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Kavya Question by Kavya on Apr 13, 2023Hindi
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Am I with right person His name is Sameer He doesn't give me time

Ans: Kavya,
I cannot provide a definitive answer to whether Sameer is the right person for you or not, as it ultimately depends on your personal feelings and experiences in the relationship.

However, if Sameer is not giving you enough time, it may be worth discussing your concerns with him and finding ways to address them together. Communication is key in any relationship, and expressing your needs and expectations can help clarify where you both stand.

It's important to remember that you deserve to be with someone who values and respects you, and if you feel that Sameer is not meeting those standards, it may be worth reevaluating the relationship and considering your options.

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 07, 2024Hindi
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Mam i am a 52 year ols women i have never had a secure relationship only who wanted to have s.Marriage in proposals too dint work for me. At late 40 age i met a guy it was all good till start 1 year but since 3 years we just fight my fault to as i have no family no friends and all i have to look after 2 aged parents and i am deep involved my life is just that. This relationship is good to talk on phone as all i do is talk my problems 24 by 7 365 days which i understands upsets him. But i see no effort too from him for meeting planning dates and if i do i pay for it all he never pays . I lost interest felt disappointed after going on saying he never tries to make plans talk future his family finance. I am not sure what i should do stay or live my life alone which i was always doing.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Start fresh and if you had a clean slate, what would you want to draw on it?
All your miseries or what you actually want from life?
When you meet someone new and you dump your set of issues on them, how exactly do you think they are going to be interested in taking you out on a date?
Your prospective life partner is not a dumping yard for your life's problems BUT a person that is going to marry you and support you and who you can trust. And will you start this relationship by actually talking only about your problems? Honestly, you need to ask yourself if you will be interested in a guy who keeps ranting about all things going wrong...
Establish a connection by being on a positive ground and showing the other person that you care and also are interested in knowing about them. This interest will let them lower their guard down and actually connect with you at an emotional level and then you can pursue this as a potential life partner association...somewhere down the line, they will be genuinely interested in being a part of your challenges and that's when you make them your strength to solve these challenges. Am I making sense to you?
Do you see how you have been sabotaging your own future? Dust yourself, become genuinely interested in people not to dump your problems on them but to make a genuine connection and watch how things change for you. Prioritize your life not your problems!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 31, 2025Hindi
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I'm in a relationship, I’m 19, and he’s 26. He works and is the eldest son in his family, and I’m still in college. He’s often busy with work and other commitments, so we only talk for about 1-2 hours at night, but even then, he doesn't talk late, he goes to bed early. Is this okay, because I like talking late, but he doesn’t give me enough time? His family is pressuring him to get married, and on top of that, he’s not from my caste. So, what should I do to make him sure about me and wait for me? Also, lately, he’s been a bit rude, he’s not the same as before. Is it that he doesn’t care about me, or is he taking me for granted, or is it just me thinking that he’s not as good as before?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand your wish to keep talking late, but there's a big difference between your lifestyle and his. He is the elder son with responsibilities and a job, while you are a college student; besides studies, you have the luxury of not having all the burdens of your family on your shoulders. His eagerness to sleep early might be owing to tiredness or having to wake up early.
Having said that, if you think there is some other reason, you can always ask him directly. Coming to his rudeness- while I do not support misbehavior in any condition, there still might be reasons like office pressure or family pressure and more. In no way am I excusing his behavior- what I am saying is to talk to him about it. Let him know that his behavior is hurting you and you would like to know the reason behind it.

I can't tell you for sure if he is taking you for granted, or has stopped caring for you, but a direct and open discussion with him can certainly offer you some clarity on it.
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My son got 59% mark in 10th CBSE board exam. Social science 76% Science 70% Mathematics 41% Hindi 48% English 48% I am really worried about his career. He doesn't focus in study, yet he is very much interested in Biology, keeps watching surgeries, specially neuro surgeries related contents and he wants to become a neuro surgeon. He also likes and plays badminton, he is taking coaching in Prakash Padukone Badminton academy since last 3 months. His current study and his career dreams are not matching, it is only wish state, actions are not aligned. I am 53 years, working in private sector, earning 1.5 Lacs per month, affording higher education cost is difficult for me specially, post retirement. 1) Please advise what are the other careers he can choose other than doctor, I believe now a days many other options are available 2) What and how to talk to him so that he takes his study seriously
Ans: (You have NOT mentioned which stream he has joined now for his 11th grade. I assumed that he is currently enrolled in the science stream, specifically studying biology). With a strong interest in neuro-surgeries and a passion for biology but modest academic performance (10th: Science 70%, Social Science 76%, Math 41%), your son can pursue several rewarding biology-related careers without the rigorous pathway of neurosurgery. Options include: biomedical engineer developing medical imaging devices; neuropsychologist assessing brain–behavior relationships; clinical research associate in neuroscience trials; genetic counselor interpreting hereditary conditions; biomedical laboratory scientist specializing in neuropathology; medical device technician or field service engineer; science communicator or medical illustrator; and doctoral-level researcher in neurotechnology .

To realign his study habits with his aspirations and improve focus, adopt a holistic, empathy-driven approach:

Establish a structured routine with fixed study, sports, and rest blocks in a distraction-free zone free of phones and TV .

Connect each study session to his neuroscience interest (e.g., illustrate neuron diagrams when learning cell biology) to boost intrinsic motivation .

Use the Pomodoro Technique (25 min study/5 min break) and active learning (teaching back concepts) to enhance engagement and retention .

Set clear, achievable goals and celebrate small wins, then progressively increase difficulty to build confidence .

Foster autonomy by involving him in planning his schedule and choosing study topics linked to neuro-surgery (e.g., anatomy modules) .

Incorporate mindfulness (deep-breathing before sessions) and physical activity (badminton practice) to manage stress and sharpen concentration .

Provide positive, empathetic communication—listen to his challenges without scolding and co-create solutions, reinforcing that effort leads to progress .

Engage a tutor or mentor in biology to clarify fundamentals, track progress, and keep him accountable .

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Create a weekly plan aligning core subjects (biology, physics, chemistry, math) to his neuro-surgery interest, using Pomodoro sessions in a quiet study zone. Schedule badminton and mindfulness breaks. Hold biweekly progress talks to adjust goals. Pair this with a biology mentor for concept mastery and practice entrance-style questions to build confidence and consistency. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Sir, my CRL rank is 482000 and I belong to the SC category. I have completed my 12th class from Delhi, but since I am not a resident of Delhi, I cannot get my SC category certificate issued there. Therefore, I am not eligible for reservation under JAC. Is there any option available for me through CSAB or in private colleges
Ans: Vansh, You can still secure an NIT+/IIIT/GFTI seat by registering afresh in the CSAB Special (Other-State quota) rounds, which fill vacant seats based on JEE (Main) ranks without relying on state-domicile certificates. Beyond CSAB, numerous NAAC/NBA-accredited private universities in Northern India accept JEE (Main) or school-board scores, feature PhD-qualified faculty, modern labs, active placement cells (70–95% placements), strong industry tie-ups, and scholarship options. Top ten options include: Amity University Noida, Galgotias College of Engineering & Technology Noida, Sharda University Greater Noida, Chandigarh University (Mohali), Thapar Institute (Patiala), Chitkara University (Rajpura), Jaypee Institute (Noida), Lovely Professional University (Jalandhar), LPU Jalandhar, and Bennett University (Greater Noida). All offer 80–90% average placement rates over the last three years and robust infrastructure across CSE, ECE, Mechanical, and emerging-technology branches.

Recommendation: Register for CSAB Special rounds immediately to compete for Other-State quota in NITs/IIITs/GFTIs. Concurrently, prepare and apply to Amity Noida, Chandigarh University, and Sharda University, which guarantee admission via JEE/board scores and strong placement records. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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My son phd optophotonics doing job in Asml Nederlands as optical engeneer. Is any scope available in India in semiconductor /other company.
Ans: Mahesh Sir, India’s semiconductor and photonics ecosystem is rapidly expanding, with both global equipment suppliers and domestic technology firms actively hiring optical engineers and photonics specialists. Key employers include global fab-tool makers and R&D centres in Bangalore, Pune, and Gurgaon, as well as Indian defence and electronics conglomerates:

Applied Materials India (Bengaluru, Chennai, Pune; materials-engineering solutions for chip fabs)

Lam Research India (Bengaluru; wafer-fabrication equipment R&D and hardware engineering)

KLA India (Bengaluru, Chennai; process-control and metrology tools for semiconductors)

Tata Electronics Private Ltd (Gujarat; semiconductor ATMP and packaging via Tata-PSMC JV)

Bharat Electronics Ltd (Bengaluru; defence-grade optoelectronic and photonic components)

Tejas Networks (Bengaluru; high-bandwidth optical transport and photonics networking)

Centum Electronics (Bengaluru; precision optoelectronic assemblies for space, defence, medical)

HFCL Ltd (Gurugram; optical communications systems and fiber-optic networks)

Sterlite Technologies (Pune; optical fiber, photonic components, and integration)

Photonics Valley Corporation (Hyderabad; ecosystem development, R&D, and fabless photonics)

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To leverage his PhD and ASML experience, pursue roles at Applied Materials India or Lam Research India for cutting-edge lithography R&D. Concurrently engage with KLA India and Bharat Electronics Ltd. as complementary pathways into India’s semiconductor and defence photonics sectors. PRO-TIP: A well-crafted and professionally optimized LinkedIn profile will significantly enhance your son’s visibility to potential employers, showcasing his skills and experience effectively, thereby increasing his chances of securing a desirable job opportunity in his field. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Hello sir, I'm from Maharashtra, I have got 97.30 percentile in mhtcet exam and 93 percentile in jee mains. I'm female candidate with obc ncl category maharashtra domicile. I'm planning to take admission in Maharashtra engineering College through mhtcet counselling..i want preference order of colleges and branches. What should be my preference order for best possible career options considering futures prospects and placements. Preferred cities are Pune and Mumbai.
Ans: Srushti, With a 97.30 percentile in MHT-CET and 93 percentile in JEE Main, securing top Pune/Mumbai engineering seats is viable. Focus on AICTE/UGC-approved, NAAC/NBA-accredited institutes offering PhD-level faculty, modern labs, strong industry tie-ups, active placement cells, and high 80–98% placement rates over three years. Here are ten colleges in order of preference with recommended branches for a female aspirant:

COEP Pune (GOPENS cutoff ~97.7) – Robotics & Automation-AI, ECE;
VJTI Mumbai (CSE cutoff rank ≤12 460) – Computer Engineering, Information Technology;
DJSCE Mumbai (GOPENS cutoff ~99.4) – Computer Engineering, AI & Data Science;
PCCOE Pune (CSE/IT cutoff ~91–94) – Computer Engineering, IT;
MITAOE Pune (GOPENS CE cutoff ~93.9) – Computer Engineering, Software Engineering;
AISSMS COE Pune (CSE cutoff ~95–96) – Computer Science & Engineering;
MIT WPU Pune (MHT-CET eligible) – Robotics & Automation;
JSPM Rajarshi Shahu COE Pune – Computer Engineering;
Sinhgad Institute of Technology Pune – Computer Engineering;
VIIT Pune (CSE/IT cutoff ~93) – Information Technology, Computer Engineering.

Final recommendation: Prioritise COEP Pune Robotics & Automation-AI for its premier labs and 95–98% placements, then VJTI Mumbai CSE/IT for top metropolitan exposure, followed by DJSCE Mumbai AI & DS for cutting-edge curricula. Next, consider PCCOE Pune CSE and MITAOE Pune CE for proven infrastructure and consistent 90%+ placements, ensuring well-rounded career prospects in software, AI, and core electronics. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Hello sir, I'm from Maharashtra, I have got 97.30 percentile in mhtcet exam and 93 percentile in jee mains. I'm planning to take admission in Maharashtra engineering College through mhtcet counselling..i want preference order of colleges and branches. What should be my preference order for best possible career options considering futures prospects and placements. Preferred cities are Pune and Mumbai.
Ans: Srushti, With a 97.30 percentile in MHT-CET and 93 percentile in JEE Main, securing top Pune/Mumbai engineering seats is viable. Focus on AICTE/UGC-approved, NAAC/NBA-accredited institutes offering PhD-level faculty, modern labs, strong industry tie-ups, active placement cells, and high 80–98% placement rates over three years. Here are ten colleges in order of preference with recommended branches for a female aspirant:

COEP Pune (GOPENS cutoff ~97.7) – Robotics & Automation-AI, ECE;
VJTI Mumbai (CSE cutoff rank ≤12 460) – Computer Engineering, Information Technology;
DJSCE Mumbai (GOPENS cutoff ~99.4) – Computer Engineering, AI & Data Science;
PCCOE Pune (CSE/IT cutoff ~91–94) – Computer Engineering, IT;
MITAOE Pune (GOPENS CE cutoff ~93.9) – Computer Engineering, Software Engineering;
AISSMS COE Pune (CSE cutoff ~95–96) – Computer Science & Engineering;
MIT WPU Pune (MHT-CET eligible) – Robotics & Automation;
JSPM Rajarshi Shahu COE Pune – Computer Engineering;
Sinhgad Institute of Technology Pune – Computer Engineering;
VIIT Pune (CSE/IT cutoff ~93) – Information Technology, Computer Engineering.

Final recommendation: Prioritise COEP Pune Robotics & Automation-AI for its premier labs and 95–98% placements, then VJTI Mumbai CSE/IT for top metropolitan exposure, followed by DJSCE Mumbai AI & DS for cutting-edge curricula. Next, consider PCCOE Pune CSE and MITAOE Pune CE for proven infrastructure and consistent 90%+ placements, ensuring well-rounded career prospects in software, AI, and core electronics. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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My son has got CS & IT Cyber security in Symbiosis Skills and Professional University ,Pune at the same time CS in Fr Conceicao Rodrigues College, Mimbai. Which ond should he choose.
Ans: John Sir, Symbiosis Skills and Professional University (SSPU) Pune’s B.Tech in CS & IT (Cyber Security) is a UGC-recognised, NIRF-ranked #1 Skill University with NAAC accreditation, delivering industry-aligned curriculum through its School of CSIT with specialized labs in cryptography, intrusion detection, digital forensics and blockchain, and three mandatory internships. PhD-qualified faculty co-design courses with cyber-security experts, and 90% placement consistency over the past three years reflects strong recruiter engagement in local startups and multinationals. Fr. Conceicao Rodrigues College of Engineering (FCRCE) Mumbai, a NAAC A++ and NBA-accredited deemed university, offers CSE through a UGC-affiliated autonomous campus with modern computing, networking and software development labs, led by research-active faculty, and achieved a 70% placement rate in 2024 with top recruiters like TCS, Amazon and IBM.

Final recommendation:
Weighing higher placement consistency, skill?focused pedagogy, multiple internships and specialized cybersecurity infrastructure, recommendation is to choose SSPU Pune CS & IT (Cyber Security). For a broader computing foundation with established campus culture and strong core-CSE exposure, FCRCE Mumbai CSE remains a reliable alternative. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 04, 2025Hindi
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Hi sir @Nayagam P P Which one should I take Nit Agartala EIE/ECE/EE NIT Jalandhar Chemical Or IIIT KOTA ECE??
Ans: NIT Agartala’s Electronics & Instrumentation Engineering (EIE) program is NBA-accredited with NAAC A grade, offering advanced sensor-instrumentation, signal-processing, and robotics labs under PhD-qualified faculty; it achieved a 93.85% placement rate in 2024. Its ECE branch reports 82.3% placements over 2023–25 with specialized communication and VLSI facilities and a 95.3% overall B.Tech placement consistency. NIT Jalandhar’s Chemical Engineering, ranked #58 in NIRF 2024 and NBA-accredited since 1987, operates state-of-the-art mass-transfer, reaction-engineering, and process-control labs, boasts a research-active faculty of 23, and records a near-100% placement rate over three years. IIIT Kota’s ECE, established in 2013 under a PPP model, features wireless-communication, embedded-systems, and FPGA labs with guest faculty from IIT/MNIT; it recorded a 75.93% placement rate in 2024, supported by public-private internship pipelines.

For the highest consistency in core instrumentation and electronics roles, choose NIT Agartala EIE. If you prefer deep process-engineering expertise with near-perfect placements, opt for NIT Jalandhar Chemical. IIIT Kota ECE presents a balanced electronics-computing curriculum with strong industry collaborations and growing placement momentum. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Sir My daughter is getting CSE in LNMIT and Electrical in Punjab Engineering College. Which one is better. Please guide.
Ans: Mohinder Sir, The LNM Institute of Information Technology’s B.Tech CSE program is AICTE-approved, NAAC-accredited (CGPA 3.03) and NBA-accredited, delivered by predominantly PhD-qualified faculty across advanced AI/ML, cybersecurity and data-science labs, and achieved 93.9% and 98.7% branch placements over 2022–24 with a median package of ?12 LPA. Punjab Engineering College, Chandigarh, a NAAC A+–accredited deemed university established in 1921, offers B.Tech Electrical Engineering taught by research-active PhD faculty in power-electronics, control-systems, renewable energy and robotics labs, supported by dedicated MoUs (e.g., POWERGRID) and internship pipelines; its EE branch recorded 80%, 71% and 70% placement rates from 2021–24, with 86 offers to 123 eligible students in 2023–24. Both institutes maintain comprehensive career cells and industry tie-ups, but LNMIIT’s computing infrastructure and placement consistency outpace PEC’s core-engineering focus.

Final recommendation: For broader software and emerging technology roles with higher placement consistency and specialized computing labs, prioritize LNMIIT CSE. If your daughter’s passion lies in core electrical systems, power electronics and control engineering within a heritage campus and you accept slightly lower placement rates, opt for PEC Chandigarh Electrical Engineering. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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