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Anonymous Question by Anonymous on Aug 17, 2021Hindi
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Dear Mayank
I am 32 years old, married two years ago, no children.
I work in tech and have got a good job offer to work in the US but my family is against it.
They don’t want me to take up a job outside Bengaluru because they are afraid that if I fall sick (get COVID), there will be no one to look after me.
My wife does not want to move because she is a single child and wants to be there for her parents right now.
I feel if I don’t do this, I will be missing out on a great opportunity though I have a pretty good job here.
I would like my children to be American citizens. My wife is also 32 years old.
What should I do?
Thank you for your help.
Name withheld on request.

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Hi,

It really depends on the nature of the role and the company that you have got a job offer from.

If the job is unique and the company is stable, then you must explore the option.

If you have taken both your vaccines, then the danger of contracting COVID comes down drastically.

Even if you do get COVID, the line of treatment is well laid out and you will recover quickly.

You must have a candid chat with your wife as such opportunities come by once in a while.

She can always visit her parents or even call them to US once you settle down there

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I appreciate the fact that you sacrificed your job to take care of your parents.

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Hi Anu, I am 42 yrs old male. I am a Public Health Professional and work in an International NGO on health issues based in Delhi. I have ageing parents (both suffering from cardiac illness, diabetes and hypertension) which are based in Mumbai, my immediate family (wife and two kids) stays with my parents as there is no one else to take care of them. My parents especially my father is adamant that he doesn’t want to leave his house and stay with me in Delhi. As a result my immediate family is also forced to stay in Mumbai taking care of my parents. My wife is very supportive, however as this situation is like this since last 4-5 years and we are staying in two different cities, it has now taking stall at emotionally and physically on both of us (me, my wife and my two kids). I am desperately searching for job in Mumbai, however in my sector there are not very good opportunities in Mumbai. I tried my hands in two there places for job, however to my misfortune things didnt work out. I am a mid-senior level professional and have reached this position after a lot of hard work, however the stress has started affecting my performance and overall reputation in the organization. Hence there is constant stress of performance, ability to deliver, overall situation has lowered my confidence level affecting my work further. Dissatisfied with my work, my supervisor has already started sidelining me. I am desperately started thinking of leaving the job, however financial condition doesn’t allow me to do that. With COVID-19 pandemic things has worsened, as I am stuck in Delhi even in lockdown, leaving my parents and my wife struggling in Mumbai amidst the lockdown. Even now cant visit them as stressed, whether i will carry risk of infection to my parents, wife and kids, Hence staying away, it’s been 8 months that have not met them. Not sure, how to handle this. One way I thought as looking out opportunities in Mumbai, even if at junior level, However i am trying for that, but not getting suitable opportunities. Not sure, how to handle the pressures from family (Parents don't want to shift, wife is not ready to stay away and has given time till March, there constant pressure of performance). Not sure, what to do.
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What we can do is make the best of what is at this point in time. It indeed is hard to be away from family at a time like this.

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It is an amazing feeling to come back home to a family after a hard day’s work where they wait with love, care and support.

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Communication: Open and honest communication is essential in resolving family conflicts. Encourage all family members to express their feelings and concerns openly, and work together to find mutually acceptable solutions.

Family Counseling: Consider seeking the help of a family counselor or therapist who can facilitate discussions and provide guidance on how to improve communication and resolve conflicts effectively.

Support Networks: Lean on friends, relatives, or support groups who may offer guidance and understanding during difficult times. Sharing your feelings and experiences with others who have been through similar situations can provide valuable support.

Healthcare: Ensure you prioritize your health and well-being. Seek medical attention for any health issues you may be experiencing and maintain a healthy lifestyle through proper diet, exercise, and relaxation techniques.

Legal Advice: Consult with a legal advisor to address any legal issues related to property ownership or other matters. They can provide guidance on how to resolve legal disputes and protect your interests.

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