Dear Mayank,
Please keep my question anonymous.
There’s this lady in the workplace who is very good-looking and dresses that way too.
When she walks in, all the guys including me look at her.
She’s good at her job but I find myself getting too distracted by her.
We are a small office and the two of us have to work together quite a bit which makes it more difficult for me.
How do I handle this without being disrespectful?

Ans: Dear Jatinder,
I don't see any reason to treat two gender differently.
If there's one thing that you might want to keep a check on it would any belief that you have picked up along the way or while you were being raised where women are being treated less than a man at home or where you saw a woman at home becoming submissive to an authority male figure.
This is something that might cause an unconscious bias of you not wanting to take orders from your woman boss as you feel challenged to disobey her. Also guard yourself against generalizations about women like: Women are always emotional, women can never look at things objectively etc. This will affect your judgement and you might lose out working under an accomplished person.
Keep a check on this...other than that, it goes without saying, male or female; respect for another person and their thought processes will help you grow and thrive.

Look forward to a new learning phase!

All the best!

Ans: Dear Singh,
What's the point being obsessed with a person who has nothing to do with you?
Respect where she is in her life and more importantly, respect your life, your time and energy.

Focus on things that can help you not just manage your mind, but can add value to your personal and professional life. For example: A hobby, working out, doing a certification course and so on...

What you focus on multiplies and when you focus on something that yields nothing, it's like pouring water in the desert hoping for it to turn into a farmland. So, treat yourself better and start this very moment, NOW!

All the best!

Ans: Dear Jayesh,
I think if you are the same person that I answered to previously, I did suggest that this is going to ruin your reputation and also cause problems with your marriage.
Find something worthwhile to outside the house the same time that your maid is working, so you are not around to see her and stress and strain your mind with it...Making wise use of your time should not be a problem for you, no?

All the best!

Ans: Hello. That’s a rather thoughtful question.

Approaching your female colleagues in a professional and respectful manner is crucial to fostering a healthy work environment.
Here are some tips that can help you avoid misunderstandings while interacting with them:

1. Professionalism First: Regardless of their gender, treat all colleagues with the same level of professionalism. Focus on building work relationships based on mutual respect and common goals.

2. Respect Personal Space: Be mindful of personal space and boundaries. Avoid invading someone's personal space. Be aware of cultural differences that may influence personal boundaries.

3. Use Inclusive Language: Use inclusive language that promotes a sense of equality. Avoid making gender-specific comments or assumptions. Focus on work-related topics and common interests.

4. Be Mindful of Body Language: Pay attention to non-verbal cues and body language. If someone appears uncomfortable, adjust your behavior accordingly. Respect signals indicating when someone may need space or is not interested in engaging in conversation.

5. If you feel the need to give compliments, keep them professional and work-related. Complimenting someone on their professional achievements or contributions is generally safe.

6. Avoid Personal topics: Refrain from discussing personal or sensitive topics, especially in the early stages of getting to know your colleagues. Stick to neutral subjects related to work or common interests.

7. Office Events and Social Gatherings: Participate in office events and social gatherings where you can interact with colleagues in a more relaxed setting. This can contribute to building positive relationships outside of the formal work environment.

8. Request Feedback: If you are unsure about your interactions or if you want to ensure that your behavior is appropriate, consider seeking feedback from colleagues or mentors. Constructive feedback can help you improve and navigate workplace dynamics more effectively.

Remember, the key is to be respectful, considerate and professional in all interactions.

Building positive relationships with your colleagues, irrespective of their gender, will contribute to a more inclusive and supportive work environment.

All the best!

Ans: If you choose to go ahead, then let her know and take things forward with her. Its clear you are attracted to her.

If you are attracted to your colleague and you believe that she is interested in you, then you may want to consider pursuing a relationship with her. However, it is important to be aware of the potential risks and consequences of doing so.

If you don't want to proceed with her, then start focusing on your hobbies, works, other interests.

If you are not interested in pursuing a relationship with your colleague, then it is important to set clear boundaries and focus on other aspects of your life. This may include spending more time with your family and friends, pursuing your hobbies, or focusing on your career.

Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to pursue a relationship with your colleague is up to you. However, it is important to weigh the potential risks and benefits before making a decision.

Mohit Arora S
Founder - Real Dating School

www.realdatingschool.com/1-1_call