I am 49 year old and staying with mother 81 years old. My first marriage ended in mutual divorce within 1 month and second wife filed false allegations against me in 2016 and then went to her hometown. I am the sole bread earner. I have elder brother and his family who stay in different city. I am being managing job, mother and also fighting cases in her hometown and paying interim maintenance. Sometimes I get confused thinking what should I do in life at this stage once I come out clear from court. Please advise
Ans: Dear Manoj,
It surely must be a stressful time for you. Having said that, every challenging phase always comes to an end and gives way to a brighter path.
Obviously, there are things that you have been forced to give up as your mind was occupied with the divorce, court and all the emotions accompanying these. So, it is time to bring all these back; maybe it's a hobby or it's a project that you want to finish...whatever put it down in writing clearly!
Someday all this unsettling time will end and it will be great to keep yourself upbeat right now with a plan of what you can and want to do post-divorce.
But, there are a few things that you can start right away.
1. Exercising regularly to beat the stress and also become fitter
2. Expanding your social circle to include people who are positive
3. Connecting with your immediate family who can be a huge support system for you
4. Indulging in a hobby that keeps you upbeat
In addition, keep a larger goal that you can start working on right now and that which can continue later too...it could be anything related to work or something that can be running in parallel to your job which requires your expertise. That way, you will keep yourself with a big goal that will require some updating of skill and knowledge as well.
Start NOW!
All the best!
