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Answered on Jan 16, 2009

KV Question by KV on Jan 16, 2009Hindi
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My boss has just quit the organization and while doing so, he has cautioned us for the worst also my husband my be shifted out of mumbai.We are in a rented accommodation. I am not sure whether my job is secure, but I have been an above average performer. how should I deal with this stress(more like anxiety)?

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What we can do is make the best of what is at this point in time. It indeed is hard to be away from family at a time like this.

I know parents in some families do find it hard adjusting to a new city at their age and having your wife care for them as logical as the decision was has begun to take a toll on the family as a whole.

It is an amazing feeling to come back home to a family after a hard day’s work where they wait with love, care and support.

Either a job in Mumbai or moving your family to Delhi are the options as it is evident that family and their love is important for you to have the security and stability.

Having said this, Lockdown 5.0 begins soon, I think fearlessly take a call, visit your family.

If you think you want to isolate yourself in the fear of COVID-10, do so…but more that all of this, do sit down as a family, COMMUNICATE, talk to your parents about how this is affecting you and obviously they care and love you enough to hear your side of the story.

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