Hello Sir, I am a 31 yr old female, from Mumbai I have been working in a small scale Indian firm as an accounts executive for the past 6 years. There is no growth and learning , I handle basic invoicing, clients ledgers, maintaining ledgers, Accounts reporting etc. I struggle with self confidence and low willingness. and there is added struggle in personal life too. Now at this point I feel stuck and helpless. I feel changing job and carrer would help me gain a bit of confidence. I think i should upskill myself, with data analysis cources such as SQL, Tableau, Python.. What would you suggest ? What would be a better roadmap for me to gain confidence in my career

Ans: Dear Jay,
Two grown-ups must be allowed to deal with their unique relationship their way. The responsibility of how it turns out is theirs and not yours. So, honestly step back. The reason you possibly might want to play the peacemaker is you feel responsible towards your wife and your mother; please don't and stay off of it. The more you play this role, the more you make them dependent on you.
Yes, it's a difficult thing as a son to leave your mother especially with so many health issues, BUT is she physically incapable of caring for herself? Is it possible that she can live with a sibling of yours or any other family member for a few weeks? This gives you some breathing space and some time with your wife where you connect without the external challenges that are creeping into your relationship with her.
Also, this space will allow both the women to appreciate one another and also learn the valuable presence each has on the family. So, no more mediation BUT time to do something different with less talk and more results. Try this...of course, you need to be prepared to move on from this fear of leaving your mother alone which you are not...it's just requesting her to live with another family member (your sibling OR her sibling).
Slowly, you can bring up the topic of shifting to a larger space whereby each of you have some space from one another. First things first is to diffuse the tension between the two before suggesting any big changes. You can give this a shot, yeah?

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