My younger brother has a habit of stealing. So I went on internet to see how one should approach the child to counsel him about stealing . I discussed the same with my parents and they agreed that my father will talk to him and go like, yes I know you stole 500 rupees and even I stole when I was a kid. I found this as the best way to confront a child who stole because i would never want to attack my young brother by asking "did you steal" this will make him think of excuses and scare him. I discussed all of this and I am sure I made the point very clear that you must not ask him 'did you steal'. Nevertheless, when bro came back home, my mom could not resist herself and took the matter in her own hands and the matter went the way I never wanted it to be. Lil bro ended up making up some weird excuse . Now we can never dig down the real cause why he stole. I cannot understand if my parents do not know how to talk why the hell they don't think of some better way. My mom just wanted to be clear of the fact that my brother stole money. She never wanted the deep roots of how he felt why he did so and all. My mom would think she does the best parenting because she never sets any boundaries and we are free to do anything. Be it partying aur roaming around till 11 at night. She thinks that kids need freedom and I gave that. Now my children will be the best of all. Like dude common, think about it once. This kind of things keep happening and I am very very frustrated now with all her techniques. What do I do. It is draining me mentally

I am brought up in a middle class family where both my parents were working. I am the elder sister and I have a younger brother. Since childhood i feel that my mother has given more time and efforts towards my brother. When he asks something he gets it and when I ask I'm told that it's not required. My mother pretends that she treats both of us equal but i can feel the difference. I'm currently married with a 4 year old kid. My husband is very loving and we have a happy family. My issue now begins when my mother comes to stay/visit us. She begins pointing faults and imposing decisions on us. She does that same with my husband and he doesn't like it either. My mother wants to prove herself right even if she is wrong and will never accept her faults. She is interfering with my child's upbringing too. She will never ever behave like that with my brother. I won't deny the fact that she comes to help when I need since I have no inlaws but just because she knows that we need her she will try to dominate over us. One example is that when my child was 10 months i got a potty seat and she never let me put my kid on it saying that kid is too young and because of this my kid never sat in toilet till he turned 4 years. Another is that she used to feed my son only biscuits all the time even when I used to oppose. Also, once she fed my son ice cream when he was 1 year old and my child developed fever next day and she put blame on me saying I took him our for walk in the evening hence my child got fever. When I used silicon brush to brush my kids teeth she stopped me saying there's no need to brush before 1 month when i objected and continued doing it she blamed .e whenever my kid cried saying that his gums are hurting because you brushed his teeth. Many more such incidents where she puts blame on me and tries to prove me wrong She will almost daily try n tell me that my husband is blaming her for groceries getting over/ equipment not working etc which I know my husband does not (he is very kind hearted ) and she just keeps all this misunderstanding in her head. Many times I've clarified by talking to both of them together. Now, my husband is going out of town and again my mother will be coming. I'm fed-up of these fights n arguments but when in emergency i have to rely on her but she takes full advantage of the fact that I need her. I can't take this anymore and its affecting my mental health

Hi my age is 47 married my wife and daughter are living seperately and they are live at her mother place from beginning the problem is that my dad is money minded person he gets upset when money is spend for betterment and my mother wants to leave free life all of sudden she blames me and my father for bad life I literally had a argument with her on the basis that if I am going through some mental stress in work, personal life, family problems than with whom shall I share she says not to discuss anything with her the fact is I am in dilemma what to do I have minimum source of income,PL,CC bills and other responsibility I am in dilemma what to do I need a break which I am not able to do pls give me some solution to overcome all this issues.

I’am 28 yrs old and an elder sister in my 4 member family. Financially we belong in upper middle class but my strict father raised us in middle class standard. After school i got my higher education from government college and around 24yr old i stopped asking money from my father. I asked only for basic minimum to cover my travel experience, that too killed me with shame and heavy burden on my chest. I worked really hard to crack SSC exam and in sep i joined my office after clearing exam by the grace of god. Now here comes my 1st salary and my younger brother demanded that i pay 799 for his phn recharge, which i declined and then later in the evening he is demanding that he is buying someone, he is in the shop so give me 200rp without any explanation of what he is buying. I don’t want to do that but now my mother is lecturing me about relations over money and that its ok, you are ought to give money to ur brother. Now m the villian only because I don’t want to pay for his expenses. M not against giving money in need but is it wrong for me to decline to become ATM for my younger brother? And what should i give him money for, it was my parents who sacrificed for me not him. What should i do when m being forced to treat him like a son by my mother rather than just a sibling?