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Anonymous Question by Anonymous on May 18, 2022Hindi
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Dear Mayank,
Please keep my question anonymous.
There’s this lady in the workplace who is very good-looking and dresses that way too.
When she walks in, all the guys including me look at her.
She’s good at her job but I find myself getting too distracted by her.
We are a small office and the two of us have to work together quite a bit which makes it more difficult for me.
How do I handle this without being disrespectful?

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Hi.

I would strongly urge you to keep your feelings/attractions away from your workplace. Keep all relationships strictly professional.

Advise your colleagues to focus on their jobs and not on anything else.

Please don’t have casual discussions on this topic. Remember that if the lady feels uncomfortable, the law will support her if she decides to file a case.

Do your best at work and, after work, relax with friends and family.

 

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