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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 17, 2023Hindi
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I am from Middle class family. Our parents, 2 brothers, my sister and Me.My Father is no more and my mom lives alone. She does not want to stay with any of us. We all live out of country and my mother lives in India. My mother is not dependent on us financially and she can manage on her own and does not expect money from any of us. She is getting old and we need to take care of her, but I feel I am only one who checks on her and arranges for any small things she needs. My sibling don't even talk about it, I feel they think if they talk about it then they have do something. Like every other old person my mother and me have a lot of differences on everything like managing finances, or renewing something or going to hospital etc and I become the bad person because of these matters. My siblings don't get involved they just call her once a while and talk for while and manage to stay in her good books. I know that it is my duty to take care of her but I feel not appreciated or rejected when she ignores all the things I do for her when others don't. She is also old school and favors boys over girls and reject me saying that I am from a different family and always guilt traps me saying that she educated me but i earn and spent on my husband family. She hates my in-laws, but they are nice people and my husband is very supportive. Since it is my mother I don't tell these issues to anyone even my husband and it is destroying my Peace.

Ans: I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties you're facing in your relationship with your mother. It can be challenging when there are differences in opinions and expectations, especially when it comes to caregiving and managing family dynamics. Here are a few suggestions that might help you navigate this situation:

Communication: It's important to have open and honest communication with your mother. Try to express your feelings calmly and respectfully, and listen to her perspective as well. Sharing your concerns and thoughts can help create a better understanding between both of you.

Seek support: While you may not want to burden your husband with these issues, it's still essential to have someone to talk to and seek support from. Consider confiding in a close friend or a counselor who can provide an objective viewpoint and offer guidance on how to cope with the emotional stress.

Boundaries: Establishing boundaries is crucial in any relationship. Make it clear to your mother what you can and cannot do, taking into account your own personal and family commitments. It's important to find a balance between caring for her and taking care of yourself and your own family.

Sibling involvement: If you feel overwhelmed and alone in taking care of your mother, you can try to involve your siblings more actively in the process. Have an open conversation with them, express your concerns, and see if they can contribute in any way, whether it's by providing emotional support or assisting with certain responsibilities.

Patience and empathy: Understand that your mother's behavior and expectations may be influenced by her upbringing, cultural beliefs, and personal experiences. Try to approach situations with empathy, even if it's challenging. Remember that she may be experiencing her own struggles and fears as she grows older.

Self-care: Taking care of your own well-being is essential. Ensure that you make time for yourself, engage in activities that bring you joy, and maintain a healthy work-life balance. By taking care of yourself, you'll be better equipped to handle the challenges that arise in your relationship with your mother.

Remember, it's normal to feel frustrated and emotionally drained in such situations. However, with patience, understanding, and effective communication, you may be able to improve your relationship with your mother and find a balance that works for both of you.

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I am brought up in a middle class family where both my parents were working. I am the elder sister and I have a younger brother. Since childhood i feel that my mother has given more time and efforts towards my brother. When he asks something he gets it and when I ask I'm told that it's not required. My mother pretends that she treats both of us equal but i can feel the difference. I'm currently married with a 4 year old kid. My husband is very loving and we have a happy family. My issue now begins when my mother comes to stay/visit us. She begins pointing faults and imposing decisions on us. She does that same with my husband and he doesn't like it either. My mother wants to prove herself right even if she is wrong and will never accept her faults. She is interfering with my child's upbringing too. She will never ever behave like that with my brother. I won't deny the fact that she comes to help when I need since I have no inlaws but just because she knows that we need her she will try to dominate over us. One example is that when my child was 10 months i got a potty seat and she never let me put my kid on it saying that kid is too young and because of this my kid never sat in toilet till he turned 4 years. Another is that she used to feed my son only biscuits all the time even when I used to oppose. Also, once she fed my son ice cream when he was 1 year old and my child developed fever next day and she put blame on me saying I took him our for walk in the evening hence my child got fever. When I used silicon brush to brush my kids teeth she stopped me saying there's no need to brush before 1 month when i objected and continued doing it she blamed .e whenever my kid cried saying that his gums are hurting because you brushed his teeth. Many more such incidents where she puts blame on me and tries to prove me wrong She will almost daily try n tell me that my husband is blaming her for groceries getting over/ equipment not working etc which I know my husband does not (he is very kind hearted ) and she just keeps all this misunderstanding in her head. Many times I've clarified by talking to both of them together. Now, my husband is going out of town and again my mother will be coming. I'm fed-up of these fights n arguments but when in emergency i have to rely on her but she takes full advantage of the fact that I need her. I can't take this anymore and its affecting my mental health
Ans: Dear Leena,
I hear you!
But do allow me to give you a perspective. Relationships are never easy to maintain and manage as they involve emotions and layers through it all. Mothers can at times see their daughters as people who they need to groom for life. It's possible that your mother is doing the same thing. She has made it her sole responsibility to continue to groom you so that you earn a good name in your husband's household. This isn't me saying it, it's the way age-old beliefs could be seeping through your mother.
Now, it has become an interference and it must be conveyed to her. At first, it will hurt her and she might react to it by reminding you of all the sacrifices that she has made in order to raise you; but mind you, be steady in what you convey.
She will eventually understand that her daughter does not need to be monitored and taught to lead her life, but just needs a support system around her. Of course, there might be a withdrawal when she has to help you, but be firm on how you would like be treated from now on.
Polite yet firm is something that works well to avoid conflicts within relationships; so use that well.
Also, the differentiation between you and your brother might just be that she gives you tough love. Tough love is shown by a parent/authority figure to another in order to toughen the other person up and in severe cases it may result in submissiveness. In your case, it is likely that she has a certain belief on how boys and girls must be raised. It will change only when she changes her belief. For now, focus on creating a better environment at home by taking charge and being polite and firm with your mother.
And do know, at the end of the day, she is a mother....love sets everything right.
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Hi I am 64 years old. Still workig in a Private company. My mother is 85 years old and she is with me since my father's death in 1985. I have lost my brother in an accident in 1985. I have three sisters all are living in my city only. My mother is almost bedridden. My wife, 62 years old is a heart patient and recently she has fallen and her knee got fractured. My wife and my mother never liked each other and always quarrel. My mother , being very week and helpless, always scolds my wife. We have made an arrangement with a catering guy who takes care of my mother's lunch. But dinner i have to prepare everyday which i have been doing for the last 20 years. My three sisters often come to visit my mother and give her fruits etc etc to please her. The problem is they agree to keep my mother in their homes once in while for two or three days but i have to beg them always when i have to go for any functions or to visit places , temples. But they never come forward to support me even if i am sick or if i have to attend any marriages, functions. This gives a scope for my wife to quarrel with me and many times we have cancelled our tickets just to be at home to look after my mother. Please tell me what to do do. I am also becoming old and want to take my wife with me to attend functions and to show her the places, as a husband. And my wife always quarrels with me that if at this age when we are able to walk and capable of going to places, when can we go ? I am not able to convince my three sister(elder one is already bedridden so i can not ask her )_ nor i am in a position to do justice to my wife's pleas. Please suggest me.
Ans: Hello Sir,
It's clear that you're facing a challenging situation, juggling responsibilities between your elderly mother, your wife, and your own desire for some personal time. Balancing these caregiving responsibilities while maintaining a healthy relationship with your wife can be emotionally and physically exhausting. It's essential to find a balance that works for everyone involved, including yourself. Seeking support from your extended family, exploring professional caregiving options, and prioritizing open communication can contribute to finding a more sustainable and harmonious caregiving arrangement. Have an open and honest conversation with your sisters about your situation, expressing your need for support. Emphasize the strain it's putting on your relationship with your wife and the importance of having some time for yourselves. Consider organizing a family meeting where you can discuss the caregiving responsibilities and come up with a plan that works for everyone. This can help distribute the load more evenly and address any concerns or misunderstandings Explore the option of hiring a professional caregiver or nurse to provide assistance to your mother. This could ease the burden on you and provide a more structured care plan for your mother's needsTake care of your own health and well-being. Work with your sisters to establish a schedule for them to take turns caring for your mother. This way, you can plan your personal time in advance and ensure that your wife's concerns are addressed. Ensure you are not neglecting your physical and mental health in the midst of caregiving responsibilities.

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Hi, I am a 29 year old married women with a 1yr old baby girl. I am married to a lovable family. I live with my husband, MIL, FIL & SIL(youngwr to me and she is unmarried). I dont have any major issues with my inlaws. Mine is a arrange marriage. But Gods grace i got a good loving husband and inlaw fly. I was born in a middle class family buy highly pampered by parents but waa made grown to adjust, love, and respect everyone. I was very independent before marriage. I used to do what all i want But i an very sensitive. After marriage everything was going good. I was working and all household chores was done by MIL and she never asks or expects me to do even if i ask. Btw i dont know cooking except basic items. I was comitted to work later resigned my job after conceving. And baby born...etc everything was good. My mil was working initially when i got married and now she took vrs and is at home. Me also looking after baby and at home. Till now she doesnt allow me to do any work. If i ask also she says me to take rest and look after baby.whole day i have to look baby and ther is no work for me to do. She herself cooks, cleans vessels put laundry even our laundry. I feel like i want to cook do work she will immediately come and she will do it. That too she will say very sweetly. The thing is she doesnt want to hurt me as she sufferen a lot with her MIL. But this also make me worse without doing any work. It tiring to ask her everytine shall i cook today shall i do this that but she says i will do you take rest which make to think oh we dont have right itseems. Its her kitchen. I feel like sometimes i want to prepare anything for my husband or myself but can. Whenever i step inside kitchen my mil comes and looks and asks what i am doing. Like i feel that i am not independant. Also my FIL only buys groceries even that also she will only arrange. Very rarely i will say i wanted to do. But each and everytimr i cant keep asking. Its very tough only to look after my kid and not to have any work at home. Like this made me to long for having my own kitchen my own way of bying arranging this doing my household wok etc... also privacyyy plays. Even thou we had no issues directly....there is some gap within in laws ans me .. where they dont treat me as one of their fly. My mil keeps a distance. She doesnt want to dependant on me. Whenever i ask something to her like to help her she says she wants no help but later asks her daughter which make me sad. But i treat her like my mom but she keeps a distance which eventually made me to make distance with her. I could not be myself with her. We talk communicate be in safe roof no issues so far but i feel insecured. Like being in a cage. Now i feel like moving out ans starting ny owb fly. But this was not my intention. But stituation making me to think. Everything mil wants to take control. I could not even cook anything for my husband. Rather that this nothing hurts me. My mil is not bad she is overprotecting me. How to let know that i also need some me time from looking after baby so that i can do what i like like cooking, cleaning, vessel washing etc.
Ans: The key here is communication, but in a gentle and understanding way. You can express your gratitude for all the care and support your mother-in-law has provided while also sharing how important it is for you to feel more involved. Let her know that you want to be an active part of the household, whether it's cooking, cleaning, or managing some of the family responsibilities. You can explain that having that involvement helps you feel fulfilled and independent, and it's also part of what makes you happy as a wife and mother.

Rather than framing it as something she's doing wrong, approach the conversation from a place of mutual respect. It's clear that she wants what's best for you, so if you express how this would benefit you emotionally, she might be more open to giving you the space to do what you enjoy. Be patient, as it may take time for her to adjust, but creating a balance where you have some ownership over your daily life will likely help you feel more secure and at ease.

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Is ulip plans are good to invest or sip is better can you suggest???
Ans: ULIPs are hybrid products combining insurance and investment.
They offer a life insurance cover and invest your premium in equity or debt.
A portion of your premium is used for insurance. The remaining is invested.
However, there are some disadvantages to ULIPs:

High Costs: ULIPs charge fees like premium allocation, policy administration, and fund management charges. These reduce your net returns.
Lock-In Period: They have a minimum 5-year lock-in period, limiting liquidity.
Complex Structure: Balancing insurance and investment often leads to sub-optimal outcomes in both.
Advantages of ULIPs:

They provide dual benefits of insurance and investment in one product.
Tax-saving benefits are available under Section 80C and maturity proceeds under Section 10(10D) (subject to certain conditions).
But are these advantages worth the high costs and reduced flexibility?

Understanding SIPs (Systematic Investment Plans)

SIPs are a disciplined way to invest in mutual funds, primarily equity or hybrid.
SIPs allow you to invest small amounts regularly. This ensures affordability and consistency.
They provide the benefit of rupee cost averaging and the power of compounding.
Advantages of SIPs:

Low Costs: Actively managed mutual funds through MFDs with CFPs offer low expense ratios.
Flexibility: You can increase, decrease, or stop your SIP anytime.
Customised Returns: SIPs focus solely on wealth creation. This allows professional fund managers to maximise returns.
Transparency: SIPs offer clear insights into fund performance, portfolio, and management strategy.
Why SIPs Are Better Than ULIPs for Most Investors

Insurance and investment serve different purposes. Combining them often leads to inefficiency.
SIPs give you higher returns as the entire amount is invested, not split like in ULIPs.
ULIPs are suitable only for investors comfortable with long lock-ins and high charges.
You can pair SIPs with a term insurance plan for a more cost-effective strategy.
A Certified Financial Planner’s Recommendation

Buy a term insurance plan for pure risk coverage. It's cheaper and offers high cover.
Invest separately in SIPs for wealth creation. This ensures focused returns without compromising insurance needs.
How SIPs Outperform ULIPs in Various Scenarios

Scenario 1: Flexibility

SIPs allow you to stop or change investments. ULIPs restrict this with lock-ins.
Scenario 2: Costs and Charges

SIPs charge only fund management fees. ULIPs have multiple charges, reducing your returns.
Scenario 3: Wealth Creation

SIPs focus solely on wealth creation with expert fund management. ULIPs split their focus.
Scenario 4: Tax Implications

Mutual fund taxation rules depend on the type of fund and holding period. ULIPs offer tax benefits but may still fall short on returns.
Disadvantages of ULIPs to Keep in Mind

They are often mis-sold as high-return products without highlighting costs.
They don’t offer flexibility in insurance coverage.
They limit liquidity for five years, affecting short-term goals.
Final Insights

ULIPs may seem attractive for combining insurance and investment. However, they often fall short when compared to SIPs in mutual funds.

By separating your insurance and investment needs, you gain flexibility, transparency, and better returns. Always prioritise cost-effective and goal-aligned strategies for long-term financial growth.

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K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
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I have 50 lakhs with me i am 25 years old which is best investment for me!
Ans: At 25, you have a golden opportunity to build wealth early. Let's explore a diversified investment plan considering your age, goals, and risk tolerance.

Setting Your Financial Goals
Define short-term, medium-term, and long-term financial goals.

Short-term goals can include buying a car or creating an emergency fund.

Medium-term goals may involve higher education or starting a business.

Long-term goals should focus on retirement, buying a house, or other life aspirations.

Prioritise these goals and allocate funds accordingly.

Building an Emergency Fund
Reserve six to twelve months' expenses as an emergency fund.

Invest this amount in liquid funds for easy access and stable returns.

Keep this fund untouched for emergencies only.

Health and Life Insurance
Ensure adequate health insurance coverage for yourself and family.

Purchase a term insurance policy to safeguard your dependents in case of unforeseen events.

Choose policies that align with your income and future responsibilities.

Investing in Mutual Funds
Allocate a significant portion to equity mutual funds for long-term growth.

Actively managed funds provide better potential than index funds due to skilled fund managers.

Regular mutual funds through a certified financial planner offer guidance and expert oversight.

Avoid direct funds unless you have expertise in fund selection and management.

Diversify across large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds for balanced growth.

Stock Market Investments
Invest 10%-15% of your corpus directly in stocks for higher returns.

Focus on companies with strong fundamentals and growth potential.

Review your portfolio periodically to ensure alignment with your goals.

Limit exposure to speculative stocks or high-risk sectors.

Debt Investments
Allocate 20%-30% of your corpus to debt instruments for stability.

Consider options like corporate bonds, government securities, or fixed deposits.

These provide steady returns with lower risk than equity.

Retirement Planning
Start building a retirement corpus early for the power of compounding.

Allocate a part of your funds to long-term equity mutual funds.

Use tax-efficient schemes like PPF or EPF to complement retirement savings.

Tax Saving Investments
Utilise tax-saving options under Section 80C of the Income Tax Act.

Consider ELSS funds for both tax benefits and equity exposure.

Avoid locking funds in instruments like NSC or ULIPs with low returns.

Diversifying with Alternative Investments
Allocate 5%-10% to gold, either through gold ETFs or sovereign gold bonds.

Explore REITs for exposure to real estate without physical property investment.

Avoid direct real estate investments due to liquidity and management issues.

Systematic Investment Planning (SIP)
Deploy funds systematically through SIPs for disciplined investing.

SIPs benefit from rupee cost averaging and reduce the impact of market volatility.

Increase SIP amounts gradually as your income grows.

Avoiding Index and Direct Funds
Index funds track benchmarks and lack active management, limiting potential returns.

Direct funds require expertise and time for monitoring, which many investors lack.

Regular funds offer guidance and active management through certified financial planners.

Monitoring and Rebalancing Investments
Review your portfolio semi-annually or annually to track performance.

Rebalance the portfolio to maintain the desired asset allocation.

Adapt your strategy based on market conditions and changing goals.

Final Insights
With Rs 50 lakhs at 25, you can create a strong financial foundation.

Diversify across asset classes while balancing risk and return.

Seek guidance from a certified financial planner to optimise your investment strategy.

Stay consistent with your plan and avoid impulsive financial decisions.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

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I am 46 years old, doing job in Kolkata and my salary is 1.4 lac per month.I have savings of Rs. 1 Cr 10 Lac. 52 lacs in PPF, 13 Lacs in PF, 9 Lacs MIS post office.10 lacs Mutual fund. 20 lacs FD, 5 lacs Savings account. I have 2 PPFs which I need to pay 3 lacs per year as savings, 10k per month as SIP. No debt. I live in my parental house and I am the only son. I have daughter of 7 years age studying in class 1. My present family expenses are 40k What is the perfect age of taking retirement.
Ans: Your financial discipline is remarkable, and you are in a strong position.

You have Rs. 1.1 crore in savings spread across various instruments.
Your monthly income is Rs. 1.4 lakh, with expenses of Rs. 40,000.
You live in your parental house and have no debt.
Your financial commitments include SIPs and PPF contributions.
Your daughter is young, and her education requires long-term planning.
This stability provides a good foundation for retirement planning.

Key Factors to Consider for Retirement
1. Desired Retirement Age:

The ideal retirement age depends on your goals and financial needs.
Early retirement at 55 is possible if you ensure adequate savings.
A standard retirement age of 60 allows more time to build wealth.
2. Post-Retirement Expenses:

Estimate post-retirement expenses, including healthcare and inflation.
Current expenses of Rs. 40,000 may rise with time and lifestyle needs.
Factor in additional costs for your daughter’s education and marriage.
3. Life Expectancy:

Plan for at least 25-30 years post-retirement.
Ensure your savings generate steady income over this period.
4. Emergency Corpus:

Maintain at least 2 years’ expenses in liquid funds.
This ensures financial security during unforeseen situations.
Evaluating Existing Investments
1. Public Provident Fund (PPF):

Rs. 52 lakh in PPF ensures tax-free returns.
Continue annual contributions for long-term compounding benefits.
2. Provident Fund (PF):

Rs. 13 lakh in PF is a stable retirement asset.
Avoid withdrawing this corpus before retirement.
3. Mutual Funds:

Rs. 10 lakh in mutual funds provides growth potential.
Consider increasing SIPs to diversify and maximise equity exposure.
Actively managed funds can outperform during volatile markets.
4. Fixed Deposits (FD):

Rs. 20 lakh in FD ensures stability but offers limited growth.
Explore alternatives like hybrid funds for better returns with moderate risk.
5. Savings Account:

Rs. 5 lakh in a savings account is good for liquidity.
Avoid keeping excess funds here due to low returns.
6. Post Office MIS:

Rs. 9 lakh in MIS provides steady income but limited growth.
Redeploy this in equity or balanced funds for inflation-adjusted returns.
Planning for Your Daughter’s Future
1. Education:

Allocate funds for her higher education in equity-oriented investments.
SIPs in child-focused or diversified funds ensure disciplined savings.
2. Marriage:

Start a separate goal-based investment for her marriage.
Long-term equity investments provide better inflation-adjusted returns.
Building a Retirement Corpus
1. Increase Equity Exposure:

Equity is essential for wealth creation over the long term.
Gradually increase allocation to equity funds for higher returns.
2. Diversify Investments:

Combine equity, debt, and hybrid funds for balanced growth.
Diversification reduces risk and ensures stability.
3. Reduce Dependence on Fixed Income:

Fixed income instruments like FDs provide low post-tax returns.
Reallocate some funds to equity for higher growth.
4. Regular Portfolio Review:

Monitor your portfolio’s performance every six months.
Rebalance assets to maintain desired risk and return levels.
Tax Planning
1. Tax on Mutual Funds:

LTCG on equity funds above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
STCG is taxed at 20%. Plan redemptions to optimise taxes.
2. Tax-Efficient Investments:

PPF and PF remain tax-efficient instruments.
Consider ELSS funds if additional deductions under Section 80C are needed.
3. Avoid Tax Drags:

Fixed income returns are taxed as per your income slab.
Redeploy funds for better post-tax returns.
Deciding the Perfect Retirement Age
1. Retiring at 55:

This requires a larger corpus due to an extended retirement period.
Aggressive savings and investments are needed in the next 9 years.
2. Retiring at 60:

More time to build wealth reduces financial stress.
A balanced approach ensures a comfortable retirement.
3. Retiring at 58 (Mid-Way):

Retiring at 58 balances early retirement and corpus adequacy.
It aligns with both financial and lifestyle goals.
Additional Steps for Financial Security
1. Health Insurance:

Ensure adequate health insurance for your family.
This reduces the burden of medical expenses post-retirement.
2. Emergency Fund:

Maintain Rs. 10 lakh in liquid funds or FDs for emergencies.
This ensures immediate access during financial crises.
3. Will and Estate Planning:

Create a will to ensure smooth transfer of assets.
This avoids disputes and protects your family’s financial security.
Final Insights
Your current financial position supports a flexible retirement plan. Retiring at 58 offers a balanced approach, giving you time to build a corpus.

Focus on equity for long-term growth while maintaining stability in debt instruments. Plan separately for your daughter’s education and marriage to avoid straining your retirement corpus.

Review your investments regularly with a Certified Financial Planner. This ensures alignment with your evolving goals and market conditions.

With disciplined savings and strategic investments, you can achieve financial independence.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

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Greetings Sir!!. I have 20 Lacs amount and I need to invest for a short term period (05 months) what would be the best scheme to invest in? to gain good returns.
Ans: Investing for five months requires a cautious and strategic approach. Your goal should be to prioritise safety, liquidity, and optimal returns. Below are investment strategies tailored to your needs, ensuring a 360-degree perspective.

Key Considerations for Short-Term Investments
Before we dive into suitable options, consider these factors:

Liquidity: Ensure easy access to funds after five months.
Capital Safety: Short-term investments should minimise risk to your principal.
Tax Efficiency: Assess post-tax returns under your income tax slab.
Investment Options for Your Time Horizon
1. Ultra-Short Duration Funds
These funds focus on very short-term debt instruments.
They typically mature between three to six months.
Risk is low, making them ideal for short-term needs.
Returns are better than savings accounts or fixed deposits.
Tax efficiency is better if held beyond three months.
2. Arbitrage Funds
These funds capitalise on price differences in equity and derivatives.
They offer returns comparable to liquid funds but are taxed like equity.
Short-term gains are taxed at 20% for your five-month tenure.
Ideal for slightly higher-risk takers seeking tax efficiency.
3. Liquid Funds
Liquid funds invest in securities with a maturity of up to 91 days.
They provide stable returns and high liquidity.
Ideal for parking funds for three to six months.
Suitable for risk-averse investors with short time horizons.
4. Bank Fixed Deposits (Short-Term)
Consider FDs with a maturity of six months or less.
They offer assured returns, albeit lower than market-linked funds.
Taxation depends on your income tax slab.
Use this if you prioritise safety over returns.

Evaluating Key Points in Your Investment Journey
Liquidity Is Essential
Liquidity ensures your funds are accessible when required.
Avoid options with lock-in periods or exit loads.
Consider Risk Tolerance
Stay conservative, as your tenure is short.
Avoid high-risk instruments like equity mutual funds.
Focus on Post-Tax Returns
Understand the tax implications on interest or capital gains.
Equity fund short-term gains are taxed at 20%.
Debt fund gains are taxed as per your income slab.
Avoid Index Funds for This Tenure
Index funds track the broader market, which is volatile in the short term.
They don't provide capital safety over five months.
Actively managed funds offer more stability for short durations.
Additional Insights
Regular vs Direct Plans in Mutual Funds
Direct plans lack professional guidance, which may affect investment decisions.
Investing through a certified mutual fund distributor ensures tailored advice.
Regular plans offer value through personalised strategies and market insights.
Taxation Awareness
Use the updated mutual fund tax rules for calculating gains.
Ensure short-term gains are aligned with your tax-saving strategy.
Suggested Investment Allocation
Low-Risk Strategy
60% in liquid funds for safety.
30% in ultra-short duration funds for moderate returns.
10% in arbitrage funds for tax-efficient gains.
Moderate-Risk Strategy
50% in ultra-short duration funds for slightly higher returns.
30% in arbitrage funds for equity-like taxation.
20% in liquid funds for instant access to funds.
Final Insights
Short-term investments should prioritise stability and liquidity over high returns. Diversify across instruments to balance risk and return. Review tax efficiency to maximise post-tax benefits.

Evaluate progress in three months and adjust based on market conditions. A structured approach ensures your capital is safe while earning optimal returns.

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K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

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I am married for 17 years. Since ours was a arranged marriage we had many ups and downs but slowly we have settled all our matters. We have three kids. Elder one is 16yrs, 11yrs and 3yr. I am having a guilt feeling that we have not been a good parent to our 16yr old. When he was born I was young and inexperienced and was always settling my difference with my husband and was not taking good care of my son. Now he is in college he is not performing well in his studies. And has become very aggressive. I am very much worried about his future. Now I want to repair the damages I have done to him and I am very much feeling guilty and blaming myself that it was all because of me and my husband's misunderstanding his life is affected. My other two kids are doing good in everything they do. I cry every day that I have done mistake with my son and pray for his successful life. Now what can I do to improve my son's overall wellbeing. Please suggest.
Ans: Dear Mom,

I can totally empathise with you...so here is what I am going to tell you out of my own experience and what I did to overcome this mom guilt and seeking forgiveness. It's good that you are have worked on your marriage and have 3 kids, pat yourself on the back for it. And it's normal in any marriage for these kind of ups and downs and then attaining peace and love, so good going for having found them!!And remember marriage is continuous work.

The solution I am going to give, I am going to divide it into two parts..

1. Forgiving yourself first..be kind to yourself, you were young, you were inexperienced, the mom you are to your 3 yr old is not the same person who brought up your first child, so quit being guilty! Every soul has a journey to take, your son chose you as a mother so that he could take that journey with you...you both had to take this journey together in order to evolve and grow into the people you are today. So, FORGIVE YOURSELF AND QUIT FEELING GUILTY, it's not easy but you have to start doing it. Be kind to the old you... and embrace the new you!! You are not the same person and so is your first born, this continuous evolving as a human being and becoming better is called life, rt?

2. Your SON is 16yrs old, the aggression that he has may not be because of what you did to him... it may be the changing hormones? When you are a guilty mother, you tend to blame yourself for all the wrongs that happen in your child's life, so quit being guilty.
Talk to him about how young you were when he was born and how guilty you feel about some things( be careful about what you say, kids are very resilient, they know how to protect themselves , so maybe how you remember things may not be the same way that he remembers), say sorry and seek his forgiveness. Check if you can have this conversation with him, don't give him the power to make you feel further more guilty. I leave this decision to you.

Don't cry dear mom, forgive yourself, heal and see what best you can do from now on with your first born...just move on from the past... be there for him, cherish him, love him and be there for him, help him navigate through life with compassion and understanding. It might take time, but it's all doable. Take care of him.. and a mother truly knows what is best for her child, trust your instincts, the mother's instincts are far too powerful, take back your power from the "guilty mother" and nourish your bond.

What "I do' and also advice all parents is to spend excusive time with each child, scheduling time with each child and doing something which they like takes the bond to new levels!! Try this out...

All the best... and wishing happy times ahead for you and your beautiful family!!

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 11, 2024Hindi
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Hello sir, hope you’re doing well. My age is 33. I am investing 40K via SIP in MF in 5 different funds, 20K per month as EPF, 50K NPS annually, 28K EMI - 20 years for 2nd flat for investment, 1st flat home loan completed, 9K car loan for 5 years, also doing SIP 5K in momentum ETF on my own, health insurance from company side(5L) plus additional 5L but no term or life insurance yet. How am I doing financially? Scope of improvement? Please let me know
Ans: You are making commendable progress in financial planning at the age of 33. Your diversified investments and insurance indicate a proactive approach. Let us evaluate your situation and identify areas for improvement.

Current Financial Highlights
SIP in Mutual Funds (Rs. 40,000): This is a disciplined step towards wealth creation.

EPF Contribution (Rs. 20,000): Provides a stable retirement base.

NPS Contribution (Rs. 50,000 Annually): Strengthens retirement planning with tax benefits.

EMI for Second Flat (Rs. 28,000): Shows commitment to asset building.

Car Loan EMI (Rs. 9,000): Necessary, but car loans are liabilities, not assets.

Momentum ETF SIP (Rs. 5,000): Innovative but high-risk strategy.

Health Insurance (Rs. 10 Lakh): A good backup for emergencies.

No Term or Life Insurance: This is a critical gap that needs immediate attention.

Areas of Concern
1. High Loan Commitments
EMI for the second flat and car loan may strain cash flow.
The second flat as an investment can yield lower returns than mutual funds.
2. Lack of Term Insurance
Your dependents would face financial insecurity in your absence.
A term plan with at least 15 times your annual income is essential.
3. Momentum ETF Investment
ETFs are passive investments and lack active fund management benefits.
High volatility can lead to inconsistent returns.
4. Diversification of Investments
While your mutual fund SIPs are good, ensure they cover all categories: large-cap, mid-cap, small-cap, and hybrid.
Overconcentration in one type of fund or asset class can impact returns.
5. Insufficient Emergency Fund
Emergency savings for 6-12 months of expenses is crucial.
6. Tax Efficiency
Your investments and loan repayments must be optimised for tax savings.
Leverage Section 80C and 80D benefits effectively.
Recommendations for Improvement
1. Review Loan Strategy
Focus on prepaying the car loan as it carries no wealth-building advantage.
Reassess the investment potential of the second flat. If returns are poor, consider selling it and reinvesting in mutual funds.
2. Purchase Term Insurance
Opt for a term plan with Rs. 2 crore coverage.
Term insurance is cost-effective and ensures family security.
3. Optimise Mutual Fund Investments
Diversify across actively managed funds, avoiding over-reliance on ETFs.
Consult a Certified Financial Planner to refine your portfolio.
4. Enhance Emergency Fund
Save Rs. 2-3 lakh in liquid funds or high-interest savings accounts.
Use this only for unforeseen expenses.
5. Increase Health Insurance
Add a top-up plan of Rs. 10-15 lakh for better coverage.
6. Avoid Momentum ETFs
ETFs do not benefit from active management.
Actively managed funds outperform in volatile markets.
7. Plan Tax Efficiency
Invest up to Rs. 1.5 lakh under Section 80C in ELSS funds.
Claim additional tax benefits under Section 80D for health insurance premiums.
Retirement Planning
Increase your NPS contribution to Rs. 1 lakh annually.
Diversify retirement planning by investing in hybrid funds for stability.
Children’s Education and Marriage
If you have or plan to have children, start early with SIPs in child-specific funds.
These investments should align with the time horizon for each goal.
Actionable Steps
Prepay the car loan at the earliest.
Reevaluate the second flat for potential sale and reinvestment.
Start a term insurance policy immediately.
Build a robust emergency fund.
Review and diversify your mutual fund portfolio with expert guidance.
Increase health insurance coverage for better security.
Avoid ETFs and shift focus to actively managed mutual funds.
Final Insights
You are on the right path but need adjustments for financial security and growth. Address the gaps in insurance and diversify your investments further. By following these steps, you can achieve financial freedom with better peace of mind.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 10, 2024Hindi
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My age is 47 and I have invested 7.75 lakh in multiple stock and its grow arround 10 lakh from the past 2.5 years. I have 5.5 lakh home loan remaining . Should I withdraw these money and repay the home loan first and after that increase the SIP of that amount of mf .my current mf sip amount is 30k pm. Please suggest
Ans: Your query reflects careful consideration of financial priorities. Let's analyse whether using your stock investments to repay the home loan is the right step.

Evaluate the Existing Stock Portfolio
Your stock portfolio has grown from Rs 7.75 lakhs to Rs 10 lakhs in 2.5 years.

This indicates a strong return of approximately 29%. If these stocks have long-term growth potential, continuing to hold them might be advantageous.

Consider whether these stocks align with your risk tolerance and long-term financial goals.

Impact of Repaying the Home Loan
Your remaining home loan is Rs 5.5 lakhs. Paying this off will eliminate your EMI burden.

Repaying the loan early saves on interest costs, but assess the prepayment charges, if any.

Compare the effective interest rate on your home loan with the expected annualised return from your stock portfolio.

Home loan interest rates are usually lower compared to stock market returns over the long term.

Increasing SIP After Loan Repayment
Repaying the loan frees up EMI money that can be channelled into mutual fund SIPs.

By increasing SIPs, you benefit from disciplined investing and rupee cost averaging.

Use the additional SIPs to diversify into funds aligned with your risk profile and financial goals.

Considerations for Long-Term Wealth Creation
Mutual funds, especially actively managed ones, provide better diversification than direct stocks.

Your current SIP of Rs 30,000 per month is a good start. Increasing this amount post-loan repayment accelerates wealth creation.

Actively managed funds can outperform index funds through skilled fund management. Avoid direct funds unless you have deep knowledge and time to manage investments.

Evaluating Stock Liquidation
Selling your stocks could trigger capital gains tax. For gains above Rs 1.25 lakh, you will pay LTCG tax at 12.5%.

Factor in transaction costs and tax implications before selling.

Retain stocks that have strong fundamentals and growth prospects. Sell only non-performing or high-risk holdings.

Holistic Financial Planning
Build an emergency fund covering 6-12 months of expenses if you don’t already have one.

Ensure you have adequate life and health insurance coverage for your family’s security.

Maintain a balanced portfolio with exposure to equity, debt, and alternative assets.

Monitor your investments regularly and rebalance them to align with changing goals and risk tolerance.

Final Insights
If your home loan interest is significantly higher than potential stock returns, repayment is wise.

Otherwise, consider maintaining the stock portfolio and continuing your SIPs.

A mix of both strategies—partial loan repayment and increased SIPs—may offer balanced benefits.

Engage a Certified Financial Planner for a tailored strategy that ensures long-term financial success.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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