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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 01, 2022

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SJ Question by SJ on Nov 01, 2022Hindi
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I am very stressed these days.
I am in love with a married man. He happens to be my colleague whom I met in 2020.
Initially it was just a senior junior relation where he would help me in official matters.
At the same time, I was recovering from a break up followed by severe health complications.

Slowly, I started spending time with him, in the office only talking about office issues then my personal life.
He too shared some of his and eventually I started developing feelings for him. But since I knew he was married I would always maintain that distance.
I just wanted a healthy friendship but may be my personal turmoil was to the extent that I needed an emotional support and so I confided in him.
He too would understand me, give me support and I could feel that he likes me.

One day I confessed my feelings and he too reciprocated. He had told me earlier that he is living a compromised married life where there is no emotional connection. However, he will continue with it as his wife is dependent on him and I said I don’t want to break a family.
But I have fallen in love with him. His presence has given me such solace I cannot describe.
I don’t want to break a home. So, I have started maintaining distance as well but I really miss him. I feel I lost a friend in the process.

Ans:

Dear SJ,

This is something that I have been seeing lately with a lot of people.

Something lacks within your current relationship and to fulfil that you look for it elsewhere only to realise that things have gotten out of hands.

In your case, love has blossomed in and suddenly now you have realized that it might cause a flutter within two relationships.

He has made it clear that he wants to be with his wife which should give you an idea not to make any more emotional investment. You will end up getting hurt even more if you do.

Time for you to start feeling solace and gaining better self-esteem by valuing yourself more. You don’t need anyone for you to love yourself, do you?

So, stop giving this so much importance. He was there when you needed him and vice-versa. Now, that things are getting a little complicated, time to revise the way you think and act.

You don’t need to lose a friend if the feelings that you have for him can be healthier and not draining on either of you.

If not, maybe you need to think how you can handle this agony better. Be your own friend first and then you start making better choices on who to let into your life.

Possible? Yes, start now…

All the best!

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I am married working women .supportive hubby & my lovely children complete my family . I have been feeling intense infatuation with one of my married collegue.he used to help me a lot in office related issues. He used to complement me a lot for very normal things in front of others, not for looks but my working & way oc handling things. I was uneasy about that initially but started enjoying the attention later. But I dont know when I started liking him & Always wanted to be around ...He is younger to me and I am fully aware that nothing can happen between us. Than one day He bypassed me and for his own fault at work , he manipulated things and asked a favor for me from our team leader showing he is helping me...While in same situation when he was wrong I once sorted things on my own and did not make conplaint to team leader. Now i am feeling cheated and while working I have to see him everyday. What to do? How to remain and look normal. I feel weak in front of him and I dont want to keep any relation with him. But I still feel good & comfortable when he is around. its so weird.
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I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this difficult situation. It's not uncommon for people who have been married for a long time to feel this way. It mostly happens because the marriage is now part of your routine while your colleague seems like a breath of fresh air. But as you yourself mentioned, it is nothing but mere infatuation.

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Hello there Ravi, I am married with one teenager son. My hubby has a hi profile job. About a year ago, I became friends with a married man and we connected really well and it was a great friendship we had. About half a year ago that we decided to disconnect with each other mutually. It was just a very simple but amazingly thick friendship. And all the more reason to part ways. Even though so much time has passed, there are some memories that I cannot erase and I find that we still look out for each other too. He left a huge impact on me and even though am able to move on from him majorly, I still crash into him ( we don’t talk now) or his family and the memories of our friendship comes back to me. Earlier I used to shed a tear daily on losing him as a friend now I don’t though but since he’s always around I find it difficult to forget him fully.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand it's difficult to lose a friend. Friendships are important and it is not uncommon to have lingering feelings even if he was just a friend. It happens with most deep friendships. However, right now it is essential to prioritize your current relationships and commitments, including your marriage and family and most importantly, yourself.

I suggest you focus on the present and be grateful for the friendship you experienced. Remind yourself of the reason you decided to sever ties; it must have been important to be worth losing a great friend. Engage in self-care. Find new friends. Not all friendships will be thick but having friends is essential to live a healthy life.

Remember, it takes time to move on, even if it is from a friendship. Allow yourself that time. There is no need to rush through the process. If you find these feelings persisting, seeing a counselor can help you get through it in a more structured way. Nevertheless, you are doing great yourself!

Best Wishes.
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Annuities: Explore the option of purchasing annuities from insurance companies, which provide a regular income stream in exchange for a lump-sum investment.
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I am investing ?3, 000/- each in SIP of Axis Blue Chip Fund, Parag Parikh Flexi Cap, Edelweiss Balanced Advantage, SBI Magnum Mid Cap, Kotak Small Cap and Kotak Gold Fund. Is my portfolio an investment in right direction. I intend to keep the investment for 10 years.
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Axis Blue Chip Fund: This fund invests in large-cap stocks with a track record of stable earnings and strong fundamentals. It offers stability and growth potential, making it suitable for conservative investors.
Parag Parikh Flexi Cap Fund: This flexi-cap fund has the flexibility to invest across market capitalizations and sectors. It follows a bottom-up stock-picking approach, aiming for long-term capital appreciation. It's suitable for investors seeking diversification and growth.
Edelweiss Balanced Advantage Fund: This fund dynamically allocates between equity and debt instruments based on market conditions. It aims to provide stable returns with lower volatility, making it suitable for investors with a moderate risk tolerance.
SBI Magnum Mid Cap Fund: Mid-cap funds like this one invest in mid-sized companies with the potential for higher growth. They can be more volatile but offer the potential for significant long-term returns.
Kotak Small Cap Fund: Small-cap funds invest in small-sized companies with high growth potential. They can be more volatile but offer the potential for substantial long-term gains.
Kotak Gold Fund: This fund invests in gold ETFs, providing exposure to the precious metal. Gold can act as a hedge against inflation and currency fluctuations, adding diversification to your portfolio.
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Index Funds: UTI Nifty 50 and UTI Next 50 are index funds that track the Nifty 50 and Nifty Next 50 indices, respectively. These funds provide exposure to top-performing large-cap and mid-cap companies, offering broad market diversification with relatively lower expense ratios.
Flexi-cap Funds: Parag Parikh Flexi Cap Fund and Navi Midcap 150 are flexi-cap and mid-cap funds, respectively. These funds have the flexibility to invest across companies of various market capitalizations, providing diversification and the potential for higher returns.
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Large-cap Equity Funds: These funds invest in well-established companies with a track record of stable earnings and lower volatility. They offer relatively lower risk compared to mid-cap or small-cap funds. Look for funds with a proven track record of delivering consistent returns over the long term.
Balanced Advantage Funds: These funds dynamically allocate between equity and debt instruments based on market conditions, aiming to provide stable returns with lower volatility. They can be suitable for conservative investors seeking a balance between growth and capital preservation.
Hybrid Equity Funds: These funds invest in a mix of equity and debt instruments, offering diversification and downside protection. They are suitable for investors looking for a combination of growth and stability in their portfolio.
Index Funds: These funds passively track a market index like the Nifty 50 or Sensex, offering broad market exposure with low expenses. They can be a suitable option for conservative investors seeking stable returns without active fund management.
Debt Funds: Consider allocating a portion of your investment to debt funds for stability and income generation. Options include short-duration funds or corporate bond funds, which invest in high-quality fixed income securities.
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I am buying MFs through icici direct It was till now mostly elss to save tax I want to invest in bulk ( no SIP ) now My questio is I gather icici would charge 1.5 % upfront for any buys and 1% on it every year then onwards so after 10 yars i gain say 15 % overall then , 11.5 % ( 1.5 +10 ) will already been charged by icici leaving me with 3.5% returns? Is this correct ? they never rwspond transparently abd give evasive replies
Ans: It's important to clarify the fee structure and its impact on your overall returns when investing through platforms like ICICI Direct. While they may charge an upfront fee and an annual fee for maintaining your investments, the impact on your returns may not be as significant as you've outlined.

Firstly, the upfront fee is typically a one-time charge applied at the time of purchase and is not deducted annually from your investment returns. Similarly, the annual fee (if applicable) is usually a percentage of the assets under management and is deducted from your investment periodically, rather than as a lump sum at the end of the investment period.

While fees can affect your returns, it's essential to consider the potential returns generated by your investments over time. If your investments perform well, they can potentially outweigh the impact of fees on your overall returns.

However, it's crucial to have clarity on the fee structure and its impact on your investments. If you're unsure about the fees charged by ICICI Direct or if you feel they're not being transparent, it may be beneficial to seek advice from a Mutual Fund Distributor (MFD) who can provide unbiased guidance and help you navigate the investment process more effectively. Working with an MFD can bring synergy to your investment journey and ensure you make informed decisions aligned with your financial goals.
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