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Manoj Question by Manoj on Sep 10, 2023Hindi
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I am 49 year old and staying with mother 81 years old. My first marriage ended in mutual divorce within 1 month and second wife filed false allegations against me in 2016 and then went to her hometown. I am the sole bread earner. I have elder brother and his family who stay in different city. I am being managing job, mother and also fighting cases in her hometown and paying interim maintenance. Sometimes I get confused thinking what should I do in life at this stage once I come out clear from court. Please advise

Ans: Dear Manoj,
It surely must be a stressful time for you. Having said that, every challenging phase always comes to an end and gives way to a brighter path.
Obviously, there are things that you have been forced to give up as your mind was occupied with the divorce, court and all the emotions accompanying these. So, it is time to bring all these back; maybe it's a hobby or it's a project that you want to finish...whatever put it down in writing clearly!
Someday all this unsettling time will end and it will be great to keep yourself upbeat right now with a plan of what you can and want to do post-divorce.

But, there are a few things that you can start right away.
1. Exercising regularly to beat the stress and also become fitter
2. Expanding your social circle to include people who are positive
3. Connecting with your immediate family who can be a huge support system for you
4. Indulging in a hobby that keeps you upbeat
In addition, keep a larger goal that you can start working on right now and that which can continue later too...it could be anything related to work or something that can be running in parallel to your job which requires your expertise. That way, you will keep yourself with a big goal that will require some updating of skill and knowledge as well.
Start NOW!

All the best!

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Hi Anu, I am 44 years old man and I have unsuccessful married life as my wife didn't like be in the relationship with me within 7 months of our marriage. We married in the year 2013 and she annulled me in the year 2014. She is hyper sentimental and egoistic. She only loves money and her parents. We had exchanged some words (just like it happens in every married life). I tried to make her understand that if she don't get a job I will support her so that she can get a job. But she didn't pay attention to my request. She filed Mat suite for divorce with false allegations and I have filed a restitution of conjugal right case . She lost her divorce case and I won the RCR case. But despite magistrate order and my request she didn't turn up and filed 498A, DV Act and 125 CrPC tagging most my relatives with false evidences two years back. I fought all cases and during this time I lost my father. However again she lost DV case and Supreme Court ordered lower court to discharge everyone if they do not found us guilty as we have sufficient proof. Her lawyer started taking tricks by requesting for short span for each hearing date. As my mother's health is not well and I leave in South India, it was difficult for me to attend every hearing date. So, I decided to give up and signed the divorce petition on mutual consent. I tried my best to bring her back, but I failed. Everyone is asking to start the life in new way, but I am really shocked and in trauma of the mental torture and harassment. I am thinking that is it good start the life again in this age ? Will the new life partner take similar steps to harass me again ? Please advice.
Ans: Dear Sanju,
I can only imagine the unrest that you must be feeling right now.
Regarding your question on mental torture and harassment; I do understand how unnerving it must be for you to wake up every morning and stare at the harsh reality of what it is for you. Nevertheless, beaten down but not yet given up is something you must always remember.
It is natural to think that history repeats itself; but you cannot assume that the next person you meet will be the same. Do not enter into a relationship or marriage with this assumption; what might tend to happen is that you will hold yourself back and your partner will always feel that you are being distant from them.

Do understand that the context of marriage is the same, but the persons in question are different. It's like saying: I failed in Math, so Math is a bad subject and I will always fail! Get a hang of what I am referring to?

Take some time off to heal and be at peace and remind yourself that you deserve happiness and marriage form of a beautiful relationship that can make you happy. For now, tell 'everyone' who is asking you to start a new life to give you space to reflect on:
- What can I do different in the next relationship that I pursue?
- What more can I do for my partner that I didn't in the previous marriage?
- What are a few core values of mine that I want to see in my partner as well?

And no use starting a new life by thinking if your new life partner will harass you as well. Instead step in telling yourself: New relationship, new person, new thoughts, new life goals, new...The word NEW, should give your brain something NEW to chew on discarding the old.

All the best!

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I am 49 years of age and until recently was working in a pvt manufacturing company and got fired. I got divorced about 6 years back. I don't have any children. I live with my mother and I don't have any siblings either. I shall left alone after my mother passes away. She is 77 years. I feel very uneasy and don't know what to anticipate for future. Can you please suggest what are my options.
Ans: Dear Praveen,
It is unfortunate the way things have turned out in your life; but it does not mean that it has to be that way even now and in the future.
Brooding over what you don't have will only make you feel miserable. Rather than tell yourself that you don't want to be lonely, why don't you tell yourself that you want a life filled with people and interesting experiences. The brain then starts to search for ways to keep you with people and surround you with experiences.
Now all you have done is fill it with miserable thoughts of loneliness.
SNAP!
You are only as lonely as you think you are! This is a Digital age and you know this that you are connected with people from across the world in a moment's time.
What you have not chosen to see is: How can I make an effort to connect with people so that I feel a sense a belonging?
So, see this clearly and move to answer this question.
Hobbies within a circle, Trekking groups, Music groups, Social movement groups? Name it, it's there!
Pick what you can identify with the most and know that you can find like-minded people...
If there is a hobby that you had to leave mid-way, pursue that NOW!

So instead of anticipating the future and living there, come back to the NOW and focus on what you can do to feel happier with a sense of belonging.
Making sense?

All the best!

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Hi, I am 30 years old, F, married (no kids yet) earning 1.3L/m. Currently I have 4 lakh in FD and a RD of 25K/m earning 7.1% interest. I have been doing SIP of 17.5K(and increase in SIP by 25% yearly). Also, I have an emergency fund of 4 Lakh in savings account. I don't have any knowledge of investment and not sure I am ready to take risk. Please suggest me how to asses risk and what are the best savings option for next 10-12 years.
Ans: It's great that you're taking steps towards financial planning and building wealth for your future. Assessing your risk tolerance is an important first step in determining your investment strategy. Here's a tailored approach to help you assess risk and explore suitable savings options for the next 10-12 years:

Risk Assessment:
Start by understanding your financial goals, time horizon, and comfort level with investment risk.
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Explore fixed-income instruments such as Fixed Deposits (FDs), Recurring Deposits (RDs), and Debt Mutual Funds, which provide capital preservation and predictable returns.
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Prioritize your savings goals based on their importance and urgency, and allocate your investments accordingly.
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Periodically review your investment portfolio and reassess your risk tolerance, financial goals, and market conditions.
Adjust your investment strategy as needed to stay aligned with your objectives and adapt to changes in your financial situation or life circumstances.
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Invest time in learning about different investment options, risk management strategies, and personal finance principles.
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Hi sir am 35yrs old , and i don't have any savings till now. I am planning to do SIP now onwards 30k per month and mai aim is to I need to achieve 1cr till 45yrs. Kindly suggest me some funds were can I invest.
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Asked by Anonymous - May 05, 2024Hindi
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Sir, I started investing in MFs since 2007. These are the schemes where I am investing currently. Do I need to make any changes to my portfolio? I am planning to invest Rs 50,000 per month for a period of 20 years. I want a corpus of Rs 5 cr after 20 years. Do I need to add any new schemes to reach my target? * Mirae Asset Tax Saver Fund G * Motilal Oswal NASDAQ 100 ETF * Parag Parikh Flexi Cap Fund * Aditya Birla Sun Life Mfg Equity Fund * Aditya Birla Sun Life Tax Relief 96 * 360 One Focused Equity Fund - Growth * Mirae Asset Emerging Bluechip Fund - Growth * Quant Tax Plan * Axis Bluechip fund * Canara Robeco Emerging Equities * Canara Robeco Equity Tax Saver * HDFC Gold Trader Fund Growth - Direct * HDFC Tax saver ICICI Prudential Technology Fund – Growth
Ans: You've built a diversified portfolio over the years, showcasing a thoughtful approach to long-term wealth creation. It's commendable how you've spread your investments across different market segments and themes.

To reach your target corpus of Rs 5 crore in 20 years with a monthly investment of Rs 50,000, it's essential to periodically review and adjust your portfolio. Consider rebalancing to ensure alignment with your goals and market conditions.

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As market dynamics evolve, keep an eye on new investment opportunities and emerging sectors. Stay informed and open to adjustments to optimize your portfolio for long-term growth and stability.

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My daughter wants to pursue MBBS ,how can I get admission in AFMC pune
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NEET UG Examination: Admission to AFMC Pune is through the NEET UG (National Eligibility cum Entrance Test for Undergraduate) examination conducted by the National Testing Agency (NTA). Candidates must appear for NEET UG and qualify with the minimum required percentile.

Online Registration: After the NEET UG results are declared, candidates who have qualified for NEET UG and meet the eligibility criteria for AFMC Pune need to register online on the official website of AFMC.

Screening Process: Shortlisted candidates are called for a screening process at AFMC Pune, which includes a written test, aptitude test, and interview. The written test assesses the candidate's scientific knowledge, the aptitude test evaluates the candidate's officer-like qualities, and the interview assesses the candidate's personality and suitability for a career in the Armed Forces.

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