Hi mam... I was in a relationship with a boy for 2 years but for those two years he blackmailed me and threatened me and did this even after the break up. He calls my acquaintances almost every day and asks about me. If he finds any information about me, he will continue to blackmail and threaten me. I liked another boy even though I didn't talk to him But I am so afraid that if the blackmailed boy calls him and asks something about me and this boy says something , What will I do then?

Ans: Dear Neha,
When it has come to blackmailing, I suggest kindly involve your Dad. He knows how to protect his daughter and he will do so. But if you don't feel comfortable or you feel awkward, confide in a family member who is old enough to deal with this 'creep' who definitely seems to get a kick out of all this. If he is underage, his parents will have to be involved to drive some sense inside of him and if he is an adult, the cops giving him a warning can put him in his place.
DO NOT FEAR. Creeps like these are weak and simply prey on girls who crumble under their pressure. Put up a brave front...Also, do not speak with one-on-one OR meet him alone ever. Keep a record of all your text messages and record any future voice conversations. It will help to push him back and again: DO NOT FEAR...Feeling power within you will reach him and he will think before acting hastily...Involve an elder family member ASAP PLEASE...

All the best!

Ans: it's important to focus on your safety and well-being. The first thing you should do is reach out to someone you trust, like a close friend, family member, or a counselor. You don't have to face this situation alone, and having someone to talk to can make a big difference.

It's crucial to consider taking legal action because blackmail is illegal. You have the right to protect yourself, and contacting the police or a legal advisor can help you stop this person's actions. If you're hesitant to go to the police, there are non-governmental organizations (NGOs) that specialize in helping women in situations like yours, and they can offer guidance and support.

Make sure to document everything, including all the messages, threats, and any evidence of his blackmailing. This will be important if you decide to take legal action. After you've gathered the necessary evidence, it might be a good idea to block him on all platforms to protect your mental health. It's important to cut off communication with someone who is causing you harm.

If you feel comfortable, you might want to consider discussing this situation with your fiancé. Being honest about what's happening could prevent the blackmailer from using it as leverage against you. A supportive partner can be an essential ally during this difficult time.

Ensure that you have a plan for your safety, which could involve changing your daily routines, informing someone close to you about the situation, and knowing who to contact in case of an emergency. Considering that you've mentioned having suicidal thoughts, it's crucial to seek professional mental health support immediately. There are people who care about you and want to help you through this challenging time.

Your life and safety are the most important things right now. Please don't hesitate to reach out for the help you need, and remember that you don't have to go through this alone.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Please be honest and tell your family everything. You have got yourself in a messy situation with a fellow who has a very bad bend of mind. Who know what else he can be capable of?
So, in my opinion, keep a record of all your text and voice chats, video chats if any. When you approach the police, these will help them pin the fellow down. And yes, it is necessary for you to involve the police for your own safety.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: Dear Nikita,
This is a serious issue. Though blackmailing to show your photos to your parents will not do much harm, his intention to blackmail you into submission is concerning. I suggest you come clean to your parents about your relationship. Let them know that you have broken up but he is continuing to force you to meet him. Adults being involved in the matter can dissuade him from bothering you anymore.

I know you feel you cannot go to your parents, but you can. They might have some reactions but it is much better to have your parents on your side than to hide things and have no one to help you. Please consider my suggestion.

Best Wishes.