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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 28, 2023Hindi
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After died of my child my wife is unable to kept conceive. At present she is agreesive to much and unable to hear my advise. please advise how to kept good reltionship

Ans: I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your child and the difficulties you and your wife are experiencing. It's understandable that your wife may be going through a lot emotionally, and it can be challenging to navigate a relationship during such a difficult time. Here are some tips that may help you improve your relationship:

Seek counseling: Consider seeking counseling together to help process your grief and improve communication. A licensed therapist can provide a safe space for both of you to express your feelings and work through any issues in your relationship.

Show empathy: Try to understand your wife's perspective and show empathy towards her. Validate her feelings and let her know that you're there for her.

Practice active listening: When your wife is speaking, make sure to actively listen to what she's saying. Don't interrupt or dismiss her feelings, and try to understand where she's coming from.

Practice self-care: Take care of yourself so that you can be there for your wife. This includes getting enough sleep, exercising regularly, and taking time for yourself to relax and recharge.

Be patient: Remember that healing takes time, and your wife may need some time and space to come to terms with her emotions. Be patient with her and don't pressure her to "get over" her grief.

It's important to remember that everyone grieves differently, and there's no right or wrong way to do it. By being supportive, patient, and empathetic towards your wife, you can help strengthen your relationship and support each other through this difficult time.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 11, 2024Hindi
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Hello Anu Madam, I am 43, and my wife is 40, no kids. We are married for 13 years. Immediately after marriage, for a few months, she did not let me have physical relation. She used to push me away if I tried. Then, for almost 3.5 years, she was treated by a psychiatrist for depression and doctor advised not to have sex. After that too, she was not much interested. We consulted 5 gynaecs and a counsellor, one surgery was performed on her vagina, I got my semen tested multiple times but all in vain. There was no normal physical relationship for next 6-7 years. And now, all of a sudden, she is pushing to have a child. To be honest, I have lost interest. But she is hell bent to get pregnant. Everyday, we fight over this and our mental peace has gone for a toss. She has become way too admant and always gets angry over trivial things. Can you please suggest a way ahead? Thank you in advance and sorry for the long post.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It's clear that all these years of expectations being unfulfilled and the medical challenges have taken a toll on the marriage. It has made you distant from her and that is understandable.
How would you like the marriage to be from now on will define whether there will be intimacy in the marriage. In fact, emotional intimacy must be the first step...The two of you can put efforts in simply loving one another. That can be a good start point.
This will involve:
- caring for one another
- giving attention
- loving unconditionally

Understand that you are going to have to start from the beginning; like a child who goes to school for the first time. Build an emotional bond and then slowly as the trust builds, sexual intimacy will follow...Sex is not a forced activity and it will put the two of you in a bad space without much scope to recover. Build, love, trust, respect first...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Hi sir My son got admission in VIT Bhopal CSE Cat 2 and expected marks in ComedK is 80 marks. Should deposit fees for VIT Bhopal or wait for Comedk results on 7 th June as have to deposit VIT fees by 5th June. Please advise? Thank you
Ans: Anirban Sir, Apologize for the late reply due to a large number of questions raised by parents/students. Given your son’s admission to VIT Bhopal CSE (Category 2) and an expected 80 marks in COMEDK, here’s a balanced assessment: The VIT Bhopal fee deposit deadline is June 5, while COMEDK results will be declared on June 7 at 2 PM, and counselling registration starts June 9. With 80 marks in COMEDK, admission to top-tier Bangalore colleges (like RVCE, BMSCE, MSRIT) for CSE is highly unlikely, as their cutoffs are typically much higher; with this score, your son may get branches like IT/ECE in lower-tier COMEDK colleges, but CSE in reputed colleges is improbable. VIT Bhopal, though not as renowned as VIT Vellore, offers solid placements, modern infrastructure, and national-level recognition, making it a safe and quality option for CSE. Since VIT’s counselling and fee payment are time-sensitive and non-refundable, and given the slim chances of a better CSE seat through COMEDK, it is advisable to deposit the VIT Bhopal fees to secure the seat, unless you are comfortable risking the VIT seat for a less certain outcome via COMEDK. If finances permit and you are open to non-CSE branches or lower-tier colleges, you could wait, but for CSE in a nationally recognized institution, securing VIT Bhopal now is the safer choice. All the BEST for your Son's Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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