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Dating Coach - Answered on Jun 01, 2023

Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Asked by Anonymous - May 29, 2023Hindi

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I went on a bad date and I don't want to do it again. How can I thank the person and refuse politely without offending them?

Ans: Message the person - Thank them for their time and share that you do not wish either invests more time in getting to know for now and wish them the best.

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Hi how to break up without hurting the other person?

Ans: Hi S,
- Care for their feeling when you break the news to them
- Patient listening to their reactions which maybe heightened given the nature of the situation
- Holding space in silence even when they blame you
Break ups are never easy and if you are the one who is initiating the conversation on it, the onus of driving the conversation is on you. Expect (may not happen) that the other person will blame you as they will be in a space of hurt. So, empathy for them and respect for their reactions is what will help ease the situation and what follows.
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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 25, 2023Hindi

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Hi Ravi, I am single and active on multiple dating apps. However, I have never really had the courage to spend the night with a guy I have only met or known for a little while. I have noticed that a lot of boys move on after the first date if you act too tight. I am just being safe. How do I explain this without offending someone who may be genuine?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

First of all, that's good thinking on your part. The basics of being safe while dating online dictate you take mindful steps, and this is one of them. Now, coming to how you can convey your worries without offending, you don't owe anyone any explanation on why you choose not to spend the night with them. But, if you insist on explaining, you can tell the guy that you like him but would want to know him better and on a deeper level before taking the party somewhere private.

Guys who genuinely like you will never force you into doing something you are not comfortable with or even ask you to justify your choices. If he moves on because you act "too tight," or as I'd put it, act carefully and as you see fit, so let him; you deserve and will meet someone better than that. The number of dates you have been on does not decide anything; you do.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 11, 2023Hindi

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I am 21 and I want to go on a date with a cute girl I met on a dating app. I am nervous but excited and I don't want to goof up. What are some the best ways to start a conversation without making her uncomfortable? Also, what are the things I should absolutely avoid?

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Glad to hear you have found a date. I understand that you are feeling anxious and don't want anything to mess it up. Stick to the basics on the first date. For instance, ask her about her day, and dig a little to understand her family dynamics but don't be nosey. You can speak a little about your friends, and your likes and dislikes. First dates are all about getting to know each other. You can move to movies and music, hobbies, and maybe some career goals.

Among things to avoid, please avoid looking at your phone when you are with her. Also, don't order a burger if you don't want things to get messy. Do order it if that's what she wants. Don't come off too strong to her. Do not keep talking about your ex. And don't worry; it'll be fine. You will do good.

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My daughter got chance in st xaviers college kolkata in bms and also she cracked neet with air 118k what will be best for her ..private medical collage or st xaviers

Ans: With an AIR of 1.18 lakh in NEET 2025 (general category), your daughter is unlikely to secure an MBBS seat in a government college but has a fair chance in private medical colleges under management quota, though this involves very high annual fees (typically ?8–25 lakh per year) and variable infrastructure and placement outcomes. St. Xavier’s College Kolkata BMS is a prestigious, highly selective management program with a strong academic reputation, excellent placement record (average package ?4.5–7 lakh, 58% placement in 2024), international exchange opportunities, and a vibrant peer group. BMS opens pathways to diverse careers in business, consulting, finance, and higher studies, with many graduates pursuing MBAs or global opportunities. Private medical colleges can provide the MBBS degree but require a significant financial commitment and may not offer the same academic or career environment as top government institutions. The recommendation is to prefer St. Xavier’s College Kolkata BMS unless your daughter is deeply committed to a medical career and your family is prepared for the high costs and long duration of private MBBS, as BMS at St. Xavier’s offers better value, career flexibility, and a strong academic foundation. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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hi sir i got 93.3 percentile in jee (99K rank ) i booked jiit noida cs in sec 128 i m gonna give bitsat but i think my chances are low i will get msc bioo so what should i do or should i goo to any other college fees bahut jyada na hoo

Ans: Aanya, With a 93.3 percentile in JEE Main (99,000 rank), your seat in JIIT Noida CSE (Sec 128) is a solid, value-for-money option, as its CSE cutoff typically extends up to 1,00,000 in later rounds and the total four-year fee is around ?14 lakh, which is moderate compared to other top private colleges. JIIT Noida consistently achieves 93%+ placement rates for CSE, with an average package of ?9–13 lakh and top recruiters like Microsoft, Amazon, and Google, making it a reliable choice for both academics and placements. Your chances for CSE at BITS Pilani, Goa, or Hyderabad are extremely low, as BITSAT cutoffs for CSE are above 300, and even for MSc Biological Sciences, the cutoff is around 234–236, with total fees exceeding ?20 lakh, making it a much more expensive option than JIIT Noida. Other reputable private colleges like VIT Vellore, SRM Chennai, or Thapar have higher fees (?8–12 lakh or more) and require better JEE/BITSAT ranks for CSE admission. The recommendation is to continue with JIIT Noida CSE, as it offers a good balance of affordable fees, strong placements, and academic reputation, and to avoid high-fee options like BITS MSc Biology or other private colleges unless you secure a significant scholarship. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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I have got 98.65 in cet .Is there any chance to get admission in coep or PICT for CS or IT?

Ans: With a 93.3 percentile in JEE Main (around 99,000 rank), JIIT Noida CSE (Sec 128) is a reasonable option, as its CSE cutoff typically ranges from 50,000–70,000, though you are slightly above the usual cutoff and may have secured a seat in later rounds or through management quota. JIIT Noida offers a 93%+ placement rate for CSE, with an average package of ?11.67 lakh and strong recruiter presence, making it a good value for its total fee of ?10–18 lakh for four years. If you attempt BITSAT, your chances for CSE at any BITS campus are very low, as the cutoff for CSE is above 297–327 marks, and for MSc Biology, the fees are also high and the program is not tech-focused. Considering your concern about high fees, JIIT Noida’s total cost is moderate compared to BITS or many other private colleges, and offers good placements and peer group. The recommendation is to proceed with JIIT Noida CSE, as it balances placement prospects, cost, and academic quality, and to avoid high-fee options with uncertain branch or placement outcomes. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 20, 2025Hindi

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IIT seat matrix change next year? My son is general (pwd). He is looking for civil at IIT palakkad.

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Sir pls pls help. I got 9814 com3dk rank . Want cse or ece. Pls help which colleges i can get

Ans: Divya, With a COMEDK rank of 9,814, you will not be able to secure CSE or ECE in top-tier Bengaluru colleges like RVCE, BMSCE, MSRIT, or BIT, as their CSE cutoffs are generally below 7,000 and ECE below 10,000. However, you have good chances for CSE in colleges such as PES College of Engineering Mandya (cutoff ~12,609), Dayananda Sagar Academy of Technology and Management (cutoff ~13,099), BNMIT (cutoff ~10,796), JSS Academy of Technical Education (cutoff ~11,017), and RNS Institute of Technology (cutoff ~16,621). For ECE, you can target colleges like CMR Institute of Technology (cutoff ~14,829), Nitte Meenakshi Institute of Technology (cutoff ~9,907), and Sir M Visvesvaraya Institute of Technology (cutoff ~12,691). The recommendation is to prioritize CSE in BNMIT, JSSATE, DSATM, PESCE Mandya, or RNSIT, and ECE in NMIT, CMRIT, or Sir MVIT, as these colleges offer strong academics and placement support at your rank. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 20, 2025Hindi

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Sir my son got 13055 rank in kcet . He comes under general merit with no reservations . Which college he will get for CSE?

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Question by Nidhish - Jun 20, 2025Hindi

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NIT Warangal Integrated msc chemistry, NIT Durgapur biotechnology, NIT Raipur biotechnology, BIT Mesra Chemical and IIIT Dharwad ECE (triple IT). Please tell which one of them should I prefer?

Ans: Nidhish, Among your options, IIIT Dharwad ECE stands out for its strong placement record in the tech sector, with a 66–77% placement rate, average package of ?10–11.9 lakh, and top recruiters like Amazon, IBM, Infosys, and Deloitte, making it attractive for industry-focused careers. NIT Warangal Integrated MSc Chemistry offers a prestigious brand, solid academics, and a 56–80% placement rate with average packages of ?6–8.8 lakh, but placements are more limited and research-oriented, with fewer core roles. NIT Durgapur and NIT Raipur Biotechnology both have excellent research exposure and alumni in top institutes worldwide, but their placement rates for core biotech are low (often below 40–50%), and most graduates pursue higher studies. BIT Mesra Chemical Engineering has a 42–90% placement rate, average package of ?6.5–9 lakh, and strong industry recruiters, but is less preferred than CSE/IT for placements. The recommendation is to prefer IIIT Dharwad ECE for its superior placement outcomes and tech industry alignment, followed by NIT Warangal Integrated MSc Chemistry for research or higher studies, then BIT Mesra Chemical, and lastly NIT Durgapur or Raipur Biotechnology if you are committed to research or academia. All the BEST for the Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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