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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jul 29, 2025

Ramalingam Kalirajan has over 23 years of experience in mutual funds and financial planning.
He has an MBA in finance from the University of Madras and is a certified financial planner.
He is the director and chief financial planner at Holistic Investment, a Chennai-based firm that offers financial planning and wealth management advice.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Jul 12, 2025Hindi
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Hi Sir, Good Evening! Hope you are fine! I am at age of 42 years and have two daughters less than 10 years old. I would like to request you to show me vivicious path for my investment for next 10 years as i am very much concerned for my famil beinh main earning hand. My wife have little passive support but not enough at all to count as income. My investment till now: 1. PPF - Rs 1 lac 2. Sukanya Smridhi Plan - 1.2 lac 3. Mutual Funds - Rs 50000 (Just started a SIP of Rs 10000 from July'25). Safer side taken : 4. Life Term insurance for me and my wife - 1 cr 5. Medical insurance for mother Rs 3 lacs Main expenses: - Home loan amount Rs 45 acs and paying 55000 installment per month. Please guide how should i proceed in my last 10-20 years investment. But, my goal 1cr plus in 10 years or less. Looking forward your help. Thank you in advance.

Ans: Appreciate your clarity and responsibility.
You have taken thoughtful steps already.
Providing for two daughters is a big responsibility.
Let us guide you with a clear investment direction.

? Income and Dependents

– You are 42 years old.
– You have two daughters below 10 years.
– You are the main earning member.
– Your wife provides only a passive financial support.
– This makes planning even more important.
– Securing the next 10–20 years is your key priority.

? Existing Commitments

– You have a home loan of Rs 45 lakh.
– EMI of Rs 55,000 per month is significant.
– This consumes a large portion of your income.
– You must balance EMI, expenses, and investments.
– Avoid aggressive investment options till EMI reduces.
– Focus on steady and consistent investment habits.

? Existing Investments

– PPF: Rs 1 lakh
– Sukanya Samriddhi: Rs 1.2 lakh
– Mutual Funds: Rs 50,000
– SIP: Rs 10,000/month started in July 2025

– These are decent starting steps.
– Sukanya and PPF support your daughters' education.
– Mutual funds give you long-term wealth growth.
– Starting SIP is the right direction.
– But SIP of Rs 10,000 alone is not enough.
– You need a more structured, diversified plan.

? Insurance Cover

– Term life cover for you and spouse: Rs 1 crore each
– Medical insurance for mother: Rs 3 lakh

– Good that term covers are in place.
– Check if 1 crore is sufficient based on income.
– Consider increasing your life cover to Rs 2 crore.
– No family floater health cover is mentioned.
– Get one for yourself, wife, and children.
– Medical expenses are unpredictable.
– A floater policy reduces future financial shocks.

? Home Loan Position

– Outstanding loan is Rs 45 lakh
– EMI is Rs 55,000 per month
– Your EMI takes a major chunk of income
– Do not try to prepay aggressively yet
– Keep emergency funds ready first
– Plan investment around your EMI obligation
– Ensure EMI does not delay children’s education goals

? Investment Goal: Rs 1 Crore in 10 Years

– This is a realistic but demanding goal
– You will need disciplined monthly investing
– Goal should be met without disturbing lifestyle
– Rely on equity mutual funds, not real estate
– You already started SIP of Rs 10,000/month
– This alone won’t be enough for Rs 1 crore
– You need to scale it up gradually
– Increase SIP by 10-15% each year if possible
– Do not stop SIPs during market downturns
– Let compounding help you

? Why to Avoid Direct Mutual Funds

– Direct funds seem cheaper but lack expert help
– Without CFP-backed MFD, your choices may go wrong
– You may exit funds during bad market cycles
– Regular plan via MFD gives hand-holding
– Helps you stay invested during tough times
– Long-term wealth creation needs guidance
– An MFD with CFP adds ongoing value
– They review, rebalance and guide goal-wise investing
– Performance difference often beats cost difference

? Why Actively Managed Funds Are Better

– Index funds are passive
– They copy the market, never beat it
– Active funds try to beat the index
– Managed by expert fund managers
– Give flexibility in dynamic markets
– India is an active market even now
– Active funds have more potential for wealth creation
– Avoid index funds for your critical goal

? Why You Should Not Choose Real Estate

– Real estate is not liquid
– High entry and exit costs
– No guarantee of price appreciation
– Rental yields are low
– Tax benefits are limited now
– It is not suitable for your 10-year goal
– Avoid second property buying as an investment

? Key Investment Recommendations

– Maintain SIP in equity mutual funds
– Gradually raise it from Rs 10,000 to Rs 30,000/month
– If income increases, boost SIPs faster
– Split SIP across large cap, mid cap and flexi-cap
– Stick to regular plans through a CFP-backed MFD
– Add hybrid funds if you fear volatility
– Don’t stop SIPs when markets fall
– Rebalance portfolio yearly with expert help

? Emergency Fund

– Keep 6 months of EMI and expenses in FD
– You must have Rs 3–4 lakh easily accessible
– Avoid using credit cards or loans in crisis
– It gives you breathing space during shocks

? Insurance Improvements Needed

– Upgrade your term cover to Rs 2 crore
– Add family floater health cover of Rs 10–15 lakh
– Include maternity and kids’ expenses cover if possible
– Upgrade mother’s health cover too
– Check if her Rs 3 lakh cover has room for top-up

? Sukanya Samriddhi Plan

– Continue investing regularly till they are 14
– Do not depend only on this for education
– Returns are fixed but not inflation-beating
– Balance it with equity mutual fund SIP
– Mix of guaranteed and growth instruments is better

? PPF Usage

– Good for long-term tax-free savings
– But returns are modest
– Continue PPF with Rs 1.5 lakh/year
– Do not rely only on this for retirement
– Use it to supplement your fixed income needs

? What Not to Do

– Don’t invest in ULIP or traditional insurance
– They give low return and long lock-in
– Don’t take personal loan for investing
– Don’t depend on wife’s passive income
– Don’t invest based on tips or trends
– Don’t stop SIPs based on market noise
– Don’t make decisions without expert guidance

? If You Hold LIC or ULIPs

– Not mentioned in your message
– But if you hold LIC or ULIP or investment-insurance mix
– Surrender them and reinvest in mutual funds
– You will get better returns with proper guidance

? Tax Planning Suggestions

– Use Section 80C for PPF, ELSS, and Sukanya
– Use Section 80D for health insurance premium
– Avoid relying on insurance to save tax
– Use debt funds for short-term goals with proper asset mix
– Be aware of new mutual fund taxation rules

? New Mutual Fund Tax Rules (2024–2025)

– Equity LTCG over Rs 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%
– STCG in equity taxed at 20%
– Debt fund gains taxed as per your income slab
– Plan redemptions with help of CFP
– Use tax harvesting where suitable

? Reinvestment Planning

– Reinvest bonus, maturity, or windfalls into SIP
– Use step-up SIP feature
– Invest yearly hike or increment directly
– Build a SIP habit beyond mandatory saving

? Education and Marriage Goal Planning

– For daughters' education, plan a target corpus
– Split it between equity and guaranteed instruments
– Use SIP for growth and Sukanya/PPF for safety
– For marriage, plan separately with 10–15 year horizon
– Stay consistent in investing every month
– Don’t depend on only one product

? Retirement Planning

– Start thinking beyond daughters’ goals
– Keep PPF as part of retirement pool
– Later add NPS and equity SIP for your retirement
– Don’t delay this once EMI ends
– A small monthly retirement SIP is better than delay

? Regular Review and Tracking

– Track your SIP and goals every 6 months
– Discuss progress with your CFP-backed MFD
– Adjust SIP amount, scheme, or allocation if needed
– Keep asset allocation suitable to age and risk
– Rebalance yearly with professional input

? Family Involvement

– Educate your wife about financial basics
– Keep her informed of investments and plans
– Keep nominations and joint accounts updated
– Make your financial journey a joint process
– This secures family in case of uncertainty

? Finally

– You are thinking in the right direction
– You have started early and with clarity
– Focus now should be on increasing SIP
– Protect yourself with better insurance
– Avoid real estate, ULIPs and index funds
– Stay consistent with your investment journey
– Keep reviewing with a Certified Financial Planner
– You will reach your Rs 1 crore goal
– You will also secure your daughters' future and your retirement

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment
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Age: 32 years old

Profession: Engineer

Family: Married, expecting first child next year

Parents: Receiving a pension of Rs. 50k

Income: Rs. 60k in hand + Rs. 20-30k perks

Needs: Rs. 25k max

Investments:

Saving account: Rs. 60k
Emergency fund: Rs. 2.5 lakhs (12 months+)
ULIP funds: Rs. 3 lakhs (Current value Rs. 4.6 lakhs, 10 years left, Rs. 60k/year)
Term Plan: Rs. 1 crore + Rs. 10 lakhs critical illness cover (5 years left, Rs. 36k/year)
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Owns a 3 BHK flat with own income
Ancestral property (value Rs. 20 lakhs, 2-floored house, expected rent Rs. 15k/month in next year)
Gold: 90-100 grams
Own a car & a 2-wheeler
Insurance: No health insurance for self and wife till 35 years of age

Financial Goals
Early retirement by age 50.
Investment strategy for SIP, PPF, RBI Bond funds, mutual funds, SGBs, or any other suitable funds.
Buy a term plan of Rs. 1-2 crore for wife.
Buy a house at age 43 (PV in 2024: Rs. 70-80 lakhs).
Build a corpus for child’s higher education and marriage.
Assessment of Current Strategy
Emergency Fund
You have a good emergency fund. This is a crucial safety net.

ULIP Funds
Your ULIP has a high cost. Consider moving to more efficient investment options.

Term Insurance
Your current term plan is good. Consider adding more coverage.

Ancestral Property
The expected rent will provide a steady income stream.

Gold
Gold is a stable asset but consider other investment avenues for growth.

Recommendations for Improvement
Health Insurance
Immediate Action: Get health insurance for yourself and your wife. This protects against unforeseen medical expenses.
Investment Strategy
SIP in Mutual Funds:

Diversified Equity Funds: Start SIPs in diversified equity mutual funds. These funds have high growth potential.
Allocation: Consider investing Rs. 15-20k monthly in SIPs.
PPF:

Tax Benefits: PPF is a good tax-saving instrument. It provides stable, risk-free returns.
Contribution: Start contributing Rs. 1.5 lakhs annually to PPF.
RBI Bonds and SGBs:

RBI Bonds: Invest in RBI Bonds for safe, long-term returns.
Sovereign Gold Bonds (SGBs): Invest in SGBs for additional gold exposure with interest.
Mutual Funds:

Actively Managed Funds: Prefer actively managed funds over index funds for better returns.
Diversification: Invest in a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds.
Term Insurance for Wife
Coverage: Buy a term plan of Rs. 1-2 crore for your wife. This ensures financial security.
Future House Purchase
Savings Plan: Start saving for the house you want to buy at age 43.
Investment: Allocate a portion of your monthly savings to a dedicated house fund.
Child’s Education and Marriage Corpus
Education: Start an SIP dedicated to your child’s education. Aim for a mix of equity and debt funds.
Marriage: Similarly, start a separate SIP for your child’s marriage expenses.
Additional Recommendations
Review and Adjust:

Annual Review: Regularly review your investments. Adjust based on performance and goals.
Diversify Portfolio:

Reduce ULIP: Consider moving funds from ULIP to mutual funds for better growth.
Balanced Portfolio: Ensure a balanced mix of equity, debt, and other assets.
Tax Planning:

Maximize Benefits: Use tax-saving instruments like PPF, ELSS, and NPS.
Final Insights
Your current strategy is a good start. Health insurance is a must. Diversify your investments through SIPs, PPF, RBI Bonds, and SGBs.

Consider adding more term insurance for your wife. Plan for future house purchase and child’s education/marriage by starting dedicated SIPs.

Review and adjust your portfolio annually. Ensure a balanced mix of assets for growth and security.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

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First, I must commend you for your disciplined approach to financial planning and your desire to secure a substantial corpus for your children. At 64 years old, with a stable pension of Rs. 1.8 lakh per month and various well-placed investments, you are in a strong financial position. Your investments are diversified across fixed deposits (FDs), Senior Citizens' Savings Scheme (SCSS), gold ETFs, Public Provident Fund (PPF), equities, and mutual funds.

Your primary goal is to leave a corpus of Rs. 20 crore or more for your children in the next 15 years. With your current financial standing, you have laid a solid foundation to achieve this.

Evaluating Your Existing Portfolio
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You have Rs. 1.2 crore in FDs earning 8% interest. This provides stable, risk-free returns and liquidity, which is essential for your age. However, FDs generally offer lower returns compared to other investment options. Given your long-term horizon, consider the opportunity cost of keeping a large portion of your portfolio in FDs.
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You have Rs. 6 lakh in gold ETFs, which provide a hedge against inflation and economic uncertainties. This is a good long-term investment, but the returns are generally moderate. Since your portfolio is diversified, maintaining this small allocation to gold is beneficial.
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