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Suresh Question by Suresh on Nov 05, 2023Hindi
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I am 47. My wife got illness for last 13 years I had one son 12 years Shall I remarry a girl

Ans: Dear Suresh,
I am unaware of the faith that you belong to. Certain faiths legally don't recognize a second marriage when the first marriage is still active.
Moreover, your wife is ill and you want to leave her...What exactly are you teaching your son?

All the best!

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I am 43 years old . My wife passed away 3 years ago. I have a 13 years old child.My relatives are asking me to get re-married. I am in confused state. Should I remarry or not?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am so sorry for your loss; the passing on of a spouse almost feels like you live that grief everyday.
Your relatives are simply reacting to what they see as loneliness that you are living and that you can bring a Mother for a child.
Now, the choice of remarrying is a decision that solely must be made by you and your daughter. Relatives think for you but they do not know the consequences of such an important step.
Who is this person that you will be marrying?
Are you okay to take on another lady as your wife?
Will she be fine raising your daughter as her own?
What happens when the two of you decide to have a child of your own?
Is your daughter willing to see another person as a 'mother' figure?

If you choose not to remarry?
Being a girl, will you commit to caring for your daughter in more ways than a father?
How will you associate with her emotions as she goes through puberty and needs you to step in to do what her mother would have done for her at this time?
Do you see yourself going through life by yourself once your daughter leaves home to live her life?

These are just a few questions for you to get you started. You can add many more to both scenarios and play them out in your mind. The answer will emerge from within you.
But let me warn you, never ever remarry to temporarily erase your emptiness OR simply to yield to the demands of relatives to bring a new Mother for your daughter. This is a Disaster Zone and everyone will turn out unhappy.
Second shot at living or creating a life must be taken once you are aware that it will never be compared to your earlier life and that both the women are unique and will be respected by you and all as someone who brings forth new energy and wisdom.

Hope this helps. All the best to you!

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I am 28 & earning net 70k, my wife is earning 50k net and my mother has pension of 30k. Means 1.5Lacs per month in hand. I am planning to take a home loan of 60lacs for 20years, which will have 50-55k emi. We have a 5 month baby. Should i take this much loan or should i prefer a smaller house & take smaller amount of loan.
Ans: Buying a home is a major financial step. A home loan impacts cash flow and future goals. Careful planning is important before taking a big loan.

Your total family income is Rs. 1.5 lakh per month. You are considering a Rs. 60 lakh loan for 20 years. The EMI will be around Rs. 50,000 to Rs. 55,000 per month.

Let’s analyse if this is the right decision.

Impact of a High EMI
Your EMI will be about 35% of your total income.
This is manageable, but it reduces flexibility.
A large EMI means less money for savings and investments.
Your monthly cash flow may get affected.
A lower loan amount means a lower EMI and better financial flexibility.

Future Expenses to Consider
Your baby’s expenses will increase. Education and medical costs will rise.
Household expenses may increase with inflation.
Lifestyle expenses may grow over time.
You may need to save for retirement early.
A smaller home loan gives more room for future expenses.

Emergency Fund Requirement
You must keep 6 to 12 months of expenses as an emergency fund.
A high EMI reduces the ability to build an emergency fund.
Medical emergencies or job loss can create financial stress.
Ensure your emergency fund is strong before taking a big loan.

Investment and Wealth Creation
You must continue investing for future financial goals.
A high EMI may reduce the ability to invest regularly.
If most of your income goes towards EMI, wealth creation slows down.
Keeping EMI manageable helps in long-term financial growth.

Home Loan Interest Burden
A Rs. 60 lakh loan over 20 years means high interest payments.
The total interest paid may be equal to or more than the loan amount.
A smaller loan means less interest burden and early repayment.
A lower loan amount can help achieve debt-free status faster.

Stability of Income
Your income is stable, but future risks exist.
A job change, career break, or business loss can affect loan repayment.
A smaller EMI helps in managing risks.
Avoid overstretching on EMI to maintain financial stability.

Loan Tenure and Flexibility
A shorter tenure means higher EMIs but less interest paid.
A longer tenure means smaller EMIs but more interest paid.
Prepaying a loan early can reduce interest burden.
Choose a loan tenure that keeps EMI affordable but allows faster repayment.

Alternative Approach
Consider a smaller loan with a higher down payment.
Buy a house that meets your needs but reduces financial strain.
Invest the saved amount in higher-return assets.
Balancing homeownership and investment leads to better financial growth.

Family Financial Security
Ensure adequate health and life insurance before taking a loan.
A home loan is a long-term commitment.
Securing your family financially is more important than a bigger house.
A well-planned loan should not affect your financial security.

Renting vs Buying
Compare the cost of renting a similar house.
If rent is significantly lower than EMI, renting may be better for now.
Buying later with higher savings can reduce loan burden.
A wise decision considers both financial and lifestyle factors.

Finally
A Rs. 60 lakh loan is manageable but may reduce financial flexibility.
A smaller loan can help maintain balance between EMI, savings, and investments.
Ensure emergency funds, insurance, and future expenses are covered before taking a big loan.
Buying a house should not compromise wealth creation and financial security.
Making a practical decision will keep your finances strong in the long run.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

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What's the difference between term and permanent life insurance?
Ans: Difference Between Term and Permanent Life Insurance
Life insurance is important for financial security. It helps protect loved ones in case of an untimely demise. There are two main types: Term Life Insurance and Permanent Life Insurance.

Both serve different purposes. Let’s analyse their features, benefits, and suitability.

Definition and Purpose
Term Life Insurance offers coverage for a fixed period. If the policyholder passes away within this period, the nominee gets the sum assured.
Permanent Life Insurance provides coverage for the entire lifetime. It also has an investment or savings component.
Cost and Affordability
Term insurance is much cheaper. It provides only pure life cover.
Permanent insurance is costly. It includes life cover and an investment component.
For those looking for maximum coverage at a lower cost, term insurance is better.

Premium Structure
Term insurance has fixed and affordable premiums. Premiums remain constant throughout the policy term.
Permanent insurance has high premiums. A part of it goes towards building cash value.
If the goal is cost efficiency, term insurance is the preferred choice.

Maturity Benefits
Term insurance has no maturity benefit. If the insured survives the term, there is no payout.
Permanent insurance builds cash value. This can be withdrawn or borrowed against.
Those looking for pure protection should opt for term insurance.

Investment Component
Term insurance does not have an investment feature. It is purely for protection.
Permanent insurance acts like an investment. It grows in value over time.
However, returns on permanent insurance are often lower than other investments.

Flexibility in Coverage
Term insurance allows coverage for a specific term, such as 10, 20, or 30 years.
Permanent insurance covers the insured for life.
For those wanting lifelong coverage, permanent insurance is an option.

Liquidity and Borrowing Facility
Term insurance has no cash value. It cannot be used for loans.
Permanent insurance builds cash value. This can be borrowed against if needed.
However, borrowing reduces the final payout to nominees.

Returns on Investment
Term insurance provides no returns. It only offers financial security.
Permanent insurance gives returns, but they are lower than mutual funds.
Instead of permanent insurance, investing in mutual funds can provide better growth.

Tax Benefits
Term insurance premiums qualify for tax deductions under Section 80C.
Permanent insurance also qualifies for 80C deductions. Additionally, the maturity amount is tax-free under Section 10(10D).
Both options offer tax benefits. However, term insurance is more cost-effective.

Who Should Choose Term Insurance?
Individuals looking for high coverage at a low premium.
Young professionals with dependents.
Those who prefer separate investment and insurance planning.
For most people, term insurance is the best choice.

Who Should Choose Permanent Insurance?
Individuals looking for lifelong coverage.
Those who need a cash-value component.
People who want a forced savings mechanism.
However, better investment options exist outside of permanent insurance.

Common Myths About Life Insurance
"Term insurance is a waste of money."
Reality: It provides financial security at an affordable cost.
"Permanent insurance gives better returns."
Reality: Mutual funds and other investments usually offer higher returns.
"Investing in insurance is smart."
Reality: Insurance should be for protection, not wealth creation.
Final Insights
Term insurance is affordable and effective for protection.
Permanent insurance is expensive and offers lower returns.
For financial growth, separate investment in mutual funds is better.
It is best to consult a Certified Financial Planner for personalised advice.
Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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