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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 12, 2024Hindi
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I (30F) had been in some Relationships at different stages of my Life, which Failed due to different Reasons and I am not Virgin. After getting exhausted emotionally, I quit Dating, 2 years ago & I decided to settle down for an Arranged Marriage, as a last resort. Since the last 2 years, I have met many Eligible Bachelors who seemed to show genuine interest in me, at the initial stage. But at some point of time, all of them asked me about my Virginity & Body Count. I had always been Honest with all of them. And almost all of them Rejected me for this one Reason. Some of them straightaway told me that they couldn't Trust any Woman who's not Virgin. Some of them gave some other Trivial Reason to Reject me, though, I could intuitively guess the Real Reason for Rejection. And some of them, just Ghosted me, immediately. I had been feeling very Bad about getting Rejected, it felt as if I was being Punished for my Honesty. Now I have begun to Question myself, whether I really need to tell my Prospective Partner about my Past? Why should my Past matter to my Future Partner? Do I owe, my Future Partner, any explanation for the way I have lived my Life until now? Is it really Fair to Judge me only on the basis of my Virginity, rather than my entire being as a whole? Does my entire worth depend only upon my Virginity? Why do Men raise Questions about my Past, in the first place, while I never asked any of them about their Past, as I don't care about my Partner's Past? Why are Men so Insecure about Sexually Active Women, is their Male Ego so Fragile that they can't accept a Woman's Past? Do they have the Right to Ask a Woman about her Sexual History, in the first place? Do they really need to know about my Past? Do I really have any Obligation to be Honest with them & disclose about my Past, before Marriage itself? My Family members are advising me that it's not Wrong to say a few White Lies, for the sake of Marriage? Would it be Wise, on my part to follow their Advice & Lie to Arranged Marriage prospects that I am Virgin? Or else, in what other ways can I Answer, Questions about my Virginity, Body Count & Sexual History, raised by future prospects, such that I don't get Rejected?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand your frustration. You made some very valid points. You are absolutely right- no one has any business asking you about your virginity. And you are also correct that it does not define you at all. But the truth is, to some people, it matters more than it should. They are not entirely at fault alone; it is the whole society. Nevertheless, you are right. While it is your decision whether you want to lie or be honest, I would suggest telling the truth. Not for their sake; for yours. You should not have to live your married life always thinking "Would my past have mattered to him?" or wondering if things would have been different if you told him the truth. Moreover, being honest will set you free; maybe it comes with rejections, but at least you do not ever have to bear the weight of lies or feel guilty about deceiving someone. And most importantly, you won’t have to settle for someone who cares so much about such superficial things. Happy marriages cannot start with a lie.

We can't control what's important to whom, but we can respect them, even if we disagree. If you are not comfortable disclosing your body count or past, simply answer their question with yours- "Does that matter to you a lot?" If they say yes, you can reject him because your values don't align.

Hope this helps.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 07, 2024
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I (27M) am well Educated & well settled in a High-paying Job. Tall, Handsome & Fit. I am a Sociable & Outgoing person, but I never had a Girlfriend because I believe in having an Arranged Marriage with a Girl from the same Community, who's Family background is known to Parents. I strongly believe in abstaining from any kind of Sexual Intimacy until I get Married, due to my Personal, Moral, Ethical, Emotional as well as Religious & Socio-cultural Values. I'd want to experience even my First Kiss, only after getting Married to my Life Partner. And obviously, I expect my Future Life Partner also to Share similar Values. I cannot settle for Marriage with a Girl who had Pre-marital Sex (or even Kissed) anyone else in a Romantic Relationship, prior to Marriage. I would Reject such a Girl, however Beautiful, Well-Educated & Well-Earning she might be (all other Qualities being Subjective). Now, my Family has started looking up suitable Brides for me, within my Community. The Problem is that most Girls of our Community, in this Generation, are Well Educated & Financially Independent, staying in Cities, away from Parents & most of them, probably had Romantic Relationship(s) & experienced Physical Intimacy, at any Base Level. I know this by closely observing & discussing with many Girls of my Community (including my Female Cousins, Female Friends & Neighbours etc). They all are ridiculing me for my Preferences & advising me to forsake my Values, as they are Outdated in this Age. Now, I am Worried that I might never get to Marry a Girl who shares my Values. My greatest Fear is not ending up Unmarried, but getting Married to a Woman who lies about her Past (I consider it as Cheating). Can you please advise me on, how can I be absolutely Sure that a Girl is an Un-Kissed Virgin? How do I bring up this topic with any Girl before Marriage & ask her, without coming off as Creepy? How can I be Sure whether the Girl is being absolutely Honest about her Past or not? What are some other ways to find out about the Past of a Girl, apart from having an open conversation with herself? Please advise me regarding this, my Heart is not letting me foresake my Values, which are my Core Principles. I am willing to compromise on some other Qualities i.e., I'd happily settle down with a Girl who's Below Average in terms of Looks, Education & even Unemployed, as long as I can be Sure that she's an Un-Kissed Virgin. How can I be absolutely Sure of that?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You don't have to forsake your values based on others' opinions of it. If it makes you happy, you should stick to it. Having said that, you cannot force the same values on others. I understand you want a partner who has a similar mindset. The only way to get what you want is an open conversation- when you speak to a match, you can open up about your outlook and clear it from your end that you want the exact same values in your partner and politely request them to reject the alliance if she has any past relationships or has been intimate with anyone in any form. Let her know that you are not judging her, but this part is very important for you. Make it about yourself, because it is. Do not let the woman feel that there is some flaw in her, or start investigating her past.

Now, coming to your other query, how to be absolutely sure that she is telling the truth about her experiences- there is no such technique. You have to trust her. Moreover, you should understand that as much as you believe your values are important, trust in your partner is equally important in having a healthy and happy relationship. While you work on finding the partner of your choice, work on having a little more faith in people.
Hope this helps.

Best Wishes

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 23, 2024Hindi
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I (30M) am a I am Virgin & never had any Relationship. I have been meeting & interacting with several ladies through Arranged Marriage Platforms, since the last 3 years. As per my Observation, almost all the Women have had Relationship(s) in the Past & most of them are not Virgin. Whenever I tried to ask them (Respectfully) about their Past Relationship(s), some of them refuse to talk about their Past & most others try to shift the Blame onto someone else, usually, it's either the Ex Boyfriend who'd been Unfaithful/Abusive or either Party's Parents who hadn't approved of their Marriage due to various Reasons. In the last 3 years, not even single Woman I'd met, had owned up & taken Responsibility for her Choices/Actions/Mistakes & the consequences arising out of it. This made it very difficult for me to trust most of them. Since I have no first-hand experience in Relationship dynamics, I am unable to understand, whether Girls/Women can NEVER be the one at Fault, in a Relationship? Is it always the Fault of the Male Counterpart, Parents or the Patriarchal Society? My biggest fear is, if I Marry such a Woman, will she ever take any Accountability for her Actions/Mistakes, which may cause Conflicts in our Future Married Life? Or will she conveniently shift the entire Blame onto me & project me as a Bad Husband? I may seem to be overthinking, but my Fears are not unfounded as Divorce cases accompanied by False Accusations from Wives have been increasing at an Alarming Rate. Preferably, I'd want to Marry a Virgin Woman, who hadn't been in Relationship like myself or atleast a Woman can be Honest & Transparent about her Past, taking Responsibility for her Actions/Choices/Mistakes. How do I find a Woman like this? Please guide me on how to Question a prospective match, to Judge her Character, realistically?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your concerns make sense, but if you think about it, the majority of people do not know how to take accountability- it has nothing to do with gender. For instance, some men say they are acting like casanovas because of some girl they had a crush on, who rejected their proposal, and some say they have commitment issues because an ex-girlfriend had broken their trust. So, my point is, it's a people problem, not a woman problem.
Having said that, a good way to judge someone is to open up about yourself first. Next time you meet someone, instead of asking about her past, try talking about yours. Mention that you did not have a relationship, or you like people who can own up to their mistakes, etc. This way, you will make her feel comfortable enough to open up to you. It's not easy for women to disclose sensitive details, especially to men. And, ideally, their past should not play a part in their present, but since it is so important to you, try this technique.

Best Wishes.

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Thank you very much for the Reply, Dear Anu Ma'am. I greatly appreciate you taking out some of your Valuable time for advising me. But I still have something to follow up, with respect to your Answer. Please don't mind the Legality part of my Question, I was overthinking due to my bad experience. But personally, the Sexual History of a Prospective Partner, could be a Deal Breaker for me. As I have already mentioned, I'm a Virgin & I'd prefer to get Married to a Woman who's Virgin as well. If I get along quite well with any prospective match & after getting emotionally connected with her, if I come to know that she's not Virgin or has a Body Count of more than 1, I'd be greatly disappointed & may not go ahead with the Relationship Whole-heartedly, even if we both get along very well with each other on all other aspects, except Sexuality, which is a very sensitive matter to me, personally. At that point, I'd be in a bigger Dilemma, if I go ahead & Marry her, I'd be insecure about her Sexual Past. If I'd have to Break-up with her, I'd feel the guilt & regret of wasting a lot of time (both her & mine) on something which wasn't meant to be. I had a similar bad experience in the Past, hence I prefer to clarify on all the Deal Breakers, at the initial stage itself to avoid wasting the time & effort of 2 People & Families involved. Please advise me, whether my approach is Right or not? How do ask a Woman about her Sexual History, in the initial stage of our match-making & in a way that wouldn't offend her but prompt her to give me a Genuine & Honest Answer? And how do I ensure that she is being Honest with me, as these days, it seems to be quite common for Urban Young Women to have a High Body Count, before Marriage?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
So, if that is one of your core requirements that she either be a virgin or not have a body count of more than 1, well, I respect it.
But, how exactly are you going to find this information without actually offending the other person? Simple, you actually be honest and tell them that this is important to you; say it in a manner which is not offensive or questioning their integrity. So, it's about you dropping all your defenses and going in literally being vulnerable. Once you do that, the other person sees your genuine intent which is not to offend them BUT to state your requirement.
Of course, be aware that this may work at times and not always. So, assess who you are meeting with and then use this approach. Even after that, how are you going to be sure that they are telling you the truth? I guess, using the heart over mind will go better here.

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Hi sir Am 39 years ,working and I have an mutual fund portfolio of 42 L investment in large ,middle and small cap funds, I want to retire by 2030 with an corpus of 2cr. Currently am planning to invest lump sump 15 lakh. Is it possible to achive the target? Can you give me the advice
Ans: Assessing Your Current Portfolio
Your mutual fund portfolio of Rs 42 lakh across large, mid, and small-cap funds is a great start.

Diversification across these categories provides a balance of stability, growth, and potential higher returns.

However, reviewing your portfolio periodically is critical to ensure alignment with your financial goals.

Large-cap funds offer stability but grow slower, while small and mid-caps have higher potential with more risk.

With Rs 42 lakh already invested, consistent growth over the next seven years will matter.

Evaluating Your Retirement Goal
You aim to accumulate Rs 2 crore by 2030.
This implies that your investments must grow at an appropriate rate annually.
Considering your lump sum investment plan of Rs 15 lakh, your overall corpus will increase substantially.
However, achieving Rs 2 crore will depend on market performance and consistent fund review.
Insights on Your Investment Plan
Investing Rs 15 lakh in one go is strategic but requires careful fund selection.

Actively managed mutual funds can help you generate better returns over the years.

Avoid index funds, as they offer limited potential to outperform the market.

Actively managed funds, guided by a certified financial planner, help align your portfolio with your goals.

Direct funds may seem cost-effective, but they lack professional advice.

Regular funds, through an MFD with CFP credentials, provide guidance and periodic review.

Tax Implications
Equity mutual funds’ LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
STCG is taxed at 20%. For debt funds, both STCG and LTCG follow your income tax slab.
Considering these tax rules, strategically plan redemptions closer to retirement.
Steps to Achieve Your Target
Step 1: Review and Realign Your Portfolio
Check if your current funds align with your goal and risk appetite.
Ensure a balance between large, mid, and small-cap funds for growth and stability.
Allocate a portion to flexi-cap or balanced advantage funds for risk-adjusted returns.
Step 2: Invest the Lump Sum Strategically
Avoid investing Rs 15 lakh in one fund or at one time.
Consider systematic transfer plans (STP) for gradual investment into equity funds.
This approach helps manage market volatility and ensures disciplined investing.
Step 3: Focus on Actively Managed Funds
Actively managed funds, guided by professionals, outperform market indices.
Avoid index funds due to their limited scope for alpha generation.
Regular funds with expert advice can ensure proper asset allocation and rebalancing.
Step 4: Increase SIP Contributions
If feasible, start additional SIPs to boost your corpus steadily.
SIPs instill disciplined investing and benefit from rupee cost averaging.
Step 5: Reinvest Dividends
Opt for a growth option instead of dividend payouts in mutual funds.
This reinvests earnings, accelerating your portfolio growth.
Step 6: Monitor Your Portfolio
Periodically review your portfolio's performance and rebalance when needed.
Ensure your investments align with your risk profile and market conditions.
Managing Risks
Your portfolio should be diversified across sectors and fund categories.
Avoid over-concentration in any single fund or asset class.
Rebalancing is crucial to ensure your portfolio stays aligned with your risk tolerance.
Retirement Planning Beyond Investments
Inflation Consideration
Account for inflation, which can erode your purchasing power.
Choose funds that can generate inflation-beating returns consistently.
Contingency Fund
Maintain a contingency fund equal to 6-12 months of expenses.
This protects your long-term investments during emergencies.
Health Insurance
Ensure you have adequate health insurance coverage for unforeseen medical expenses.
This avoids depleting your investment corpus for healthcare needs.
Retirement Expenses
Identify your post-retirement expenses, considering inflation and lifestyle needs.
Plan to cover essential and discretionary expenses without financial strain.
Final Insights
Your Rs 42 lakh mutual fund portfolio and Rs 15 lakh lump sum investment have potential.
Strategic planning, disciplined investing, and periodic review are vital for success.
Focus on actively managed funds and avoid direct funds for professional guidance.
With consistent effort, achieving Rs 2 crore by 2030 is realistic.
Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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I want to create a corpus of 1 cr in next 10 years. I am doing a sip of 10k from last 5 years. What should i do and how much should i save now monthly and in what options?
Ans: You aim to accumulate Rs. 1 crore in 10 years. Achieving this requires a disciplined savings strategy and optimal investments. Your current SIP of Rs. 10,000 per month for the past 5 years is a great start. However, adjustments are necessary to reach your goal. Let’s create a step-by-step plan.

Understanding Your Current SIP Contributions
Current Progress

Your existing SIPs have built a decent corpus over 5 years.
Equity mutual funds provide growth, especially if the portfolio is well-diversified.
Impact of Time

Compounding needs both time and sufficient contributions.
To achieve Rs. 1 crore in 10 years, you’ll need to increase your SIP contributions.
How Much to Save Monthly
Additional SIP Contributions Needed
Review your target and adjust your SIP contributions.
Based on current market trends, increasing SIP to Rs. 20,000-25,000 monthly could help.
This will ensure you stay on track to meet your goal in the next 10 years.
Investment Options to Consider
Actively Managed Equity Mutual Funds

Actively managed funds offer better growth potential than index funds.
Fund managers help optimise returns by navigating market opportunities.
Diversify across large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds for balanced growth.
Avoid Index Funds for Higher Returns

Index funds follow the market and may not outperform actively managed funds.
Actively managed funds provide a better opportunity for long-term wealth creation.
Hybrid Funds for Stability

Hybrid funds balance equity and debt exposure, reducing volatility.
Allocate a small portion to hybrid funds to stabilise the portfolio.
Systematic Investments Over Lump Sums

Continue SIPs as they help average out market volatility.
Avoid lump-sum investments unless the market shows a significant correction.
Tax-Efficient Investing
Minimise Tax Liabilities

Equity mutual funds offer better post-tax returns compared to debt funds.
Long-term capital gains (LTCG) tax of 12.5% applies only if gains exceed Rs. 1.25 lakh.
Avoid Frequent Redemptions

Keep investments for the long term to minimise short-term capital gains tax of 20%.
Regularly Review Your Investments
Monitor Portfolio Performance

Review your mutual fund portfolio annually.
Ensure funds are consistently outperforming their benchmarks.
Rebalance Periodically

Adjust equity and debt allocations as needed.
Maintain a higher equity allocation for the next 6-8 years, reducing it closer to the goal.
Emergency Fund and Insurance
Maintain an Emergency Fund

Ensure you have 6-12 months of expenses in liquid assets.
This protects your investments during unforeseen financial needs.
Adequate Insurance Coverage

Review your term insurance to ensure it matches your financial responsibilities.
Consider health insurance coverage to avoid medical emergencies impacting investments.
Avoid Common Pitfalls
Avoid Direct Mutual Funds

Direct funds lack personalised guidance.
Invest through a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) who can provide tailored advice.
Stay Consistent

Avoid stopping SIPs during market downturns.
SIPs benefit from market corrections by purchasing more units at lower prices.
Don’t Time the Market

Focus on long-term growth rather than trying to predict short-term market movements.
Final Insights
Reaching Rs. 1 crore in 10 years is achievable with disciplined savings and smart investments. Increase your SIP contributions to Rs. 20,000-25,000 monthly, focusing on actively managed funds. Review your portfolio regularly, rebalance when needed, and maintain financial safeguards like an emergency fund and insurance. These steps will ensure you meet your goal confidently and efficiently.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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Hello Sir/Madam, My age is 31,I got married in 2021, and I have a one-year-old son. I work as a digital marketing professional, earning ?80,000 per month. I have a home loan of ?20.30 lakhs that started in 2020. I am currently paying an EMI of ?18,000 per month, and since last year, I have been paying an additional ?4,000 per month. I am also planning to make a ?1 lakh prepayment from next year, for which I am saving ?5,000 per month to close it earlier. For investments, I have been doing an SIP of ?5,000 per month for the last two years, which I increased to ?10,000 last year for my retirement planning. Additionally, I have a ?50 lakh term insurance policy and am currently building an emergency fund. I believe I am managing my investment journey well, except for the house. Could you please suggest some points to enhance this journey?
Ans: At the age of 31, you are on a solid financial footing with a clear understanding of your goals. You're actively managing your finances, including taking steps toward early repayment of your home loan, building an emergency fund, and investing for retirement. These actions show discipline and foresight, which are key to long-term financial success.

Let's review your current financial situation and suggest some enhancements to improve your financial journey.

Strengths of Your Current Financial Plan
Income and Savings

Earning Rs. 80,000 per month is a strong base for savings and investments.
You're already contributing Rs. 10,000 per month towards your retirement through SIPs.
Saving Rs. 5,000 monthly for prepayment of your home loan is a prudent approach.
Home Loan Repayment Strategy

You have an active strategy to reduce your home loan faster by paying an additional Rs. 4,000 per month.
The Rs. 1 lakh prepayment plan from next year will significantly reduce your interest burden.
Insurance Coverage

You have a Rs. 50 lakh term insurance policy.
This coverage ensures your family's financial security in case of an untimely event.
Investment for Retirement

Your SIP investments are steadily growing, and increasing your SIP from Rs. 5,000 to Rs. 10,000 is a great move.
The goal of building wealth for retirement is well-defined.
Areas for Improvement
While your current strategy is strong, there are a few areas where you can make adjustments for greater efficiency and financial strength.

1. Home Loan Prepayment Strategy
Evaluate Loan Prepayment Impact

You're saving Rs. 5,000 a month for a Rs. 1 lakh prepayment. This will help reduce the principal, but it’s important to assess the long-term benefits.
Consider reallocating some funds from your emergency fund or monthly savings into a lump-sum prepayment, as this will reduce the overall interest burden faster.
A quicker reduction of principal can result in significant savings on interest payments over time.
Opt for a Balance Between Loan Prepayment and Investments

Prioritize investments for long-term growth, especially equity-based funds, to take advantage of compounding.
Ensure that prepayment does not come at the cost of your investment goals, particularly for retirement.
Reassess Interest Rates

If your home loan interest rate is high, consider refinancing to a lower rate, if possible.
This can save you money on interest and reduce your overall financial burden.
2. Investment Strategy for Retirement
Review Asset Allocation

While you are investing in SIPs for retirement, it is essential to regularly assess your asset allocation.
Diversify across equity funds, debt funds, and hybrid funds to ensure balanced growth.
Since you are young, maintaining a higher allocation towards equity will offer greater growth potential. However, ensure you periodically reduce equity exposure as you approach retirement age.
Active Mutual Funds vs Direct Plans

You mentioned your SIPs; I recommend you invest through a Mutual Fund Distributor (MFD) with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) credential rather than opting for direct plans.
While direct plans save on commissions, they may lack the ongoing advice and portfolio adjustments that an MFD offers, particularly as your financial situation evolves.
Investing through an MFD with CFP certification can provide professional guidance on asset allocation, tax-efficient strategies, and portfolio rebalancing.
Plan for Systematic Withdrawal Plans (SWPs)

As you build your retirement corpus, consider shifting towards a Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) to convert your lump sum investment into a regular income post-retirement.
This option offers flexibility and ensures a steady income stream while maintaining the growth potential of your invested corpus.
3. Emergency Fund Management
Adequate Emergency Fund Size

You're in the process of building an emergency fund, which is essential.
Ensure that your emergency fund covers at least 6-12 months of living expenses, including your EMI payments.
Invest this fund in liquid or ultra-short-term debt funds, which provide better returns than a savings account, yet offer easy access when needed.
Reassess Emergency Fund Allocations

Once your fund reaches the target, consider rebalancing the amount, based on your current lifestyle and expenses.
As your income increases over time, you might need to adjust the size of the emergency fund accordingly.
4. Insurance and Financial Security
Review Insurance Coverage

Your Rs. 50 lakh term insurance is a good start, but it's important to evaluate whether it adequately covers your family's future needs.
As your income and responsibilities grow, you may want to consider increasing the coverage to ensure your family's financial security in case of any unforeseen events.
Consider Health Insurance

In addition to life insurance, health insurance is a critical aspect of financial security.
Ensure that you have adequate health insurance coverage for yourself and your family, especially considering the rising healthcare costs.
Look for comprehensive family floater plans or top-up policies that provide extensive coverage.
5. Tax Efficiency and Retirement Planning
Tax Planning for SIPs and Prepayments

When investing for retirement, be mindful of the tax implications.
Equity-based funds are subject to long-term capital gains (LTCG) tax, but the tax rate is lower than debt funds.
Debt funds are taxed as per the income tax slab, so a balanced approach to equity and debt investments will help optimize your taxes.
Utilize Tax-Saving Instruments

Continue investing in tax-saving instruments like PPF, NPS, or tax-saving fixed deposits under Section 80C.
NPS also offers additional tax benefits, and it would complement your retirement planning well.
6. Long-Term Financial Goals Beyond Retirement
Child’s Education Fund

With a young son, his education is likely to be a major financial goal in the coming years.
Begin investing in child-focused funds, which will ensure that the education corpus grows in line with inflation.
Plan for his higher education expenses early to ensure that you can comfortably meet his needs when the time arrives.
Increase SIP Contributions

As your income grows, increase your SIP contributions over time.
Aim to contribute a larger portion towards retirement savings, taking advantage of compounding.
Final Insights
Your financial journey is already on a good track. By enhancing your loan repayment strategy, optimizing your investments for retirement, ensuring tax efficiency, and safeguarding your family’s health and future, you will build a strong and resilient financial foundation. Focus on regular reviews of your asset allocation, increasing your SIP contributions, and balancing debt repayment with long-term investment goals.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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While writing this message, I am very shameful and guilty ???? about my marks to share with you sir.my Cat score 50%ile Xat: 35%ile Snap:40%ile Nmat:198 marks ???????????????????? I am Requesting ????????????????????????you an advice sir! I graduated in 2024 May in b.com! These exams were my first attempt. Now I am 22yrs old. At Present I am not doing any job, didn't have any course. at home there is a lot of pressure to join any b school. With these scores I don't get any colleges . I want to do an MBA in best b school. Sir how was SDA Bocconi? Will get I get with my nmat score? Should I apply for it?Sir with lot of pressure I am requesting you to give me a guidance ???????? will I join any b-school? If yes Name some best colleges with my scores? (Or) I am fresher will I search and do a job along with cat 2025 prep? Sir by seeing these scores :( If I prepare for cat this year will I crack? I want to give cat this year with very efficient and indepth practice by seeing these scores. Sir I am thinking that I want to give CUET PG to get best university seat to do an MBA like in BHU,JNU...so that I can prepare for cat 2025. How will be the career from doing MBA from Central universities.is there any problem doing MBA along with cat precisely? Is this good thing.? Or will I change my plan? If I prepare for this year. What about GAP year? How should I cover this Sir?? this is very important question. Pls sir ???????? i need suppport from you! As I discussed with my family about job. We have a small Tea business. I will help my parents and study. Present At home family condition is bad(parents health). we have a Brother,He is our family well wisher, behalf of his guidance i started to prepare for this exam and scored very bad. Now he is saying to prepare again for this year with lot of commitment and hard work. But He and my family is saying Not to do Job, work at Tea business and prepare for this year very hardly. Is this good decision.? Will it cover GAP year like doing family business? Thank you ???????? sir
Ans: SDA Bocconi may not accept 198 nmat score, but they have their own test if you want to try. With 198 NMAT, can try for IBS (ICFAI) and other colleges that accept the scores. Can also write ATMA, and MAT that will be held in Feb March so that you have more options to apply to. About repeating a year you can decide once this years cycle for admission is complete.

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