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CAT, XAT, CMAT, CET Expert - Answered on Jan 28, 2025

Patrick Dsouza is the founder of Patrick100.
Along with his wife, Rochelle, he trains students for competitive management entrance exams such as the Common Admission Test, the Xavier Aptitude Test, Common Management Admission Test and the Common Entrance Test.
They also train students for group discussions and interviews.
Patrick has scored in the 100 percentile six times in CAT. He achieved the first rank in XAT twice, in CET thrice and once in the Narsee Monjee Management Aptitude Test.
Apart from coaching students for MBA exams, Patrick and Rochelle have trained aspirants from the IIMs, the Jamnalal Bajaj Institute of Management Studies and the S P Jain Institute of Management Studies and Research for campus placements.
Patrick has been a panellist on the group discussion and panel interview rounds for some of the top management colleges in Mumbai.
He has graduated in mechanical engineering from the Motilal Nehru National Institute of Technology, Allahabad. He has completed his masters in management from the Jamnalal Bajaj Institute of Management Studies, Mumbai.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Jan 24, 2025Hindi
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Hello, I am 37 yrs old, have two daughters (3.5 yrs & 3 months old). I have 11 yrs of HR exp and currently working as a freelancer. I am able to spare only 2-3 hrs time to work in freelancing. I am planning to do a phd specially the one for working professional where there are only online weekend classes, (I can manage visiting to campuses once in a year). I understand many good IIMs accept CAT score but I am not in the position to prepare for CAT. Are there any good institutions (if yes, can you please provide their names. My interest is into HR strategy) which provide such phd courses where CAT or any other entrance test is not required. Plus the phd should be valid across the nation. Once kids grow i wish to do teaching job in management college. Thank you. P. S. I am open for any other good suggestions regarding my career

Ans: You can check XLRI. They are best for HR and they do have a course where you do have to go only once to their campus and rest is online. See if the course suits you. https://www.xlri.ac.in/academic-programmes/school-of-research/executive-fpm
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