past?
How will this impact the children?

For some reason, things had not worked in the past...it ended in a divorce. Maybe there's a lot of unspoken things. Then talk about it with her.
Remind yourself and her that you are in r=current relationships. Even if she does not share a great relationship with her husband, you are not obliged it responsible to be her knight in shining armour. You have a life and so does she...you owe a lot to the current relationships and the people in it.
Anything beyond this is a CHOICE that you will make and a lot of people will be hurt by it. Draw boundaries before you get drawn into it further!

If you really want to be in touch with her, ask yourself: Am I mature enough to handle a connection that has boundaries? Can we maintain a connection that is more based on friendship and support?

Only you know the answers to all the questions above and you will draw conclusions based on that. from what I know of people, no one likes ruffling feathers and no one wants a complications unless they specifically CHOOSE it!

All the best!

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Dear Anu, I don’t know how to start. My Age is 40. This is my second marriage. My first marriage was arranged and it lasted 6 months.  As I was in love we got divorced. We have one son who is 10 years old. Now the issue is my second wife and I have both betrayed each other. I caught her first having a deep love affair with her yoga friend. That fellow is married and we know his wife and daughter. She has started him when she was training for yoga and later they both started classes together. Meanwhile, I am in a relationship with a colleague. Now she is in a different organization. Although she has stopped it, I continue to chat with her. We are both struggling to come to a decision since last 9 months but nothing is working out. We both confessed; she is guilty, I am not. We've had a very rough time. Now she is at her mother’s home. My problem is that I can neither let her go nor forget her. She wants her freedom as earlier but I am not ready. So I am sad while I continue to torture her by asking past questions. I am worried more about my son. I am stuck so I end up bullying her. Please advice. I want to move on. I don’t want to be in relationship but i am afraid of taking decision. Sometime I feel miserable.
Ans: Dear PC, I don’t want this and I don’t want that is a childlike way of dealing with things; you will be stuck in that mud forever.

You have to want to either move on with your marriage or not.

If you choose to stay, you have to train your mind and as a couple go for a Couples Counselling to rebuild the marriage.

It will require forgiving; hard as it is, it will help both of you relook as to why you fell in love in the first place.

Sometimes, it is essential to hit the refresh button and look at things with a new perspective. And if you have decided mutually, to separate, do make sure there is no mud slinging or finger pointing.

A marriage is between two adults who are invested equally in it and there is no one person to blame.

Be graceful about this and make it a graceful end where you support one another.

Whatever you decide, always make sure your son is well looked after especially his mind and what he needs to know and understand.

Seek the support of a professional who deals with children growing up in families where the parents are separating or are quarrelling.

Either case, please DO NOT let the child suffer as this has long-term consequences on his mind.

I hope you make a decision sooner as every day not only makes it harder for both of you but for your child as well. Take care and best wishes.

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Anu, Request you to keep my identity anonymous.I am a 40 years old guy, happily married with two kids. I have a lot of friends and I have invariably introduced most of them to my wife.While with a previous organisation that I worked for, I met this girl (say M) and we became very good friends. M is 2½ years younger to me, is married and has kids. Much like with my other friends, I introduced M to my wife. M has also been home a couple of times during festive occasions.While so, during a family day event at office almost 5 years back, during an apparent conversation between M and me, we were engrossed in the conversation and my wife was standing right next to me. My wife thought that she was deliberately being snubbed/ignored and got offended with M's behaviour. Since then my wife developed some sort of a hatred towards M. Many a times I tried explaining to my wife that M's behaviour was not offensive and even if it was, was unintentional. It's been nearly six years since this happened, but that animosity still continues. The more I try to explain to her, the angrier she gets. We have had a lot of fights whenever this topic arises. I am scared to even pick M's calls when my wife is around. What this has done is that I started speaking to M discreetly. I had to delete all photos that I had with her. I constantly keep deleting all WhatsApp conversations and call logs that I have with her.I do not want to do all these secret things especially when I am not doing anything wrong. I want my wife to give M one more chance. My wife does not think I have a relationship with M. Her point is that I should not talk to someone who has insulted her (my wife). I think that it would not be fair for me to stop talking to M.My question is how do I instill sense into my wife? How do I convince her to give M one more chance? I don’t want to lose a good friend.
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Dear K,

If your wife has felt snubbed and you feel that she is being unreasonable, what can you do if you wife isn’t willing to befriend M?

The more you fight this, the more your wife feels that there is something going on.

Doubts in the mind spread like slow fire consuming the mind and you are adding fuel to the fire by being adamant on maintaining the connection with M.

Now you wife is convinced that she must not have anything to do with her and you should not as well.

What do you want to do? Spoil the peace at home because of an external connection?

It may not seem fair to you, but there is a reason why your wife felt snubbed by M at that time.

She is unrelenting and does not want M in the equation. Why are you fighting this?

I am asking you choose between the peace within the marriage and an external connection.

There will be a point in time when your wife will be willing to look at this objectively and that is the time to talk to her about it.

Right now, it will be like forcing her, having fights over this and maintaining a connection with M within all of this/ Do you really feel that a connection is made suppressing another one?

Connections are made in complete peace and harmony with existing connections growing because of the new one.

What you have is the existing connection being threatened because of the other.

Be patient and reasonable and wait for the time to emerge for connections to co-exist and in the meantime, reassure your wife that your marriage means a lot to you.

May not sound fair, but it’s the only way to honour the marriage.

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Hi, I am 45 years old man married with two kids. I got into relationship with a married colleague 5 years back. She got divorced. I am not sure if our relationship was the reason for the divorce. I wanted to divorce my wife and get married to my colleague. But then during pandemic I and my colleague were physically separated. Not sure if the separation helped her realise our relationship was not going anywhere or it was not right. She called and told me that I scarred her life and didn’t want to keep in touch with me. Since then I am not in touch with her. I made attempts to but she blocked me totally. She’s in the same town but I never made an attempt to forcefully meet her. She didn’t marry again so far and don’t what’s happening in her life. But I feel guilty did I spoil her life? I really love her but if I really did why did I not know where this all will end up. I don’t think I was the reason for her break up because she developed friendship with me when her marriage was not going well. I don’t know if it was error of judgment, feel so guilty about the whole situation. Since I have been in relationship with her, never had a sexual relationship with my wife and even I don’t. Don’t know if it’s my failed or failing marriage is whole reason for this . I feel terribly guilty for my ex colleague’s situation. It’s eating me up. I question my own character, am I a sexual predator? I lose my sleep about this and not able come to terms. Need your advice, do I need a see a therapist and what kind?
Ans: Dear Rajesh,
You have the choice of playing the 'victim' or move on with life accepting things for the way they are!
Why you stepped out of marriage or why your married colleague entered into a relationship with you or why she walked out of it or why she blames you.
These WHYs will only keep making you go in circles. You need answers to these only if the two of you are still going to be involved. When that chapter of your life is over, why mull over it? This is playing the 'victim', feeling sorry for yourself and feeling guilty and trying to go back in time and thinking of what you could have done to have a different outcome. As long as these WHYs help you move on, it's fine, but if it's only going to mess with your mind and send you on a wild goose chase, kindly STOP! Sexual predator as you call yourself is just a label you choose to carry after the accusation made by your colleague after she called the relationship off. So, she takes the call and then blames you and then you decide to carry the guilt for what two consenting adults decided when they were in a relationship. Quit this mindset and seriously MOVE ON!

Can you instead focus on where your life is now and what you can do to make it better?
Indulge in a new hobby and make a few new friends and be with your family that loves you. Spend time with your children who will fill your life with a lot of happiness.
Soon, when you are ready, things might open up for a new relationship then.
So release the OLD and welcome the NEW.

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At this point in time, choose neither. You need space to clear your head first.
Too many emotional situations to jump into one more...Give yourself time to figure out what is that you want out of life?
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You deserve this time off, to make sure that you not only heal from the marriage but also put things in perspective.
So no need to bring on a new confusion for the time being till you get strong enough in the mind to decide the next course of your life. Making a choice right now means you will be bringing in more confusions of either of the two women into your life as well. So, PAUSE and take this time...

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Sir , I am working man ( Age- 52 ) , I invested in MF , LIC , NPS , ULIP , FD , TermPlan etc .. all total the market value cost of invested fund is almost Rs. 50 lakhs.. Now my query is that do I withdraw all the money ( i.e. 50 lakhs) and invested in FD for 10 years to get monthly income ? pls guide me .. I am confused ...
Ans: It's understandable to feel confused when considering significant financial decisions like withdrawing and investing a substantial amount of money. Let's weigh the pros and cons of withdrawing your investments and putting the funds into fixed deposits (FDs) for generating monthly income:
Pros of Investing in FDs:
1. Stable Income: FDs provide a fixed interest rate, ensuring a predictable monthly income stream, which can be beneficial for meeting regular expenses.
2. Capital Preservation: Your principal amount invested in FDs is generally considered safe and protected, offering stability and security.
3. Ease of Management: FDs are relatively straightforward investment instruments, requiring minimal monitoring and management.
Cons of Investing in FDs:
1. Limited Returns: FDs typically offer lower returns compared to equity-linked investments like mutual funds, which may not be sufficient to keep pace with inflation over the long term.
2. Lack of Flexibility: Once you invest in FDs for a specific term, withdrawing funds before maturity may attract penalties or lower interest rates, limiting liquidity.
3. Inflation Risk: FD returns may not always keep up with the rising cost of living, potentially eroding the purchasing power of your income over time.
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1. Risk Tolerance: Assess your risk tolerance and financial goals to determine if the conservative approach of FDs aligns with your needs. At age 52, preserving capital and generating steady income may be a priority.
2. Diversification: Review your overall investment portfolio and ensure it is well-diversified across asset classes to manage risk effectively. Consider maintaining exposure to growth-oriented investments like mutual funds for long-term wealth creation.
3. Financial Planning: Consult with a Certified Financial Planner to create a comprehensive financial plan tailored to your goals, risk profile, and income needs. They can provide personalized guidance and help you make informed decisions.
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Hello Sir, I am 28 years old and currently investing in the following funds for the last 2 years.1. Uti Nifty 50 index (Rs.5000) 2. SBI Small Cap (Rs.4000) 3.Mirae Asset Large & Midcap(Rs2000) and 4.Motilal Oswal Nasdaq 100 fof(Rs.1000). I also intend to step up my SIPs in these funds in the upcoming years.My goal is wealth creation and I am looking for 15-20 years of investment. Kindly review the funds and suggest if I need to make any adjustments to them or add any new funds in my portfolio. Thank you.
Ans: Considering your investment horizon of 15-20 years and your goal of wealth creation, your current portfolio appears to be well-diversified across different market segments. Here's a review of your funds and some suggestions:
1. UTI Nifty 50 Index: Investing in a broad-market index fund like UTI Nifty 50 Index provides exposure to India's top 50 companies by market capitalization. It's a good choice for long-term wealth creation as it offers diversification across various sectors of the economy.
2. SBI Small Cap: Small-cap funds like SBI Small Cap have the potential for higher growth over the long term but come with higher volatility. Given your investment horizon, this fund can add an element of growth to your portfolio. However, be prepared for fluctuations in returns.
3. Mirae Asset Large & Midcap: This fund follows a blend of large-cap and mid-cap stocks, providing a balanced approach to growth and stability. It's suitable for investors seeking exposure to quality companies across market capitalizations.
4. Motilal Oswal Nasdaq 100 FOF: Investing in an international fund like Motilal Oswal Nasdaq 100 FOF adds global diversification to your portfolio. The Nasdaq 100 index comprises leading US technology and internet companies, offering growth opportunities beyond the Indian market.
Active vs. Passive Management:
While you've included both actively managed mutual funds and index funds (ETFs) in your portfolio, it's important to understand the differences between the two. Actively managed funds aim to outperform the market through active stock selection and portfolio management, while index funds passively track a specific index's performance.
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Actively managed funds offer the potential for higher returns compared to index funds, especially during market inefficiencies or when skilled fund managers can identify lucrative investment opportunities. Additionally, active management allows for flexibility in portfolio construction and adjustments based on market conditions.
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While index funds offer low expense ratios and broad market exposure, they may lack the potential for outperformance compared to actively managed funds. Additionally, they're subject to tracking error, which occurs when the fund's performance deviates from the index it's designed to replicate.
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1. Consider Adding a Mid-Cap Fund: Since you already have exposure to large-cap and small-cap segments, adding a mid-cap fund can further diversify your portfolio and capture growth opportunities in this segment.
2. Review Portfolio Allocation: Ensure your portfolio is well-balanced across different market segments to manage risk effectively. You may consider increasing or decreasing allocations to certain funds based on your risk tolerance and return expectations.
3. Regularly Review and Rebalance: Periodically review your portfolio's performance and make necessary adjustments to ensure it remains aligned with your long-term goals. Rebalancing can help maintain the desired asset allocation and manage risk.
Overall, your portfolio seems well-structured for long-term wealth creation. However, it's essential to monitor market developments and stay updated on fund performance to make informed decisions.
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White oak midcap fund v/s quant large and mid cap fund.. Which is better...?
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1. Fund Objective: White Oak Midcap Fund primarily invests in mid-cap stocks, aiming for long-term capital appreciation. On the other hand, Quant Large and Mid Cap Fund invests in a mix of large-cap and mid-cap stocks, seeking to generate alpha through a quantitative investment approach.
2. Risk Profile: Mid-cap stocks generally carry higher risk compared to large-cap stocks due to their higher volatility and sensitivity to market fluctuations. As White Oak Midcap Fund focuses solely on mid-cap stocks, it may exhibit higher volatility compared to Quant Large and Mid Cap Fund, which has exposure to large-cap stocks as well.
3. Performance: Evaluate the historical performance of both funds over various time frames to assess their track records in generating returns relative to their benchmarks and peers. Look for consistency in performance and the fund manager's ability to navigate different market conditions.
4. Expense Ratio: Consider the expense ratio of each fund, as lower expenses can have a positive impact on long-term returns. Choose a fund with a reasonable expense ratio that aligns with its performance and investment strategy.
5. Fund Manager Expertise: Assess the expertise and experience of the fund managers managing each fund. A skilled and seasoned fund manager may add value through their stock selection, portfolio construction, and risk management abilities.
6. Fund Holdings and Strategy: Understand the portfolio composition and investment strategy of each fund. Look for transparency in holdings, sector allocation, and any unique strategies employed by the fund managers.
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I am investing 1k in Nippon India small cap fund direct growth and 2k in Kotak small cap fund direct growth. I earn 86k pm and save 20k in savings account. Also I pay 17.5k in rent and electricity. How can I create wealth of 1cr ?
Ans: It's great that you're investing in mutual funds to build wealth. To achieve your goal of accumulating 1 crore, let's outline a plan tailored to your financial situation:
1. Increase Investment Amount: Since you're currently investing a total of 3k per month in small-cap funds, consider gradually increasing this amount based on your risk tolerance and investment horizon. Aim to maximize your investments while ensuring you have sufficient funds for your monthly expenses and emergency savings.
2. Diversify Your Portfolio: While small-cap funds offer potential for high returns, they also come with higher volatility and risk. Consider diversifying your portfolio by investing in a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and diversified equity funds to spread risk across different market segments.
3. Regularly Review and Rebalance: Keep a close eye on your investments and periodically review your portfolio's performance. Rebalance your portfolio as needed to ensure it remains aligned with your financial goals, risk tolerance, and market conditions.
4. Explore Tax-Efficient Options: Consider investing in tax-saving instruments like Equity Linked Savings Schemes (ELSS) to avail of tax benefits under Section 80C of the Income Tax Act. ELSS funds offer the dual benefit of tax savings and potential wealth creation through equity investments.
5. Optimize Expenses and Savings: Look for opportunities to optimize your expenses and increase your savings rate. Identify areas where you can cut back on unnecessary expenses and redirect those funds towards investments. Maximize your contributions to tax-deferred investment vehicles like EPF, PPF, or NPS to accelerate wealth accumulation.
6. Seek Professional Advice: Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) to develop a personalized financial plan tailored to your goals, risk tolerance, and financial situation. A financial planner can help you navigate investment decisions, tax planning strategies, and wealth-building techniques to achieve your objectives.
By following these steps and staying disciplined in your investment approach, you can work towards achieving your goal of accumulating 1 crore over time.
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I am 43 years old and we have a 3rd old single child (son) - i am in consulting business with varied annual income. I am currently investing monthly SIPs in the following categories and wanted to check if this is the right mix. I have started investing in MFs since 2020 without any expert guidance. Large Cap / Blue-chip 57,500 Small Cap 50,000 Multi Asset 55,000 Nifty 50 25,000 Index Fund 5,000 Flexi Cap Fund 25,000 ELSS 25000
Ans: It's commendable that you're actively investing in mutual funds to secure your financial future. However, there are a few considerations to ensure that your investment mix is appropriate for your financial goals and risk tolerance:
• Diversification: While your investment in various categories such as Large Cap, Small Cap, Multi-Asset, Flexi Cap, and ELSS shows diversification, it's essential to review the allocation within each category to ensure optimal diversification.
• Risk Management: Small Cap and Flexi Cap funds typically carry higher risk due to their exposure to smaller companies and more volatile market segments. Ensure that your risk exposure aligns with your risk tolerance and investment horizon.
• Asset Allocation: Consider reviewing your asset allocation strategy to ensure it aligns with your long-term financial goals. Multi-Asset funds can help provide diversification across different asset classes, but it's essential to monitor their performance and adjust allocation if necessary.
• Expert Guidance: Since you mentioned that you started investing without expert guidance, consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) who can assess your current investment strategy, understand your financial goals, and provide personalized recommendations.
• Regular Review: It's essential to regularly review your investment portfolio's performance and make adjustments as needed based on changing market conditions, your financial goals, and risk tolerance.
Overall, while your investment mix shows diversification across different categories, consider seeking expert guidance to ensure that your investment strategy is optimized for your financial goals and risk profile.
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I am 21 yrs old i want to invest 40 to 50 000 per month in mutual funds, i want to invest for min 20 yrs kundly suggest mutual funds Arnav p
Ans: It's impressive that you're thinking about investing at such a young age. Here's a suggestion for your monthly investment in mutual funds:
• Diversified Equity Funds: Since you have a long investment horizon of at least 20 years, you can consider investing a significant portion of your monthly amount in diversified equity funds. These funds invest across various sectors and market capitalizations, offering growth potential over the long term.
• Large Cap Funds: Allocate a portion of your investment to large-cap funds, which invest in well-established and financially stable companies. These funds provide stability to your portfolio while offering steady returns over time.
• Mid and Small Cap Funds: To capitalize on the growth potential of mid and small-cap companies, consider investing in mid and small-cap funds. These funds have the potential to deliver higher returns over the long term but come with higher volatility.
• Flexi Cap Funds: Flexi cap funds offer flexibility in asset allocation across market capitalizations based on market conditions. They can adapt to changing market dynamics and provide opportunities for capital appreciation.
• Balanced Advantage Funds: Considering your age and long investment horizon, you can also include balanced advantage funds, which dynamically allocate between equity and debt instruments based on market valuations. These funds offer downside protection during market downturns.
Before investing, it's essential to assess your risk tolerance, investment goals, and time horizon. Additionally, consult with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) who can provide personalized recommendations based on your financial situation and goals.
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Sir, I have invested Rs-5,00000.00 amount in Aditya Birla sun life psu Equity fund Direct growth in lumsum ( one time investment) for 10 years and it's returns is more high I.e 48% .Is it correct decision or not. Please guide me for better secure and bright future.
Ans: Investing solely based on past performance, especially when chasing high returns, can be risky. Here's why:
• Thematic Funds Risk: Thematic funds like PSU equity funds focus on specific sectors or themes, which can be volatile and risky. While they may offer high returns during certain periods, they can also underperform or incur losses during market downturns or changes in sectoral trends.
• Chasing Returns: Investing based solely on recent high returns may lead to overlooking fundamental factors such as the fund's objective, underlying holdings, and risk profile. It's crucial to consider factors like consistency, volatility, and alignment with your financial goals.
• Market Timing: Timing the market, especially in lump-sum investments, is challenging and often unpredictable. Trying to enter or exit the market at the 'right' time can result in missed opportunities or losses. It's essential to focus on long-term investment strategies rather than short-term market timing.
To secure a better and brighter financial future:
• Diversification: Consider diversifying your investments across different asset classes and fund categories to spread risk and capture opportunities across various market segments.
• Goal-based Investing: Define your financial goals, investment horizon, and risk tolerance clearly. Invest in line with these objectives rather than chasing short-term gains.
• Regular Review: Monitor your investments regularly and review their performance relative to your goals. Make adjustments as needed to stay aligned with your long-term objectives.

In addition to the points mentioned, consider investing through a Certified Financial Planner who can provide personalized advice and guidance tailored to your financial goals and risk profile. Here's why:
• Expert Guidance: A Certified Financial Planner (CFP) can assess your financial situation, understand your goals and risk tolerance, and recommend suitable investment options aligned with your needs.
• Professional Advice: An experienced financial planner can help you navigate the complexities of the investment landscape, offer insights into market trends, and provide objective advice to optimize your investment portfolio.
• Holistic Approach: A CFP takes a holistic approach to financial planning, considering factors such as tax implications, estate planning, insurance needs, and retirement goals in addition to investment strategies.
• Regular Monitoring: Your financial planner can regularly review your investments, track their performance, and make necessary adjustments to ensure they remain aligned with your objectives over time.
• Peace of Mind: By entrusting your investment decisions to a qualified professional, you can gain peace of mind knowing that your financial affairs are in capable hands, allowing you to focus on other aspects of your life.
Investing through a Certified Financial Planner can enhance the effectiveness of your investment strategy and increase the likelihood of achieving your long-term financial goals.
Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

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I'm investing in 3 sectorial/ thematic funds like psu, infrastructure, defence,and 3 small cap funds and 1 large cap fund and 2 mid caps funds and 1 flexi cap is my portfolio good or any changes required please review
Ans: Your portfolio seems adequately diversified, but there are some considerations to address, especially regarding sectoral/thematic funds. While these funds offer the allure of investing in specific industries or themes, they come with inherent risks:

High Volatility: Sectoral and thematic funds are more susceptible to market volatility and sector-specific risks. Economic, regulatory, or geopolitical factors can significantly impact these sectors, leading to volatile returns.
Cyclical Nature: Sector performance tends to be cyclical, with periods of outperformance followed by underperformance. Timing the market or predicting sector rotations can be challenging, making it difficult to achieve consistent returns.
Lack of Diversification: Investing heavily in a single sector or theme exposes your portfolio to concentration risk. If the chosen sector underperforms, it can significantly impact your overall portfolio returns.
Limited Upside Potential: While sectoral funds may outperform during specific market conditions, their performance can lag during other periods. Over the long term, diversified funds may offer better risk-adjusted returns by spreading investments across multiple sectors.
Given these perils, it's advisable to reconsider your allocation to sectoral/thematic funds and instead focus on diversified active funds. These funds offer broader exposure to various sectors and industries, helping mitigate concentration risk while potentially delivering more consistent returns.

Consider reallocating your investments towards diversified active funds, such as multi-cap or flexi-cap funds. These funds have the flexibility to invest across market caps and sectors based on prevailing market conditions, offering a balanced approach to wealth accumulation.

Additionally, consult with a certified financial planner (CFP) to tailor your investment strategy to your financial goals, risk tolerance, and time horizon. A CFP can provide personalized guidance to optimize your portfolio and navigate market uncertainties effectively.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

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Hello Ma'am , I am investing in below mutual funds through SIP. ICICI balanced Advantage 2K HDFC Balanced Advantage 3K Tata Midcap and Largecap 3K Nippon India Small Cap 2K Motilal Midcap 2K ICICI Prudential Commodities 5K Quant Small Cap 5K Is it good funds for long terms ( Horizon of 8/10 years) ? I want to invest more 10K in SIP then which fund should I chose ? Thanks
Ans: Hello,
It's great to see your interest in investing for the long term. Let's review your current mutual fund portfolio and suggest additional options for your increased investment:
1. ICICI Balanced Advantage: This fund follows a dynamic asset allocation strategy, making it suitable for investors looking for a balanced approach with the flexibility to adjust to market conditions.
2. HDFC Balanced Advantage: Similar to ICICI Balanced Advantage, this fund aims to provide capital appreciation by dynamically managing the allocation between equity and debt instruments.
3. Tata Midcap and Largecap: Investing in both mid-cap and large-cap stocks can offer diversification benefits across market segments, potentially enhancing returns over the long term.
4. Nippon India Small Cap: Small-cap funds like this one focus on investing in smaller companies with high growth potential. They can be more volatile but offer the opportunity for significant capital appreciation over the long term.
5. Motilal Midcap: Mid-cap funds target companies with medium market capitalization, aiming to capture growth opportunities in this segment of the market.
6. ICICI Prudential Commodities: Commodity funds invest in commodities like gold, crude oil, etc. They can provide diversification but may be more suitable for investors with a higher risk appetite.
7. Quant Small Cap: Another small-cap fund that focuses on investing in small-sized companies poised for growth.
For an additional SIP investment of 10K, you may consider adding a large-cap or diversified equity fund to your portfolio to further diversify across market segments. Large-cap funds typically invest in well-established companies with a track record of stable performance. They can provide stability and consistent returns over the long term.
Additionally, it's essential to regularly review your portfolio's performance and make adjustments as needed to stay aligned with your financial goals and risk tolerance.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

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