College Friend Dilemma: Interfaith Relationship Hurdle, How to Salvage?

Hi mam, im a lecturer since 5 years. Im in relationship with a girl from Srilanka. Most of our conversation was through mobile. She is a tutor in srilanka for 10 and below standard students. Now I'm 29, she is 27. Since 5 years we are loving each other. We hardly met. In Krishnagiri Tamilnadu I first met her in a Psychotherapy course, witch was about a month. We were good friends in the beginning of our relationship and at the end of a month course she was flying back to Srilanka, before she goes she kissed on my forehead, from then on im in love with the girl. For first few years we were happy in our relationship, but last two years onwards we fight almost every day. Both sides parents are fixing matches, both us are rejecting all the matches but we never shared with our families. Don't know where our relationship is going to end. Its not that my parents won't accept, but when my parents and siblings ask do you any one whom you want marry, or love some one I am not able to reveal to them. Many times I decided and planned and imagined to speak with my family but when it comes to reality im not able to speak. Other side she also is not revealing anything to her parents. Im rejecting the matches that are coming, she is also rejecting of hers. But both are not speaking properly now a days. Most of the time our relationship is filled with fights. Both are adjusting. Some time im feeling to stop the relationship and not to marry at all. I told her to marry as her parents say, and I don't want marry anyone. She is also saying me to marry some one and she wants remain single. But don't know what is happening between us. Im confused to continue or break up or marry her or not to marry her. Nothing is working in my mind. Recently my parents have brought a proposal who was my childhood crush. Suddenly I am indirectly telling her to marry to whom her parents give. She also getting good proposals but rejecting saying that she needs to work and earn money. Same reason I'm also giving. One more issue is she is tamilian of Srilanka and I'm Telugu from Andra. Both family members can't speak directly also. Unable to take any decisions. Kindly help me

Hi, I am 25 years old and in a situationship with my colleague who is at Kolkata, she is the girl which i wanted but everything happened in our virtual convo work talks and then personal talks, then calls happened..we ve never met...but its there ki we love each other. But her 2 marriages already broke up due to some or the other reason and her parents are looking for another one..she is bengali i m maharashtrian..also we both love and respect our parents and afraid to tell them as it will deterior their image in society. She dont want any commitment she has told and she has lost faith and trust in god due to this she told she will compromise her marriage whoever her father will say...but this will neither of us keep happy...what to do here..

Thanks for answering mam, but situation is such rn I m not feeling good when she doesn't talk and she has became by positive supporter rather than distraction...also day by day our feelings are getting increased..but she fears her family and respect their image ...so do I but I can talk to my parents if want but she doesn't say the same. Also I m not attracted towards her by any picture or so but natural basic qualities that I wanted and I don't have any expectations neither she regarding anything , but fearful of future at this point..as we both are stuck in this complex situation. Even I m ready to go and meet her but she fears that it ll make her more weaker and so do I thinkso...

I had a relationship with a married woman and I'm also married. As we're a Muslim so having some boundaries about dating and physical relationship but yes on phone and chat only, I never ever even touched physically due to we believe we'll meet Afterlife not here. In our religion wife will meet her last worldly husband Afterlife (in heaven) now problem is we both have no issues our spouses but we love to each other badly. I'm 42 she's 38. And also in our religion chatting, talking, with girl or boy after married or without is forbidden but (Official Nikah) if possible so. Now tell me what should I do?