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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jul 29, 2024

Ramalingam Kalirajan has over 23 years of experience in mutual funds and financial planning.
He has an MBA in finance from the University of Madras and is a certified financial planner.
He is the director and chief financial planner at Holistic Investment, a Chennai-based firm that offers financial planning and wealth management advice.... more
Tarun Question by Tarun on Jul 21, 2024Hindi
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Hello Sir/Ma'am, I hope you are doing well. Could you please provide your guidance regarding my investment portfolio? I am 46 years old and currently have a mutual fund portfolio valued at 2 crores, with an approximate XIRR of 23%. My objective is to invest an additional 1 crore in mutual funds. I plan to hold these investment for the next 6-7 years before making any withdrawals using the Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP). My goal is to achieve a total portfolio value of 6 crores in the next 5-6 years. At present, I am invested in 20 mutual funds, which I realize is quite a lot. Could you please review my current funds and suggest where I should invest the additional 1 crore? I would like to eliminate any unnecessary overlap and focus on investments that will help me achieve my goals. I am considering switching from Motilal Oswal Defence Index to Motilal Oswal Mid Cap and from Quant Infrastructure Fund to Quant Mid Cap. These are just preliminary ideas. Could you help me streamline my portfolio and recommend where to invest the additional 1 crore considering aggressive risk taker ? ##############LARGE Cap 1. ICICI Prudential Bluechip Fund - 18L ##############Flexi Cap 2. HDFC Flexi Cap Fund - 29L 3. Parag Parikh Flexi Cap - 17L 4. Quant Flexi Cap - 10L ############# Multi Cap 5. Nippon India MULTICAP FUND - 25L ############# Mid CAP 6. HDFC Mid Cap Opportunities - 14L 7. Motilal Oswal Mid cap - 5.5L #############Small Cap 8. KOTAK SMALL CAP FUND - 11L 9. ICICI Prudential Smallcap Fund - 5L 10. Tata Small Cap Growth Direct Plan - 4L 11. HDFC Small Cap Fund Direct - 2.6L 12. Nippon India Small Cap - 3.5L ############INDEX 13. HDFC Index Nifty 50 Growth Direct Plan - 10L 14. ICICI Prudential Nifty Midcap 150 Index Growth Direct Plan - 7L 15. HDFC NIFTY Smallcap 250 Index Fund Direct - 5L 16. Motilal Oswal Nifty Microcap 250 Index Growth Direct Plan - 2.5L 17. UTI Nifty200 Momentum 30 Index Growth Direct Plan - 11L 18. UTI Nifty Next 50 Index Growth Direct Plan - 11L 19. Motilal Oswal Nifty India Defence Index Growth Direct Plan - 2L ################# Thematic 20. Quant Infrastructure fund - 9.5L

Ans: Current Portfolio Overview
Your mutual fund portfolio is valued at Rs. 2 crores. You have an impressive XIRR of 23%. You plan to invest an additional Rs. 1 crore. You aim to achieve a portfolio value of Rs. 6 crores in 5-6 years. Your current investments are spread across 20 mutual funds.

This diversification is quite extensive. Streamlining is needed to avoid overlap and enhance performance.

Evaluating Fund Categories
Large Cap
ICICI Prudential Bluechip Fund - Rs. 18L
Bluechip funds provide stability. They should form the core of your portfolio.
Flexi Cap
HDFC Flexi Cap Fund - Rs. 29L
Parag Parikh Flexi Cap - Rs. 17L
Quant Flexi Cap - Rs. 10L
Flexi Cap funds offer balanced exposure. They adapt to market conditions.
Multi Cap
Nippon India Multi Cap Fund - Rs. 25L
Multi Cap funds provide a mix of large, mid, and small caps. They offer diversification within a single fund.
Mid Cap
HDFC Mid Cap Opportunities - Rs. 14L
Motilal Oswal Mid Cap - Rs. 5.5L
Mid Cap funds have higher growth potential. However, they are riskier.
Small Cap
KOTAK Small Cap Fund - Rs. 11L
ICICI Prudential Smallcap Fund - Rs. 5L
Tata Small Cap Growth Direct Plan - Rs. 4L
HDFC Small Cap Fund Direct - Rs. 2.6L
Nippon India Small Cap - Rs. 3.5L
Small Cap funds can deliver high returns. They are suitable for aggressive investors.
Index Funds
HDFC Index Nifty 50 Growth Direct Plan - Rs. 10L

ICICI Prudential Nifty Midcap 150 Index Growth Direct Plan - Rs. 7L

HDFC NIFTY Smallcap 250 Index Fund Direct - Rs. 5L

Motilal Oswal Nifty Microcap 250 Index Growth Direct Plan - Rs. 2.5L

UTI Nifty200 Momentum 30 Index Growth Direct Plan - Rs. 11L

UTI Nifty Next 50 Index Growth Direct Plan - Rs. 11L

Motilal Oswal Nifty India Defence Index Growth Direct Plan - Rs. 2L

Index funds have lower fees but lack active management benefits. Active funds can outperform by selecting high-potential stocks.
Thematic Funds
Quant Infrastructure Fund - Rs. 9.5L
Thematic funds focus on specific sectors. They offer higher risk and reward.
Portfolio Streamlining Suggestions
Reduce Overlap
Consolidate Flexi Cap funds. Keep one or two best-performing funds.
Reduce Mid Cap and Small Cap funds. Focus on top performers.
Minimize Index funds. Their passive nature may limit growth.
Recommended Fund Adjustments
Switch from Index funds to actively managed funds. Active funds can outperform the market. They offer better stock selection and management.
Consider reducing your Thematic fund exposure. They carry sector-specific risks.
New Investments
Allocate new Rs. 1 crore across top-performing Large Cap, Flexi Cap, and Small Cap funds.
Focus on funds with strong historical performance and potential.
Portfolio Allocation Strategy
Large Cap: 40% of your portfolio. They provide stability.
Flexi Cap: 30% of your portfolio. They adapt to market changes.
Small Cap: 20% of your portfolio. They offer high growth potential.
Thematic Funds: 10% of your portfolio. They add diversity and high risk-reward.
Final Insights
Streamlining your portfolio will reduce overlap and enhance returns. Focus on a mix of Large Cap, Flexi Cap, and Small Cap funds. Avoid over-diversification and index funds. Invest additional Rs. 1 crore in high-performing funds. This strategy will help achieve your goal of Rs. 6 crores.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in
Asked on - Jul 29, 2024 | Answered on Jul 30, 2024
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Hi Ramalingam, Thank you for your details reply. Much appreciated. Thanks and Regards, Tarun Biswas
Ans: You're welcome! If you have any more questions or need further assistance, feel free to ask. Best wishes on your financial journey!

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
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Ans: Reviewing Your Current Portfolio
You have invested in many mutual funds since 2007. Let's streamline your portfolio to focus on a few high-performing funds.

Evaluating Fund Categories
Large Cap Funds
HSBC Large Cap Fund - Regular IDCW
DSP-BR Top 100 Equity - RP ICDW (D)
Sundaram Large Cap Fund Regular - IDCW
SBI Contra Fund (D)
Large Cap funds provide stability and steady growth. Keep funds with consistent performance.

Flexi Cap Funds
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Mid Cap Funds
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Sector/Thematic Funds
Nippon India Power and Infra Fund
HDFC Infrastructure Fund (D)
HSBC Progressive Themes (D)
HSBC Advantage India Fund
Sector funds focus on specific industries. They can be volatile. Evaluate their performance and market outlook.

Diversified Equity Funds
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Sundaram Diversify Equity Fund - Regular - IDCW
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Large and Mid Cap Funds

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Children's Funds
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These funds have a specific goal in mind. They are usually kept for a longer-term investment.

Consolidation Strategy
Reduce Overlap
Consolidate Large Cap funds. Choose one or two top performers.
Reduce the number of Sector funds. Focus on those with a positive outlook.
Keep the best-performing Mid Cap funds. Avoid too many in this category.
Focus on Performance
Retain funds with strong historical performance and potential.
Let go of funds with inconsistent returns or underperformance.
Allocate More to High Performers
Invest more in top-performing funds. This enhances returns and reduces management complexity.
Avoid spreading investments too thin across many funds.
Consider Fund Management Style
Opt for actively managed funds. They offer the potential for higher returns.
Avoid index funds due to their passive nature and lower flexibility.
Benefits of Regular Funds
Investing through an MFD with CFP credentials provides guidance.
Regular funds offer support and advice, unlike direct funds.
Suggested Actions
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Retain top-performing Large Cap and Flexi Cap funds. They provide stability and balanced growth.
Mid Cap and Sector Funds
Focus on the best-performing Mid Cap funds.
Retain Sector funds with positive outlooks. Evaluate their potential in the current market.
Diversified Equity Funds
Keep diversified funds with consistent returns. They provide broad exposure and reduce risk.
Children's Funds
Maintain investments in children's funds. They are aimed at long-term goals.
Final Insights
Streamlining your mutual fund portfolio is essential. Focus on a few high-performing funds. Consolidate your investments for better returns and easier management. Opt for actively managed funds and regular funds through MFD with CFP credentials. This strategy will help you achieve your financial goals effectively.

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Key Observations
You have a strong SIP commitment of Rs 1 lakh per month.

Your investment horizon is 7 years, which is medium-term.

Your risk appetite is moderate, but some holdings may not align.

Index funds and ETFs may limit your portfolio’s growth potential.

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Index funds limit downside protection in volatile markets.

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2. Reduce International Exposure
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4. Increase Mid-Cap and Small-Cap Allocation
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Mid-Cap Fund: Rs 20,000

Small-Cap Fund: Rs 15,000

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