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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 03, 2023Hindi
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I am in my 40s and trying to find love online. I notice that a lot of people online are not serious about relationships. How do I filter through profiles and find genuine ones? I am not looking for one night stands. Matrimony apps are usually monitored by parents. How do I filter these challenges and find someone I can spend my life with?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand that dating in your 40s can be challenging given that you are ready to settle and most people you meet are still exploring their options before finally settling down. With a strategic approach, you can increase the chances of finding genuine connections.

1) Craft a thoughtful and detailed profile that reflects your values and relationship goals. Make sure to mention what you want and what you have to offer in the BIO to attract people whose preference aligns with yours.
2) While browsing through profiles, pay attention to the content of their bios. You can learn a lot about people from it.
3) Once you find a match, make sure to be clear with your intention to steer away anyone looking for a casual relationship.
4) Choose your dating app carefully. There are apps that cater to daters looking for casual flings and then there are apps that are mostly for serious daters.

Also, remember that patience is key; finding a life partner takes time. You can be selective but not so much that you restrict yourself from having a good time while finding a life partner. Dating should not feel like a business deal; if it does, you are doing it wrong.

Best Wishes!

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Hello Gurus! I am 40 yr divorced NRI man in the UK. I have a 10 yr old son and he lives with his mum in a different country. I have visitation rights and I meet him regularly. I have been divorced for 6 years now. I have been trying to date since last 5 years and it has been quite a frustrating experience. I do not want to jump to Matrimonial Sites as I would prefer to date someone to know them better before deciding to settle in a committed relationship. Also, there are many frauds on the Matrimonial Sites. My challenge is that most of the single women in the age range of 36 – 42 that I have met in last 5 yrs is that either they have unstable career and looking for someone to depend upon or if they have a career, they are arrogant and unruly. Though I look decent, I don’t have looks as a criteria. I worry sometimes if will I ever find love and affection in my life. Apart from the dating apps, where else do you suggest I could try to meet decent and normal woman?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I hear your concern but I don't think it has anything to do with the mode of dating. Online or IRL, rude people will continue to be rude everywhere. Also, not everyone with a stable career is arrogant and unruly, men and women alike.

Apart from dating apps, you can try finding love IRL. You can try going to clubs, cafes, or social gatherings to meet like-minded women. Or you can ask your friends to set you up with someone who matches your criteria. You can join some activity of your liking to find women who prefer the same things as you. Start with a HI and see where it goes.

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• It is difficult to predict the exact returns you will get in 10 years as the market is volatile.

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My mother have 10 laks. Currently in FD so whatever interst she got she manage home on that interst. She is living alone so need to ask what is the better way to keep her money safe but interst she got higher than current interst value. Is SWP is good option for her ?
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Potential for Higher Returns:
By investing the funds from the FD into a suitable mutual fund or conservative investment option, your mother may earn higher returns compared to the current FD interest rate.
With SWP, she can periodically withdraw a fixed amount, which may include both the returns generated by the investment and a portion of the principal amount, depending on her withdrawal needs.
Liquidity:
SWP provides flexibility, allowing your mother to withdraw a fixed amount at regular intervals to meet her living expenses.
Unlike traditional FDs, where the entire amount is locked in for a fixed tenure, SWP allows her to access her funds whenever required, providing liquidity.
Safety:
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Ensure that the chosen investment aligns with her risk tolerance and investment horizon.
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Small-cap stocks generally offer higher growth potential but come with increased volatility and risk compared to large-cap stocks.
Mid-cap stocks occupy a middle ground, offering a balance between growth potential and risk.
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Shifting your investment from large-cap (Nifty 200 momentum) to small-cap stocks could potentially increase the risk in your portfolio due to the higher volatility associated with small-cap stocks.
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Diversification:
Review your overall portfolio diversification. If you already have exposure to mid-cap and small-cap stocks, adding more small-cap stocks may further increase concentration risk in your portfolio.
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Investment Horizon:
Assess your investment horizon and risk tolerance. Small-cap stocks are best suited for investors with a long-term horizon who can withstand short-term market volatility.
Ensure that your decision aligns with your financial goals and investment strategy.
Professional Advice:
Consider consulting with a financial advisor or Certified Financial Planner to evaluate your investment strategy, assess the impact of switching to small-cap stocks, and ensure it aligns with your overall financial plan.
A professional can provide personalized guidance based on your individual circumstances and help you make informed decisions.
Ultimately, whether to switch your investment from Nifty 200 momentum to small-cap stocks depends on your risk appetite, investment horizon, and portfolio diversification strategy. Evaluate the potential risks and rewards carefully and seek professional advice if needed before making any changes to your investment strategy.

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