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Nandini Question by Nandini on Aug 11, 2022Hindi
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Hi Anu, I'm a guest faculty working at a government educational institute.

I have a son who will be 5 years on August 13.
He is very active, smart and kind.
Recently I have noticed him crying and scared of death- Thanatophobia.
Every day in the evening he will start crying thinking the world will end. He will die or me and his Dad will die.
I explained him quiet spiritually that no death can come shiva will protect us. But he is not satisfied.
This particular behaviour of him has started since his school started.
Is this separation anxiety. Please help me how do I make him lead a normal life as he used to be?

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Dear NS,

When did this exactly start after he started school?

It helps to go back to that point in time to when this first started to affect him.

Was there a death in the family? A movie that he watched? A story that was narrated to him? Someone in the school shared some content that is frightening?

It is unlikely that he might suddenly have this kind of a fearful reaction.

To assess if this is separation anxiety will require a detailed understanding of his situation.

Children that age as your son can extrapolate one story into another and weave a new story that might have never happened.

Their imagination can take on new dimensions. It will be worth the effort talking to his teachers and the school counsellor.

My suggestion to you is to gather all this information and go to a professional who can handle this.

Is this necessary? YES, as they are trained to deal with fears and panic.

This will help him release these unwanted feelings and breathe easy. Wait no longer.

Till then, surround him with much love and support him by reassuring him that his family loves him no matter what.

All the best!

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Hi Anu, I'm a guest faculty working at a government educational institute. I have a son who will be 5 years on August 13. He is very active, smart and kind. Recently I have noticed him crying and scared of death- Thanatophobia. Every day in the evening he will start crying thinking the world will end. He will die or me and his Dad will die. I explained him quiet spiritually that no death can come shiva will protect us. But he is not satisfied. This particular behaviour of him has started since his school started. Is this separation anxiety. Please help me how do I make him lead a normal life as he used to be?
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Dear NS,

When did this exactly start after he started school?

It helps to go back to that point in time to when this first started to affect him.

Was there a death in the family? A movie that he watched? A story that was narrated to him? Someone in the school shared some content that is frightening?

It is unlikely that he might suddenly have this kind of a fearful reaction.

To assess if this is separation anxiety will require a detailed understanding of his situation.

Children that age as your son can extrapolate one story into another and weave a new story that might have never happened.

Their imagination can take on new dimensions. It will be worth the effort talking to his teachers and the school counsellor.

My suggestion to you is to gather all this information and go to a professional who can handle this.

Is this necessary? YES, as they are trained to deal with fears and panic.

This will help him release these unwanted feelings and breathe easy. Wait no longer.

Till then, surround him with much love and support him by reassuring him that his family loves him no matter what.

All the best!

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my husband died when my son is12.5yrs. he was fond ofcricket and after my sons birth he trained him my son is now 15 he is spineer and play verywell. secondly after my son sbirth he always with my son because he left job and taken vrs. i m single mother now. my son didnot cry cry when he dead nor whenever i talked withhim he didnot want to discuss about him . he irritate. and never from his side he talked about his papa. why i didnot understand. and what to do so that he will talk about his papa. iknow he has verygood memories with him he alawys pamper my son when he was alive. suggest what to do
Ans: Dear Shobha,
I am truly sorry for your loss...Loss of a loved one is one of the toughest phases in anyone's life!
Also, you must understand that each of us have a different way of dealing and coping with loss. Your son possibly feels more comfortable masking his sadness and not talking about how much he misses having his father around. Since you say that he has good memories of his father, spend time with him not discussing his father but actually playing on those memories and keeping those happy memories alive. Since, they bonded over cricket, talk more about that with him and how his father would have been proud of him now. Someday, when he is ready to talk about his father, he will...give him time and replay the good times as a family and especially cricket with his father.
The only time you need to be concerned is when he starts to show any signs of withdrawal from life in general...since you haven't mentioned this, I assume that your son is fine and is just not willing to discuss his father. Let him be...each of us process grief differently. Just bond with him as a caring mother that you are...that will keep him safe and stable.

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I am 48 now want to retire at 54 PPF 32 lacs, MF 50 lacs, 20 Lacs of NSC, 13 lacs in PF, 1.3 crs in Bank FD, Stocks 10 lacs. Monthly income 1 lacs. My own house 3600 sq feet.No loans No liabilities Monthly Expenses 70 K. Only one Girl child in 12 th Commerce. pl suggest.
Ans: You have a well-structured financial base. Your savings and investments are diversified. You have no loans or liabilities. Your expenses are well within your income.

However, retiring at 54 requires careful planning. Your goal is to sustain expenses for a lifetime. You also need to plan for your child's education and unexpected costs.

Current Financial Status
PPF: Rs. 32 lakhs
Mutual Funds: Rs. 50 lakhs
NSC: Rs. 20 lakhs
PF: Rs. 13 lakhs
Bank FD: Rs. 1.3 crore
Stocks: Rs. 10 lakhs
Total Corpus: Rs. 2.55 crore
Monthly Income: Rs. 1 lakh
Monthly Expenses: Rs. 70,000
House: 3,600 sq. ft (self-occupied)
You have a strong corpus. But early retirement means managing funds carefully. Inflation, healthcare costs, and market risks must be considered.

Key Considerations for Retirement at 54
You need income for at least 30-35 years.

Inflation will increase expenses over time.

Medical costs will rise as you age.

Your child's higher education needs to be funded.

Fixed deposits lose value over time due to inflation.

A mix of safe and growth investments is required.

Adjustments Needed in Your Portfolio
1. Reduce Heavy Dependence on Fixed Deposits
FD interest rates are low and taxable.

Inflation will reduce the real value of your FDs.

Shift some FD amounts into better options.

Keep only 2-3 years of expenses in FDs.

Use a mix of bonds, mutual funds, and dividend-paying funds.

2. Optimise Mutual Fund Investments
Continue SIPs until retirement.

Review fund performance regularly.

Reduce exposure to low-performing funds.

Keep a mix of large-cap, mid-cap, and flexi-cap funds.

Increase allocation to balanced and conservative hybrid funds.

3. Use PPF and NSC Strategically
PPF is a great tax-free long-term investment.

Avoid withdrawing PPF in bulk at retirement.

Use PPF maturity for medical or emergency needs.

NSC is locked for five years. Plan withdrawals accordingly.

4. Review Stock Investments
Stock investments should not be too high post-retirement.

Direct stocks are risky for retirement income.

Shift some stock holdings to diversified mutual funds.

5. Plan for Healthcare and Insurance
Medical costs will be a major expense in later years.

Ensure a strong health insurance plan.

Increase coverage if needed.

Have a separate medical emergency fund.

6. Plan Your Daughter’s Higher Education
Higher education costs are rising.

Estimate the required amount now.

Use a mix of FDs, mutual funds, and debt funds for this goal.

Avoid taking money from retirement savings.

7. Retirement Income Strategy
Do not withdraw all funds at once.

Create a systematic withdrawal plan.

Use mutual fund SWP (Systematic Withdrawal Plan) for regular income.

Keep emergency funds in liquid assets.

Review investments annually to adjust for inflation.

Finally
You are on the right path to early retirement. But small adjustments will help sustain wealth longer.

A Certified Financial Planner can guide you in structuring withdrawals and investments for stability.

Plan well today, so you enjoy a worry-free retired life.

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Meri mutual fund me investment hai hdfc flexicap fund hai bandhan small cap hai Icici large and mid hai franklin ka multi cap hai motilal oswal ka mid cap hai sbi ka quant hai kya better fund hai kya
Ans: You have chosen funds from different categories. This diversification helps in risk management. However, assessing overlap, risk levels, and performance is important.

Strengths of Your Portfolio
You have exposure to large-cap, mid-cap, small-cap, flexi-cap, and quant funds.

This ensures a balance of stability, growth potential, and high-risk high-reward investments.

Actively managed funds help in wealth creation over the long term.

Your portfolio includes funds with different investment styles. This adds flexibility.

Areas of Improvement
Too many funds from similar categories can lead to redundancy.

Some funds may have overlapping stocks. This reduces the benefit of diversification.

Small-cap and mid-cap funds carry higher risk. They can be volatile in market downturns.

Quant funds follow a rule-based approach. These may underperform during unpredictable market conditions.

Evaluating Each Fund Category
Flexi-Cap Fund
These funds invest across market capitalizations.

They provide a mix of stability from large-cap and growth potential from mid- and small-cap stocks.

Fund manager decisions impact performance.

Small-Cap Fund
Higher risk and potential for high returns.

These funds perform well in bullish markets but fall sharply in downturns.

Ideal for long-term holding but needs monitoring.

Large and Mid-Cap Fund
Balanced approach with exposure to both large-cap stability and mid-cap growth.

Less volatile than pure mid-cap or small-cap funds.

Suitable for investors who want moderate risk and returns.

Multi-Cap Fund
Invests across large, mid, and small-cap stocks with minimum allocation rules.

Provides diversification across all segments.

Performance depends on market conditions and fund manager strategy.

Mid-Cap Fund
Mid-cap stocks offer higher growth potential than large caps.

More volatile than large-cap funds but less risky than small-cap funds.

Suitable for investors with a long-term horizon.

Quant Fund
Uses mathematical models and algorithms for stock selection.

Performance depends on market trends aligning with the algorithm’s strategy.

May not always outperform actively managed funds.

Suggestions for Optimizing Your Portfolio
Reduce redundancy by limiting funds with similar stock holdings.

Review the performance of each fund against its category benchmark and peers.

Ensure that your portfolio aligns with your risk appetite and financial goals.

Mid and small-cap funds should not exceed 40-50% of your equity allocation.

Check expense ratios and exit loads before making changes.

Final Insights
Your portfolio is well-diversified but can be optimized further. Reducing overlapping funds will improve efficiency. Tracking fund performance and staying invested for the long term is key.

If needed, consult a Certified Financial Planner for detailed portfolio restructuring.

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Dear Sir, I'm single 28 years Male. Recently took loan of 40 lacs. Currently 31 lacs has been disbursement. EMI will be started in next months. My EMI is 35,100 and interest rate is 8.65% from PSU bank. Per month salarly is 1 lac. I'm confused that should focus on re-payment of loan as quickly as possible or remaining amount after expense + loan emi should be invested in mutual fund. Could you please help to understand more on it.
Ans: You are 28 years old and earning Rs. 1 lakh per month.

You have taken a loan of Rs. 40 lakh, with Rs. 31 lakh already disbursed.

Your EMI is Rs. 35,100 per month at an 8.65% interest rate.

You need clarity on whether to prepay the loan or invest in mutual funds.

Your financial decisions today will impact your long-term wealth and stability.

Key Factors to Consider
1. Interest Rate vs. Investment Returns
Your home loan interest rate is 8.65% per annum.

A well-diversified mutual fund portfolio can deliver higher long-term returns.

If investment returns exceed 8.65%, investing will build wealth faster than prepayment.

If returns are lower than 8.65%, prepayment will save more money in the long run.

The choice depends on your risk appetite and financial goals.

2. Liquidity and Emergency Fund
Loan prepayment reduces future liabilities but also locks up funds in the property.

Investing ensures liquidity, allowing easy access to funds if needed.

Before deciding, ensure you have an emergency fund of at least six months' expenses.

Emergency funds should be in liquid instruments, not tied to long-term investments.

3. Tax Benefits on Home Loan
Home loan interest payments offer tax deductions under Section 24(b) up to Rs. 2 lakh per year.

Principal repayment qualifies for deductions under Section 80C up to Rs. 1.5 lakh per year.

Prepaying the loan reduces tax benefits, while investments provide wealth creation.

Consider the tax impact before choosing prepayment over investment.

4. Future Financial Goals
List your short-term and long-term financial goals.

If planning major expenses in the next 3-5 years, maintaining liquidity is better.

If long-term wealth creation is the focus, investments can be prioritized over prepayment.

A balanced approach can ensure financial flexibility while reducing loan burden.

Pros and Cons of Loan Prepayment
Advantages of Loan Prepayment
Reduces total interest paid over the loan tenure.

Improves cash flow in the future by reducing EMI burden.

Provides peace of mind by becoming debt-free earlier.

Disadvantages of Loan Prepayment
Reduces liquidity, making it harder to manage unexpected expenses.

Leads to lower tax savings on interest payments.

Misses the opportunity to generate higher returns through investments.

Pros and Cons of Investing in Mutual Funds
Advantages of Investing
Has the potential to generate higher returns than loan interest rates.

Keeps your funds liquid and accessible for future needs.

Offers flexibility to diversify across asset classes.

Provides tax-efficient wealth creation in the long run.

Disadvantages of Investing
Market fluctuations can impact short-term returns.

Requires disciplined investing and a long-term perspective.

Returns are not guaranteed, unlike the fixed benefit of interest savings from prepayment.

Balanced Approach: Best of Both Worlds
Instead of fully prepaying or only investing, a balanced approach works best.

Allocate funds for prepayment and investments based on your financial priorities.

Consider prepaying small amounts yearly to reduce loan tenure without losing liquidity.

Continue investing systematically to build wealth alongside reducing debt.

Steps to Follow for an Optimal Decision
1. Build an Emergency Fund First
Save at least six months’ worth of expenses before considering prepayment or investment.

Keep this fund in a liquid asset like a savings account or liquid mutual fund.

2. Check Loan Prepayment Terms
Some banks charge penalties on prepayment, especially for fixed-rate loans.

Ensure there are no additional costs before making a decision.

If prepayment charges exist, investing may be a better option.

3. Invest in Mutual Funds for Long-Term Growth
Investing a portion of your surplus ensures wealth accumulation over time.

Choose diversified funds for a balance of growth and stability.

Invest systematically through SIPs to average out market volatility.

Regular funds through a Certified Financial Planner ensure professional fund management.

4. Make Partial Prepayments Annually
Instead of bulk prepayment, consider making small additional payments each year.

Even Rs. 1 lakh per year can significantly reduce loan tenure and interest burden.

This allows you to maintain liquidity while still reducing debt faster.

5. Reassess Your Strategy Periodically
Financial priorities change over time, so review your approach annually.

If interest rates increase, prioritize prepayment.

If market conditions favor investments, increase mutual fund contributions.

Stay flexible to maximize financial benefits.

Finally
Loan prepayment and investing both have their advantages.

A balanced approach ensures financial security and wealth creation.

Maintain an emergency fund before committing to either option.

Invest systematically to build long-term wealth.

Make small prepayments yearly to reduce the loan burden.

Review your strategy regularly to stay aligned with financial goals.

The right choice depends on your comfort with risk, tax benefits, and long-term objectives.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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