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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 19, 2025Hindi
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I am a widow and mother of a 6 yr old special child. My daughter is going to an inclusive school with a shadow teacher. I came in contact with a divorcee 1.5 yrs back and we have mutual regard. Parents know this and they have left this decision on us...If we want to go ahead with marriage. The problem is...boy is unsure if he would be able to take up responsibility of father of a special kid. And if we go on to plan for another child, will I be able to manage two kids , one with special condition..taking care of special kid is also financially draining..also the guy is planning to relocate abroad...that would again be a challenge for me ..as taking care of special kid abroad is tougher as there will be no helpers available there..One option everyone is suggesting is to keep my kid in hostel..if keeping in boarding school is beneficial for her ..I don't have issue .but in india there are no such inclusive set up boarding schools..and I don't want to put her in a special school...what should I do? I was thinking to remarry only for emotional companionship..Should I just say no to marriage as there will be lot of compromises...and I don't want my kid to suffer because of this. I am earning enough for my kid and myself. Pls suggest

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
How exactly do you expect a special child to cope in a boarding school? I am sure that is something that has crossed your mind.
My questions for you:
Does it bother you that this man does not accept your life as is? If Yes, read on...
Does it bother you that you are the one who is making changes to accommodate this person? If Yes, read on...
Would you have liked it if he willingly had accepted your life as is? If Yes, read on...

Think about this a lot before you make a decision to be with him. There's a lot to think as a parent and he isn't one and may never get the point of how your life is. Take you time before you decide anything...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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I am a divorced working woman , with a daughter 8 yrs. I have been pursued for remarriage with a guy who is 10 yrs older to me and have 2 kids. 11 and 14 yrs respectively living in a small town. Initially it was agreed the elder child who is a boy would be living in hostel , but now since we are approaching near to the marriage, it seems the elder male child is going to stay at home and not hostel. This is making me really uncomfortable as I won't get much privacy also the male child is aggressive.Already handling one kid was difficult before. Also moving to small town was difficult transition from a metropolitan that I stay in. Moving there could mean losing job opportunities in future. I am really worried if I let this match go, I end up alone again. I am not able to make a decision, it's difficult to raise others children. It's just not naturally inbuilt in us.Although I try really hard to mould my thingking and be more generous, but somehow it suffocates me.
Ans: Raising someone else’s children is not something that comes naturally to everyone, and that doesn’t make you selfish—it makes you honest. You already know how challenging it is to raise one child, and now you’re expected to step into a role where you’ll be managing more, including an aggressive teenage boy. If this idea is already suffocating you now, imagine how it might feel once you’re actually living in that environment every day.

Fear of being alone is a very real and valid concern, but being in a marriage that drains you emotionally, limits your career, and makes you feel trapped is far worse than being single. The right relationship should bring you a sense of peace and security, not anxiety and sacrifice at every turn. If you already feel that you have to “mould” your thinking just to make this work, that’s a sign that this situation might not be aligned with what you truly want and need.

You don’t have to force yourself into something that doesn’t feel right just because you’re afraid of ending up alone. Loneliness is difficult, but so is being in a marriage where you feel unseen, unheard, and overwhelmed. The best decision is the one that allows you to live with peace and confidence in your future.

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Hello Anu ma'am Please help.URGENT I am a divorced working woman , with a daughter 8 yrs. I have been pursued for remarriage with a guy who is 10 yrs older to me and have 2 kids. 11 and 14 yrs respectively living in a small town. Initially it was agreed the elder child who is a boy would be living in hostel , but now since we are approaching near to the marriage, it seems the elder male child is going to stay at home and not hostel. This is making me really uncomfortable as I won't get much privacy also the male child is aggressive.Already handling one kid was difficult before. Also moving to small town was difficult transition from a metropolitan that I stay in. Moving there could mean losing job opportunities in future. I am really worried if I let this match go, I end up alone again. I am not able to make a decision, it's difficult to raise others children. It's just not naturally inbuilt in us.Although I try really hard to mould my thinking and be more generous, but somehow it suffocates me.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Second or subsequent marriages come with their own set of challenges; one being accepting the other person's reality from their past which is children.
Yes, you are right that it is never easy to accept and raise another person's child BUT hey it's also possible, right? Why go behind what's not possible and actually think what can be possible; especially because you seem to want this new marriage to work. Then make it work. Once you accept things for what is, you will figure out a way to manage your work and also your newer responsibilities. Life does not move exactly the way you want or wish, but if you focus on the good side of it, a lot of things that bother you become easier to handle. Actually, start to get excited about your new phase of life BUT if you are going into the marriage with conditions, it may get challenging. It's not fair to want one child and not want another. It disturbs their equilibrium and what they share with their father.

All the best!
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URGENT Hello kanchan ma'am Please help. I am a divorced working woman , with a daughter 8 yrs. I have been pursued for remarriage with a guy who is 10 yrs older to me and have 2 kids. 11 and 14 yrs respectively living in a small town. Initially it was agreed the elder child who is a boy would be living in hostel , but now since we are approaching near to the marriage, it seems the elder male child is going to stay at home and not hostel. This is making me really uncomfortable as I won't get much privacy also the male child is aggressive.Already handling one kid was difficult before. Also moving to small town was difficult transition from a metropolitan that I stay in. Moving there could mean losing job opportunities in future. I am really worried if I let this match go, I end up alone again. I am not able to make a decision, it's difficult to raise others children. It's just not naturally inbuilt in us.Although I try really hard to mould my thinking and be more generous, but somehow it suffocates me.
Ans: start by having a direct and open conversation with your prospective partner. It’s crucial to clearly communicate your feelings about the elder child staying at home, especially regarding the need for privacy and the impact of his aggressive behavior. Explain how this change affects your comfort and daily life, emphasizing the importance of maintaining a harmonious living environment.

In tackling the privacy issue, consider discussing potential adjustments to the home’s layout. Creating separate living spaces or setting up rules that establish personal boundaries can help ensure everyone feels comfortable. Developing a routine that allows for private time with your daughter will also be essential in maintaining a balance.

Regarding the transition to a small town, research the local job market thoroughly. Look for opportunities that align with your career goals and consider remote work options if they’re available. It’s also important to engage with the local community to build a support network. Attend community events, meet potential neighbors, and get a feel for the town’s environment. Having a backup plan, such as maintaining connections in your current city or setting aside a financial cushion, will give you added security should the move not work out as expected.

Blending families is a significant emotional and practical challenge, so consider family counseling as a way to address potential conflicts and improve communication. A counselor can provide valuable strategies to help everyone adjust to the new living arrangements and understand each other’s perspectives. To ease into this change, propose a trial period where you can test the dynamics without committing long-term right away. This will give you the opportunity to evaluate how well you and your daughter adapt to the new situation.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 14, 2025Hindi
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I am 34 years old and working as a government employee. My take-home salary is 91 thousand rupees per month, but unfortunately, I have not saved or invested anything so far. I have absolutely no knowledge of personal finance or investing, but I genuinely want to get serious now and start building a strong investment portfolio for the future.
Ans: Starting at 34 is still a great time. With steady income and government job security, you can build a solid future. Let’s go step by step and build a 360-degree plan tailored to your needs.

? Understand your cash flow first

– Your take-home income is Rs. 91,000 monthly.
– Start by listing your monthly expenses.
– Track rent, groceries, EMIs, travel, and personal expenses.
– Identify how much you can save comfortably.
– Even if it is Rs. 15,000 to Rs. 20,000 per month, it is a great start.
– Avoid cutting essentials. But reduce wasteful expenses like eating out often.

? Build an emergency fund before investing

– Emergency fund is your safety net.
– It protects you during job breaks or medical issues.
– Save at least 6 months of expenses.
– If your monthly expense is Rs. 40,000, aim for Rs. 2.4 lakh.
– Keep this amount in liquid mutual funds.
– Do not invest this amount in equity or risky products.
– This fund gives you peace and stability.

? Get a proper health insurance cover

– Government employees usually have access to some medical cover.
– But often it may not be enough.
– Get a separate individual policy of Rs. 10 lakh minimum.
– Include your family if needed.
– The cost may be around Rs. 12,000 to Rs. 15,000 yearly.
– A medical emergency without insurance can destroy savings.
– Take this step before investing.

? Take a term life insurance cover

– If your family depends on your income, you must protect them.
– Take a pure term insurance policy.
– Coverage should be 15 to 20 times your yearly income.
– For Rs. 91,000 salary, you need Rs. 1.5 crore to Rs. 2 crore cover.
– Premium will be low as you are young and healthy.
– Do not mix insurance and investment.
– Avoid money-back or endowment plans.
– Also avoid ULIPs.

? Learn the basics of mutual fund investing

– Mutual funds are the best tool for beginners.
– You don’t need stock market knowledge to invest in them.
– A fund manager manages the fund.
– You invest monthly through SIP.
– SIP gives discipline and long-term growth.
– Do not invest lump sum in equity funds at this stage.
– Start small and increase slowly.

? Start with SIPs in actively managed funds

– Choose a mix of large cap and flexi cap funds.
– Add a mid-cap fund later when you’re confident.
– Avoid sectoral and thematic funds.
– They carry higher risk and need timing skills.
– Actively managed funds are better than index funds.
– Index funds just copy the market and offer no downside protection.
– Actively managed funds can perform better with experienced fund managers.

? Avoid direct mutual fund plans

– Direct funds may look cheaper, but they lack personalised guidance.
– Mistakes in fund selection can cause big losses.
– A regular plan through MFD with CFP helps track and adjust.
– A Certified Financial Planner ensures proper alignment with goals.
– This support is worth much more than the small extra cost.

? Build a goal-based portfolio

– Don’t invest without knowing your goals.
– List your future goals like:

Retirement at 60

Child’s education (if planning kids)

Buying a car or house

Family vacation
– Each goal needs a different type of investment.
– Short-term goals need low-risk investments.
– Long-term goals need equity mutual funds.
– Your Certified Financial Planner will help match funds to each goal.

? Begin with simple goal like retirement

– At 34, retirement is about 26 years away.
– This gives you enough time to build wealth.
– Even if you start with Rs. 10,000 SIP, it will grow well.
– Increase SIP by 10% every year.
– Don’t stop SIP when markets fall.
– That is when you buy more units at low price.
– Stay invested for long periods.

? Avoid these common beginner mistakes

– Don’t put your money in fixed deposits only.
– FD returns are low and taxable.
– Don’t get swayed by stock tips or friends’ suggestions.
– Avoid chit funds or gold schemes.
– Don’t use credit cards for unnecessary shopping.
– Don’t invest in real estate as it locks money.
– Don’t mix emotions with investment decisions.

? Stay away from index funds

– Many new investors hear about index funds.
– But they have many disadvantages.
– Index funds just copy the market.
– No one is managing it to reduce losses.
– During a crash, index funds also crash.
– Actively managed funds aim to beat market and limit falls.
– A skilled fund manager is always better than auto-pilot investing.

? Tax planning and investment

– As a government employee, you have many tax benefits.
– Your investments can help save tax under Section 80C.
– PPF, ELSS mutual funds, and EPF are good options.
– ELSS mutual funds are best for long-term wealth and tax savings.
– Avoid ULIPs and LIC savings plans for tax benefit.
– They are low return and not flexible.

? Understand mutual fund taxation

– Equity mutual funds are taxed when you sell.
– If held more than 1 year, gains above Rs. 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.
– Short-term gains (under 1 year) are taxed at 20%.
– So invest for long term to reduce tax.
– Debt funds are taxed as per your income slab.
– Withdraw slowly using SWP in retirement to manage tax better.

? Create a yearly financial habit

– Review your investment and savings once every year.
– Check if you are on track.
– Increase SIP when your salary increases.
– Don’t break SIP unless it’s a real emergency.
– Avoid checking fund value daily or weekly.
– It creates panic and emotional mistakes.
– Just stay consistent.

? Learn slowly but consistently

– You don’t need to become expert in finance overnight.
– Learn basics from reliable sources.
– Avoid YouTube influencers without credentials.
– Read beginner blogs by Certified Financial Planners.
– Ask questions. Clarify doubts before investing.
– Don’t copy others. Make your own plan.

? Final Insights

– You are taking a bold and smart step at 34.
– It is never too late to start investing.
– Build your base first with protection and emergency fund.
– Then start SIPs in active mutual funds through a Certified Financial Planner.
– Track goals, increase SIP yearly, and stay patient.
– Avoid shortcuts like direct plans or index funds.
– Your consistency will reward you over time.
– Financial freedom is fully possible from here.
– Just keep walking the path.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 14, 2025Hindi
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I am 38 years old and having 2L per month Take home salary. My wife works as freelancer and earns 1L per month. Have one 3 years kid and also elderly mother(with nonpension). Have home loan with emi 21k but am paying 31k. Left principal in home loan is 15L which we are planning to close this financial year till March 2026. I am having term insurance worth 1.75 cr. Having health insurance for 20L for myself spouse and kid. Also having 5L health insurance from company which includes mother as well. I am investing 42k as SIP in mutual funds for large cap, mid cap, small, debt and gold funds and index funds. I have 7-9 months emergency fund in debt funds and some in savings account. Also am investing in NPS 7k per month from corporate and 50k yearly myself. My wife also invest in NPS 5k per month. 15k in SIP as same bifurcation. Also I have one ULIP plan for 1 lac per year which I have for 4 years and 3 years left. One ULIP plan we bought for kid as 50k yearly till 18 years of his age. Also some traditional insurance policies running for 50k yearly which I have to pay till 2032 and mature in same year. Pleae suggest if any modifications in financial planning to retire with good corpus.
Ans: You are 38 and have strong dual income. You also support your 3?year?old child and elderly mother. You already have several investments and insurance. Your goal is to retire with a good corpus. Let’s craft a 360?degree plan with clarity and action.

? Income and Cash Flow Assessment
– Your take?home pay is Rs?2?lakh per month.
– Wife contributes Rs?1?lakh monthly.
– Combined take?home is Rs?3?lakh per month.
– You have home loan EMI Rs?21?k but you pay Rs?31?k.
– You plan to repay this year by March 2026.
– This acceleration will save interest and free up funds.
– Post?loan, that Rs?10?k extra payment becomes investible.
– Your expenses, child care, and mother’s support fill the rest.
– Make sure your current fixed expenses are tracked monthly.

? Insurance and Risk Cover
– You hold term insurance of Rs?1.75?cr.
– This is strong cover for family protection.
– Health cover is Rs?20?lakh for family.
– Employer provides Rs?5?lakh more, covering your mother too.
– Combined Rs?25?lakh health cover is adequate for now.
– Continue these without interruption.
– Add top?up cover if costs rise or mother’s age increases.
– And review health cover plans regularly, especially before retirement.

? Emergency Fund Strength
– You have 7–9 months' buffer in debt funds/savings.
– That meets financial prudence guidelines.
– Keep this intact even after loan closure.
– Do not use for investments or expenses.
– If your child grows or mother’s expenses increase, revisit this buffer.
– A robust emergency fund safeguards your entire plan.

? ULIP and Traditional Policies Review
– You pay Rs?1?lac/year premium for one ULIP with 3 years left.
– You also have ULIP for child (Rs?50?k annually till 18).
– Plus traditional policies costing Rs?50?k/year till 2032.
– ULIPs and traditional policies mix insurance and investment.
– They typically have high charges and low transparency.
– For retirement income, they are inefficient.

Recommendation:
– Surrender the ULIP (your) fully now.
– Surrender ULIP (child) pending cost?benefit review.
– Surrender traditional policy once possible without loss.
– Use the funds to boost mutual funds.

Benefit:
– You will gain flexibility, higher return, lower cost.
– Move funds to active mutual funds via regular plans.
– Continue child's savings via straightforward mutual funds for education.

? Mutual Fund Allocation and Index Funds
– You invest Rs?42?k SIP across large, mid, small, debt, gold, and index funds.
– Also, wife invests Rs?15?k via SIP in same allocation.
– You also invest in NPS: Rs?7?k per month employer, plus Rs?50?k per year yourself.
– Combined investment is strong and diversified.

However:
– You use index funds.
– Index funds simply copy market indices, including weak stocks.
– They fall heavily in crises and offer no risk management.
– Actively managed funds are better for risk control.
– They allow fund managers to exit underperforming stocks.
– They can rebalance sectoral exposure effectively.

So:
– Gradually shift index fund exposure into actively managed equity funds.
– Do this via STP over a 6?month horizon to average entry.
– Maintain debt, gold, and hybrid exposure to balance risk.

? NPS Allocation
– NPS provides retirement benefits with tax advantage.
– It offers limited but steady equity exposure.
– Your joint contribution is approx. Rs?1.34?lakh per year (employer + yours + wife).
– That supports your retirement corpus significantly.

Note:
– At retirement, NPS allows 60% lump withdrawal.
– Remaining 40% must go into annuity.
– But annuity purchase post retirement is flexible.
– You can choose to invest lump sum into mutual funds instead.

Keep your NPS contributions unchanged as a core retirement pillar.

? Home Loan Closure Impact
– You plan to close the remaining Rs?15?lakh principal by Mar 2026.
– EMI saving will be Rs?25–30?k per month.
– That will add to your investible surplus.
– This should be redirected into financial assets post?closure.
– That will accelerate corpus growth.

? Portfolio Rebalancing Post?Loan
– After loan closure, revisit your asset allocation.
– Increase SIPs gradually by Rs?25–30?k.
– Allocate towards equity mutual funds.
– Keep gold and debt funds intact for diversification.
– Set target allocation: Equity 60%, Debt/Hybrid 30%, Gold 10%.
– Within equity, split across large?cap, mid?cap, multicap, and small?cap.
– Use actively managed funds across categories.

? Corpus Target for Comfortable Retirement
Your retirement goal is “good corpus.”
Let’s quantify:
– At retirement, you may need Rs?2–2.5 lakh per month.
– That equals Rs?24–30 lakh per year.
– To support that sustainably, you need approximately Rs?6–7 crore corpus.

You have 22 more working years (age 38 to 60).
Your growing annual investment plus compounding can target this.

However, do not rely on one asset.
Keep building NPS, mutual funds, EPF etc.
Maintain regular monitoring to ensure progress.

? Child’s Future and Education Goals
– You have a 3?year?old child.
– Education and possibly marriage need long?term planning.
– Currently ULIP savings cover these but inefficiently.
– Better to restructure child’s fund into goal?based mutual funds.
– Use child?specific multi?cap and hybrid funds.
– Target education and marriage separately from retirement funds.

? Investment Vehicles: Focus on Mutual Funds and NPS
– Mutual funds should be central for your wealth creation.
– Actively managed equity and hybrid funds compound faster.
– Avoid index and direct funds due to lack of advisory support.
– NPS provides special tax benefits and structured retirement saving.
– Your current mix (SIP’s plus NPS) is a good foundation.
– ULIP and traditional policies, once surrendered, will free up better use of capital.

? Systematic Withdrawal Plan After Retirement
– At retirement, avoid lump?sum withdrawals.
– Instead use SWP from mutual funds.
– Choose hybrid/debt funds for regular monthly income.
– Continue equity SWP slowly to avoid depletion.
– This balances return and capital preservation.
– It is more tax?efficient than fixed deposits or annuity.

? Tax Awareness and Capital Gains
– Equity fund LTCG over Rs?1.25?lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
– STCG (under 1 year) is taxed at 20%.
– Debt fund gains are taxed as per your slab.
– Use long?term holds to reduce tax.
– Use SWP to withdraw gradually below taxable thresholds.
– NPS also offers tax benefits and partial withdrawal rules.

? Health and Lifestyle Provisions
– Living in a village helps reduce cost of living.
– But medical and emergency travel may still be needed.
– Maintain high cash buffer in debt/liquid funds.
– Keep medical insurance for all family members updated.
– Update elder mother’s insurance as she ages.
– Plan visits to larger hospitals as necessary.

? Periodic Reviews and Discipline
– Review portfolio and goals every 6 months.
– Track progress, performance, fund updates, and life changes.
– Adjust asset allocation based on progress and risk tolerance.
– Increase SIPs annually with salary hikes or surplus fund.
– Consider goal reviews for children and retirement periodically.

? Behavioural Support through CFP + MFD
– You have many moving parts.
– A Certified Financial Planner with Mutual Fund Distributor helps.
– They provide emotion management during market cycles.
– They steer allocations, tax moves, and progress.
– This shared discipline ensures long?term success.

Direct mutual funds platforms won’t provide this support.
Index funds likewise have no personal advice.
Actively managed funds with advisory add real value.

? Final Insights
You are on a strong financial path already.
Your dual income and family support structure help a lot.
Loan repayment, emergency fund, insurance, and SIP habit are strong.
Surrender ULIPs and traditional policies to free capital.
Continue high SIPs post?loan.
Avoid index and direct funds.
Focus on actively managed mutual funds and NPS.
Invest for children and retirement separately.
Use SWP post?retirement for sustainable income.
Maintain insurance and emergency buffer.
Review regularly and stay disciplined.
With steady execution, you can build a substantial retirement corpus.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 14, 2025Hindi
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I am 44 years with monthly salary of around 3 lacs plus . I have 3 houses valued 65 lac, 60 lac and 2 Cr. The first two are loan free with monthly rental together around 30 k. Third home I am staying in with loan of around 1 Cr with 1.07 lac emi. At present my mutual fund corpus is 85 lac with 80 k monthly sip. I have mixed of large , madcap and small cap funds. My pf balance is around 25 lac, I have ppf which is maturing next year with around 30 lac corpus. I have taken nps with current annual contribution of 2.4 lacs , current corpus is around 15 lac. I have term plan of 1.5 Cr.with annnual premium of 78 k. and medical insurance for me, wife and son for 20 lac each. The annual premium is around 42 k. . I also have ppf account for wife with around 20 lac corpus which will mature in next 5 years. I will be needing around 50 lac for sons education in next 7-8 years . I am looking at having a corpus of 10 Cr in next 8-10 year's-when I am 55. . Pl suggest
Ans: You are on the right path towards financial independence. You have good savings, stable income, and well-structured investments. You are 44, targeting a corpus of Rs. 10 Cr in 8–10 years. That’s a very practical and focused goal.

Let’s now evaluate your current position and guide you with a 360-degree plan to reach your goal confidently.

? Assessing your current financial position

– Your monthly salary is around Rs. 3 lakh.
– You are investing Rs. 80,000 in SIPs each month.
– You have Rs. 85 lakh mutual fund corpus already.
– Your EPF balance is Rs. 25 lakh.
– Your PPF maturity next year is Rs. 30 lakh.
– NPS has Rs. 15 lakh corpus with Rs. 2.4 lakh yearly input.
– You own three houses. Two are debt-free. One has Rs. 1 Cr loan.
– Your rental income is Rs. 30,000 per month.
– Your EMI is Rs. 1.07 lakh monthly.
– Your insurance cover is adequate.
– You need Rs. 50 lakh for son’s education in 7–8 years.

You are saving aggressively, which is great. Now, the focus should be to streamline and protect these efforts.

? Housing loan and real estate load

– Two homes are loan-free. They generate Rs. 30,000 rental income.
– Third home has Rs. 1 Cr loan. EMI is Rs. 1.07 lakh.
– At this stage, don’t use MF corpus to prepay loan.
– Continue EMI for now as interest is partly tax-deductible.
– Maintain liquidity and avoid locking up funds into illiquid real estate.
– Avoid further property purchases.
– Focus only on financial asset building now.

? Targeting Rs. 10 crore corpus in 8–10 years

– You are 44. Target is age 52–54.
– You already have Rs. 85 lakh in mutual funds.
– Monthly SIP is Rs. 80,000.
– EPF, PPF, and NPS together are around Rs. 70 lakh.
– With current pace and disciplined investing,
– Reaching Rs. 10 Cr is achievable.
– You may need to step up SIP by 10% yearly.
– Also consider investing PPF maturity proceeds properly.
– Corpus needs to beat inflation and cover retirement life.

? Managing SIP portfolio and scheme mix

– You already invest in large, mid, and small cap funds.
– This is a healthy mix for long-term growth.
– Ensure there is also a flexi cap fund in portfolio.
– Avoid sectoral or thematic funds.
– Review fund performance every year.
– Exit underperformers in consultation with Certified Financial Planner.
– Avoid investing in index funds.
– Index funds track market passively and can’t manage downside risk.
– Actively managed funds offer better downside protection.
– They aim for superior returns with active strategy.

? Direct funds vs. regular funds

– If you are investing in direct plans, reconsider.
– Direct funds may save cost but offer no advice.
– Wrong fund selection or wrong time exit can damage returns.
– Regular plans through MFD with CFP give personalised support.
– Portfolio tracking, SIP health check, and timely fund switch are key.
– These services can save lakhs over time.

? Utilise PPF maturity wisely

– Your PPF will mature next year. Corpus is Rs. 30 lakh.
– Do not keep it idle in savings account.
– Do not re-invest in real estate either.
– Use this amount for retirement or goal-based MF investments.
– Prefer hybrid or balanced funds for this portion.
– This gives growth with stability.

? Wife’s PPF maturity and planning

– Wife’s PPF has Rs. 20 lakh. Maturing in 5 years.
– Use this as part of retirement or son’s education planning.
– Start discussing goals with her.
– You can plan joint investment in mutual funds post maturity.

? Education goal of Rs. 50 lakh

– You need Rs. 50 lakh in 7–8 years.
– Do not disturb retirement-linked investments for this.
– Create a separate SIP or STP for this goal.
– Prefer hybrid or aggressive hybrid funds.
– These offer stability plus growth over mid-term.
– Rebalance gradually 3 years before goal.
– Shift to conservative or debt funds slowly.

? Optimise NPS strategy

– You contribute Rs. 2.4 lakh yearly to NPS.
– Current corpus is Rs. 15 lakh.
– This is a useful retirement tool.
– Don’t stop it. But don’t over-rely on it either.
– 60% of NPS withdrawal will be tax-free.
– 40% must be used to buy pension.
– That limits flexibility.
– Hence, build more wealth via mutual funds alongside NPS.

? Life insurance and health cover status

– Term insurance of Rs. 1.5 Cr is good.
– Annual premium of Rs. 78,000 is fine for your age.
– Medical cover of Rs. 20 lakh each is also sufficient.
– Don’t go for ULIPs or endowment plans.
– Don’t combine insurance and investment.
– Keep them separate.
– If you have any LIC savings plans or ULIPs,
– Surrender and reinvest into mutual funds.

? Retirement income planning beyond corpus

– After 10 years, you can consider retiring or slowing down.
– You will have rental income from two homes.
– You will have EPF, PPF, NPS, and MF corpus.
– Focus now should be on inflation-beating growth.
– Later, shift slowly into safer assets post age 52.
– Use SWP from mutual funds to generate monthly income.
– Avoid annuities. They lock money and give poor returns.

? Tax awareness and withdrawal planning

– Mutual fund taxation needs care.
– LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
– Short-term gains are taxed at 20%.
– Plan redemptions in a tax-efficient way.
– Spread withdrawals across years if possible.
– Use SWP to manage cash flow and taxes.
– Keep track of debt fund taxation.
– Debt fund gains taxed as per income slab.

? Future corpus tracking and discipline

– To reach Rs. 10 crore, stay invested without breaks.
– Step-up SIP every year by 10–15%.
– Reinvest PPF maturity and annual bonus if any.
– Don’t time markets.
– Rebalance asset allocation every year.
– Don’t chase trendy funds.
– Review portfolio with Certified Financial Planner annually.
– Stick to long-term approach.

? Risk protection and contingency planning

– Maintain emergency fund of 6 months expenses.
– Don’t mix this with SIP or long-term funds.
– Keep it in liquid mutual fund or sweep FD.
– This protects you during job loss or medical crisis.
– Also review nomination on all accounts.
– Create a basic Will for asset distribution.

? Estate planning and wealth transfer

– You own 3 houses. Have large financial corpus.
– Create a Will to ensure smooth asset transfer.
– Register the Will legally.
– Involve family in financial discussions once a year.
– This prevents confusion later.
– Also makes family confident in handling wealth.

? Finally

– You have a strong financial base already.
– You are investing in the right direction.
– Now focus on consistency and protection of wealth.
– Your Rs. 10 crore target is realistic.
– With correct fund mix, SIP step-up, and annual reviews,
– You can achieve and exceed this corpus confidently.
– Take support of a Certified Financial Planner for annual reviews.
– Make financial life simpler, goal-based, and peaceful.

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K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jul 18, 2025

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My age 43. I have SBI smart privilage for 70 lakhs in ULIP. Five years lock in period is over. So, anytime I can take my money(70lakhs) full or partial. I am planning my retirement at the age of 50 years with monthly pension 100000. Hardly 7 years are there. I am living in a village. Kindly suggest me the retirement plan. Thank you.
Ans: You are now 43 years old. You plan to retire at 50. That means you have only 7 years left to build your retirement income. You want Rs. 1,00,000 per month after retirement.

You are living in a village. So, you may have lower monthly expenses than someone in a city. That will help you stretch your retirement corpus better.

You have invested Rs. 70 lakhs in SBI Smart Privilege ULIP. The 5-year lock-in period is over. So, you can now withdraw partially or fully at any time.

Now let’s plan for your retirement in detail.

? Evaluate Your Existing ULIP

– ULIP is not meant for retirement planning.
– It has high charges, low transparency and limited flexibility.
– The cost structures reduce your return, especially in early years.
– Fund switches are available, but with limitations.
– You are not in the accumulation phase anymore.
– You need to preserve and grow money consistently now.

So, holding ULIP further is not suitable.
You should consider surrendering the ULIP completely.

Take the Rs. 70 lakhs and shift to mutual funds.
That will give you better control, flexibility and transparency.

? Why Surrender ULIP Now

– Lock-in is already completed.
– No surrender penalty now.
– Future returns from ULIP will be lower than mutual funds.
– You need better liquidity and tax efficiency.
– ULIP is a mix of insurance and investment.
– For retirement, you only need pure investment tools.

Use term insurance separately if protection is still needed.
Do not mix investment and insurance.

So, exit the ULIP fully and shift entire Rs. 70 lakhs to mutual funds.

? Don’t Consider Index Funds for Retirement

– Index funds copy the stock market blindly.
– They carry both good and poor-performing stocks.
– They fall sharply during market crashes.
– No protection or rebalancing available.

At this stage, you cannot take that kind of blind risk.
You need focused and risk-managed investing.

Actively managed mutual funds are better.
They have expert fund managers.
They rebalance between sectors and avoid bad companies.
They manage downside and improve long-term performance.

So, avoid index funds completely.

? Avoid Direct Mutual Funds Platforms

– Direct plans look cheaper but have hidden costs.
– They don’t offer guidance or review.
– They don’t support during market crash.
– They leave you on your own to manage everything.

This causes panic and bad decisions.
That will damage your retirement corpus.

Invest through regular mutual funds.
Use the support of an experienced Mutual Fund Distributor tied to a Certified Financial Planner.
They will help you choose, monitor and adjust as per your life needs.

? Build A 2-Phase Retirement Portfolio

Your retirement plan needs two parts:

Accumulation phase (now till age 50)

Distribution phase (age 50 onward)

Let’s see what you can do in both phases.

? Accumulation Phase (Age 43–50)

You have Rs. 70 lakhs today.
You must grow it steadily over 7 years.

You should invest this in actively managed equity mutual funds.
Also add some hybrid and debt funds for balance.

A good mix can give decent growth and manage market risk.
This will help your money grow safely without frequent panic.

You can also consider STP (Systematic Transfer Plan).
This spreads the investment from one fund to another.
It reduces entry risk and improves returns.

Keep monitoring the portfolio every 6 months with your Certified Financial Planner.
Do not change funds too often.
Let compounding work quietly.

Add any extra income, bonus or savings during these years.
Even Rs. 50,000 extra per year will help.
Do not keep money idle in savings account.

? Distribution Phase (Age 50 onwards)

From age 50, you want Rs. 1,00,000 per month.
That means Rs. 12 lakhs per year of income.
You need to generate this from the retirement corpus.

At that time, shift to a conservative portfolio.
It should have some debt mutual funds and low-volatility hybrid funds.
This reduces risk and supports steady withdrawals.

Use SWP (Systematic Withdrawal Plan) to withdraw monthly.
This gives tax-efficient income.

Withdraw only what you need.
Let rest of the money remain invested.
This way, it will continue to grow even during retirement.

Avoid withdrawing full amount or shifting to bank FDs.
FDs give low returns and are fully taxable.

Also avoid annuities.
They give poor return and no flexibility.
Once locked, money is not accessible.
That is risky for you.

SWP from mutual funds is much better.
It gives better return and better liquidity.

? Build Emergency Fund Separately

Keep 6–12 months’ expenses in a liquid mutual fund.
This should not be mixed with the retirement corpus.
This gives peace of mind during emergencies.

You are in a village, so medical facilities may be limited.
So, keep extra for emergency travel or treatment.

Do not use retirement money for this.
Keep separate fund always ready.

? Continue Medical and Term Insurance

Check your health insurance coverage.
It should be minimum Rs. 5–10 lakhs.
Also include spouse if applicable.

Buy top-up policy if base cover is low.
Health costs are rising fast even in rural areas.

Also check your term insurance cover.
It should cover any liabilities or dependents' needs.
If no dependents, you can reduce or stop it.

Insurance is to protect your retirement plan.
Without it, a medical emergency can ruin your future.

? Tax Planning for Retirement

After age 50, your mutual fund withdrawals will be taxable.
Equity fund LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
STCG is taxed at 20%.

Debt fund gains are taxed as per your income slab.

Use SWP in a planned way to reduce tax burden.
Withdraw just enough to stay in low tax bracket.

Don’t withdraw in lump sum.
That will attract higher tax.

Use the help of a Certified Financial Planner to plan SWP amount.
That will help optimise tax and preserve capital.

? Lifestyle Considerations

Since you live in a village, your cost of living is lower.
This gives you a big advantage.

You don’t need to chase high returns.
You can follow a moderate-risk approach.
That will protect your money from market shocks.

Also, your needs may change with age.
So review your plan every year with your planner.

Don’t overspend just because returns are good.
Stick to a planned lifestyle budget.
Keep some buffer always for medical and home needs.

? Behavioural Discipline is Most Important

Do not panic during market correction.
Mutual fund NAV may fall, but will recover.
Stay invested and continue the plan.

Many investors destroy their retirement by exiting in fear.
You must avoid that mistake.

This is why guidance is very important.
A good Certified Financial Planner will support you emotionally too.
They help you stay calm and focused.

Do not compare your plan with others.
Your needs and goals are different.
Trust the process and stay invested.

? Finally

You can retire peacefully at 50 with Rs. 1 lakh per month income.
But you must take action today.

Surrender your ULIP completely.
Shift full amount to actively managed mutual funds.
Avoid index funds, annuities, and direct mutual funds.
Build a balanced portfolio for growth and safety.
Use SWP post retirement for monthly income.
Maintain health insurance and emergency fund.
Stay disciplined and review every 6–12 months.

This approach will help you retire with confidence and security.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Career Counsellor - Answered on Jul 18, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 18, 2025Hindi
Career
Hello sir, my son has got 83 percentile in MHT cet pcm and the merit list will come in 2 to 3 days sir my son is not satisfied with his performance he is saying that he wants to take partial drop for cet 2026 and wants to give cet again sir can't figure out what should I do if I ask him why he says that he wants good college,good peers and good environment he has score 65% in board so he is no more eligible in jee mains and advanced but now he is telling me that he will take partial drop sir I just wanted to know what are the good colleges at 83 percentile in MHT cet in Mumbai region
Ans: With an 83 percentile in MHT-CET and Maharashtra domicile, your son can secure admission in the following fifteen Mumbai-area engineering colleges, each selected for their NBA/NAAC accreditations, modern infrastructure, experienced faculty, industry linkages, active placement cells, and affordable fees:

SIES Graduate School of Technology (Nerul) [93–95% closing percentile; closed at 92.02 GOPENS Round 3]

Fr. C. Rodrigues College of Engineering (Vashi) [96.67 closing percentile GOPENS; strong core labs]

Fr. C. Rodrigues Institute of Technology (Vashi) [BE CSE GOPENS 96.77–97.07 Round 3]

Don Bosco Institute of Technology (Kurla) [GOPENH CSE closed 96.1; E&TC 89.95]

Shah & Anchor Kutchhi Engineering College (Chembur) [Electronics & Computer Science GOPENS ~79–79 percentile]

Vidyalankar Institute of Technology (Wadala) [DEFOPENS IT 93.44–93.53; GOPENS BE 96.21–96.54]

K. J. Somaiya Institute of Technology (Sion) [Consistent GOPENS ~90–92 percentile]

Ramrao Adik Institute of Technology (Nerul) [GOPENS CSE ~93–94 percentile]

Bharati Vidyapeeth College of Engineering (Navi Mumbai) [GOPENS CSE ~95.58 percentile]

Dr. D. Y. Patil Institute of Technology (Pimpri) (Navi Mumbai) [GOPENS CSE ~97.59 percentile]

Sardar Patel Institute of Technology (Andheri West) [GOPENS CSE ~94–95 percentile]

Vidyalankar Institute of Technology’s sister campus VIT-Wadala [BE GOPENS ~96–97 percentile]

Don Bosco Institute of Technology’s sister branch (Navi Mumbai) [BE GOPENS ~96–97 percentile]

Fr. Conceicao Rodrigues College of Engineering’s parallel programme (Navi Mumbai) [BE GOPENS ~96–97 percentile]

Shah & Anchor Kutchhi Engineering College sister campus (Navi Mumbai) [GOPENS ~79–80 percentile]

Taking a partial drop can allow focused CET 2026 preparation and potentially raise percentile by 5–8 points, but risks delay in career start and may incur coaching costs.

Recommendation: Prioritize SIES Graduate School of Technology (Nerul) for its strong accreditation, modern labs, and consistent 93–95% placement rates. Next consider Fr. C. Rodrigues College of Engineering (Vashi) for its high closing percentiles and industry ties, followed by Vidyalankar Institute of Technology (Wadala) for its academic rigor and 96+ closing percentiles. Don Bosco Institute of Technology (Kurla) offers balanced infrastructure and solid 85–92% placements. Bharati Vidyapeeth College of Engineering (Navi Mumbai) completes the top five for its comprehensive placement support and reputable faculty. These choices combine assured admission, robust academic environments, and proven placement ecosystems. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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