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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Jul 23, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 23, 2024Hindi
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I was in a relationship few months back during my 12 th we were having a nice time for a long period and I was preparing for my exams of clat so i told my girlfriend to let me focus during the evening time and I told her to have conversations with me during the afternoon she agreed to it to But after some months we had some arguments and she used to ignore me a lot after that I asked her for forgiveness from my side if from me she got hurt But one day This happened.... after college I decided that whatever happens but I will try to improve our relationship,But that day in afternoon I went to her to talk A boy came on a bike and when I had to talk to her Without saying nothing she went with him. And when I asked them about that person they told it's her new Boyfriend I felt cheated, finished, depressed for many months after that when I had my clat exams I failed in it and I decided never to have conversations again with her so the question to you is should I love someone again deeply?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand that you are hurt and being cheated on by someone you loved can do a number on you but that does not mean you should close yourself from the prospect of finding love again. You will move on, even if it’s slow. And someday you will find someone who will make you very happy and who would not even dream of cheating on you, because she will love you back exactly the way you love her. Wait for it. One broken relationship should not define your entire life.

Best Wishes.

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Um... Hello .. I'm currently a dropper student and had been in a relationship for 1.5 years.. I liked her first. But we broke up. Before breaking up, we had fight on a topic for about 1 week. She is studying in a coaching institute and I'm self studying because of distance problem. But I got to know that a boy was always looking at her and he used to get jealous if she talked to anyone. But she didn't react and when I asked , she said that she knew that he liked her but she didn't say anything to him because he didn't propose to her. But until recently, she doesn't have time to spare with me but she talked with that guy for 8-9 hours . Even on my birthday , I asked her to give me time but she couldn't and she would talk to that guy for 9 hours straight .I used to wait for her for 12 hours straight when she was in coaching, but after she returned I hardly could get 20 mins but she used to talk to him for 3-4 hours. When I asked her, she gave the same excuse that the boy didn't propose yet so she will continue talking to the boy. And , when I take too much stress, my body gets sick , like nosebleed and suffocation and all, but she now treats my behaviour as mental torture as I share my insecurity and my worsening body condition. But last day when I asked the boy, the boy said that the girl(my girlfriend )was responsible for all this And when I said that I contacted the boy. She broke up. I tried to get in contact with her in every way possible but was blocked from every where. And she said that I didn't deserve love or friendship because I was being insecure about her that friend. Can you please.. please tell me where did I do wrong? Or what should I do?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am so sorry you are in such a situation. You have done nothing wrong. Usually, I would ask you to not doubt your partner, but her behavior has not been exactly fair. You communicated your concerns to her, and instead of explaining or trying to reason with it, she dumped you. That seems a bit harsh and also manipulative. I can’t force you to stop trying to contact her, but I will tell you this: no one is worth ruining your health for, especially if that someone does not value you. Please consider letting this relationship go because from what you shared, it doesn’t sound healthy at all. I believe, deep down even you know it. It’s affecting your health. You deserve someone who loves you, and only you. Your health crisis or sorrow is not a “mental issue” to them. Please consider my advise.

Best Wishes.

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 02, 2025Hindi
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My married ex still texts me for comfort. Because of him, I am unable to move on. He makes me feel guilty by saying he got married out of family pressure. His dad is a cardiac patient and mom is being treated for cancer. He comforts me by saying he will get separated soon and we will get married because he only loves me. We have been in a relationship for 14 years and despite everything we tried, his parents refused to accept me, so he chose to get married to someone who understands our situation. I don't know when he will separate from his wife. She knows about us too but she comes from a traditional family. She also confirmed there is no physical intimacy between them. I trust him, but is it worth losing my youth for him? Honestly, I am worried and very confused.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand how difficult it is to let go of a relationship you have built from scratch, but is it really how you want to continue? It really seems to be going nowhere. His parents are already in bad health and he married someone else for their happiness. Does it seem like he will be able to leave her? So many people’s happiness and lives depend on this one decision. I think it’s about time you and your BF have a clear conversation about the same. If he can’t give a proper timeline, please try to understand his situation. But also make sure he understands yours and maybe rethink this equation. It really isn’t healthy. You deserve a love you can have wholly, and not just in pieces, and in the shadows.

Hope this helps

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