Dear Pooja

My daughter desperately wants a pet and is very keen on a Shih Tzu.
I feel we should adopt a dog that needs a home.
My husband is not keen and has made it clear he will not take any responsibility.
Because we don’t want to disappoint our daughter after such a difficult year, we may get a Shih Tzu.
What should we know about it before we decide?
Thank you
Sweety Singh

Dear PoojaWe have a one-year-old beagle and we plan to add to the family with one more beagle.How do we prepare our elder one for the new arrival?What if the two don’t like each other?Our elder one is a female. Should the younger one be male or female?We are very keen on a beagle only.Please do advise us.Rajesh A

Dear Anu, I would like to be anonymous. Long story short, after two years of my marriage, my husband’s best friend’s wife shifted to India from abroad and applied for divorced, because she found her husband was a womanizer. Both husband and wife stayed with us during that time, husband tried his best to persuade me to have an intimate relationship with him, I refused, I told my husband about it and he asked me to keep quiet. Somehow a friend's wife filed a divorce case and the husband was virtually thrown out of the house, the case went messy. We supported her in all possible ways. For 4 years every weekend we spend with her. And I saw that she was getting too possessive about my husband, I told this to my husband, he refuted. In front of him only she would insult me and he would just keep quiet. Our intimacy was gone, it was he who said he is not interested in intimacy anymore. We stopped sharing a bedroom, during this lockdown after 8 years of stay at home mother, I was applying for jobs and attending interviews. I was at my possible lows. Suddenly my husband became friendly and started talking about dogs, he wanted a pet, since he doesn't have time to care for it and I was not mentally prepared for any extra responsibility so I said no for the time being. Instead he went ahead with her and asked her to buy one for us without informing me. She called to inform me that she had ordered one from the breeder and it would be delivered the next morning. I told her to cancel that. Not only this, she has called my daughter and informed her too that she is gifting the dog to her. I told my husband that I want to walk out of this marriage, we had fought for more than a month. I called her and told that 'This is it,' never to call my house or talk to me again. After a month my husband went to her house with our daughter. He has asked her to lie that they did not go there but my daughter came back and told me. I feel cheated by my husband whenever the dog is around, it’s a poor animal. I give food and take care of it but my anger and resentment is not coming down. I want to leave the marriage, because I feel there is no end to it. Please help me.

Hello, My age is 35 year age , Male. I work as a bank Manager in HDFC BANK, my in hand salary is 65K /month . I want to buy a house worth 65 lakh rupees. My wife earns 35k per month. We have 7 lakhs in savings. We have checked the property, that's what we all want. I want to rethink it financially. Also I get discounted rate home loan as per bank. Should I go for it or stay in the rented space for a while. We have a girl child, she is 5 years old. We think about her future also , we are little scared because after loan we will get burden of paying back loan. Please help so that we decide it once and for all.

Hi Madam, I am 47 year old woman and my husband is 50 year old. We have a son who is 16 year old. I am a housewife. My husband is busy with his startup work and my son is independent and good in his studies. At this point of my life, I feel lonely and keep thinking of adopting a child. Can I still think of adoption of a child. Please advice.