Dear Mayank,
Please keep my question anonymous.
There’s this lady in the workplace who is very good-looking and dresses that way too.
When she walks in, all the guys including me look at her.
She’s good at her job but I find myself getting too distracted by her.
We are a small office and the two of us have to work together quite a bit which makes it more difficult for me.
How do I handle this without being disrespectful?

Ans: Hello. That’s a rather thoughtful question.

Approaching your female colleagues in a professional and respectful manner is crucial to fostering a healthy work environment.
Here are some tips that can help you avoid misunderstandings while interacting with them:

1. Professionalism First: Regardless of their gender, treat all colleagues with the same level of professionalism. Focus on building work relationships based on mutual respect and common goals.

2. Respect Personal Space: Be mindful of personal space and boundaries. Avoid invading someone's personal space. Be aware of cultural differences that may influence personal boundaries.

3. Use Inclusive Language: Use inclusive language that promotes a sense of equality. Avoid making gender-specific comments or assumptions. Focus on work-related topics and common interests.

4. Be Mindful of Body Language: Pay attention to non-verbal cues and body language. If someone appears uncomfortable, adjust your behavior accordingly. Respect signals indicating when someone may need space or is not interested in engaging in conversation.

5. If you feel the need to give compliments, keep them professional and work-related. Complimenting someone on their professional achievements or contributions is generally safe.

6. Avoid Personal topics: Refrain from discussing personal or sensitive topics, especially in the early stages of getting to know your colleagues. Stick to neutral subjects related to work or common interests.

7. Office Events and Social Gatherings: Participate in office events and social gatherings where you can interact with colleagues in a more relaxed setting. This can contribute to building positive relationships outside of the formal work environment.

8. Request Feedback: If you are unsure about your interactions or if you want to ensure that your behavior is appropriate, consider seeking feedback from colleagues or mentors. Constructive feedback can help you improve and navigate workplace dynamics more effectively.

Remember, the key is to be respectful, considerate and professional in all interactions.

Building positive relationships with your colleagues, irrespective of their gender, will contribute to a more inclusive and supportive work environment.

All the best!

Ans: If you choose to go ahead, then let her know and take things forward with her. Its clear you are attracted to her.

If you are attracted to your colleague and you believe that she is interested in you, then you may want to consider pursuing a relationship with her. However, it is important to be aware of the potential risks and consequences of doing so.

If you don't want to proceed with her, then start focusing on your hobbies, works, other interests.

If you are not interested in pursuing a relationship with your colleague, then it is important to set clear boundaries and focus on other aspects of your life. This may include spending more time with your family and friends, pursuing your hobbies, or focusing on your career.

Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to pursue a relationship with your colleague is up to you. However, it is important to weigh the potential risks and benefits before making a decision.

Mohit Arora S
Founder - Real Dating School

www.realdatingschool.com/1-1_call

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
If you are unsure of her relationship status, you can ask around and get clarity on that. If she is committed, it would be indecent to approach her. If she is single, go ahead and talk to her. You do not have to ask her on a date right away or ask "Do you like me? or anything significant like that. Just go and say hi, or start with a smile when she makes eye contact and see where it goes. All of these will help you make some contact with her. But yes, make sure she is single before making any move. If things work out, you can ask her out for a cup of coffee. These are all low-pressure situations which will help your introverted self remain calm.

Hope these help.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I believe I have already answered your question once.
Hope that helped.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am assuming you are still married and if that’s the case, the thing that you should focus on is not your feelings for this colleague. It’s your feelings towards your wife. Does your wife know, or are you in an open setup? I need more details before I can help you any further.


Best Wishes