Dear Mayank,
Please keep my question anonymous.
There’s this lady in the workplace who is very good-looking and dresses that way too.
When she walks in, all the guys including me look at her.
She’s good at her job but I find myself getting too distracted by her.
We are a small office and the two of us have to work together quite a bit which makes it more difficult for me.
How do I handle this without being disrespectful?

Ans: Dear Singh,
What's the point being obsessed with a person who has nothing to do with you?
Respect where she is in her life and more importantly, respect your life, your time and energy.

Focus on things that can help you not just manage your mind, but can add value to your personal and professional life. For example: A hobby, working out, doing a certification course and so on...

What you focus on multiplies and when you focus on something that yields nothing, it's like pouring water in the desert hoping for it to turn into a farmland. So, treat yourself better and start this very moment, NOW!

All the best!

Ans: If you choose to go ahead, then let her know and take things forward with her. Its clear you are attracted to her.

If you are attracted to your colleague and you believe that she is interested in you, then you may want to consider pursuing a relationship with her. However, it is important to be aware of the potential risks and consequences of doing so.

If you don't want to proceed with her, then start focusing on your hobbies, works, other interests.

If you are not interested in pursuing a relationship with your colleague, then it is important to set clear boundaries and focus on other aspects of your life. This may include spending more time with your family and friends, pursuing your hobbies, or focusing on your career.

Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to pursue a relationship with your colleague is up to you. However, it is important to weigh the potential risks and benefits before making a decision.

Mohit Arora S
Founder - Real Dating School

www.realdatingschool.com/1-1_call

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There are two issues I would like to address- first, you both are married. Second, you are assuming she has a crush on you. I do not know how you want to approach this 'crush' when you are in a legally committed relationship. In normal circumstances, I would've suggested getting verbal confirmation of your coworker's feelings first and then pursuing her, but in your case, how she feels does not even matter because you are not single; neither is she. The right course of action would be to reflect on your feelings and get to the root of them- why are you seeking these feelings outside of your marriage and what is lacking in it? Then have an open discussion with your wife and take it from there- you will have two options: work on your marriage, or opt for separation and then pursue any crush you want to. But before that, I cannot offer you any other advice.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If you are unsure of her relationship status, you can ask around and get clarity on that. If she is committed, it would be indecent to approach her. If she is single, go ahead and talk to her. You do not have to ask her on a date right away or ask "Do you like me? or anything significant like that. Just go and say hi, or start with a smile when she makes eye contact and see where it goes. All of these will help you make some contact with her. But yes, make sure she is single before making any move. If things work out, you can ask her out for a cup of coffee. These are all low-pressure situations which will help your introverted self remain calm.

Hope these help.