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Anonymous Question by Anonymous on Aug 17, 2021Hindi
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Dear Mayank
I am 32 years old, married two years ago, no children.
I work in tech and have got a good job offer to work in the US but my family is against it.
They don’t want me to take up a job outside Bengaluru because they are afraid that if I fall sick (get COVID), there will be no one to look after me.
My wife does not want to move because she is a single child and wants to be there for her parents right now.
I feel if I don’t do this, I will be missing out on a great opportunity though I have a pretty good job here.
I would like my children to be American citizens. My wife is also 32 years old.
What should I do?
Thank you for your help.
Name withheld on request.

Ans:

Hi,

It really depends on the nature of the role and the company that you have got a job offer from.

If the job is unique and the company is stable, then you must explore the option.

If you have taken both your vaccines, then the danger of contracting COVID comes down drastically.

Even if you do get COVID, the line of treatment is well laid out and you will recover quickly.

You must have a candid chat with your wife as such opportunities come by once in a while.

She can always visit her parents or even call them to US once you settle down there

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