Im 18 years old. Preparing for neet exam. After joining allen. I realised that i have wasted my class 11th and 12th both. I can't understand simple basic things. I belonged to State board and now I have to study NCERT. I cried a lot thinking about the things. It's hard for me to even ask my teacher any questions. Im an introvert. I think I'm wasting my parents money. my father payed 1 lacks fees for my admission. I'm so demotivated. Can anyone tell me what to do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Study for yourself; not for your parents or not to be better than someone else.
Shifting focus from what others will think to how I can do my best will allow you to be very determined. Procrastination will actually vanish and you will be very motivated from within. Don't believe it? Try shifting focus and see what happens!

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Ans: My initial recommendation for you is to avoid placing sole reliance on NEET. It is prudent to devise alternative strategies, such as Plan B and Plan C, to adequately prepare yourself for various medical-allied courses by participating in an additional 3-4 entrance examinations as well. In the midst of a demanding phase such as NEET, it is quite common to experience feelings of being overwhelmed. Nonetheless, through a thoughtful approach and consistent effort, one can effectuate substantial transformations. Initially, assess and recalibrate your situation, transition your perspective from worry to proactive engagement, and segment the journey into manageable components. Focus on subjects that offer substantial intellectual returns, such as Biology, Physics, and Chemistry. Organize your study environment and monitor your phone usage. Develop a comprehensive four-month plan, commencing with biology and subsequently progressing to subjects of greater weight and complexity. Mitigate distractions through the regulation of mobile device usage, fostering communication with family members, adhering to a structured routine, seeking assistance and motivation from diverse platforms, and promoting overall well-being by ensuring adequate sleep, consuming nutritious foods, and engaging in physical activities such as yoga and meditation.
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Ans: This is a common struggle between parents and children. Especially in India, many parents push their children into medical or engineering fields. But it’s hard to imagine how you kept trying with drops one after the other and reached the fourth attempt. How did your parents tolerate your failures? It’s good to hear that you never wanted to become a doctor. Every new day is a fresh start.

It’s completely normal to feel lost after following a path that wasn’t truly yours. You’ve been under pressure for years, so it’s okay to pause and rediscover what you actually enjoy. Failure in one field doesn’t define your future. It just means you need a direction that fits you. Take small steps to explore your interests, talk to mentors or career counselors, and allow yourself to start fresh. You’re not behind. You’re just beginning to choose for yourself now.
Remember, you haven’t wasted these years; you’ve learned what doesn’t make you happy, which is just as important. Many people restart later and still build meaningful careers. Try to rebuild confidence by exploring subjects or skills that genuinely interest you. Even short online courses, volunteering, or creative work can help you reconnect with yourself. Don’t rush a big decision; take time to understand what feels right.

Finally, stop punishing yourself for the past and focus on what excites you now. Make a list of what genuinely interests you, academics, skills, hobbies, and explore them through small projects, courses, or internships. Talk to people in fields you’re curious about. Choose a path that aligns with your strengths and curiosity, not just others' expectations. Remember, success isn’t a single route, and starting fresh is brave, not late. Trust yourself, take one step at a time, and let yourself build confidence gradually.

Good luck.
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