I am a 52-Year-old man, relatively happily married with a son & daughter. I was having a relatively smooth life till a few days back when a sudden incident happened in my Life. Like a lot of people, I also have a past where in in the Prime Of my youth I had a very passionate love affair which resulted in a brief marriage some 25 Years back with someone whom I had grown up with. But due to certain differences with her Family it resulted in a very bad break up with a brief tussle in the court. The Incident had shaken me a great deal & with time I managed to shrug it off & move Forward. I had done relatively well in my life till now when suddenly I was taken aback when me ex called me up. We had a brief Interaction over phone & this is now persisting. Although the affair was long gone but somehow It was there in the back of my mind, I had an inclination someday she Might come back which has exactly happened. I am feeling guilty to my Spouse as she has stood with me thick & Thin but However, I tried hard I end up speaking with my ex every day. As far as I can gather is my ex is not happy with her Husband although she has exactly not spoken about her intention of such sudden turnaround. I am aghast at myself that I could Not put an end to the conversation & in fact I feel very happy speaking to her remembering my old days. Leaving my ex unilaterally is not an option as I have tried Many times but failed. please advise.

Dear gurus My child is in 12th now and will attempt jee in 2025-26 in jan 2026 Well my child is an average child not too brilliant. I am expecting a score of 92-96 percentile , dont want to pressurise him to above his limits , he is doing hard efforts but every child had a limit as a parent have to support him. He is studieng 7-8 hours daily in weekend has joined Aakash institute also , so dont want to pressurise him . So as a secondary options have made some list myself. His aim is core computer branch . My aim is he get into good A++ institute dont want to send him to average collage We have made some list for preferences 1. Bits pilani or goa As we are from Delhi 2. Dtu delhi 3. Nsuit delhi 4. Iiit delhi 5 Bits goa 6 thapar patiala 7 Viit vellore cat 5 is ok8 Rvce banglore Further on IIIT and good nit If we get good one than only. Further If we dont click in these with good core computer cse preferred than We go for Bits dubai ( money i can spend that's ok) He also wants to settle abroad after masters preferably in singapore not in us or uk for that option i will also apply for him in Nus , ntu singapore. I know it's very difficult to get admissions there but still would. Coming back to Bits dubai it looks to me a preferable collage pls guide me Further pls We are ok with fees also we are also ok if he works for year or two after completion in dubai for experience and does masters later. My aim as a parent is that he gets a starting package If in india of 13-15lacks minimum that's difficult without getting a good collage with 92-96 percentile it not possible So after so much thinking it am planing for bits dubai as I am getting safety of my child which is priority also getting tag of Bits i know it would not be equal to bits pilani or goa but still something is better than nothing and his ultimate dream is to settle abroad may be singapore or dubai also after master so doing be or btech from dubai bits will help in that as well Starting package minimum after bits dubai btech cse is around 20 lacs in inr if he works in dubai. which is ok I guess. Pls guide me Thx