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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Aug 21, 2023

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naveen Question by naveen on Aug 20, 2023Hindi
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Hi, I am 40+, and my wife is 38. we don't have physical relation since one years as she does not have any interest in all these. I tried to convince and tried to raise feelings several times , but every time i had to face dissappointment. I love her so much that i cant think of other girl for my passion. please help me how can i make my sexual life smooth.

Ans: Dear Naveen,
You can make your sex life smooth by not focusing much on it.
Yes; focus instead on how to bond better as a couple.
For a woman, what happens within the bedroom is directly dependent on what happens outside of it. A lot of emotional connect where she feels wanted, loved, valued, cherished is where you should be spending time and raising feelings in.
Here's what you can do if you haven't done these already:
1. Spend time as a couple going on dates, vacations and more
2. Indulge in common interests together
3. Offer to help out with household chores not just over the weekends
4. Pamper her with not just gifts but encouraging her to spend time with her friends
5. Connect better with her side of the family as well
6. If you have children, offer to be more hands-on raising them
7. Indulge in non-sexual intimacy like holding hands, cuddling, kissing...

This does not directly impact your sex life but it helps you connect with your wife better where she feels nurtured enough to want to give back more into the relationship; intimacy being one of them!

All the best!

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Hello Kanchan I'm 43 & my wife is 39. We have known each other for almost 25 yrs now (8 yrs before marriage and 17yrs of married life). We had our ups and downs in our relationship. But somehow we stayed together. We have a daughter who is 8. I've been working abroad for 4yrs and I used to come only once in a year to see my family. Now I'm back and doing a full time job. My wife works from home as a freelancer. I've observed that, after I returned, my wife has lost interest in me. She's also not interested at all in physical relationship. It is really very irritating as I am a romantic person. She simply says she doesn't feel like having intercourse. She does love me but what's the solution? How do I satisfy my feelings? She agrees to have intercourse so that I don't feel bad. But it is not satisfying! How do I tackle this situation?
Ans: Hello Keshav

It sounds like you're going through a tough time in your relationship. It's important to approach this situation with empathy and understanding towards your wife's perspective. It could be that she's going through her own challenges that are affecting her desire for physical intimacy. It could also be that the dynamic of your relationship has shifted with your return, and you both need to find a new balance.

The first step is to have an open and honest conversation with your wife about your feelings and concerns. Listen to her perspective and try to understand what might be causing her lack of interest in physical intimacy. It's important to approach this conversation without judgment or blame.

If there are underlying issues that need to be addressed, it might be helpful to seek the support of a couples therapist or counselor. They can help you both work through any challenges and find ways to improve your intimacy and connection.

In the meantime, it's important to focus on building emotional intimacy in your relationship. This can be done through spending quality time together, having meaningful conversations, and expressing appreciation and gratitude for each other. This may help to improve your physical intimacy over time.

Remember, every relationship has its ups and downs, but with effort and communication, you can work through challenges and strengthen your connection with your partner.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 20, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Nov 14, 2024
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Hello Anu I ma married man with age of 54 & my wife is 52 years. We are married since 30 years and we are not having good sexual relationship. She is more keen but i have some issues with my health. From the beginning I have disorders and do even ejaculate very soon. Because of this our relations are not that good. Now we are on the verge of separation but due to childrens who are quire grown up and settled in their life they are strictly against this decision of ours. My wife wants divorce from me and wants to settle down with someone else and at present there is no such person in her life. I also want divorce but of the last thought. How can I regain my sexual life again please let me know.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's really sad all the years of togetherness becomes nothing in front of physical relationships.
My suggestion would be to work on whatever is coming in between the two of you; which means what is stopping you from having a good sex life must be addressed.
It could be simple medical treatment or mind techniques to work on these challenges. Divorce in my opinion in your case, seems to be an impulsive move taken in frustration. Think it through and calmly address the main issue and work at it. Request your wife also to be a part of this. Do reconsider your decision to separate by trying to work out the differences. Even after that if things persist, then you know what you want to do. But at least give it a try...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Sir MNIT Jaipur AI and Data science vs NIT jamshedpur CSE Vs MNNIT Allahabad ECE what should I choose.I Am from Rajshthan. Or take drop for IIT next year
Ans: Choosing Between MNIT Jaipur (AI & Data Science), NIT Jamshedpur (CSE), and MNNIT Allahabad (ECE):

1. Understanding the Branches:
AI & Data Science (MNIT Jaipur):
A fast-growing field with rising demand, though its future is still evolving. Best if you're passionate about AI and strong in programming.

CSE (NIT Jamshedpur):
A well-established and highly sought-after branch with excellent job prospects. Ideal if you want broader career options and strong placements.

ECE (MNNIT Allahabad):
Offers a solid foundation in electronics and communication, with flexibility to move into software roles if you're willing to learn programming on your own.

2. College Highlights:
MNIT Jaipur:
Good reputation, balanced college life, and decent placements.

NIT Jamshedpur:
Known for excellent CSE placements and a strong coding environment.

MNNIT Allahabad:
Has a very active coding culture and great placement track record, especially in CSE.

3. What to Consider:
Placements:
CSE at NIT Jamshedpur and MNNIT Allahabad usually offers the best salary packages.

Coding Culture:
MNNIT Allahabad and NIT Jamshedpur both have vibrant and supportive coding communities.

Campus Life:
MNIT Jaipur has a lively campus in a better city setting. Allahabad is quieter, and the city isn’t as happening.

Faculty & Facilities:
All three colleges have solid infrastructure and good faculty support.

4. Match with Your Interests:
If you enjoy coding:
Go for CSE at MNNIT Allahabad or NIT Jamshedpur.

If you're passionate about AI/Data Science:
MNIT Jaipur’s program could be a great fit — especially if you're ready to explore this emerging field.

If you’re open to ECE with plans to shift to software later:
MNNIT Allahabad’s ECE can work well if you’re self-motivated.

5. Final Advice:
For top placements & coding focus:
Choose CSE at MNNIT Allahabad or NIT Jamshedpur.

For balanced campus life & decent placements:
Consider MNIT Jaipur, especially if choosing between CSE and AI/Data Science.

For long-term AI/DS interest:
MNIT Jaipur’s AI/Data Science is a good pick if you're truly enthusiastic and willing to upskill.

For flexibility via ECE:
MNNIT Allahabad’s ECE can still open doors to software roles, provided you put in extra effort.

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