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MHT-CET, IIT-JEE, NEET-UG Expert - Answered on Oct 14, 2025

Radheshyam Zanwar is the founder of Zanwar Classes which prepares aspirants for competitive exams such as MHT-CET, IIT-JEE and NEET-UG.
Based in Aurangabad, Maharashtra, it provides coaching for Class 10 and Class 12 students as well.
Since the last 25 years, Radheshyam has been teaching mathematics to Class 11 and Class 12 students and coaching them for engineering and medical entrance examinations.
Radheshyam completed his civil engineering from the Government Engineering College in Aurangabad.... more

Asked by Anonymous - Oct 14, 2025Hindi

Sir , this thing started when i started my class 11 in 2022. I am from PCB strem . I just started my neet prep soon after my 10th boards ,like it was decided for me . Soon in my class 12 year2021 , i realised it was prep medical. Which i always ignored from my childhood n never wanted to do. But for my parents wish i took it blindly . Now even after years i am still stuck to , should i do it or not? Wht if i fail ? , wht if i do something else n never succeed?. This year i am a 4th year dropper . N now when my parents see how hopeless i hve become , now they say - do wht u want to do. Before my drop years i knew wht i was curious about , now i am just scared , tht if i do something of my own , i will fail the same i fail ever time in neet . I am so confused , scared , hopeless . I don’t know where to go . Take admission in which course . I never wanted to be a doctor , but everyone told me , i will have no future except neet . Now i dont know wht to do . My brain is all hanged in coma .

Ans: This is a common struggle between parents and children. Especially in India, many parents push their children into medical or engineering fields. But it’s hard to imagine how you kept trying with drops one after the other and reached the fourth attempt. How did your parents tolerate your failures? It’s good to hear that you never wanted to become a doctor. Every new day is a fresh start.

It’s completely normal to feel lost after following a path that wasn’t truly yours. You’ve been under pressure for years, so it’s okay to pause and rediscover what you actually enjoy. Failure in one field doesn’t define your future. It just means you need a direction that fits you. Take small steps to explore your interests, talk to mentors or career counselors, and allow yourself to start fresh. You’re not behind. You’re just beginning to choose for yourself now.
Remember, you haven’t wasted these years; you’ve learned what doesn’t make you happy, which is just as important. Many people restart later and still build meaningful careers. Try to rebuild confidence by exploring subjects or skills that genuinely interest you. Even short online courses, volunteering, or creative work can help you reconnect with yourself. Don’t rush a big decision; take time to understand what feels right.

Finally, stop punishing yourself for the past and focus on what excites you now. Make a list of what genuinely interests you, academics, skills, hobbies, and explore them through small projects, courses, or internships. Talk to people in fields you’re curious about. Choose a path that aligns with your strengths and curiosity, not just others' expectations. Remember, success isn’t a single route, and starting fresh is brave, not late. Trust yourself, take one step at a time, and let yourself build confidence gradually.

Good luck.
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